How To Erase Bad Memories That Are Preventing You From Experiencing A Happy And Enjoyable Life

Why do we have a tendency to live in the emotional pain of our past and could you dare to imagine how much better your life would be if you decided to let go of your painful past and you were free of all your stress, sadness anxiety or anger?

It was once thought that once a negative neural association had been made, it could not be reversed. 

That meant if you had a bad memory with a corresponding negative energy charge or fear response attached to it, then that bad memory would remain active causing you intense emotional stress and suffering for the rest of your life.

Thankfully, neuroscience and natural therapists now know that the brain has the capacity to change. This should come as a great sense relief and hope for anybody who is suffering from a bad memory or Post Traumatic Stress.

This means your bad memories and all the emotional pain and suffering that has been attached to your negative experience can be reversed and undone allowing you to reduce and dilute all those strong negative emotional and physical feelings.

Some people have had to endure and witness some most gruesome and horrific events or go through some vile and disgusting negative expand emotional upsetting experiences.

Although you may not realize it right now, because you are still experiencing strong and intense negative feelings, and physical discomfort that appear very real to you. 

The truth is. It is not you negative past experience that is hurting you now. What has happened is in the past and that's where it should remain.

The reason why you are now feeling all the emotional pain and suffering is because you keep reliving, returning to and replaying your negative bad memory over and over again in your mind.

An this is what is now causing you to react with feelings of anxiety, stress, anger, hurt and discomfort.

The reason why people keep replaying their bad memories in their mind is because of all the strong emotional attachment and the amount of emotional significance we give to our bad experiences. 

After a while, for some people the negative emotional states of being and way of existing become their normal and their accepted emotional benchmark, set point.

At some point, you were emotionally or physically hurt or abused. But, thankfully you have come through it and you are OK now. 

The fear, emotional pain and danger, now exist within your mind. Your bad memory is just an illusion that does not represent what is happening in your reality anymore.

Those who live in the negative emotions of their past, will continue to live a story of hurt, gloom, despair and physical discomfort. Some people will even allow their past to diminish their whole lives.

When you hold onto your past. Then it will cause you immense emotional pain and suffering which will lead to unpleasant physical suffering and other mental health conditions.

When you are in your most natural calm and resting state, your bodies energy will flow freely around you body, your muscles will be soft and you will experience those blissful sweet feelings of inner peace and flow.

When your energy flow becomes blocked and out of balance. Such as when you are resisting or being reminded of your negative or traumatic experience.

You will create a split in your free flowing energy, which will cause you to enter a very uncomfortable state of disharmony and imbalance.

This is what we call stress or negative emotional states. If you allow them to. Your bad memories and trauma will continually and indefinitely, cause a unpleasant feeling state of imbalance in your mind and body, on a mental, emotionally and physically level. 

This state of disharmony, imbalance and disconnection in the bodies free flowing energy can manifest into many feelings of discomfort and health related and obsessive or addictive behavior issues.

The only way to restore balance and harmony is to process the emotions and let go of your past which will allow your energy to once again flow freely around your body.

When your bad memory comes into your conscious awareness, it will immediately grab your attention and shift your energy. 

The more you resist, judge or pay attention to your bad memory, the more intense those unpleasant feelings will become and the negative momentum will begin to build.

You can you know, skip all the stress and tension, by just allowing your emotions to travel and rise up through your body and away, just let them go, no need for you to fight or resist your feelings, or for you to engage in them or hold onto them.

Once you know how to let go of your suffering you will achieve those wonderful and blissful sweet feelings of inner calm and balance and nothing or nobody will ever be able to inflict anymore hurt or suffering on to you again.

The only thing that you will lose when you let go of your suffering, is your negative illusions that have been playing out in your mind and robbing you of your happiness and your inner peace and balance.

If you are the victim of a bad experience, it is not your fault for what happened to you.

What you have to be aware of, further on down the line. Be careful, you don't allow your bad experience to justify all your fears, problems and negative feelings and make you a victim for life.

The real truth is. Spiritually. You are far bigger and far greater than any physical experience  that life can throw at you or any nasty person/persons who has treated you so very badly. 

You are a very strong and resourceful, powerful person who is more than capable of fully overcoming anything and there is nothing that can stop you from going on to live a wonderful happy, healthy and successful life if you choose to make that your intention.

The only thing that can prevent this is, your negative illusions of the past. 

A full recovery is possible for, it all depends on what you are willing to do to free yourself from you're pain and suffering. 

If you make that all important decision that you're are going to do whatever it takes to overcome your suffering, then overcome it you will.

Let go of anything that causes you emotional pain and suffering and choose love and the positive calm emotions innstead.

What can be learned, can be unlearned

Your bad memory is a learned behavior and neural association. The good news is, what can be learned and created can be revearesed and unlearned.

Bad memories and bad experiences called traumas are past emotional negative experiences that have become 
engrained and filed as an emotional bad memory, which then become stored in the depths of our mind. 

At the time of your bad or upsetting experience. Your mind records and stores all the context of your bad experience and all the emotional and physical feelings you were experiencing at the time.

Your mind then uses the contexts of your bad experience and the way you felt at the time and immediately after to gauge how react or what you should try to avoid making the same painful mistakes in the future or to prevent you from suffering any further emotional or physical hurt or pain. 

This is an inbuilt safety mechanism you have that is designed to try and help and protect you from a similar bad thing happening to you again, accept in the case of grief or the loss of a loved one.

If you have lost a loved one, then you still might want to remove some of the pain, so you can focus on the good and happy times.

Once an emotional bad memory has been formed it will throw your whole mindset and body out of sync and balance causing even more emotional trauma, negative feelings, obsessive thinking patterns, behaviors and stress. 

This why you cannot completely forget about a bad memory, because from an evolutionary perspective, they have a purpose to serve. But, they should not remain active and you should not have to endure endless stress, upset or emotional suffering.

Some people have had a lot of bad things, upsetting experiences and terrible things happen to them. 

You may still want to remember the lessons that you've learned from them, so you learn who and what you need to stay away from and how you can use them to make you stronger and even successful.

What you want to remove, is all the intense and strong feelings and physical responses that have associated themselves to your bad experience.

Unfortunately, waiting and hoping for things to get better by themselves, can result in a lot of needless suffering, hurt and stress and it is waste of your valuable time, energy and your precious life. 

You may not realize this but you are a very resourceful and strong person, who is more than capable of freeing yourself from your painful past.

There are natural ways for you to begin to reduce those strong emotions and stressful and fearful responses that have become attached to your bad memory.

The way to achieve that is to by reversing how you created them.

Each time you try to resist or you react badly to your mind, your negative feelings and emotions. You will strengthen those already strong and intense negative feelings and emotions. 

But, you can also reverse this process, by teaching yourself to begin to reduce those strong and intense negative feelings and emotions.

And, being in charge of your feelings and emotions is one of the most powerfulest tools that you could ever learn and possess.

Give up the fight to set yourself free

Nobody asks to be abused, nobody wants to lose somebody they love, nobody wants to witness horrific, events, personal trauma or any other negative or upsetting negative experience.

If you're struggling at the moment and you don't know what to do to ease your feelings and emotions, then this is not your fault and there is certainly, nothing wrong with you.

After all, none of us have ever been taught how to manage our feelings and emotions. 

So when we do experience emotional trauma, it is no surprise, that we don't know what is happening to us and we don't know how to ease our pain and suffering.

The first and most important thing to realize as far as feelings and emotions go. 

You cannot run, suppress, blockout, resist, fight, force away or hide from your feelings and emotions.

The biggest danger of not knowing how to reduce and process your feelings and emotions is. 

It can force you to resort to all sorts of potentially harmful and addictive substances, just to try and quieten your mind and numb your pain.

It is perfectly understandable, why some people turn to alcohol or others addictive substances. Emotional pain and physical sensations of discomfort, make you feel terrible and they can turn your life into a living hell.

But, any relief you gain from trying to numb your feelings and emotions is only temporary. 

There are much more natural and better ways that can permanently reduce the intensity of your emotional pain and physical discomfort.

The thing to be aware of is. There is a direct link between your thoughts, feelings and your physical body and health, which will also affects your actions and behaviors.

One thing that can begin to help you is to accept what happened.

Another thing that can help you is. It is actually, much better for you to allow your mind to think about your bad memory, to allow your mind to continue thinking those unwanted thoughts and to allow your feelings to carry on.

Than it is to try and suppress them or block them out. 

Because, when you try and suppress or bury your emotional pain your mind will give that situation or memory more emotional significance and when you don't want to think about something or feel a certain emotion, your mind will create a fear of the actual thoughts, feelings and images. 

This  causes a blockage and disruption in your energy and an imbalance in your body. 

Which can manifest itself into a whole range of unpleasant feelings of discomfort, emotional pain, obsessive behaviors and even health related issues. 

The more you try and resist or make them your thoughts, feelings and emotions stop, the more emotional attachment and arousal, you will add to your bad memory.

As far as your unwanted thoughts, memories and feelings operate. 

What you try to fight, forget about, suppress or resist, always expands and becomes stronger, becomes more dominant, becomes more intense and the bad feelings will linger on.

The more you try not to think about something, the more you will think about it. The more you try to resist and suppress your feelings, the longer those feelings will persist and intensify.

People often say that they won't to forget about their negative experience or they don't want to think about, talk about it or be reminded of their bad memory because it makes them feel upset, sad or anxious.

But, it is not so much the thinking and talking about it that makes them feel uncomfortable or anxious, it is the not wanting to think about it or the not wanting to feel anxious, that causes all the emotional arousal.

What gives fear, negative emotions and anxiety more fuel and power is. "Attention and Resistance".     

You will have more anxious thoughts, because you don't want anxious thoughts. And you will have more anxious feelings, because you don't want anxious feelings.

The more you don't want to be anxious and the more you focus on trying not to feel anxious. The more anxious you will feel and the longer it will last.

With focused practice and repetition.

You can teach yourself how to remain calm and detached around the images and sounds that are playing in your mind, which will cease all that emotional arousal and momentum, which results in a the sensations of stress in your body.

This is how mindfulness works. Which is all about learning how to notice the onset of any negative thoughts and feelings, so you can learn how to quickly calm your mind and body. With practice and awareness. 

If you have experienced a particularly horrific or painful personal situation or you are suffering with long term emotional trauma or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. 

Then further emotional healing and clearing work, will probably be required.

These days there are many natural therapies and techniques that are designed to help you reduce the emotional intensity of your bad memory.

Learning how to relax and change your feelings, will help to give you more energy as well as helping to restore a sense of balance and inner peace and calm, which will tremendously help you to heal your wounds and move on.

Mindfulness and meditation are two reliable ways that can help you to relax your mind and body or by doing anything else that helps you to relax. 

It's all about, changing and managing your feelings and knowing how to bring your mind and body, quickly back to a state of calm and balance, before the emotional arousal begins to build.

Many people try to change their thinking, but the easiest way is, to change your feelings and the way you react to your thoughts. 

Natural tools to ease your emotional pain and suffering

With the right tools and techniques, you can soon start to reduce those intense feelings and emotions that are being triggered every time your mind relives your painful past or everytime your reminded of your negative emotional memory.

Nobody chooses to suffer and everybody wants to forget about or let go of their emotional pain and trauma, so they can move on and get on with their lives.

The reason why you continue to suffer in silence and you continue to allow your past to cause you so much pain, discomfort and stress in their now, is not just because of what happened to you. 

It is because of all the strong negative association and the automatic physical responses that you have attached to  your bad memories and all the contextual triggers and reminders.

Our brains have evolved to emotional respond to our negative experiences. These response are automatic and involuntary and once a negative associations has been made to your bad or negative experiences. 

These negative attachments and responses will stay attached to your bad experiences and your brain will carry on playing your negative memories and triggering those negative feelings, because of the high amount of emotional significance and attachment.

Below are some natural techniques that you can benefit from, that have been proven to help people begin to reduce the emotional intensity, attachment and significance, so you will begin to experience feelings of calm and inner peace.

There is not such a thing as one glove fits all and some people might require professional help as well as natural techniques, it can also take time and effort

But any progress you make, is progress. Even if you only manage to reduce your emotional stress and intensity down a little bit each day. Imagine, how much progress and how much better you will feel in a year from now. 

The natural techniques below can quickly start to get you positive results. 

By helping you reverse the process so you can begin to lower your emotional intensity, reduce you emotional pain and suffering that has become so strongly attached to you negative experience.

For those who have had enough of living in the pain of their past, the natural techniques below can help you bring down the emotional attachment that is linked to your bad memory.

Focus you attention on what you good at, and become the best you can

You possess limitless talents and abilities and there is nothing that you can not overcome, do or achieve with the right positive mindset and attitude.

Once you let go of your past, and you channel all your focus of attention and energy onto how you want to feel and what you want to do, become and achieve, so you can be the best you and live the best life possible, rather than carrying on remaining a prisoner and victim of your past.

When you focus on your bad memory, it will take you out of the peace of the here and now. Negative feelings expand when we either venture into our past or we fear the future.

By focusing your attention on doing the things that you want to do, it will help relax you and bring you back into the present moment.

Although you may be hurting or feeling annoyed or upset. Practising a bit of gratitude can help you to reduce anxiety or negative feelings and even showing a bit of forgiveness, for you sake, and not the person that hurt you, can ease feelings of anger.

People relive their bad memories each day, playing the same old vivid images, sounds, repeatedly. Putting themselves through the same unnecessary emotional pain, torture, stress and suffering.

If your point of attention remains on your bad memory, it will continue to activate those same old painful feelings of discomfort and emotional pain.

Endless and repeated negative experiences that are being replayed over and over in your mind will lead to no positive outcome, only more emotional suffering.

It is not going to set you free, and it will only serve to make those already unbearable negative neural associations and feelings of discomfort stronger and stronger.

Although it will do is reinforce those negative memories, further disempower you and further empower your negative or upsetting experience and feelings that are holding you stuck in a negative perpetual, vicious cycle.

How is holding on to your bad memory, constantly reliving it, suppressing it, failing to process and release the strong negative feelings and emotions and resisting it going to set you free?

The truth is, it is not, it is just going to keep you stuck in a negative cycle of physical and emotional imbalance and disharmony.

When your body is out of balance and sync, you will become emotional and physically imbalanced and that just creates a breeding ground for more emotional trauma and feelings of a loss of control over your thoughts, mind and feelings. 

Which can lead to emotional overwhelm, obsessive behaviors and unwanted repetitive thinking, addictions, anxiety, stress and physical illnesses and emotional further suffering.

Recurring negative emotional experiences are not normal, so you should never normalize them, all they do is hold us in an emotional prison of the mind. 

A bad memory, will hold you in a bad place and a negative state of suffering and misery and the mental and emotional trauma will manifest itself in the body in the form of feelings of discomfort and unease.

Bad memories and experiences are not meant to teach us a lesson or for us to learn something from either, although we can use them to make sure we avoid making the same mistakes or to motivate us and drive us on achieve great things.

They are an indication that we need to release them, change our focus of attention and its time to let it go and move on with our lives.

If think we think that we need to somehow suffer, deal with or to find closure so we can grow or our we think that our suffering is a necessary part of life, then we are wrong. 

Anything that makes you feel bad or brings you emotional suffering is not normal or necessary, is just the result of negative energy and attachment.

What is going to set you free, is learning how to reduce the intensity of the feelings and emotions that have become attached to your bad or negative experience.

If you have a bad memory that is ruining the quality of your life and causing you endless stress, emotional pain, restless sleep and unpleasant feeling, symptoms and sensations.

