How To Stop Worrying 

If you find yourself prone to endless periods of worry and your racing mind is causing you endless stress and sleepless nights.

Then you will be pleased to know, that you can learn how to calm your worrying mind and you can even learn how to turn your worry around to your advantage so you can grow and become stronger.

The mistake most people make when they try to deal with their worries are, they try to stop the worrying thoughts.

This is a bad strategy, because you should not attempt to not worry, because what you will find if you do is, the more you try not to worry, the more you will worry.

There are several things that you can do to begin to end your worries, and none of these involve trying not to worry.

If you have spent long periods of time worrying, then your whole physiology will be out of balance, and it will need restoring back to its natural calm state.

Your worry thoughts are being driven by your emotional and physical state, and worry is closely linked to fear and anxiety.

It usually takes something external to trigger your negative thought processes, but once you get stuck or emotionally engaged in your worries, you create a breeding ground for more worries and problems.

You could describe worrying as the mental programming of images and events that you don't want to happen. 

Many people can get stuck in the worry mindset and emotional traps, and most of our worries resolve around things like

  • What we fear
  • What we dread happening 
  • What might happen 
  • What hurts us the most 
  • What we want to fix the most 
  • What we don't want

First, you have to decide, is your worrying justified, if not, then the best thing you can is to leave your mind alone.

Because when you leave your mind alone, then your mind and your body will soon calm and your mind will settle down all by itself.

You have not got to do anything or try to deal with your worry thoughts, because all that does is, it just stirs up the emotional arousal.

See your mind as the surface of a lake, the more you try and stop the worry thoughts the more turbulent the lake of your mind comes.

But when you leave your mind alone to think the worry thoughts, whilst you practice standing back and becoming the conscious observer without any judgement or involvement, then the surface of your mind will calm down all by itself, thus preventing all the stress.

When you become emotionally caught up in your worry thoughts, or you try to deal with them, bury them or stop them, you will just fuel the negative momentum.

As well as feeding the worry, you will also be conditioning your mind to see the situation you're worried about as being threatened.

So not only will you cause inner conflict and stress, you will also be training your mind to react with fear in the situation for real.

When you worry, and you're having all those anxious and stress provoking what if thoughts.

Do you ever tell yourself, what happens if everything goes well, because many people have conditioned themselves to prepare and expect the worse.

Very few, imaging things actually going well or see themselves handling the situation well.

Ask yourself? How would your life change if you let go of your worries and although sometimes the what if thoughts can be helpful to keep us alert to real dangers or pitfalls.

Most of our worries either, are not based on real genuine dangers, most of the time they never happen or if they do they are never as bad as you thought.

Worrying leads to one way thinking of, something bad is going to happen or go wrong, but there are always two ways of looking at something.

Therefore, if your worries are never as bad as you thought, then what is the point in worrying in the first place.

The potential health risks of excessive worrying 

It is now common knowledge that many diseases are caused by an accumulation of stress and tension in your body and one of the biggest culprits for prolonged stress is excessive worrying. 

Many people worry about their health, however, there is a side effect of this, because worrying about your health will make your health even worse. 

If you're generally very ill, get the best medical attention you can and try to relax and reduce your stress.

And while you may not feel the negative effects on a day to day basis, in the background the stress and tension will keep on building up until it manifests itself as a physical symptom in the body

Many people get stuck in the worry trap and cycle and even though the things that most people worry about never really help them or they are about things that get blown totally out of proportion.

For many once they fall victim to the worry trap they just cannot seem to break free from it which usually results in them having the same old repetitive negative thoughts every day. 

The more frustrated and bothered they become by the endless worry thoughts the more they dig in and the more intense they seem to get.

Some of the physical symptoms of stress and worry 

  1. Raised blood pressure and raised heart beat, if left unchecked, this can lead to further complication like heart diseases and strokes which is now classed as the leading causes of death in the developed world 
  2. Stress and worry can higher the risks of digestive disorders and ulcers
  3. It can weaken your immune system, making it harder to stave of illnesses and many other forms of diseases
  4. Increases your chances of developing diabetes, it causes premature ageing 
  5. To much worry is linked to going grey or even worse making your hair fall out 
  6. Negative stress caused by worry can stifle your creativity, make it hard for you to concentrate and recall memories, it also prevents you from absorbing and memorizing new information 
  7. Worrying can lead to emotional stress, high tension living and negative feelings 
  8. Overactive thyroid, sleep deprivation, frequent colds, arthritis and even tooth decay.

Use your worries to grow and expand

Worrying is not always a bad thing, and the worst thing you can do is to try and bury and suppress your worries.

Because they can be a message from your subconscious mind that you may need to pay attention to something or that there is a particular problem or an area in your waking reality that you may need to work on.

Sometimes there could be a genuine reason for your worrying, and a little bit of worry can help to keep us guarded so we avoid making mistakes.

But worry needs to be managed, because it focuses you on the negative, it will generate physical symptoms of stress, and long periods of worry can take its toll on your health, confidence and well-being.

