Natural And Safe Ways To Remove Bad Memories And Relieve The Emotional Pain And Discomfort

People who experience a negative or traumatic event or experience.

Spend a great amount of time reliving and replaying the negative experience over and over in their mind and even though the event is over.

The emotional pain, suffering and discomfort that they continue to feel within, feels very real.

This can have a catastrophic and disastrous impact and knock on effect for many years to follow.

Causing them endless and non stop negative and repetitive thoughts, feelings, obsessive behaviors and poor health and well-being.

The reasons why so many people suffer so much with bad memories and the reason why they find it so difficult to move through trauma is all down to the strong emotional reactions and physical responses.

The stronger the emotional reaction that you have attached to a previous negative or unpleasant experience that happened to you in your life.

The more your mind will return to your bad memory and the higher amount of emotional and physical pain, sadness, anxiety, discomfort or stress you will feel.

Long term bad memories are created from highly charged, emotional experiences.

When a bad memory has developed an intense emotional attachment and a strong physical, automatic response. 

The brain will keep on returning to the cause and circumstaces that are evoking your feelings of discomfort and hurt.

When your negative or upsetting experience first happens it is accompanied by strong and intense negative feelings and emotions.

The very first moment your emotional part of your brain had all its attention drawn to your negative experience and all the people, settings, sounds, smells, times, surroundings that were related to your experience.

Your brain will have made a mini recording of the event and circumstances.

It will then file those images, sounds, etc and it will connect all the negative feelings you were experiencing, both emotional and physical to your bad emotional memory.

Everyone of your bad memories has a negative emotion charge attached to it which triggers an automatic subconscious chemical, stressful and physical response in your body.

Your negative emotions and your unpleasant physical responses are a unpleasant by-product of your negative, upsetting or distrubing experience.

Once these strong negative neural associations and patterns are formed and engarined in your mind and bodily system.

The sufferer will then begin to think, behave and live their life within the negative emotions and the neurological  systems of their bad experience.

Each time you are externally reminded of or bad memory or you relive your bad feeling memory from within it will be accompanied by strong negative feelings and emotions.

Such as:

  • Anxiety
  • Sadness
  • Pain
  • Anger
  • Guilt
When you focus on or recall, resist or suppress your bad memory it put you in a negative state of being.

After the bad memory has occurred.

Many people then get stuck in a psychological, emotional, chemical and physiological negative state which keeps them hopelessly trapped and imprisoned, within the painful and limiting boundaries of their negative emotional memory.

What then generally happens to many people is.

Because they have developed such a strong and intense negative emotional reaction to someone, something, a terrifying event, a sad loss, a horrific experience or whatever caused their bad memory.

This new negative and physical state of being, suddenly becomes their normal way of thinking, feeling and being.

Most people then, come to think and even accept. 

That there is nothing they can do to control their emotional reactions and their physical responses.

And they have no idea that they can learn to begin to reduce and remove the emotional reactions and physical responses.

Some people spend hours, days, weeks, months and years on end stuck in a negative state of being, because of what happened to them.

Breaking the negative cycle and patterns

Those who are at the mercy of a bad memory.

When they wake up each new morning.

They will soon start to focus all their attention on their bad experience and all the bad feelings, that it is causing them.

Because their brain is tuned into a recording and corrseponding of their negative past.

This means, soon after awakening. 

Their already being controlled and defined by their negative or painful past.

When you start the day off, living in the past. You usually carry your emotional baggage and negative feelings with you, throughout your whole day.

You probably also eventually fall asleep, whilst your still focused in the past.

Which will cause you a restless nights sleep and the same pattern of behavior will probably be repeated, day after day, month after month and year after year.

What a bad memory does is it either keeps you stuck in your painful past or it causes you to be afraid or insecure about your future.

When people become stuck in a negative state of being. They struggle to think clearly or positively.

It is very hard to think better than you're currently feeling. 

This is why it is much better to change your feelings rather than trying to force yourself to think positive, when you're body is telling you that you feel bad.

If your thought processes and feelings are being dominated by your negative past then you're going to keep generating the same old thoughts, images, feelings and emotions.

When you keep having the same negative emotions going on for days, weeks, months and years then it is going affect your mood and your health and well-being in many negative ways.

After a while a bad memory can define who you are and how you think, feel and behave.