Instead of just putting up with or trying to just cope with, deal with, live with, put up with, suppress, avoid or fight with your mind, feelings and emotions.

Why not decide to do something about ending your daily emotional and physical hurt, sadness, grief, stress,  discomfort anxiety and suffering, because you have the power to let go of your past and move on? 

By learning and teaching yourself how to reduce the intensity and let go of all those bad feeling emotions and physical responses that are attached to your bad memory. 

How bad memories work?

Your subconscious mind stores emotional memories and information in a specific way. By using your five senses, such as.

What you saw, heard and smelt at the time of your negative experience. The feelings that you felt, such as fear, anger sadness, guilt or grief during your bad experience. And to a lesser degree taste.

Your senses are always gathering information from your surrounding environment and then they relay that information back to your emotional control panel of your brain.

Your brain then uses the incoming data to gauge how you should react. Should your senses detect anything remotely similar to the contextual images, sounds, smells, feelings and tastes in your external environment.

It will activate all of those painful emotions and unpleasant feelings and stressful responses over and over again.

To make matters worse. Because, feelings are one of your five senses. If you feel tense or stressed, your mind will associate these feelings with your bad memory, triggering even more unpleasant thoughts, feelings and emotions.

The problem doesn't end there. Because your nervous system cannot tell the difference between what is real or imagined.

Everytime you talk about or think about your bad experience. It will again, trigger unpleasant and stressful feelings and emotions.

This can become a repetitive and an mentally and physically exhausting and deliberating vicious cycle, pattern and an habitual way of responding.

What many people are unaware of. Because, this is the only way the mechanisms of your mind and body operate and store emotional memories.

You can use the same process and mechanisms to your advantage. Allowing you to reverse the process, distort and fade the bad memory and reduce the emotional associations, physical responses and the intensity of the negative and unpleasant feelings.

When you successfully achieve this. You wont get the same high levels of stress, discomfort and bad feelings anytime you think about or you're reminded of your bad memory.

And the good news is. Because you will reduce the emotional intensity and the unpleasant physical responses, you will begin to forget about your bad experience, allowing you to feel relaxed, happier and able to move on.

Many people use coping tactics, addictive substances or things like alcohol to try and process or cope with their emotional pain and trauma.

But, there are natural and much better ways that can help you to remove, release and let go of your negative emotional bad memories, feelings and your emotional pain and truma's. 

That use the same process and mechanisms that created your bad memory in the first place. Each time you resist your bad memory or you relive it, from a place of fear and sensitivity.

You will strengthen the already strong neural associations and physical responses which will continue to disempower you tremendously.

The good news is. Once you begin to reduced the intensity of your feelings and emotions that have become attached to your bad memory.

You will begin to feel less stressed, anxious, angry or sad. And the more you reduce and bring down the emotional and physical feelings of discomfort. 

The more you will begin to free yourself from your self imposed mental prison and self torture.

As this process takes place you will begin to feel a great sense of relief as you surrender the fight allowing you to finally begin to free yourself more and more. 

If you stick at it and persist, your mind will become free and your body will return to a state of inner balance and peace.

Bringing you mind and body back into balance and flow

Your initial bad or traumatic experience will throw your whole bodily system and energy out of sync and balance. 

When you are at peace and engaged in the now. Your energy flows freely around your body, and you feel great.

Whenever you focus on or your reminded of your bad memory. Your energy, becomes blocked and stagnant and you will stop the free flow of energy around your body.

This will cause a resistance in your body, throwing your body out of sync and balance causing a split in your free flowing energy.

When our free flowing energy and state of calm, gets thrown out of balance it causes a state of disharmony. 

Creating a breeding ground for emotional trauma and emotional stress, allow for the manifestation of ill health and other health related problem.

If you do not then start to let it go, so you can process the emotion. Your body and energy can stay out of balance and sync, which can manifest itself into many different unpleasant physical ailments and health related problems.

The common thing most people make when they are dealing with trauma or a bad memory is. They set out to fight, deal with or rid themselves of their thoughts and feelings, and this is where the real trouble starts, but never ends.

Because, no matter who you are and no matter how hard you try. 

You cannot defeat your feelings and you cannot outrun your emotions. Everybody who tries to, creates even more negative feelings and emotions.

As the saying goes "What you resist, persists and gets more intense"

When we allow things to get out of our conscious control. Then our negative physical and psychological experiences can haunts us and become a part of our everyday life.

The first step to emotional healing is all about developing awareness and understanding. 

There are also a few golden rules that need to be followed. 

Because, when the pain becomes too unbearable and there is nowhere left to run or hide. 

You must make one of the most important decisions of your life and decide to take back control of you feelings, emotions and your precious and valuable life. 

Which should ideally start by beginning to change the way that you feel and change the things that you do.

Because when you know something is going to cause you immense pain, you don't go there and you don't live your life, in the negative feelings of you past. 

Because, there is no point and there is nothing to gain. Because, all suffering is temporary, if you give up the fight.

If you continue the fight with your bad memory and feelings. 

You will end up being drawn into a daily battle with your mind, feelings and emotions. 

Which will be battle with no resolution or outcome and you will end up feeling defeated physically, mentally and emotionally every single time.

To try and put things into perspective. You are not your past or your future. You are the now. The only thing that ever changes is. Each day you have different experiences, and different thoughts and a varied ranges of feelings.

Your negative past is an illusion, even if it may have been very unpleasant, disturbing or upsetting for you at the time it happened. 

Ask yourself.

Where is your past?

It only exists as a memory. The danger, anxiety and sadness, is now linked to your thoughts and your memory, which is a unpleasant illusion.

There is no need to keep going there and becoming emotionally engaged in it.

The emotions that you're feeling and the unpleasant sensations you are experiencing in your body since, are not a true reflection of what is happening in your current outer reality anymore.

This means the sensations in your body and the sounds, thoughts and images that keep playing your mind over and over again. 

Have no relevance to what you are currently experiencing in your reality at this present moment and unless you have to face a similar bad experience, they should have no influence or control over your now or your future.

This is how life works

You have a negative experience where you live it, feel it and you experience in the present moment. 

Which may initially shock you or cause you emotional and physical pain at, and during the time you bad experience was happening.

Often the adrenaline and focus of the moment, blocks out the fear and the physical and emotional pain to a degree.

Very often, the fear and anxiety, come afterwards because your anxious mind and body is trying to avoid you making the same mistakes or repeating any potential further suffering.

The real pain and suffering happens after the dust has settled. When you start reliving the memory over and over again in your mind, often long after the real experience is over.

This is what keeps the memory and feelings active, ongoing and what drives the self perpetuating cycle of more negative thoughts, feelings and behavors.

Yet. If you feel the feelings and let them carry on, without judging or reacting and then you change your focus of attention. Your feelings will have to change to.

Because. Your thoughts and feelings are dictated by. What you give your focus of attention to and how much emotional intensity, meaning and significance you attach to your bad memory.

If you keep resisting and reliving your bad memory. Then, you can keep those negative thought patterns, sensatons and feelings active and alive, indefinitely.

Sometimes the actual bad memory and all the vividness of your negative experience itself can be the catalyst for your emotional suffering and stress, afterwards

But sometimes, your pain, misery and emotional suffering can be a direct result of how you were made to think and feel after the event happened or maybe even felt and thought like this, before it happened. 

Such as 

  • You blame yourself
  • You were made to feel bad 
  • You convince yourself it was your fault 
  • You feel no good 
  • You feel embarrassed or ashamed
  • You think that you're not enough 
  • You feel unworthy or you were left feeling unworthy
At the moment. Your bad memory is a repressed and trapped emotion that is remaining active within your whole, mind and body system.

Sometimes talking to others can help but sometimes talking to others about your bad experience can make you feel worse. 

Because as you begin to talk to others. They can start to add in, there opinions, what they think about it or they tell you, what they think, you should do, even though they have no idea, themselves, how to resolve this type of issue.

As you talk to more and more people. It can negatively affect how you feel. And, now, things have moved on, and it is not just about, your initial bad experience. The problem has shifted, to what others think about it.

This can add to your emotional baggage and increase your negative feelings and emotions. So, what is happening now, has become a bigger emotional problem for you than what happened to you in the original moment.

Once your bad memory gathers momentum and negative energy. How you feel now, becomes so much more intense, painful and destructive, than they were at the time of your bad experience.

Because of all the intense focus of attention and resistance that you're giving to your bad experience.

What happened, should no longer means anything to you anymore. The only thing that really matters now, is how you feel.

All your energy and focus of attention should be now put on to reducing and releasing the emotionally intensity and working on relaxing and returning your body back to it's natural state of calm and balance.

But, you can only achieve that, if you give up fighting with your thoughts, your past, and your feelings and emotions.

If your problem is linked to insecurity and low self esteem. Such as, deep down you think that you are not worthy or good enough. Then, you have been lied to or you have been lying to yourself.

Because you are worthy, you are good enough, you are powerful and you have the ability and capacity to free yourself and go on to achieve anything you want. 

How do you shift from thoughts and feelings of. 

" I am not worthy or I am not good enough"

Remove the NOT, and unleash the real powerful you.

You always have been worthy, equal and good enough and you always will be and there is no exception to this rule.

You are not your bad experience

Even though you may have suffered a horrific or horrible, unpleasant or unhappy experience.

Your bad memory is an experience and not who you really are. At source, you are free flowing and peaceful energy and you are a highly intelligent and powerful being, that has no limits.

Your bad experience may hurt you deeply, it may shock you and shake you to the core, it might disgust you, upset you, mold and shape you. 

But your bad memory or your negative or abusive experience. should never, ever be allowed to diminish you or define who you truly are or determine how you feel.

When try to suppress, repress or resist them and you allow your bad memories to control you and become the most dominant part of who you are now.

Then they will become the source and foundation of all your struggles, your emotional pain, your misery and much of your stress, anger, sadness, grief or depression.

Because many people do not let go of their bad memories, learn to change the way they respond or reduce the intensity of the emotional charge and association.

They become dependant on others, alcohol, addictive substance or they rely on coping tactics to try and give them a bit of temporary relief from their pain and suffering.

Again, you are the I and the self, you are the master of your own feelings and emotions. but you not the experience nor do you have to keep on reliving it.

When you stray into your past and relive your bad memories. 

They will disconnect you from your now and who you really are and they will transform your mind and body to a negative state of resistance, tension and unbalanced energy.

The easiest way to change how you feel is to give your focus of attention to something else or engage all your awareness in the now.

Things like reading, art, hobbies, photography or just going for a walk and observing nature, can help to shift your focus of awareness and attention.

Changing your thought process, will also stop the negative resistance.

For some people however, because of the amount of emotional impact, intensity, meaning and significance that has become attached to their bad or traumatic experience.

It can be quite difficult and draining for them to take their attention off, all those negative and strong feelings  of emotional overwhelm and physical discomfort.

Because, when you have a bad experience and you look thoroughly at it, you relive it and you resist it over and over again for a long time.

What happens then is. It becomes your most dominant point of attention and it creates a strong and intense negative emotional pattern and association will take place get more intense.

These negative feelings and responses, will then become very easy for you to evoke and they will be constantly triggered by things you come across within your environment that your emotional mind remotely links to your bad experience.

To make matters worse. Your emotional mind also responds with more thoughts and feelings of fear and anxiety, if you body is experiencing symptoms of stress or your muscles are tense.

This can hold you permanently stuck in a vicious and self perpetuating trap, mental imprisonment and negative and fearful cycle.

As time progresses, these unwanted and repetitive thought patterns and negative responses, can occur, merely because it has become a habit of thinking, behaving and responding for you and a normal way of feelings and existing. 

This negative cycle and pattern of negative beliefs and mindset can lead you to think that you are a victim of your circumstances which can escalate you into believing that you are a victim of life. 

Now you may be a victim of your unfortunate circumstances, but you have not got to remain a victim forever.

It can also trick you into thinking that this is something that you have just got to put up with, deal with or try to live with.

But, rather than putting up with all the emotional pain and suffering and accepting that you do not have a choice other than to try and cope and live with it.

Wouldn't a better choice be to attempt to reduce the emotional intensity and change the way you feel, so you can free yourself from your emotional suffering, your mental torture and self imprisonment?

The normal advice we would give, to people who have anxious and negative thoughts, feelings and responses would be to.

Just observe and allow the thoughts and feelings to carry on, without you judging or reacting to them, and then as your mind and body begins to calm and settle down. 

Start to replace those bad feeling thoughts and imaginings with better feeling ones.

But if you have been suffering from a traumatic or negative experience for so long now. Then, this may not enough to heal your emotional wounds and let it go.

Sometimes, you can just ignore a thought or imagining, and they will soon fade and no longer bother you.

But if the emotional intensity is to strong, then it won't be long before something in your environment or how you are feeling, triggers the stressful and response or negative feelings again.

By accepting what happened and being OK with it and repeatedly letting yourself know it does not matter to you anymore, can help to reduce some of the emotional intensity and take away some of its meaning and impact,

But, when there is too much emotional intensity and impact as there is with trauma and negative experience that have been left untreated and active for a long while.

Then it is highly recommended, that you try to reduce the emotional intensity of your bad memory and all the feelings of discomfort that your bad experience is inflicting on you.

If this is the case and you have been suffering with the same old patterns of thoughts, feelings and responses for some time now, then some emotional clearing and healing energy work will probably be required and highly beneficial to you.

Healing can take time and effort, it may take a month or more, but the rewards of emotional freedom are priceless.

Imagine how great it is going to feel, if in several months from now or even a year, you are emotionally free and living a happy and peaceful life. Wouldn't it be worth, all the effort you put in now.

The two websites and links below, are natural ways to help you reduce the emotional intensity, meaning and impact away from your bad memory.

Only you can decide, what you wish or choose to do. But, if you do decide to try one of these powerful emotional healing techniques.

Allow them time and keep using them, until you feel like you no longer need them and also work on reducing your stress and releasing any tension in your body. 

It is better to work on progressive improvements, rather than hoping for a miracle overnight fix

You become what you are, by how you react to your experiences and through a process of repetition and habit. Your brain learns through repetition and pattern matching and associations.

Your brain has the capacity, to change and when you learn how to change and reduce your feelings and emotions, you will learn how to transform your life and the way you feel for the better.

When we understand and we learn, and we then apply and repeat the process, we start to heal and we can then use it to transform our lives and ourselves for the better.

Never repress your emotions

When negative feelings and emotions become attached to a bad experience, they become your most dominant feelings which make it very hard for you to focus on anything else.

The more you get into a fight, hooked up with and engaged with your negative feelings and emotions, the longer they will persist and the stronger the emotional intensity will become.

There are many positive and good things going on in the world around you. You have probably experienced many happy and good times.

Yet, we give all our attention to the one bad event, then we give it all our undivided attention, as we try and defeat it, outrun it, deal with it, look for closure, hide or fight it.

But, the reality is. No matter how hard you try to defeat, resist, suppress or deal with our feelings and emotions. It never results in a resolution or cure.

In the end, it just defeats you and breaks your spirit and resolve and takes you further and further away from a solution and deeper and deeper into the pain, hurt, suffering and stress of your past.

Have you ever noticed that the more you try and suppress, resist, talk about it or forget about your bad memory. The more your mind thinks about it and the more anxiety, negative feelings or sadness you feel?

Your mind works in a funny way. What you try to resist, suppress or forget about. Persist and gets stronger and more intense, causing endless destruction and unbearable discomfort.

Yet, what you embrace, feel and accept, without reacting or becoming engaged in, does not hang around.