The trick is, not to dwell on your worries, and you should only use them to plan for things to go well or to help you to grow and solve your problems.

If you use your worrying correctly then it can help you to find solutions and some worriers end up being high achievers.

This does not mean that you should spend all your time buried in the emotion of the problem, because you cannot find the solutions so quickly if you're stuck in a negative state.

Stress is the defense physiology and state, and to solve your problems you need to be in the relaxed creative state.

According to a recent study at the Kings College London, worriers were shown to have more activity in the part of the brain that deals with fear, but it is also the part of the brain for creativity.

Therefore worriers are forwards thinkers and believed to be more creative, but if you want to take full advantage of your creativity, you need to calm your mind and body.

If you're worried about something, then because of the health consequences you will need to reduce your stress first, then focus with a clear mind to find a solution to your problem.

Use your imagination wisely

Worrying is all based on the what if questions and scenarios and it is a stressful response to uncertainty.

Our imagination allows us to try and project and predict the future, this was designed to keep us safe.

#the downside to our imagination is, we can get very good at imagining things going wrong and we can traumatize ourselves over something that has not even happened.

Humans are not very good with uncertainty, they like to feel safe and secure, so it can be helpful to let you know when you face uncertainty, that you can handle it or whatever happens you'll be ok.

When your imagination is depicting everything going wrong, try to stay calm and just observe and let your mind calm down by itself.

Or you can try imagining the worst case scenario and seeing yourself dealing with it in a calm and controlled manner or imagine you've already come through the situation and everything went well. 

Worry can be used as a motivator, because if you're worried about a forthcoming event, then you can use your worry, to help you plan and better prepare yourself for the situation ahead.

Dr. Alexis Carrel, once said,  

"Prepare to accept the worst and improve on it if need be". 

Ask yourself what is the worst could happen. The worst thing that could happen in life is death, if you know that you're not going to die, then see it as a challenge for you to overcome because it is not worth worrying about. 

Change the emotion

Because of the negative effects of worrying, you need to try and limit your worry time to the minimum.

Some people allow or allocate themselves a thirty minute worry time per day, and if they start to worry outside that designated time they will put their worries on hold and tell themselves they will on think about it in their next worry time.

This can prevent you wasting the whole day stressing over your worry, and when you're worry time comes around you will feel more in control which will leave you better equipped to solve your problem in a constructive way.

Instead of getting stressed and involved in your worries, and thinking about things going wrong in the future event, try to focus your energy more on what you can do to make sure everything goes well, so you can flip the negative energy around.

All our what if thoughts are negative based, but if you say to you, what if everything goes great, then you will notice a positive shift in your energy.

Try not to worry about things that are not in your control, and try to distinguish and separate your worries into two categories.

  1. Real, genuine problems
  2. Imagined problem that is not true or a real problem or risk

If it is a real problem or risk, then you can make plans to try and make sure everything goes well.

If it is an imagined problem, especially if it keeps on re-occurring, then it could mean that you have an underlying issue or a fear that needs addressing.

You need to learn to let go of things that you have no control over or things that you cannot affect.

Persistent long term worrying can lead to anxiety and stress, this can become a normal pattern of behavior and way of living.

This negative state will create more worry and more problems which will keep you focused on everything going wrong and it will stop you from solving your problems or finding solutions.

The more you can learn to leave your mind alone and get out of the way, the less you will worry and you begin to reduce your stress, it is also important that you spend some time learning to relax.

Because if you want to look after your health and feel good emotionally and physically so you can make the most of your creativity and high intelligence, then relaxation is a necessity.

Meditation is one of the best ways to reduce your stress and anxiety and calm your overactive mind.

 Albert Einstein famous quotes stated,

"No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it"

"If had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the solution, I would spend the  first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I know the proper question, I  could solve the problem in less than five minutes".

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Always accept what is

Sometimes when you're worried you are allowing your outside conditions, situations and circumstances to determine how you think, feel and respond. 

You cannot always control your circumstances, but you can learn how to control your responses to your circumstances. 

The difference between feeling bad and feeling good can depend on how you perceive your circumstances. 

One way to defeat negative thinking is to see yourself succeeding and imagining everything working out well. 

Bad things happen, we all have to face challenging times and things do go wrong, learn to express your emotion, have a cry, moan or let it all out, and then let it go and plan to make things better. 

To reduce your worry, you sometimes have to accept what is or what might be and deal with it as best as you can then let it go and move on. 

When the dark clouds ascend focus on the bright light the follows every storm.  

Try not to tag yourself as a worrier, otherwise it will become part of who you are, worry is just a series of thought patterns, that can be quickly changed or dismissed.

If you're having trouble sleeping, write your worry down on a piece of paper, then tell yourself you will deal with it in your worry time or the morning, then let it go or just leave your mind to calm down by itself.

If you worry is fear based, then practice facing your fears, because when you try to avoid the situation or you try not to think about the thing that you fear, you will increase the fear.