As far as our thoughts and feelings go. You sort of get the opposite to what you don't want. If you don't want to think or feel a certain way. You will get more of the anxious thoughts and feelings, you don't want.

Yet, when you couldn't care less about the anxious thoughts and feelings you would normally resist and want to get rid of, and you give them permission to carry on. They quickly subside.

The truth is. You have not got to deal with your past, you have not got to try and forget, supress or forget your bad memory. 

All that does, is it causes more emotional attachment and it will make your bad memory more emotional significant.

"The root of all suffering is emotional attachment"

The Buddha

A philosopher once said: "It is the memories of the past and the fear of the future which make our present so difficult."

Why try and fight the beast. When it is much better to tame, out smart and calm the beast?

Your negative feelings are powerful, but you are far more powerful.

You cannot find the solution or experience the inner peace and balance that you desire and deserve, whilst your stuck in the negative energy that is fuelling your problem.

The solution to your problem. 

Is for you to give up the fight, use mindfulness and emotional intelligence and put all your focus and energy on to calming your mind and body and reducing the emotional intensity then put all your energy on to creating a happy and fulfilling life.

It takes time and effort. But once you get started, you will move more and more away from the pain and back to a place of happiness and inner peace.

Taking action will take you towards the solution and healing. Hesitation or delay leads to more intense suffering and they are potentiallly very bad your health, your quality of life and your well-being.

An active bad memory or traumatic negative experience can create constant chronic stress, anxiety, fear, panic, anger and sadness. 

Which can manifest in a variety of unpleasant physical symptoms, obsessive thoughts and behaviors and other health related conditions and problems.

Including, tension headaches, tense muscles, sleep related issues and poor quality, restless sleep, digestive problems, depression and much more.

The how to Let Go Of Your Past recording is a natural and safe way that can help you to turn down, remove and drain away all those negative and destructive, unpleasant and hurtful emotions and physical feelings.

Freeing your body of those harmful stressful and negative toxins and leaving you feeling more relaxed, energized, balanced and mentally and emotionally free.

Make your negative bad memories a thing of the past

When your bad memory becomes your most dominant thoughts, feelings and emotions. 

Then  your thoughts, feelings and behaviors are being driven and dictated by your past, and you are being defined and controlled by your bad memory and not necessarily your current reality and the person you really are.

Enslaving you in a self perpetuating mental prison and a vicious cycle of more repetitive unwanted thoughts, flashbacks, physical feelings and emotions.

Most people have little understanding of how their mind and body operate and they do not know or even believe that they are capable of resolving their emotional issues and traumas. Yet, this simply isn't true.

We have all been led to think that we need something to take or we need to rely on someone else to resolve our personal problems and emotional wounds.

Most coping strategies rely heavily on relieving the symptoms and not fixing the root biological and emotional source of the problem.

The few that do decide to take matters into their own hands, with effort and determination, manage to escape and free themselves of their horrendous pain and self torture.

Those who do not change, unfortunately, continue to suffer and deteriorate.

Those whose minds are open to change and new possibilities, are the ones who find emotional freedom. Choosing not to consider all options and natural possibilities, will leave you a prisoner and a victim to your unpleasant past.  

Life can be cruel and unbearable at times. But, regardless of what life throws at you and even if you have suffered the most horrific events. pain or abuse, you have not got to carry on and live your life in the emotional pain of your past.

Because, you do not have to stay down, and you do not have to suffer indefinitely, unless you you choose to hold yourself their.

Although you may be hurting and suffering at the moment, All suffering passes, if you decide to accept what happened, accept you cannot change what happened and you choose to let it go.

Because you have the power to fix yourself, you have the choice to how you wish to feel and what you wish to give your focus of attention to. Never surrender that power.

Now is the time to take back your power and control and if you refuse to run, hide and you summon up the courage and faith to leave your past behind and focus on enjoying the now, eventually you will get what you want and more.

Why live in the emotional pain, fear and hurt of your past, when there is a much better way of feeling and living?

If you wish to free yourself, then you need to focus on where you want to go and how you want to feel. Instead of giving all your energy and focus on what you want to leave behind.

In extreme times of adversity and pain. It is easy to feel sorry for yourself and to feel, the victim of life, but unfortunately, your allowing your freedom to be taken away from you\z. 

Yes, you are the victim of your physical circumstances, but you are in full control of your internal world and feelings and how you choose your life to be from now on.

For those who have had someone who has hurt or abused them. Do not allow them to continue to hurt you, control and define you, otherwise they will carry on controlling you, long after the situation is over.

 Let it go and to set yourself free. Because, freedom and peace, comes from within.

Be mindful

Making a daily effort to relax deeply, combined with good quality restful and restorative sleep and keeping active are all essential steps and positive habits that will help you to heal your emotional wounds.

The most important thing to realize is. You cannot stop negative thoughts or feelings, once they have been activated.

But although you cannot stop your thoughts and feelings. You can learn to change the way you respond to them.

The more you react badly or you become engaged with your negative thoughts, the images and sounds in your mind and your bad feeling emotions and physical responses.

The more your mind will keep you focused on them and the more emotional arousal and negative feelings you will generate.

What you want is to become mindful to those anxious or obsessive thoughts, so you can quickly halt the emotional arousal and short circuit those patterns and cycles, that would normally snowball out of control and ruin your day.

Did you know. When your mind thinks you don't want to think about or react negatively to something. It will create a fear of that situation or imagined situation.

This means. If your try and stop or blockout your thoughts and feelings. Your mind will perceive your thoughts, imaginings, memory and feelings as the threat that needs defeating.

Even getting frustrated or annoyed with your thoughts, the contents of your mind and your feelings, will cause a stronger and more prolonged negative and stressful reaction.

So how do you stop your thoughts and feelings?

You take away their power, by removing the emotional attachment. Then you learn how to be mindful and change the way you react to them.

This is where mindfulness comes in.

Because you now know that trying to suppress or resist your thoughts and feelings only makes you feel worse and prolongs your suffering.

It is time for a new approach.

There are two ways to be more mindful.

1) Mindfulness meditation

Have a workout and burn off and stress, tension and adrenaline. Then, find somewhere where you can relax and unwind. 

Maybe you could listen to some relaxing music or have a nice warm relaxing bath or go for a long walk in nature.

Then, lay down somewhere quiet. Again, listening to relaxing music can help calm you. Then, just take some deep breaths, making the exhale breath longer and slower.

Do not try and force yourself to relax, just let it happen. If any negative thoughts enter your mind. Do not attempt to resist or stop your thoughts and feelings.

Instead, allow your mind to carry on thinking them and your mind will calm itself. Just invite the thoughts to carry on and let them sail right on through and away peacefully. No need to react, judge or analyze.

Let your mind see, that you are OK with these negative thoughts and feelings. Once you have released your tension and calmed your mind.

Deliberately bring to mind your bad or traumatic experience. Allow your mind to think about, all you then have to do is to remain calm and change the way you react. 

This will help you to reduce the emotional intensity and reduce the emotional significance. The more you can think about your bad experience and react calmly, the less it will trouble you.

2) Be mindful throughout your day

Do not fear your own mind, thoughts and feelings otherwise you will create more fear and suffering and try not to avoid any situation, that may evoke negative feelings unless there is a real risk or danger.

You cannot outrun or defeat your thoughts, imagination or feelings as they will alway follow you. When there is nowhere left to run, you stop running and face up to your feelings.

Feelings can only hurt you and persist if you become afraid of them or we try to avoid them.

If you learn to embrace them, observe them from a place of calm detachment and allow them to continue. They will quickly subside, because you will be starving them of the fuel they need to remain active.

Any time during your day you notice those old negative thoughts and imagings. Again be mindful.

Acknowledge the thoughts and how you feel. Then feel the feelings, allow the feelings to carry on and rise through your body, so process the emotion and let it pass, unchallenged.

Then you can just turn the contents of your mind white and focus on or say something positive and more calming.

Change the feelings, and do everything you can to reduce your stress and release your tension. 

Suffering manifests when we try and fight with our feelings and emotions and we allow our past to dictate our feelings, actions and our now.

We can choose how we wish to react to our thoughts, bad memories and feelings.

If you're suffering from persistent unwanted obsessive and intrusive repetitive thoughts then some emotional clearing work will be required to reduce and change those negative emotions that are driving and holding your obsessive and unwanted thoughts.

Negative thoughts and feelings are an indication that you either need to change your focus of attention or you might need to do some emotional clearing and healing work.

Bad memory and trauma symptoms

There are many unpleasant symptoms that are caused by trauma, bad memories and negative experiences.
  • Confusion
  • Memory 
  • Lack of focus
  • Stress
  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Anxiety 
  • Worry
  • Unwanted and repetitive thoughts 
  • Obsessive behaviors-compulsions
  • Fears/phobias
  • Panic attacks
  • Flashbacks/nightmares 
  • Addictions
Stress and negative emotions block off your creativity, makes you stupid, keeps you focused on your problems and disrupt your mental abilities. 

An untreated and active bad memory will keep you locked in a vicious ongoing cycle that keeps on repeating itself relentlessly.

Your bad memory or traumatic experience. Triggers emotional, physical and chemical changes and responses in your body.

The physical, emotional and chemical changes in your body then cause your mind to focus on your bad memory.

Many people think that a bad memory is a mental issues and not many people are aware of the fact. 

That their physical and emotional state can also affects their mind. When you change the feelings the mind follows suit.

This then becomes a self perpetuating cycle and it is the emotional attachment that holds this cycle in place.

This loop, pattern and cycle needs to be broken and the way to break the loop is to reduce and remove the emotional attachment.

When you separate the strong emotional intensity away from your bad memory, you have no emotional attachment

And without any emotional attachment. Your bad memory has no power, energy or fuel to hurt you anymore.

Why it is important to build your energy

It is not uncommon for people who are suffering from PTSD and negative memories to lose their appetite as well as having trouble sleeping. 

To make matters worse, negative memories that still have emotional attachment and significance. Will hold you stuck in a negative and stressful physical state, preventing your mind and body from switching back to its natural resting calm and balanced state.

All of these, will continually drain you of your energy. Which is the last thing that you need, because you need energy to help you heal your wounds and get your life back on track.

Especially if they are also suffering with depression, stress and anxiety. 

A negative experience can change your whole physiology and mental state. Prolonged periods of stress and negative emotions can also deplete your body of the essential nutrients that it needs to function efficiently, further depleting your energy.

If you're suffering with a stress or negative emotions. This can also cause emotional eating, and when you emotionally eat. 

People tend to reach out for the empty calorie and low in nutrition, sugary and junk foods.

It is hardly surprising that people cannot heal and let go of their past. 

When they are feeling so depleted of energy, suffering from a lack of sleep and their body is constantly stuck in a heightened and negative state of being.

If you are suffering from PTSD or the negative effects of a bad memory. It is important to reduce and remove the emotional attachment away from your bad memory so you can free yourself from your pain, anxiety and stress.

But it is also important, that you supply your body with the healthy and essential nutrients to keep your body strong and functioning at its most efficient physical best.

Getting plenty of deep relaxation and quality restful sleep, should also be one of your main priorities.

You can benefit from self hypnosis to Help To Overcoming Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Self Hypnosis can relax you and encourage to use this deeply relaxed state to face up to your bad memory one last time, from a calm perspective so you can reduce and let go of the strong emotions that have become attached to it.

Calm your body, calm your mind

Your biggest enemy that you will ever have to face is tension and stress in your mind and body.

People who have been traumatised can go into a shortened posture where their head protrudes forward and is pulled down at the back of the neck.

Their shoulders become hunched and stiff and their body collapses. This type of posture is associated to the fight or flight reflex response.

This fight or flight response posture can become habitual. Some people even get stuck in it. In this shrinking posture. 

You can feel more threatened, anxious, sad, insecure and repressed.

Tensing and stiffening your body is also linked to your fight or flight response. When our bodies are tense we tend to have more tense or negative thoughts.

In fact it is hard to think about tense or anxious thoughts if you smile and you relax your body and free and release your shoulders.

Our shoulder and neck muscles in particular are connected to our fight flight, reflex response mechanism and startled mode. 

When your body is naturally aligned and balanced. You will feel happier, more at ease, more comfortable, less irritated and less anxious.

Making it feel a lot easier for you cope with your challenges and making it easier for you to heal your emotional wounds.

We all have destructive bad memories

To some degree, everybody is affected by a personal trauma or negative experience, some peoples symptoms and suffering can be mild whilst for others the emotional pain, stress and suffering can be severe, chronic and long lasting.

Trauma and bad memories affect you on three levels, mentally, physically and emotionally, causing fluctuations and imbalances in your energy and chemical and physical changes in your body.

Once you have experienced a tragedy, shock, loss or a negative experience. 

It will create an emotional bad memory which will then become a part of you, forming a network of negative neural associations and automatic and involuntary physical reactions.

After people have had a bad experience. it can become a life changer for all the wrong reasons. 

The first stage can be confusing and frightening as you find yourself stuck in a negative and stressful state.

Most people enter a coping and survival stage, where they try to come to terms with what is happening within their mind and body and they start to search for ways to try and cope and deal with their feelings and emotions.

After their negative experience, people cannot understand why they are now feeling so bad and why they cannot seem to change back to their natural calm and feel good state.

There is nothing worse, than when you seem to have lost control of your mind, feelings and emotion and you feel powerless to change things.

In this first stage, depending on the person experience. The sufferer, experiences high levels of anxiety, stress, anger, sadness or grief.

This is when you can go from one problem to another, which can cause self destructive behavior, as the sufferer tries to find ways to ease their immense emotional pain, distress or stress which can cause mental and physical anguish.

This can lead people to turn to addictive behaviors or ways to cope and mask their unpleasant symptoms, in their attempt to get a bit of relief or end their emotional suffering.

It is essential to treat and let go of your trauma and emotions as soon as possible otherwise it can linger on and spread into other conditions, behaviors and issues.

Through a lack of understanding, most people don't do this.

In fact they do the opposite and the worse thing possible as they try to repress and fight with their feelings and emotions or they try to purposely forget or block them and their bad memory out.

When you do this, you're actually heading for trouble. Because, when you try and repress your feelings and emotions, it is a bit like when someone is knocking your door to get you attention. 

The more you try and ignore them or pretend their not their, the louder the knocking gets.

Addictive behaviors and coping mechanisms, don't fix the root cause of your problems, they only mask the problem and temporary ease your symptoms.

Therefore, at some point, you are going to have to release and process the emotions, so you can start the healing process and finally move on.

After long periods of coping tactic, and trying to repress their feelings and emotions. 

Many people, realize that they are no closer to healing their ongoing wounds, in fact, very often things get progressively worse, so they move onto stage two.

Which is to try and let go of their trauma and suffering or find ways to handle or remove their bad memories.

This is an important stage and the sooner you enter it the better.

Because your bad or traumatic memory will carry on affecting you, psychologically, emotionally and physically, until you remove it or you reduce the emotional intensity.

The good news is, there are better and healthier ways to cope, ease and reduce your stress or emotional suffering and erase your bad memories.

When those, who do take action measures to remove their bad memories and heal, clear and let go of their suffering.

Many enter the last stage, where they help others who themselves are suffering and struggling or they go on to make something out of their life.

The belief that you can heal your wounds is the first step to recovery

Faith and expectation that you can let go of your past and create a better life and a better life is the first important step, if you intend to erase your bad memories and begin the healing process.

  • Faith leads to hope 
  • Hope leads to optimism
  • Optimism leads to action
  • Action lead to results
As they say. "You're only limited by your imagination or lack of understanding"

Just by imagining yourself getting better and envisaging how good your life will be once you have let go of your suffering, can help to transform feelings of helplessness to feelings of hope and optimism.

Because, you always have choices, and there are always better choices and better alternatives ways of doing things, you just haven't discovered or tried them yet. 

Thousands of people have overcome their adversities and bad memories and gone on too live a normal and happy life, free of their pain, so you can do it as well.

Your brain has the capacity to change and there is no reason why you cannot let go of your suffering and return back to an emotional and physical state of calm and balance. But it cannot do it by itself.

Your brain gets programmed by your perceptions, your reactions and your experiences and the only way it can change is by undoing your negative programs.

Process the emotions, letting go and moving on

The problem you now have is the tape recording that you have of your bad memory. That has been embedded in your subconscious mind and classed as an emotional significant memory.

This tape recording of your bad experience is being played over and over in your minds eye, which is triggering negative emotions and unpleasant feelings in your body.

Every bad memory you have, is a recording of your past negative experiences. 

Each bad memory that is stored in the emotional part of your brain is attached to your nervous system and your nervous systems controls the negative feelings and responses you experience in your body.

Once these negative neural associations and bad memories have been created they will remain active. 

Your brain just wants to protect you from being hurt or traumatized again, it does not care how bad you feel or what is right or wrong for you it only cares about what might go wrong. 

All your brain cares about now, is making sure you don't experience the same negative experience again. Unfortunately, by trying to protect you, your brain causes you more suffering.

And no amount of logical thinking or pleading with your brain, is going to help. 

Because, your brain only responds to and deals with feelings and emotions. When you take the strong emotions and the significance from your bad memory, you memory losses all it energy and power.

The same applies if you start to want to avoid or stop the thoughts, sounds and images being played in your mind, because they are causing you negative feelings and emotions. 

The most essential thing to be aware of as far as feelings and emotions work. What you focus on, expands and increases.

What this means. The more you focus on your feelings and emotions, or out a better way, the more you resist your feelings and emotions, the stronger they will become.

What causes negative resistance is. Wanting to stop your negative feelings and the contents of your mind, wanting to avoid any situation that may trigger your negative feelings. 

And trying to defeat, fight with, get rid of, stop or suppress your thoughts and feelings. 

Yes, you will suffer less by allowing your mind to carry on thinking, what you don't want to think about and embracing and feeling your feelings and allowing them to carry on.

As they say. "What you resist, persists"

You cannot escape from the contents of your mind nor can you outrun or defeat your feelings and emotions.

If you try, it will become a self perpetuating cycle of more anxiety, stress and unwanted thoughts and imaginings.

Some emotional clearing work, will be required

Without having a complete understanding of how your mind and body work, it is very hard to end your pain and suffering.

Your nervous system cannot tell the difference between, what is real, what is false evidence appearing real and what is taking place within your mind.

Your nervous system, responds to both your external environment and your internal one.

Both these negative responses are controlled by your emotional part of your brain that deals with your emotional bad memories.

What this means is. 

At the moment you have an active bad memory running in your mind and appearing as if your bad experience it is still going on, real to you and happening in your present.

If you want to put an end to your stress and emotional suffering. 

It is important that you work on the internal part of your mind by deactivating your bad memory, dissociating the feelings from your bad memory and reduce the emotionally intensity. 

Once you do this, you can file your bad memory in the past and move forwards, free of any more stress and emotional suffering. 

Most people who are suffering from PTSD or bad memories, get stuck in a kind of negative "Groundhog day, and a painful and repetitive scenario". 

Where every day is the same for they. 

They have the same negative thoughts, they relive the same bad memory over and over again and they are dogged by the same old negative feelings, responses and emotions.

What holds you in a bad feeling groundhog day, is your the emotional, physical and mental state that you're stuck in.
  • Change your mindset 
  • Change your emotional state 
  • Change your physiology
And you will create a happier, calmer and balanced you and each day will become a good day. 

Most people fight with, try to suppress or resist their feelings and emotions and try to get better at the same time.

This just causes more negative resistance and inner conflict. You can never end a conflict if you try to fight with, the thing that you're trying to stop. Including your feelings and emotions.

You simply cannot end your stress or emotional suffering, if you continue to hold yourself in the negative energy that is causing it.

And you cannot feel calm and happy if you're coming from a negative place of being.

What you focus on affects how you feel.

Your mind can only focus on one thing at a time and you cannot feel good and bad at the same time.

This means if you focus on something that makes you feel good, it is impossible to feel negative emotions.

Therefore, you have nothing to gain from focusing on your bad experience.

Instead of remaining stuck in a negative groundhog day and vicious cycle.

Learn something new about yourself each day, be mindful to what is causing you to feel bad and change the way you react.

Keep focusing on the solution, not the problem and keep making progressive progress each day.

If you do this with a strong determination, then bit by bit you will move further away from your pain and closer and closer to blissful feelings of calm, happiness and enjoyment.

Only focus on feeling good

Although it can be hard to remain positive when you're stuck in a negative state. It is important for you to always stay positive and optimistic.

Your goal now should be to try and turn a negative into a positive.

But staying positive and taking good care of yourself is absolutely beneficial for your happiness, health and your emotional well-being.

Every time you notice the onset of any emotional arousal, caused by your bad memory, presents you with an opportunity to relax and let the feelings and the memory go.

Every minute you focus on your bad memory, is a minute wasted and a minute of unnecessary suffering.

Negative thoughts, feelings and stress expand and grow with attention. If you give your focus of attention to your bad memories, those negative and stressful feelings will gown and gain momentum.

The moment you focus your attention on better feeling thoughts or on your external environment, the negative feelings will begin to subside and be replaced by positive and calm feelings.

You have nothing to gain by thinking about your bad memory or trying to resist it or make it stop.

Going over and over with those same negative thoughts and imaginings is like pouring petrol on a fir to try and distinguish it.

Even though you understand, that it is your bad memory that is causing your problems. Trying to fight it, forget about it or any other form of trying to deal with it, is not going to solve it or help in anyway,
Anytime you observe anxious or negative thoughts or feelings and sensations of fear, leave your mind alone and let it carry on, until your mind calms down by itself and allow the emotions to travel up through your body and away.

Fear and stress are physical symptoms. You may notice your heart rate speeding up, your breathing, become shallow and your muscles tensing.

When you notice this happening, pause and reverse this process, by relaxing your muscles and breathing deeply until you calm down. Even smiling, when you feel anxious, can calm you down.

Because, there are so many more better things you could be giving your focus of attention and every given moment is a chance to ground yourself in the present moment. 

By engaging and observing in your surroundings.

Because, the present moment is your point of power and calm, you can only experience negative emotions when you give your attention to your negative past or you worry about the future.

If you're feeling emotional overwhelmed or stresses. 

One of the most relaxing ways to dissolve fear and returning to a inner state of calm and peace is by breathing deeply and bringing yourself back to the presence of the here and now, which is where you can experience pure positive energy. 

Meditating or any form of relaxing, is the antidote stress and negative emotions.  

If you have allowed the emotional arousal to gather momentum. Get outside and if you can observe nature, like scenes like parks,

Go for a walk in forests, on a beach, through a meadow, gardens, or even your own back garden, can help to ease your stress and anxiety or boost your mood.  
Even, imagining your walking on a beach or in a beautiful place of nature, engaging in all your senses can quickly help reduce your stress and negative emotions.

Self Hypnosis To Erase A Bad Memory

If you are like many people. You may have developed the misguided concept and myth, that hypnosis messes, with your mind, or you will somehow, lose control, under hypnosis.

The real truth is. The only thing that messes with your mind, and unbalances your body, is your bad memory. 

Hypnosis, is nothing more than, being in a deeply relaxed state, of which you will be in full control all of the time.

Hypnosis has been around for centuries, and it is still widely used today. The reason for this is because, it works.

By reprogramming these traumatic memories, the hypnotherapist helps you, to interpret the events in different ways, as well as replacing the negative emotions and physical responses with calm and neutral feelings.

Self hypnosis for removing bad memories, shock and trauma, is not a new concept.

It was first used during World War 1, by the German military. 

Because the Germans had come to realize that they could use the power of hypnosis, to help treat the victims who were suffering from shell shock and post traumatic stress disorder.

The hypnosis was so successful. That the soldiers, who would normally be unfit to function effectively after their post traumatic shock and stress. 

We're amazingly, able to forget and let go of their shock and trauma, and return straight back to the battle grounds.

So self hypnosis is perfectly safe and natural, and it has been proven to be effective to treat bad memories and traumatic experiences.

Alleviating your stressful, anxiety and distressing feelings and emotions depends on identifying your traumatic event and then integrating the emotions that were not processed at the time your negative or traumatic event happened.

For this to happen, you must first create a safe and relaxed space that enables the you to enter the time and place where the trauma occurred, which will then allow the expression and release of your previously repressed emotion,

With the assistance of self hypnosis this can be achieved through the reliving the experience that caused it in your mind.

To the extent that the you feel safe to do so, which will hopefully help yourself transform your relationship with  the trauma, and integrate the experience into your being.

Some people may need extra work, but self hypnosis for PSTD has helped most people alleviate their emotional stress, suffering and distress, so it is well worth you giving it a try.

The big advantages and benefits of self hypnosis are 
  • It can help relax you and restore a sense of balance and calm 
  • It can reduce the intensity of your strong feelings and emotions 
  • It will help you sleep better 
  • It can give you the relief you have been looking for 
  • It can remove you out of your negative state and return you back to your calm natural state
Each time you listen to the remove bad memory hypnosis session, you should progressively reduce the emotional intensity and attachment away from your traumatic experience. 

Over the years, there have been many scientific studies which have analyzed the benefits of hypnosis.

These studies have revealed that it is one of the best alternative treatment for many ailments, including fears, phobia's, letting go of your past and trauma's.

The reason why more and more people are using self hypnosis is because, it is one of the fastest ways to get life changing results.

If you follow this program for three weeks, then hopefully, you will experience for yourself, how easy and effective, self hypnosis is.

It uses specially formatted and skilled techniques, that work by instructing your subconscious mind to forget what the conscious mind would love to let go of. 

The opposite state of stress, anxiety and anger, is calm. Instead of trying to cope with, resist or deal with your bad memory.

You should always focus on returning to a state of calm and balance. 

This is why self hypnosis is so effective, because it puts you into a deeply relaxed state, and then it will help you to heal your bad memory, so you cannot lose.

Many people who suffer with stress and trauma, struggle to get to sleep, even if they do, often they are awoken by flashbacks or nightmare.

One possible reason for this is because, they go to bed in the wrong brainwave state that is needed for restful and quality relaxing sleep.

This is because, they are feeling stressed, anxious or negative when they fall asleep, which causes restless and a disturbed night's sleep. 

By using self hypnosis before you go to bed. It will help you to relax and enter the right brainwave state for quality and restful sleep, leaving you feeling relaxed and refreshed in the morning.

If you use the erase bad memory, self hypnosis recording below, it will help you sleep better and take away you emotional pain and suffering.

There are no miracle cures or magic pills, but self hypnosis, is possibly the closest thing that you will get to one.

The self hypnosis program. Removes Bad Memories is designed to help you erase your bad memory, in as little as three weeks.

If at any time, your bad memories should start to creep back into consciousness, then you can just replay the program to have a top up, as and when you feel it is needed.

Erase Bad Memories And Reduce Trauma And Emotional Discomfort With EFT 

If hypnosis is not your thing, or you're interested in trying something else, which is natural and safe.

Then there is another natural technique and solution, called. Emotional Freedom Technique.

Emotional Freedom Techniques. Does exactly what it says it does, it free's you from all your emotional pain and suffering.

This simple and easy to learn technique, is a method that you can use, to tap away your, 
  • Emotional blocks
  • Psychological issues
  • Reduce anxiety 
  • Eliminates Phobia's
  • Eliminate Anger 
  • Overcome depression 
  • Let go of, and heal the past 
  • And much more
The technique, involves. Tapping a sequence of meridian points around your body, whilst repeating certain set of, releasing statements, which are followed up by, self empowering statements and phrases. 

EFT has already brought, positive and life changing benefits and emotional relief, for thousands and thousands of people, around the world.

EFT, has been classed as the "Psychological form of acupuncture". And it has been proven, to bring to the surface and release, stubborn and long held, negative emotions and blocks.

It basically involves tapping on his face, hands, and torso while you focus on your bad memory or you repeat key phrases

EFt can be rapid and effective ways to relieve emotional distress, anxiety, pain, anger and sadness.

This simply yet effective natural technique works by. First, you pick and focus on what emotion or situation that is causing you all your emotional distress and discomfort.

You then tune into those negative feelings (ie: anger, sadness, anxiety or fear). And then you focus on those feelings and where they are manifesting on your body. 

The more discomfort you feel the better it works and you then give the feelings a rating ranging from 1, which is minimal discomfort to 10 which is the most maximum and intense you feel.

Then you perform the tapping technique and sequence whilst you repeat a self loving statement followed by reminders of the feelings and emotions your are feelings or you focus on the situation that is causing you distress and discomfort

EFT is all about releasing suppressed or blocked feelings and emotions that have become trapped within your bodies system.

The techniques combine a form of exposure therapy, thought and feelings restructuring, releasing and letting go and rapid emotional and physical relaxing and freeing techniques.

Nobody is quite sure how this tapping technique works. But, it gets results. 

It seems to work by stimulating certain acupuncture pressure points whilst you expose yourself and bring about your trauma or negative feelings. 

Which appears to instruct your emotional part of your brain to release and switch off all those unpleasant emotional responses and reduce the emotional attachment.

This technique somehow manages to dissociate the negative feelings away from your bad or traumatic memory by sending signals to the emotional or fear control panel of your brain to release and let go of your emotional trauma or distress.

It make take a few times to bring your emotional intensity down, and EFT, won't erase your memories completely, but each time your feelings will feel less intense and your bad memory or anxiety, will begin to feel less traumatic and less significant. 

The purpose of EFt is to help you to reduce your emotional trauma and discomfort, restoring a sense of mental clarity and inner feelings of peace, stillness and balance.

What it will do is, it will allow you to think about your memory, if you want to. Without bringing about all those intense and strong emotions and the resulting mental and physical illnesses, and unpleasant symptoms.

Now, if you have been abused or experienced a traumatic experience. You, probably, won't want, to recall the memory and images.

But, for anybody, who has lost a loved one. 

They still, might not want to block their memories of their loved ones out, but equally, they won't want to endure, all the sadness, grief and emotional pain. 

Some may, still want to think about them, and EFT, will allow you to still think about your loved ones, in a new positive way, without suffering all the immense pain and sadness.

Why your pain lingers on?

When you focus on or you become aware of a negative experience or event that has happened to you. 

The memory of that bad situation will causes the build up and habit of a strong negative energy and unpleasant physical feelings and sensations within your body. 

These unpleasant memories, flashbacks and responses will then linger on for years to come if not indefinitely, way after the negative situation or experience is long over for you.

The reason why you're now suffering with PTSD or emotional hurt or sadness, is because it has now become a habit of thinking and an automatic way responding.

This is what is causing the anxiety, stress or negative emotional attachment that is now hurting you so much and causing you so much pain and suffering. 

The danger is. This way of feeling and responding can become your norm, if your not careful.

Some people experience, witness or suffer the most horrific physical suffering, situations and events.


Once your bad experience is over, it should be left in the past and in a place where it can no longer hurt you or disrupt your life.

As long as your bad experience is over in your external and physical reality.