5) Become An Optimist

Do you always tend to think of the worst case scenario first and then you carry on giving all your attention only to the worst possible outcome, are you the sort of person that never looks on the positive side of things

The universe always offers a choice of possibilities, both good and bad, it is far better to think about all of the good possibilities and then make them your future reality.

The opposite state to worry is to be an optimist, when your an optimist you won't worry, sure you will have challenges to face and overcome, but as long as you see them as a challenge and you start to relish each challenge then you will have far less trouble with worry. 

Once you become an optimist and a creative problem solver, you will know that just by switching your thinking you will be able to achieve or overcome anything that gets in your way. 

If you're worried about losing your job, accept it could happen then focus on getting a better one, if you're worried about meeting a deadline at work or on a project, let you know "I have what it takes to complete the task without rushing". 

Tell yourself whatever it is your find a solution or a better way of dealing with it and overcoming it. Everything always turns out fine as long as you get out of the way and you allow it to happen, all you have to do is, trust and remain positive and optimistic.

Practice being mindful of the type of thoughts and things that are causing you to worry, find somewhere to relax, takes some slow deep breaths, breathe in for seven then out for ten, then allow your mind to think about your worry whilst you just watch and remain calm.

Remember that the problem is rarely as bad as the worry thoughts 

Worrying is negative planning for the future, the thinking about worry is, the thought of it is nearly always worse than the situation or circumstance itself.

Most worries only really exist in the head, so therefore they don't exist in actual reality, so ineffectively you're afraid and you're responding negatively to your imagination. 

To overcome worry, you need to take a realistic look at the situation, you need a plan of action and you need to come up with the most effective ways to deal with and overcome the problem. 

Ask yourself what is the worst case scenario that could happen, what would you do if that worry actually happened. 

Would it be as bad as you imagined and what steps can you take to deal with it or avoid it from happening

Avoid too much forward planning unless it is about something that is going to benefit you or something you actually looking forward to. 

Remember, every new day is a different reality and a chance to re-evaluate the situation and make a fresh start, so seize the window of opportunity and start the day off with a clean slate. 

If you have done something wrong and it is bothering you, try and get the situation sorted as quickly as possible. 

Plan as much as possible and then, expect the best case scenario to happen, there are no certainties in life.

But we are the creators of our own destiny to a large degree and we are meant to learn from our mistakes and not be punished by them so we grow and move forwards.

Stay in the present moment 

If any time you feel stressed or anxious, try and bring yourself back into the present again, it is pointless to try and stop feeling anything, you cannot force your feelings away. 

Just accept them unconditionally and let them pass bye, again you can focus on your breathing, when we focus our attention onto something else instead of how we feel it soon starts to transform us to a more relaxed energy, but it all takes practice. 

Any time you have to face a stressful situation, spend a few minutes doing some deep, slow breathing beforehand, this will train your mind and body to stay calm in those challenging situations. 

Breathe in for the count of five, hold the breath for three seconds, then breathe out for the count of seven, if you feel stressful, return back to your slow breathing as it will put a holt to all the stressful physical responses.

We worry because we get stuck in a state of nervous anticipation, this cause us to become anxious about something that has not even happened yet. 

What you need to know is, worrying will not change the outcome, to switch back to a calm energy you have to bring yourself back into the present moment because that's where the calm and positive energy lies.

Worry thoughts will take you out of the present moment, which will cause a resistance to your free flowing energy, it's a bit like trying to block the path of flowing water or swimming against the current. 

When you return to the present, your energy will flow freely again, the way to get yourself out of the negative trance you have gotten into, is to let go of what you're thinking about. 

To engage you in the present stop thinking and start doing, just do the things you love or enjoy and keep yourself occupied.         

If you're stuck doing a boring job, focus on what you're doing, or create and plan for a positive and fulfilling future. 

Try listening to the radio, sing to yourself. If you're going to think then you might as well think about things that make you feel good, and most definitely, release anything that makes you feel bad.

Keep your body relaxed

Any tension in your mind or body is bad for you, constant worry will put your body into a stressful and tense state. By learning to keep your body free of tension will help you to worry less.

It's important to have a tension free posture and when your body is aligned, balanced and poised and your resting on your bones, then your muscles will start to relax and become soft. 

When your body is tense or out of alignment, then you will feel more frustrated, uncomfortable and irritable, when your mind is quiet and your body is balanced it is hard to think negative.

Combined with a balanced, aligned and relaxed posture, having a massage will make you feel so much better.

Performing some light stretches or gentle yoga routines first thing in the morning will help you to release any overnight tension. 

Go for a twenty minute walk when you finish work and just stop thinking and start observing nature and your environment to rid yourself from the day's stresses and strains.

 

Hypnosis to stop worrying can quickly put a stop to all that unnecessary worry, anxiety and stress before it gather too much momentum which is bad for your health, your quality of life and your emotional well-being.

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