What you're feelings and hurting with now, has got absolutely nothing to do with your external reality and life that you're now living and the life you should be living. 

When you allow these negative thoughts, images and feelings to linger on. 

Then the negative energy that your experiencing will become you most dominant feelings and emotions, and because 

When you become stuck in a negative state of being then this negative energy will spread into many other areas of your life, causing many other emotional issues and problems.

These feelings and emotions that have become so destructive and unpleasant for you. 

Which are causing you so much stress and emotional suffering are totally unnecessary and they can be removed or changed. 

Why these bad feelings linger on so much and cause people so much unnecessary suffering is mainly because.

Most people who are experiencing PTSD or bad memories get trapped into logically thinking that they have to somehow.

Try to deal with their past or they think that they must try and fight with, defeat their bad memories feelings and emotions, make themselves forget about their bad memory or somehow force their feelings, thoughts and images to go away. 

When they find they cannot make themselves forget, get rid of or deal with their painful experience, they look for other ways to try and suppress, distract or block out the emotional pain and stress.

The problem being. As you know. You cannot, because feelings and emotions, just do not work that way. The more you resist them, the longer you will hold onto them.

Because, the more of your awareness and attention you give to your bad experience or the more you try and deal with, fight, forget about or block out your emotions.

The opposite of what you want happens. And you end up generating more stress and negative feelings and emotions.

The reasons for this is. If you try to deal with, get rid of or forget about your bad memory. Your mind is forced to bring those unpleasant images, sounds into your conscious awareness.

And because, your bad memory has attached strong negative emotions and feelings to your bad experience.

You cannot focus on it, without activating those negative feelings and physical sensations.

Everytime you return to your bad memory, you will pick up the corresponding feelings and emotions.

It become a vicious self perpetuating cycle and pattern. You don't like the feelings, thoughts and emotions, so you logically want to get rid of them.

But because you want to get of them. 

You have to think about your bad memory, and because you're forcing yourself to think about your bad memory, you will cause more emotional arousal and negative momentum.

This is why most people do not like talking about their bad experience to others. Because when they are reminded of it, they bring about the active negative energy.

Changing the way you respond to your mind, feelings and emotions

Your mind will also attach negative feelings and responses to all the circumstances, sounds, people and settings, that related to and occurred during your unpleasant experience or event.

Sometimes, you may not be even focusing on it. When all of a sudden, you're in a situation, and an external trigger.

Usually something that occurs in your external environment that remotely reminds your emotional brain of something that was similar, that occurred during your traumatic or bad experience.

Which can take you back to your bad experience and once again activate those fearful, stressful or bad feeling emotions and physical responses.

The reason why so many people suffer with the lingering negative feelings and responses is because they don't make the conscious choice to deliberately attempt to reduce and remove the negative strong feelings and emotional responses away from their bad experience.

So they can process and release the emotions, which would allow them to begin the healing process and leave their bad experience, dormant and in the past.

In fact most people do the exact opposite, of what they need to do and they try to focus their bad feelings away or find ways to mask or temporary relieve their symptoms.

Your negative feelings and stress will continue to linger on and do their damage. 

You have to ask yourself. 

Wouldn't it be better, to try and find ways to reduce the intensity of your negative emotions and change those physical responses, so you can start to end your daily emotional suffering?

It is not so much your bad experience which is now causing your problems. Your problem now, is all the strong emotional associations and physical responses.

You are now dealing with feelings and emotions and negative feelings and emotions are very destructive and not only do they make you feel bad and uncomfortable they will throw your whole body and physiology out of balance and they are responsible for so many other conditions and problems.

You have to realize that you are separate from your negative feelings and emotions and if you can start to become mindful to the onset of thoughts, flashbacks, sounds, images that are triggering your stressful and negative emotional responses.

Then you can start to separate and detach yourself from your mind and your emotions. The trick is to catch things early, so you prevent the emotional arousal and stress from gathering momentum.

You must never try to fight, resist, attempt to stop or suppress your thoughts, as this will cause more emotional arousal.

On the onset of any stress or negative emotions. Instead of engaging and resisting your feelings and emotions.

  1. Just STOP yourself for a minute, pause feel the feelings and take a few deep breaths.
  2. Allow the feelings to carry on, do not judge, react or attempt to fight or block your feelings out
  3. Just allow the emotions to rise up through your body and release them, keep repeating
  4. Observe the feelings and sensations in your body, racing heart, negative emotions
  5. Acknowledge how you feel and state how you would like to feel, just let yourself know they are just feelings and they will soon pass and subside, if I leave them alone
  6. After a while, you can turn the images in your mind, white.
Do everything you can to help you relax and reduce your stress and tension.

Your healing process may take time and effort. Unfortunately there are no miracle cures, but techniques like Steve G Jones Erase Bad Memories Program maybe the closet thing you can get to a miracle cure.

How animals quickly get over a terryfying experience

If you observe animals in the wild.

Take a wild Deer for example. 

They will happily be garazing and eating the grass, just getting on with their daily business. 

When all of a sudden, they will come face to face with a life threatening situation. Where they're all of a sudden startled and chased by an angry and hungry lion.

The Deers fight or flight response will kick in and the deer will bolt away. If the Deer is lucky enough to survive the dangerous encounter.

The Deer will quickly settle down, they will process the emotion and they will return to a state of calm and they will soon, let go and forget about their terrifying ordeal and just carry on doing what they were doing and being in the present moment.

They don't dwell on the life threatening encounter, they don't try to fight their feelings. They don't focus on it, hold on to their suffering or try to deal with what happened, or attempt to force themself to forget about it.

They just return their attention back on to the peace of the present moment and they just focus on the task they're doing.

And you to can learn how to let go of your emotions and start to focus your attention on the good things and tasks that you should be focusing on.

The danger and hurt now exists in your mind

The major flaw of bad memories are, once the original outside problem is over. The problem and strong emotional attachment becomes attached to your mind and your nervous and bodily system.

Even though your bad or traumatic experience is over in the physically sense. 

Emotionally, physically and mentally, a bigger problem and sometime much painful problem is born.

Many people describe how they do not have time to focus on the event at the time or they manage to switch off or blank out the physical ordeal that they are going through as it is happening.

What they struggle cope with is all the emotional pain, anxiety and stress that becomes attached to their bad memory. 

Now, the source of your problem and the strong emotional negative responses are being triggered by your bad memory and neural associations that have been associated to your bad memory. 

Your bad feelings and responses are now being triggered by your internal memories and neural associations.

Another problem is. Your emotions lie, they don't represent the truth, they are based on the past and not your now, or they are not a true reflection of your current reality. 

The negative emotions that become attached to your bad experiences will grow even stronger and stem into other areas of your life.

Strong emotions trigger unpleasant feelings and sensations in your body. The source that triggers the emotional responses that manifest as bad feeling physical symptoms in your body.

Can be activated by an outside trigger that may remotely remind your mind of your bad experience or if you are having conscious images, thoughts and sounds related to your bad memory in your mind.

Your body and nervous system does not do logic or reasoning. Your body just respond negatively to the contents of your mind or your external triggers.

So no amount of reasoning or logic with your mind and body, is going to prevent your body and nervous system from reacting with fear, stress or bad feelings.

Your emotions, which attach themselves to your bad memories are what trigger the unpleasant and bad feelings and sensations in your body.

Take away the strong emotions from your bad memories and you will break the circuit and prevent the unpleasant physical feelings from being triggered and manifesting in your body.

Sometimes our emotions and feelings act as our inner guidance systems and bad feeling emotions are a message that some emotional clearing work needs to be done or you need to give your focus to something that makes you feel good.

When those thoughts, sounds and images come into your mind, when the negative feelings and emotions begin to build.

You have not got to try and defeat the, you do not have to try and make them go away. 

You can you know just willingly let them come into your mind, allow them to carry on without any judgement. attempts to do anyitng or resistance, and when you do this, they will just fade away peacefully.

Because by doing this you will prevent any emotional arousal and stress from gathering and ruining the rest of your day. 

Using your bad experiences to do something positive

Once you have removed the strong negative energy away from your bad memory and you are starting to heal your wounds and as you begin to feel more resourceful and at peace. 

Then if you feel strong enough and ready. Can you take or make something positive out of your bad experience.

This could be. You could put all your focus and energy into helping others either, try to avoid having to go through the pain or trauma that you went through.

Or, depending on your situation or experience. 

You could perhaps set up a campaign to help others or make sure they do not make the same mistakes as you or end up in a similar bad situation or event. 

You could start a support group or write a blog to support and help other victims or help people who are still suffering the same kind of emotional pain or trauma you experienced.

If that doesn't suit you. Then you could make it your intention to achieve a goal, become successful or do something great with your life.

Because there is always many more opportunities and wonderful things that you can do. Once you let go of your painful past.

Break free from the chains that are imprisoning you

"Have you heard the story of the circus elephant that was chained to a small post and was unable to escape and free himself from the small post and his imprisonment.

The huge elephant could easily snap the chain and escape to freedom. The trouble is, even though he could easily break free, and escape is captivity.

He did not know that and so he never even tried.

The reason why the adult elephant could not escape to freedom was because of the emotional and painful associations and bad memories that were ingrained in his mind.

You, see.

When the elephant was a baby.

The baby elephants trainer, used the same simple methods. Where a chain was tied to the baby elephants leg and then attached to a wooden post.

The chain a post, were strong enough to prevent the baby elephant from escaping. Even, if the baby elephant attempted to break free.

The chain, was strong enough to hold the baby elephant. If when the baby elephant pulled with all his might.

The chain would cut into the baby elephants leg, and it would create a wound which would cause the baby elephant pain and discomfort.

In the end, the baby elephant soon learned to associate, trying to break free, with pain, after a bit of suffering, he would eventually, give up trying.

Even, when the baby elephant grew up, because of his bad and painful memory, which he associated with trying to escape. He would never again try to break free."

You are smarter and wiser than the elephant, and you have the opportunity to break free from the emotional pain of your bad memory.

And therefore, set yourself free from your internal imprisonment and find the emotional freedom, that has always, been available to you.

How you emotional past can affect your now and your future

"Somebody once told me a story about a guy who was out driving his car without a care in the world.

When suddenly a man driving a van had a heart attack and the van veered across the road and hit his car.

The van driver died, and the guy became so traumatised that he could no longer drive his car again.

Every time he then tried to drive, he was engulfed with fear and panic and he would immediately start shaking."

One moment, driving was a natural thing that he did automatically without thinking about it. Then because of his traumatic accident.

His mind had become alert and scared of the same type of thing happening again. 

And his mind was using his bad memory has feedback and triggering sensations of fear, to try and get him to avoid driving again.

Within a matter of minutes, this poor guys life had been changed.

This clearly demonstrates how a bad experience and memory can instantly change your life, indefinitely and change your perceptions, actions, feelings, behaviors and life.

It it takes is one bad experience, and it can negatively impact you in so many ways and even spread into other areas of your life.

Brain neuroplasticity and bad memories

Brain plasticity is a common term that is used by neuroscientists and self help experts, which refers to the brain's ability to change at any age.

When you are having or witnessing a bad emotional event or physical painful experiences. 

Your brain very quickly records and stores all the external circumstances and events that were related to your bad or traumatic experience at the time it was happening.

This includes, people, times, sounds and objects as well as all the emotional feelings, sensations or trauma you were experiencing or the physical pain and symptoms you were feeling during your bad experience.

All this date then gets stored in your emotional part of your brain, in the form of sounds and images all of which gets attached to the negative feelings, sensations and responses.

All your experiences, both positive and negative. Get stored within your emotional part of your brain as images, sounds, which are all linked to feelings and responses in your body.

The emotional part of your brain.Then uses these internal images, sounds and feelings as a feedback loop to gauge how you think, feel and react.

This is what is called a neural associations, pattern recognition and a learned response.

Once a bad memory and neural association has been created it will become hardwired and deeply ingrained into your brain and your nervous system. 

Any time you focus on your bad memory or you are remotely reminded of it in your external world.

Your brain will involuntary and instantly trigger of unpleasant emotional tension and responses which will activate symptoms of stress, sensations of fear or bad feelings in your body.

To make matters worse. 

The emotional part of your brain that controls your emotional responses is very closely linked to your sensory input, your memory and cognition.

Scientists have now discovered that, contrary to what many experts used to believe, that the brain is capable of changing.

Your brain can quickly create a fear or bad feeling association, to your negative experiences. 

But on the positive flip side. You can change the feelings that have been linked to your bad memory.

Now we have a better understanding of how the brain works.

Your brain is capable of changing, and you can now fairly quickly free yourself from the emotional pain and grip of your bad memory.

This is great news for anybody who suffers with the devastating effects of PTSD or those who have to live and suffer from the emotional pain and sadness, of an active bad memory.

Because it is no longer necessary to spend or put up with many painful years trying to live with, deal with or treat your bad memories or trauma.

The important thing for you to be aware of is. 

The longer you leave your bad or traumatic memory untreated or the more you resist it and the more focus of attention you give to it.

You will make the negative and bad feeling associations and neural pathways stronger and more intense.

Not only will this prolong and increase your emotional pain, stress and suffering. But the longer you leave things and do nothing, the harder it will get for you to heal and treat your bad memory.

Therefore for your mental state of being, your long term health and well-being, it is pretty important to consider treating your bad memory as soon as possible.

Because imagine how bad you're going to feel many years from now.

Living with the regret of knowing you could have found emotional freedom and you could have rid yourself of all the suffering of your bad memory, but you choose not to act upon it.

When you learn how to help yourself, to rid yourself from all your emotional pain, stress, anger, grief or sadness that is causing you so much emotional hurt and suffering.

You can begin to free yourself from your emotional pain and chronic stress. 

Which is going to restore your mind and body to a calm state of inner peace and balance and give you back control of your life.

Everybody respond differently to their negative experiences

Emotional traumatic experiences can cause people to respond in many different ways to the events that happened to them.

You can have two people or more experience the same kind of traumatic event or upset, but the way the bad experiences goes on to affect them can be completely different.

The main difference between the ones who are not affected so much bad their bad experience and the ones who suffer greatly.

All seems to come down to. How you have come to react to your unpleasant memory, the way you have interpreted the bad experience and how you perceive and respond to the bad experience afterwards.

What this means is. 

What triggers your emotional responses and how bad your traumatic experience affects you afterwards.

Depends on the emotional intensity attached, to the sounds, thoughts, images, feelings and trigger stimuli that your brain has associated with your bad experience. 

Your brain uses these internal representations, to gauge how you respond to your bad memory and how you react, feel and behave in the future.

How much emotional pain, stress and suffering you go on to experience and how badly your memory affects you after the event.

Largely depends on whether you process the emotion and if you remove the emotional charge and external stimulations, away from your bad memory

The longer you leave it without doing something, the stronger the emotional associations become and the harder it will become to free yourself from your emotional suffering.

Bad memories and negative emotional patterns, become hard wired into your brain and your bodily system, causing you endless emotional suffering and unpleasant feelings.

This can leave you feeling frustrated, because you cannot break free of your constant feelings and emotional patterns of stress, anxiety, anger and negative thoughts, responses and feelings.

If you want to reclaim back your life and go on to live a positive and fulfilling, happy and enjoyable life, set and achieve new goals, then you first have to change your feelings and your neural pathways ands associations.

Being mindful to the thoughts and images that cause you to feel bad, is a good place to start, so you can begin to instantly start to relax yourself, before the negative momentum gathers pace.

But if, your bad memories and your emotional patterns have become hardwired into your brain and the amount of emotional intensity that has been attached to your bad experience, has become overwhelming for you. 

Then, a bit of emotional work and energy clearing may be required.

Shocking statistics reveal the alarming truth

Alarmingly, the statistics suggest that more and more people are struggling to cope with, the psychological, emotional and physical symptoms caused by their bad memories and trauma.

According to the Mental Health Foundation, every year, millions of workdays are lost to to mental health issues, which include, stress, anxiety and depression.

Bad memories and trauma are the root cause most mental issues. Including chronic stress, sadness, depression, anxiety, fear, phobia's, unwanted thoughts and obsessive behaviors.

This clearly demonstrates that mental and emotional issues are the leading cause of sickness and absence from work. 

But it is not just the cost of mental health issues. The sufferer is also unnecessary going through periods of persistent, stress, anxiety, obsessive thought patterns, misery, emotional pain and depression.

If that is not bad enough to live with. Mental health disorders, and bad memories are linked to mental health issues, are responsible for low moods, loss of interest or pleasure and feelings of guilt or low self-worth.

The number of war veterans who admit they are experiencing PTSD as been estimated to have risen by 70% in the last five years.

But you do not have to be a war veteran or a member of the emergency services, to experience trauma or PTSD. Anybody who has witnessed or experienced a terrifying event, can be affected.

There are thousands of people who are feeling the victims of both physical and psychological abuse or bad relationships or a loss of a loved one.

In fact, any negative or unpleasant experience can lead to emotional issues further on down the line.

Because of the ever rise in emotional and mental issues. This also suggests that conventional  treatments are largely ineffective.

Many people are still unaware, that there are a lot of things that you can do, to release your emotional pain and suffering. And you don't have to remain a victim to your past or remain just another statistic.

The trouble is, many people just relying on coping methods, some of which are not healthy, or they try and treat the symptoms, rather than tackling the root cause of their problem.

Because there are natural ways and treatments, that can help to free you from the pain of your past and begin to start the healing process, so you can return back to your normal and peaceful life once again.

The truth is, you can hold on to your emotional or you can choose to let go of your suffering, by teaching yourself how to reduce the intensity of your feelings and emotions or by changing the way you react to your bad memory.

The reason, why most people hold onto their emotional pain, is because they try to fight with their bad memory and painful past, instead of processing the memory and letting it go.

Below are natural ways to help you target and resolve the root cause of your problem, and curing your bad memory, which are effective and you can use these inexpensive techniques to free yourself from your painful recurring memories, anxieties, stresses, sadness and worries.

Although the time for the healing process can vary from person to person. With the right approach and help, you will be surprised at how quickly you can begin to reduce the emotional intensity,

How unresolved memories can lead to other problems?

Unresolved trauma and bad memories, can then lead to many other negative, stressful and anxiety related issues, obsessive behaviors and in some cases, depression.

Because, when you have been stuck in a prolonged state of anxiety, negativity or stress, which for some people can be on an almost daily basis. 

Then all the constant and toxic releases of adrenaline into your body and the bad feeling emotions, can leave you, feelings burned out, depressed and exhausted.

When this happens, feelings of hopelessness and pessimism can become your dominant emotional and physical state.

Why you probably feel so bad is because?

Your bad or traumatic memory has become so dominant, that it is causing your body to release the stress hormones.

Cortisol and adrenaline into your body, which is keeping you stuck in a negative and stressful state.

If this is happening on a regular occurrence, then your body, never has a chance to return back to its natural calm and resting state.

What this means is. 

You emotional and physical state of being, gets set and stuck at, high levels of stress, sadness and anxiety.

With you having, to contend with this each day, then it is no wonder you feel so down and defeated.

Eventually, if you allow your memory to remain active and unresolved, all the negative, stressful hormones feelings and emotions.

Can throw your whole system out of balance, which can trigger feelings of depression and hopelessness.

This is because your body is constantly being pumped with the stress and anxiety triggering hormones. 

All the bombardment of stress and negative feelings.

Will prevent, the release of your natural feel good endorphins. Preventing you from experience the feel good emotions. 

This constant state of stress and negativity, can leave you feeling exhausted and defeated.

Turning hopelessness into hope

When people feel as if, there is no obvious way out or escape.

Then this is when the feelings of hopelessness kicks in, and when you feel helpless, you shift into the victim mode and mentality.

Thoughts and feelings of hopelessness, will hold you a prisoner of your past and rob you of your power. 

It is only when we feel that we have no control over our feelings, mind and emotions. That we sink into a sense of, there is no hope and it is something that we have got to put up with for the rest of our lives.

When you lose control over your feelings and emotions, it can make you feel helpless.

Now, you may be a victim of your bad circumstances and events, and unfortunately, the past cannot be changed.

But, you don't have to remain a victim, for something that was not your fault.

(If you were, the perpetrator, for someone else's pain, although, you need to learn from what you did wrong, you still need to release your pain and torment).

Because, what can be changed, is your, now and your future.

Because, no matter, how bad or helpless, you may feel right now.

There is hope.

But, first, you must remember that, your memories have a reason. 

They are designed to help protect you and remind you, not to make the same painful mistakes again.

What this means is. You're not meant to be able to delete them from your mind. 

But bad memories, should only come into play. If there is a genuine chance, that you are put in the same situation again.

In most cases, this is highly unlikely to happen again and if ever it does, you logic should be enough to guide you.

Therefore, even though your bad memories are kept and stored, for a specific reason.

So your mind can protect you and gauge how you should handle, react or avoid future similar types of situations.

You don't need, nor do you have to put up with, all the emotional responses, bad feelings, stress and constant reminders from your overactive and overprotective mind.

Because even though you're meant to keep your memories.

They are not meant to hold you stuck in painful the emotions of your past, and you don't need all the unnecessary strong emotional responses.

Because, you are not meant to carry the burden of pain, for something that happened to you in the past, for the rest of your life.

The only difference, between living a normal and happy life, and carrying on suffering is. 

Whether you change the way you react to your memory or whether you remove the emotional charge and emotional response, away from your bad memory.

The easiest way, is to remove the emotional response away from your bad memory.

If you don't remove the strong emotional responses and associations away from your bad memory. 

They will still be there, tomorrow and the next day. 

Bad memories are one of the hardest things that you will ever have to live with, and they can interfere and affect almost everything that you do.

Life can be tough and even unbearable, when you're still carrying the scars and burden of something bad that happened to you in your past.

How you're living your life now, how you think, feel, react and behave can all be negatively influenced by, negative events and personal circumstances, that happened to you in your past.

One of the reasons why it takes some people so long to overcome their bad memory or trauma, is because they try and fight with, or resist their mind, feelings and emotions.

There are two types of bad memories

  1. A traumatic, unpleasant or negative emotional experience that has happened to you
  2. A horrific or traumatic experience, that you have seen or witnessed
All bad memories have a negative knock on effect

Once a bad memory has been wired into your mind and body system. 

Each time you think about your bad memory, or you're reminded of it or anything that is similar to the context of your bad experience. 

The strong energy charge and neural connections that has now become attached to your bad experience will remain within the system of your body, until it is released.

Each bad memory has its own powerful energy charge and set of triggers. Once the energy charge is activated, it triggers a series of emotional and stressful physical changes in your body.

Your mind works through, learned behaviors, associations and patterns. 

The strong negative energy, attaches itself to your bad memory, and it will remain attached, doing all its damage, until the energy is separated from your bad memory.

What makes things worse for you is. The more you fire up these strong feelings, emotions and physical responses, the more you will strengthen them and make them stronger and more intense.

There are many different forms of bad memories, but they all have a negative emotion attached to them.

Some of the emotions a bad memory can trigger are
  • Fear 
  • Stress 
  • Anxiety 
  • Worry and intrusive thoughts 
  • Anger 
  • Guilt 
  • Sadness 
  • Grief
It is not just the victim that can suffer prolonged negative emotions and stress. Sometimes the perpetrator can also suffer feelings of remorse or guilt.

Bad memories can keep you stuck in survival mode and a state of fear and stress, making you feel unsafe in what is a safe environment.

If your bad memory is causing you stress and anxiety, this will activate your fight or flight response, which is designed to give you a big boost of energy to get you moving or to allow you to defend yourself.

The trouble is, you simply cannot run away from or fight your bad memory. So all the toxic stress hormones and chemicals, remain within your body.

What most people who are suffering from a bad memory, do not realize is. Without knowing it, they have been practicing, making their stress, anxiety, fear, anger, sadness more intense, more powerful and more frequent.

The real important thing to understand is. You become better at what you practice doing and what you do repeatedly. And this applies to both positive and negative situations and things.

What this means. When you focus on your bad memory, you react badly to it or you try and deal with it or get rid of it.

You will be practicing making your bad feelings, stressful responses, neural connections and negative associations stronger. 

This will trigger more unwanted thoughts and negative feelings and emotions. Soon you can get trapped in a vicious and self perpetuating cycle. 

Most people try to resist their thoughts and feelings or try and wrestle with their problem to the ground, but what you resist, you hold onto and make it stronger. 

What scientists and many self help therapists have learned, what can be learned, can be unlearned. 

The scientists, now know that your brain has the capacity to change the neural connections and association.

This is wonderful news, for all those suffering at the hands of a bad memory. Because now, you can undo all your negative and stressful responses, connections and associations. 

Although your brain is capable of change, it does not have the ability to change by itself.

American Psychological Association, describes emotional trauma as

"The emotional response to an extremely negative event"

The negative event can be a major traumatic experience, but this is not always the case, and you can suffer with years of emotional trauma, from just about, virtually any negative experience.

The first reactions to a negative or traumatic event are usually, the release of adrenaline, a racing pulse, shallow or rapid breathing, confusion, freezing, numbness, disorientation, all of which are part of our fight or flight response.

This is a normal response to a negative situation, and normally, after a while, you would move on and you would return back to your natural state.

However, for many, the effects of the upsetting or negative event, can linger on, long after the event is over, and this is where the problems begin.

Some of the negative effects of emotional trauma

  • Random recurrences of stressful or painful memories 
  • Wanting to avoid any reminders of your bad experience, such as people, places, triggers and situations
  • Chronic uncontrollable stress
  • Anxiety, anger, frustration, irritability, depression 
  • Panic attacks
  • OCD thoughts and behaviors
  • Mood swings
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Nightmares and flashbacks 
  • Stuck in survival mode 
  • Guilt and self blame 
  • Feelings of distress and hopelessness 
  • Negative outlook 
  • Isolation, withdrawing from society 
  • Low self esteem and self worth
If you are suffering with PTSD or you are feeling the pain and symptoms of your bad experience, and you have not yet healed your emotional wounds or processed and released the emotion from your negative experience. 

Then you will run the risk of experiencing chronic stress, emotional trauma and the possibility of physical illnesses.

The real problem begins, when you start to accept your trauma, stress, fear and emotional pain as being a normal part of your life and something that you cannot do anything about.

Emotional trauma and chronic stress, is not normal and your body cannot cope with prolonged periods of stress and anxiety, and sooner or later it will manifest as unpleasant physical symptom in your body.

Stress shuts down your digestive system, ages your body, keeps you stuck in a heightened state of alertness to danger and a tunnel focus of attention and it is estimated that it is responsible for About 80 to 85% of all human diseases.

As your body tries to struggle with all the physical symptoms of stress, your immune system will weaken down, and because your body cannot cope with all the stress. 

This is when you will start getting physical symptoms, illnesses, tension and tension headaches and high levels of anxiety.

Remove the emotional pain, not the bad memory

The latest scientific research suggests, that memories aren't permanent as what was once thought.

But can you and should you try to get rid of your bad memories? 

Memories both good and bad are meant to be permanent and there is a good valid reason for that, as they serve us of valuable data, so we can avoid repeating the same mistakes or failures. 

The most important aspect that might be being overlooked here is, it is not actually your memories that is now really hurting you.

The big problem lies with all the meaning they have for you, and the strong feelings, neural connection, responses and emotions that have been formed straight after your bad experience.

So although our memories are permanent, all the strong feelings, emotions and connections, certainly don't have to be permanent and they certainly can be and should be changed.

And, when, you break the connections and you take away the feelings and emotions, your bad memories will then become rendered as inactive and emotionally insignificant.

Your emotional part of your brain responds to the emotional significance of your bad experience.

iWhat this means is, if your bad memory is still classified as being emotionally significant, then your brain will keep on returning to it and it will carry on responding stressfully to all your memories trigger connections.

Removing all your bad memories, feelings and connections is a bit like having a firework, without a fuse, it becomes totally inactive and devoid of the energy charge that ignites and powers it. 

Many people in their search for inner peace, attempt to try and suppress their memory, unwanted feelings and emotions.

However, that It is like burying the still active memory and emotions alive deep inside your system, and when you do that.

Your bad experience will then become a part of your whole mind and body system, and it will remain there causing you constant stress and emotional pain, until the neural connections and emotional associations have been separated from your bad memory.

So, instead of letting go of your emotional pain and classifying it in the past tense, so you can move on and get back to a normal life.

What will happen is, your memory will stay alive and active, as if it is still happening in the present tense, keeping you imprisoned in, and forever reacting to the context of the whole disturbing and upsetting event.

What is a bad memory?

Your brain records all the context of your bad experience, and all the feelings and emotions, that you experienced at the time

Therefore, immediately as you experience or witness a negative, traumatic, scary or upsetting experience. 

Your senses take in all the context of your surroundings and sends it directly to your brain, and use them for future reference.

What this means is. 

Let's say for example, if there were sirens or gunfire going on, or smoke and fire, during your bad experience.

Your brain would then store the data for future reference, and your brain would attach these sounds to your fight or flight response mechanism.

These are known as neural associations and pattern recognition and they will become your trigger memories.

Any time, then, you are walking down a street, and you hear a siren or loud bang, or you come across a fire, your emotional brain.

The part of your brain that protects you and keeps you safe.

Will automatically recognize these triggers as being similar to what happened during your bad experience and it will automatically link them to, you're about to face a dangerous situation again. 

Because this part of your mind does not deal with logic or reasoning, only patterns, associations, feelings and responses, it will involuntarily activate your fight or flight response.

Your brain cannot distinguish between what happened during the time of your bad or traumatic  experience and a normal everyday event, even though it has no relevance to you. 

When a person who has not had a bad experience hears a siren going off or they hear a sudden loud bang, they might be startled for a few brief seconds, but because they have not connected their fight or flight to the noise or images, they will quickly return back to a state of calm.

However, in the case of the person who has experienced a traumatic event, because their brain has learned to associate danger with the sound of a siren, things unfold completely differently.

When your senses send data to your brain and it finds a negative emotional pattern recognition and an association with danger, your mind will flood the body full of adrenaline and your fight or flight response will go off, time and time again, even in the absence of any real danger or threats.

These are just two typical examples, anything that occurred during the time of your bad memory will become stored and filed as a neural association and pattern recognition.

All bad memories have an active energy charge

Your bad memories, then become, active mental programs, that will run in your subconscious mind.

Your amygdala's, which are two tiny organs within your brain which are in charge of all your emotional memories and responses, will then classify your bad experience as emotionally significant.

Your amygdala's and your emotional part of your brain will then store and use this data for future reference to gauge how you should react in the future. 

To warn you and make sure you don't have to endure the same bad experience or a similar type of experience again.

Shortly after your bad experience, your brain will soon start to create and build a series of neural networks and connection, to what happened in the context of your bad experience and the emotions you experienced.

Everytime then, you react badly to your bad memory, you try to resist it or you try to fight with it, these neural connections and emotional connections become stronger.

All trauma's, fears or phobia's are a learned experience, but you might not have known, that they can all be unlearned.

Once these neural connections and learned behaviors are formed, they become hardwired into your brain and your physiology.

It was once thought, that these neural associations, which are responsible for all your stress, anxiety and negative feelings, when set, could not be changed and it was something that you would just have to live with.

But now some scientists have now confirmed what some of the leading experts in natural therapy techniques have been telling us for years, that your brain has the ability to change and many people have successfully already used these natural techniques, for recovery from life long trauma's and fears.

Recent research in the study of neuroplasticity has proven that our brains are genetically hardwired to change, heal and rewire itself. 

Therefore, it is now possible to change all those fears, negative emotions and stressful responses that have been connected to your traumas and bad memory.

Your brain works by learning to connect negative emotions and stressful responses to your external experiences and environmental triggers.

When these neural connections get fired off, they send messages to your brain which then activates your nervous system which triggers all the stressful and negative responses and the chemical changes in your body.

Once these connections are set, they will become part of your neural structure and physical makeup, and they will continue to cause you all that painful PTSD and negative feelings.

The good news is, the scientist are now telling us, that these neural structures and stressful and fearful associations and responses, can be changed.

You have the ability to rewire your brain and heal your past wounds, so your brain does not keep firing of your fight or flight response and negative emotions.

Your brain has the capacity to remove the old negative and stressful responses and connections, and once your brain has been reprogrammed, it will send new messages to your brain, so it no longer responds, with all that damaging stress and the unpleasant feelings and reactions.

At the moment your brain and body is reacting negatively to your bad or traumatic experience, but when you change the feelings of your bad experience, your body will no longer react in the old stressful and unpleasant ways.

Your original trauma altered your brain and created new and instant negative associations and neural connections. 

To reverse this, and it can be undone, you will need to again, change your brain and how it has come to respond to your bad experience.

The turning point and problem, was your bad experience, but it is now possible to alter the connections to your bad memory and experience, all you have to do is to change your experience within.

Many people still think that once you have become broken, you cannot be fixed, however, this is certainly not true, and with the right techniques, you can rewire and fix your broken brain.

As everybody's brain and body works exactly the same way, this means that everybody can heal and recover from their PTSD or their bad memory.

At the moment, you are probably feeling a bit uncomfortable, because you probably have little hope or optimism.

But, there is hope and there are natural solutions, with that in mind, it is far better to feel uncomfortable and hopeful than it is, to carry on feeling uncomfortable, pessimistic, fearful or sad.

And you can begin to feel hopeful and optimistic, because you have an inbuilt ability to change your feelings and responses that are at the moment, attached to your bad experience.

The thing with neuroplacicity and changing your brain's responses to your bad experience is, your brain cannot simply rewire itself, and even though it has the capacity to change.

Why trying to suppress your emotions, will make you feel worse?

The biggest mistake you can make when trying to overcome their bad memory is, they try and fight with their bad memory, thoughts and feelings which just prolongs their problem and delays the cure.

It is perfectly normal to feel negative emotions and feelings of discomfort, after you have experienced a sad or traumatic event.

If you have had a bad experience, then it is naturally going to knock you back for a bit.

However, for some, their intrusive thoughts, sadness, stress and anxiety can get out of control, if you have reached this point, then you need to accept, that your situation needs addressing, preferably, sooner rather than later.

Many people, through a lack of information, spend years and years suffering, mostly because they do not know what to do or they cannot get the help they need.

All too often, they will suffer in silence and leave it and leave it, until they reach a point, where they decide they just cannot take any more and they reach a stage where they vow to themselves, enough is enough and I am finally going to do something about it.

The sad part is, once they do manage to free themselves from all their unbearable pain, stress and suffering, they wish they had done something about it much earlier.

One of the mistake many people make is, they think they should not be having negative thoughts and feelings, so they try to stop or avoid having them, or they try to suppress or repress them.

Then they start to feel bad about having negative thoughts and feelings and they begin to think that there is something mentally wrong with them, some wrongly accept, that this is the way it is now, and they will have to struggle and suffer for the rest of their lives.

But it is not a normal way of living and it should not be normalized.

Trying to suppress, repress, distract or avoid your negative thoughts and feelings, is one of the biggest mistakes you can make.

We experience negative emotions for a good reason, your thoughts and emotions act as your inner guidance system, that you need to listen to.

It is an indication that there is something that is not quite right on the inside, or there is something that you may need to pay attention to or address.

Your negative thoughts and emotions are messages that are coming from your subconscious mind, which is trying to relay an important message or warning, that all is not well.

When you try to stop or repress your negative thoughts and feelings, or you try and distract yourself away from them or use anything else to try and suppress the feelings and emotions.

What will happen is, your thoughts and feelings will come back stronger and louder, because when you try to mask, resist or repress your thoughts, feelings and emotional pain, then you will generate more emotional pain and stress, not less.

We all get negative thoughts and emotions, the trick is, do not live your life in the negative emotions.

A quick insight into how your mind works, goes like this.

Most people spend all their time thinking about what they don't want, what they want to forget about or what they don't want to think about.

Your mind can seem quite childish at times, the harder you try not to think about something or they more you want to forget about something, the more your mind will think about the thing you want to forget or let go of.

When you don't want to think about something, you will attach strong emotions to those thoughts and images, your mind will then class your issues as being significant, so it will keep on returning to it.

But really, your mind is quite basic and easy to trick, because if you apply a bit of reverse psychology and you try and make your mind think about something, it has the opposite effect.

Watch your thought and let them go

  1. Acknowledge and observe the thoughts and feelings 
  2. Feel the feelings and allow your mind to carry on thinking the thoughts for a minute or two
  3. Then let the thoughts go
Then this is usually enough to process the emotion, allowing your mind to quickly, calm back down with little disruption, so you can relax and focus on something else.

When your bad memory comes into your mind, instead of trying to push it away, think about a happy time, a comedy program that made you laugh or a time when you felt relaxed, to try and match calm feelings to your bad memory.

Or you can imagine yourself in a calm and relaxing, tranquil location, engaging with all your senses, do this many times, until you can relax at will, then when you're feeling completely relaxed, deliberately think about your bad memory.

When you think about your bad experience, it will bring about unpleasant feelings, but when you think about good memories, it will activate good feelings, and you always have the power to choose what you want to think about.

However, in the case of PTSD or bad memories, if you have had a whole lot of negative emotional attachment going on, then the chances, some additional emotional work and energy clearing will be required.

Your system is not designed to suppress or repress negative emotions, and when you ignore them for a long time, you will run the risk of  experiencing emotional overwhelm, chronic stress or a complete breakdown later on down the line.

Your body is very resilient, it can withstand a lot of punishment, but it can only take so much, if you have been suffering with long term stress and emotional overload, then eventually, something is going to break.

Emotional arousal and imbalance will lead to the manifestation of unpleasant physical symptoms and conditions in the body.

Everything catches up with you in the end, if you do not heal your past and balance your mind and body.

Rather than trying to fight or repress your feelings and emotions, it is a lot better and healthier, to minimize and even remove the emotional attachment or practice changing the way you react. 

It is your natural instinct to react badly and get upset and frustrated everytime you have those thoughts, sounds and images play out in your mind.

But each time you react negatively, you will strengthen the neural connections.

You do have another option how you choose to react, and you can embrace the content of your mind and react calmly around those thoughts and images, so bit by bit you begin to reduce the discomfort.

Some experts suggest, changing the context of the memory, like changing the sounds, smells and imagery, so you begin to scramble the scene.

The more that you try to push against your thoughts and feelings the more they will push back against you, which will leave you feeling defeated and mentally and physically exhausted.

This does not mean that you have to become submissive to your thoughts and feelings or allow them to dictate your behaviors and actions. 

iI just means you need to process the emotion and teach your mind and body to no longer react with fear, stress or negative feelings.

Instead of trying to suppress and repress your thoughts and feelings, try to understand and become aware, why you're having these negative thoughts and feelings.

Your negative thoughts and feelings are an indication that something is out of balance on the inside of yourself.

When you try and suppress your negative thoughts, feelings and emotions, or you use any other forms of treatments or tactics to distract yourself or mask the feelings, or you fail to address the root cause of your suffering. 

Your body will function even worse and it will cause more stress, negative feelings and unbalance, and you will continue to allow your negative thoughts and feelings to rule and run your life, actions, decisions and behaviors.

People who turn to drink or recreational drugs, or any other forms of addictions to try to suppress or cope with their stress, emotions and pain, or they apply other coping or distraction methods, only do it because they cannot find any other form of relief or inner peace.

But you cannot find peace and happiness in things that cannot give you the happiness, peace and the relief that you're seeking.

Why you're trapped in your bad experience

Have you ever wondered why you're having so much trouble with your bad or traumatic memory and why it is happening?

When you have endured or witnessed the pain and stress of a bad experience, your brain will record everything that is happening to you and everything that was is going on in your environment at the time your bad experience occurred.

Let's say for example.

If there were sirens or gunfire going on, or smoke and fire, during your bad experience, your brain would store the data for future reference, and your brain would attach these sounds to your fight or flight response mechanism.

These are known as neural associations and pattern recognition and they will become your trigger memories.

Any time you are walking down a street, and you hear a siren or loud bang, or you come across a fire, your emotional brain.

The part of your brain that protects you and keeps you safe, will automatically recognize these triggers as being similar to what happened during your bad experience and it will automatically link them to, you're about to face a dangerous situation again. 

Because this part of your mind does not deal with logic or reasoning, only patterns, associations, feelings and responses, it will involuntarily activate your fight or flight response.

Your brain cannot distinguish between what happened during the time of your bad or traumatic  experience and a normal everyday event, even though it has no relevance to you. 

When a person who has not had a bad experience hears a siren going off or they hear a sudden loud bang, they might be startled for a few brief seconds, but because they have not connected their fight or flight to the noise or images, they will quickly return back to a state of calm.

However, in the case of the person who has experienced a traumatic event, because their brain has learned to associate danger with the sound of a siren, things unfold completely differently.

When your senses send data to your brain and it finds a negative emotional pattern recognition and an association with danger, your mind will flood the body full of adrenaline and your fight or flight response will go off, time and time again, even in the absence of any real danger or threats.

These are just two typical examples, anything that occurred during the time of your bad memory will become stored and filed as a neural association and pattern recognition.

A typical example of how this works is

If you witnessed a horrific car crash, where you would hear and see emergency service sirens, then every time you walked down a street and you heard the sound of a siren.

Then this would be enough to trigger your fight or flight response off again to try and get you to move away from the situation.

The same applies if you have been in a bad relationship, you have been abused or any other negative experience, and it will do everything to try and make sure you do not have to suffer the same experience or a similar type of experience again.

How long does it take before your PTSD takes hold?

Normally the impact of witnessing or experiencing a traumatic, life threatening or negative experience, should start to fade away after a period of time.

But for many, this is not the case, and severe emotional difficulties and problems can soon take root and start to seriously affect the person's life and their ability to function normally on a daily basis.

This is what Post Traumatic Stress and bad memories does, it throws your body out of sync and balance.

Sometimes the effects of Post Traumatic Stress can be a delayed reaction, you may initially find that you start to recover from your ordeal after a few weeks, but the problem can lie simmering dormant under the surface of your mind, but it can come back with a vengeance to torment you at a later date.

Bad memories become more active at times when you're feeling stressed or your muscles are tight and tense.

Some of the symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress are

  • Nightmares and waking up feeling anxious and sweaty 
  • Flashbacks 
  • Feelings of panic and anxiety 
  • Chronic stress 
  • Obsessive thoughts and behaviors 
  • Feelings distressed 
  • Stressful and physical reactions when you're reminded of the bad experience
You may think that your PTSD is making it impossible for you to live a normal and healthy life, it can make you feel like a prisoner in your own mind. 

But that is a belief, not a fact, and beliefs, feelings, circumstances and emotional connections can be changed.

Some people are even afraid or too proud to seek help or change, but the truth is, living the rest of your life with PTSD is far more scary than seeking a cure.

Nobody wants to suffer, all people want is help to free themselves from the pain, they just don't know what to do or how to go about it, often without realizing it, they make their symptoms worse, yet genuine help is available.

Bad and traumatic memories can become deeply engrained in your mind and physiology, where they become an automatic and involuntary subconscious controlled response.

But, bad or unwanted memories do not have to be permanent, because you can rewire your brain to stop visiting your bad memory as well as taking away all its power. 

It was once thought that it was not possible to rewire your brain, and unfortunately many people suffered all their life.

To make matters worse, the post traumatic stress, can lead to many other stress and emotional related problems, such as anxiety, panic attacks, mood swings, addictions, depression and OCD.

But it is not just the victim that suffers, because the after effects of a traumatic experience can also put a strain on your relationships and your family.

It is not your fault

Post traumatic stress, physical, verbal bullying or sexual abuse or any other form of emotional trauma, can have a profound effect on your health and well-being.

If you have suffered physical, psychological or sexual abuse, then this can have a long term effect on your self worth and self esteem, you may have even already developed a low opinion of yourself.. 

In the case of abuse, some people even wrongly think, or they are made to believe that is their fault.

Whilst post traumatic stress caused by witnessing or experiencing a traumatic or gruesome event can lead to many psychological and anxiety related issues. 

Whatever your bad or negative experience was, the pain you feel is the same for everybody, and the psychological effects can make it hard for you to face and cope with and interact with the world and everyday life.

For the military and nearly all other bad experiences, once the physical battle or incident is over, the emotional battle begins, in war your enemy is external, with post traumatic stress, the enemy lies within.

The truth is, whatever your bad experience was, it was not your fault, yet it is you who is left to pick up the pieces and to try find ways to cope, with your thoughts, feelings and emotions.

On top of your agony and suffering, you are probably trying to put a brave face on the world, or support your family and enjoy yourself socially.  

But it is not easy to live a normal life, when you're carrying the burden and scars of your bad experience, some will try and hide their inner torment, others will attempt to act as normal, but this can be difficult to say the least. 

People can distract themselves or hide things on the outside to a degree, but you cannot escape from the pain from within, and it will follow you everywhere you go. 

You have become victim to your circumstances, that alone is bad enough, but you don't have to remain a victim to your past hurtful or traumatic experiences.

Maybe you have tried to find ways to cope or deal with the constant emotional onslaught of your bad memory, often people resort to less than healthy ways to help them deal with and manage the pain and suffering.

The only reason why you have become locked into this reality of stress and fearful responses is because your mind has created some negative neural and chemical conditioned associations and reactions to certain stimuli and that is what is causing you all the pain.

The only way to free yourself from all the emotional pain and physical symptoms is to change the neural conditioning, feelings and responses that have been hooked up to your bad memory.

Just imagine if there was a pill that would make you forget about your bad memory completely so no matter how bad your experience was, it could no longer cause you any more pain.

Well, at the moment, there is no magic pill to erase your bad memory, but there is a solution that will help to take away all your pain and condition your mind to no longer visit your bad memory.

You have already suffered enough, If you suffer one day more, that is too much.

Evolution is to blame

Our brains have evolved to try and keep us safe, this is a good thing in a way, but sometimes this process can go wrong or get out of control, and when it goes out of control it needs to be fixed.

The trouble is, our fight or flight response and survival mechanism is still very primitive, and it can get out of control.

In order to survive when our world was once a dangerous place to live in, our mind and body had to develop a system, where we could go from a state of calm to high energy, power and strength in a matter of seconds, to give us a better chance of surviving.

This is where our fight or flight mechanism was born, its only flaw is, it does not respond to logic or reasoning, and it is a case of act first, because has far as your mind is concerned, it is better to be safe than sorry.

You cannot just tell your mind you don't want to react to your bad memory, telling your brain to fix itself is like yelling at your computer, when it has got a programming fault.

If you have had a bad or traumatic experience at some stage in your life, your conscious mind will immediately take all the information as input, which it will send to your subconscious mind for processing. 

Once you have been through the bad experience, all the information will stay locked up in your memory bank for later recall, should it be needed. 

Your mind will do everything it can to prevent you from having to endure the same bad experience again, the problem with our minds is, they cannot think logically, your brain just responds to data, physical stressful symptoms in your body and input from your senses. 

All the information that was recorded at the time of your bad experience, will then be stored in your emotional memory bank and used as data to gauge how you should react in the future.

The only thing your mind has got to protect you is strong negative emotions to alert you, which will activate adrenaline and the symptoms of stress so you can try and avoid or escape from the situation, should it happen again.

The trouble is, you cannot run away or avoid the images and thoughts in your mind, you cannot run away from the feelings in your body and it is not helpful if your fight or flight response is going off, everytime you hear or see anything that your mind remotely associates with your bad experience.

Even if you have to face that same or similar experience again, your subconscious mind will automatically return to the memory, and bring it back into your conscious awareness which will cause you to feel the same sensations as you did at the time of the bad experience. 

The reason why you cannot just think or talk your bad memory to go away is because there is an invisible barrier that lies between your conscious and subconscious mind.
This acts a safety mechanism which evolved to help protect you and keep you safe, because if you had to face a real life threat, then there would be no time for thinking logically, and your mind would act and respond instantly to give you a better chance of surviving.

Therefore, unless you change your inner subconscious programming, your mind will carry on doing what it has been programmed to do, because it thinks it is necessary to help to protect you from having to go through the.

This barrier is a bit like having your own inner security guard whose job is to protect you and prevent anything from reaching your subconscious mind that goes against your previous programming, even though it is your wish to delete the bad memory. 

This is why you will struggle to change or get rid of your bad memory, because your inner security guard thinks you need your old programming to help you avoid having to go through the same bad experience again.

Again, this can be a good thing, because it can help to keep you safe should you about to encounter a real threat or danger.
But it is no help when your fight or flight response is constantly going off when it is not needed or it is not appropriate, as in the case of your bad memory.

In order to end all the emotional pain and suffering, you have to bypass your inner security guard, so you can access your own subconscious mind.

The difference between your mind and body being balanced and out of balance, is the amount of emotional attachment and significance that has become connected to your bad experience.

Why you get stuck in a self perpetuating cycle of stress and anxiety

Everytime you're bad memory causes a stressful response it takes up to 36 hours for your body to get rid of the stress hormones, this is not good for your health or well-being.

If your bad memory is constantly being played out in your mind, your body won't even get a chance to return back to its natural resting state and your body will stay out of balance most of the time.

Bad memories can demoralize your whole quality of your life, they can cause you endless stress, frustration and anxiety, and even lead to depression or alcohol and substance abuse.

Trying to bury your emotional traumas and wounds with alcohol or substance abuse, or trying to occupy your mind with other distraction methods, is not the answer and it can make matters worse.

Alcohol and drugs may temporarily alleviate your emotional hurt and torment, but as soon as their effect wears off, the pain will resurface. 

Alcohol, smoking and drugs are all stimulants, and although they may initially relax you, when their effect wears off, you will feel more stressed and pumped up.

At the moment your bad memory has all the power over you, but it does not have to be that way once you strip away all the strong emotional attachment.

You should not be constantly punished and tormented by an unpleasant experience that happened in the past, which was not your fault.

It is a sad fact of life that very often the victim or the innocent one is left to suffer the most, usually in silence.

What you may not realize is that you have the power and control to erase your bad memory if you decide to do so.

When you get stuck in a cycle and pattern of stress and intrusive thoughts, the high levels of stress can put a strain on your adrenaline glands, and because you get stuck in a state of high levels of stress.

This can then this can have a knock on effect, which can result in other emotional issues like anxiety,  anger issues,phobia's, OCD and depression.

Your emotional brain is more powerful than your rational brain

Your nervous system cannot tell the difference between the images and pictures that are taking place in our mind and a real threatening or traumatic event.

Therefore, the internal images of your mind can change your body physiology and throw your physiology out of balance.

Then it can feel very upsetting, and overwhelming to try and hold yourself together and live a normal life when your emotions are all over the place and your body is reacting with the physical symptoms of fear.

The emotional part of your brain that processes emotions, which is involuntary, will automatically react with fear if it perceives what it thinks is a threat or if it thinks, something is causing you pain.

The trouble with this inbuilt survival mechanism is, it can get stuck in a vicious loop and cycle and it can get it wrong. 

This is true in the case of bad memories, because your stress response is being activated because it senses a threat, even though the bad situation is well in the past. 

The reason why it is happening is because, the human brain is divided into two parts, the rational mind and the emotional mind.

The rational mind controls about 90% our decisions, but when the emotional mind which is far more powerful and it is the part of our brain that controls our fear and fight or flight responses takes over, it will overpower the rational mind causing our emotional impulses to influence us.

The emotional mind, which uses strong and powerful emotions and activates the fight or flight responses, operates at very fast speeds. 

The emotional mind, will send messages to the body to release adrenaline and the stress hormone cortisol into the body, to quickly prime our body with a big boost of energy so we can take action against the perceived threat, which usually, no longer exist.

The rational mind takes longer to process information, therefore the emotional mind wins everytime.

Therefore, until you break this fear circuit and response, your emotional mind will carry on triggering the stress and fear response to those internal images that are being flashed in your mind or those external triggers.

There are ways to help you to control and your panic and stressful responses, you can imagine yourself on a tropical beach and engage all your senses, at the onset of any stress or fear.

Nutrient deficiency, anxiety and stress

If you have been suffering with post traumatic stress, then it can deplete your body and brain of the natural nutrients that it requires to keep your brain and body in balance and working efficiently.

A deficiency in the key important nutrients has been associated with depression, anxiety and mood swings.

Long periods of stress and anxiety can deplete your body of all its natural vitamins and nutrients that it requires to keep your mind and body in its peak and most optimum balance and performance efficiency.

A balanced diet of healthy foods rich in nutrients, vitamins and minerals can help to relax you, improve your mood and help you feel less anxious. 

It may pay you to consult your doctor or nutritionist to determine your nutritional needs and daily dosage requirements.

Magnesium is one of the most powerful nutrients that can help reduce stress and anxiety, this key mineral is well known for its natural power to calm you.

Other studies have shown that there is a link between moods and a deficiency in the B vitamin range, again if you're thinking about taking supplements, it may pay you to consult with your doctor or dietician about the correct daily dosage

Vitamin D has also been linked with being able to help reduce stress and anxiety.

Your mind is like a video recorder

If you keep on dwelling or focusing on the past, your perceptions of what happened and how you handled the situation at the time will then go onto to shape your beliefs. 

These beliefs will be seen and acted on as being true by your emotional mind and your negative memories will then determine how you think respond, feel, act and behave. 

Our memories guide and mold our perceptions and they keep us haunted and imprisoned by the past. 

All your negative memories become stored in your powerful subconscious mind just as you would store a program on a computer hard drive.

Your subconscious mind acts like a video recorder at it records everything that is happening and has ever happened in our life up to date. 

Our bad experiences and negative memories cause us a negative feedback circuit, this can keep you stuck in a cycle of negativity and resistance. 

Imagine you had a collection of photo's and some were of a past partner who you are still no longer with but you have not got over yet.

If you keep going into your photo album and looking at the picture of your partner and it is still evoking feelings of sadness and hurt, the best thing to do is not to keep going into your photo album. 

The same principal applies to your mind, if you keep going into your emotional memory bank and looking at hurtful images of or you keep reminiscing over the past you will drag up the feelings of hurt and sadness.

Once a negative neural connection has been created, your brain cells will keep on igniting a negative emotionally charged feeling from the trigger thoughts or bad memories that you will feel throughout your body which will replicate the physical feelings and trauma you experienced at the time the bad event happened. 

Your mind operates off the way it has come to perceive the world based on the data it has collected from your life up to date.

Your mind responds to what it has learned to fear and it will continue to carry on doing what it knows and thinks is best for you even if it is making you feel bad because it's primary job is to keep you safe.

This is a major fault of the still primitive part of our protective mind, so there is no point in yelling at, becoming annoyed or screaming at your own mind.

Your mind has made the fearful associations with your past bad experiences, which become learned behaviours

To undo these negative associations you will need to unlearn and disassociate the fearful associations and responses.

You cannot wipe out a memory either, what you have to do is separate the emotional charge from the bad memory, that will render it inactive.

When something happens to us that causes us pain, hurt, suffering or we just don't like what happened it gets stored as an emotional memory. In prehistoric times the emotional brain would save and file all bad experiences as an emotional memory. 

How it all evolved

This procedure for storing bad emotional memories was designed to keep us safe, if we were threatened the mind would record the memory of the thing, time and place so it could warn us if we faced the same threat or dangerous situation again. 

The feelings and trauma you experienced when the life threatening event happened were then recorded and stored deep in the emotional part of the mind.

This was vital so your mind would be better prepared to respond immediately to give you a better chance of survival if ever you came face to face with the same or similar type of predator and situation.

If a potential threat was detected the mind would scan through its data to see what happened the last time you were in that situation. 

If your mind matched the perceived threat with a memory of a past bad encounter it would activate the fight or flight process over which we would have no control.

The fearful emotions are designed to feel bad, it's job is designed to alert us to prepare for action, the options available were, to run, fight, avoid or surrender. 

The world back then was a very dangerous place with a potential threat to our safety lurking around every corner. Back then our mind's primary job was to keep us safe, it did this by trying to keep us in the safety of our comfort zone. 

This was the area where man lived, here the mind new the surrounding environment was relatively safe, so therefore your mind and body could switch to a more relaxed state. 

Whenever man attempted to venture outside his comfort zone the mind would go on high alert to danger, it did not like the idea that you were going into unknown or dangerous territory, it believed that it was best to fear anything that it did not know was harmless. 

The mind had evolved to play things on the safe side, this meant caution first, logic second, this is why even in today's relatively safe world our mind still tends to fear the unknown and it hates change.

So as soon as early man attempted or even thought about stepping outside his comfort zone the mind would grab past negative memories of anything it perceived as a threat. 

It would then flash these images into our conscious awareness as an early warning system to alert us of all the perceived risks, it did this to try and make us stick in the safety of our comfort zone.

To demonstrate how your mind and feelings operates, think about a bad experience or something that makes you anxious and notice how you feel, now think of a pleasant and happy memory and notice the difference in how you feel. 

A bad memory is like being in a trance or a negative state of being, when you're having those bad and traumatic experiences playing out in your mind, you're basically stepping back into the situation for real, through the internal reality of your mind.

Release your tension and reduce your stress

Because our mind works by associations, it is not just your triggers that can bring back those painful memories. 

Your mind has also evolved to associate the symptoms and the sensations of the fight or flight response with danger, such as tensing of your muscles, adrenaline, shallow breathing and rapid heartbeat.

So you're already feeling stressed, your mind will interpret this as something bad is about to happen so it will seek out the threat that does not really exist, and in its desperation to find the threat it will filter through your past negative memories.  

Your mind may even link the stressful feelings in your body as being the same stressful and fearful feelings you experienced at the time of your traumatic experience, and in some cases these feelings can act as one of your triggers.

Also, when you go to bed feeling anxious or stressed, then we get a more restless and poor quality sleep, which will increase your chances of having more nightmares and you will awake feeling stressed and irritated.

These days, more and more people are living sedentary lives and they are spending more time sitting down.

Sitting down for long periods of time can cause tightening and stiffening of the muscles which can increase your anxiety levels and leave you feeling tense, irritable and uncomfortable.

When you are sitting down, it is important to make sure you sit with the least amount of tension and discomfort.

The video below will show you how to get in and out of your chair properly so you ca feel more relaxed and at ease when you are sitting down.

You become more afraid of the fear and feelings 

"The biggest fear people have is the fear of fear itself, so in time you learn to become afraid of your anxious thoughts, bad memories and the sensations that are associated with fear.

Tense muscles or the physical and chemical sensations that are linked with stress will switch your mind over into your negative bad memory files and data and all your focus will go into survival mode.

Your negative files are the place where all the negative data for your past bad experiences are recorded and filed.

When you have a bad experience or negative memory your amygdala's which controls your emotions and is in charge of the activation of your fight or flight response records and logs the memory and the associated emotions and feelings you experienced at the time.

This will include, the time, the place and all the emotional pain that you experienced at the time of the traumatic event. 

The problem is, your amygdala's never forgets anything that has happened to you, and it will keep returning to and it will keep on reacting with negative responses, especially when the memory is still classified as current ad emotionally active.

This means every time you come face to face again with the thing or situation or a similar type of situation again your amygdala will automatically trigger your fight or flight response. Your amygdala's will also fire off the fight or flight response to emotionally charged memories.

The problem being, with most people's fears there is rarely any outside dangers, as far as your mind and your senses are concerned, they think they have detected what they think could be a real treat.

What is really happening is, your anxiety is tricking you into believing you need to do something to prevent something bad from happening.

Basically, you are being fooled into reacting with fear and believing you need to take some form of avoidance measure or preventive action to what are nothing more than illusions of the mind. 

The new enemy, then, comes from within, this means your body and mind will start to respond to all those what if scenarios, your fearful thoughts or your past traumas and bad experiences. 

Because your amygdala's never forgets an emotional experience this same process gets repeated over and over again until you break the cycle. Our past negative experiences create our insecurities for the future.

Positive thinking is not always the answer

Some people try to use positive thinking to help them remove bad memories and even though positive thinking will make you feel better, the powerful emotional memory can keep coming back.

Others will try and repress them or use other techniques, but more often than not these methods fail because the subconscious mind which acts like a video and data recorder works with emotions, feelings and associations and not logic or reasoning.

Sometimes our subconscious mind will base our feelings and responses on we handled our past experiences and how those bad experiences effected us at the time and after the event.

To become free of your traumatic past you have to disassociate and detach the negative energy charge from the bad memory, but you cannot merely think it away, because thinking largely operates at a conscious level. 

If you have a film on your video recorder that you would like to remove, your not going to erase it just by talking to your video recorder in a positive manner or trying to reason with it.

That approach will probably achieve nothing, to remove the film you have to delete it from your files, once you delete it is has gone for good. 

However, trying to just delete a bad memory from your mind is not quite so simply as deleting a picture from your digital camera because unlike the camera your memories and your neural pathways are a bit more complex.

You can put it another way, if you have any old photo's on your camera which you don't like perhaps say they hold sad and negative memories for you which evoke negative or hurtful emotions you would delete them from your camera. 

If you keep on looking at the photo you will keep feeling the emotion. All of our memories have an energy attached to them, good memories have a neutral or positive energy while bad memories have a negative energy associated with them.

Because bad memories and traumatic experiences operate on a subconscious level the pain, hurt and flashbacks are being driven by emotions and feelings, therefore you cannot use words or think them away.

It is all the emotional and physical attachment that is keeping the memory active and current, if you want to be free of all the hurt and pain of the bad experience, then you need to disassociate and desensitize the emotional arousal from the bad experience.

If you do feel like you require some professional help, then America's number one hypnotherapist Steve G Jones has created an effective Remove Bad Memories Cure! 

 All the videos on this page a by courtesy of Brett Hershey

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