People keep on recalling their negative experience because of the amount of emotion that they have attached to it.

It is the strong negative feelings and emotions that drive the obsessive and unwanted thoughts, images and sounds.

If you're bad memory is casuing you stress and anxiety. 

Then the constant release of adrenaline and the physcial symptoms of stress will keep you stuck in survival mode.

The more emotional significance and attachment you attach to your bad memory or traumatic event. The more your brain will return to it.

All the adrenaline and the negative emotions that you're feeling in your body due to all the anxiety and stress are instructing your mind to focus on your traumatic event so you will be fully alerted and physically prepared.

So you can make sure you don't make the same mistakes again or the bad experience doesn't happen again.  

Anxiety is your mind trying to protect you from further emotional or physical pain, before it as a chance to happen again.

After people have expereinced a negative or traumatic event. They spend most of their life living in fear and stuck in survival mode, just to prevent the same thing from happening again.

In the end. All the anxiety, pain and harmful stress causes them more harm than the actual negative experience. 

Fears and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which are the outcome of a bad experience.

Will keep you living in survival mode, where you will live your life in the illusion of your bad memory. 

Bad and negative memories can cause you to always anticipate the worse case scenario first, which are based around your bad memories all the time.

Then you spend all your time trying to fight, outrun or avoid the illusions that you are creating in your mind.

Even though there are always better things to focus on, better things to do and better options, alternatives and many positive possibilities.

When your mind and body gets stuck in survival mode. Your mind can only see the worst case scenario.

After a long period of replaying your bad memory over and over again in your mind or when you continually focus on the worst case scenario.

You will condition your mind and body into becoming stuck in a permanent and negative state of fear, anxiety or unhappiness.

When you keep doing this over and over again you body will start to get stuck in high levels of fear and anxiety which can lead to obsessive thoughts and behaviors, exhaustion, chronic stress and depression. 

People can experience depression and high levels of stress and anxiety. From one event that happened to them years ago.

A bad memory can set off a self perpetuating cycle and every time you bring back your bad memory in your mind you will experience the same negative feelings and physical and chemical changes in your body.

All those negative emotions and feelings of stress fuels your body with high levels of energy. Because that energy never gets used up.

The process will keep on getting repeated day in day out. 

In the end, the body never has a chance to return back to its most naturally and healthy, efficient best state.

Eventually all the high levels of stress and negative emotions are going to affect your health, well-being and well-ness.

Bad memories prevent you from enjoying the now

It is very hard to relax and socialize or perform any tasks.

When your mind is filled with anxiety and your body is filled with adrenaline and pumped up with fear and stress all the time.

These negative states of being eventually become your normal state of being and physiology and after a while. 

Your body will start to influence your mindset, your actions, the quality of your life and your behaviors.

But with the right techniques, mindfulness meditation and strategies. 

You can teach yourself to quickly intervene and stop all the negative emotional arousal, suffering, pain and stress in a matter of minutes.

You can also train yourself to turn down the emotional reactions and intensity so you begin to return back to your natural relaxed state of being.

People wait for years before the do anything about their bad memories. In the meantime they have to put up with all that emotional hurt, suffering and stress.

But why wait, when you have full control of your emotional reactions.

The best way to change a feeling and turn down the emotional intensity of a bad memory is to relax deeply first and then change the program and patterns that are running in your mind.

The powerful Self Hypnosis session.

Letting Go Of Your Painful Past will relax you deeply and then it will then begin to lower and take away the emotional intensity and emotional reactions that have been attached to your bad memory.

Breaking the emotional links that are connected to your bad memory

Each time you relive your bad memory you will strengthen the neural associations and pathways in your brain and body.

When this happens you will be producing the same unpleasant feelings and negative emotional responses as you did when your actual bad experience happened for real.

It is bad enough, to experience a negative or upsetting experience once.

But because you have hardwired your brain to fire off the same emotional and physical responses you felt when your bad memory first happened.

Your brain is now stuck on loop and you're experiencing the same feelings, pain and discomfort as if your bad experience is still happening for real.

When you replay your bad memory in your mind it acts as a signal to your body to react with fear, stress and feelings of discomfort.

What has happened, is:. 

You've attached your fight, flight, freeze response or bad feeling emotions. To your bad memory.

A bad memory can be useful.

But only if there is a genuine danger as it can help you avoid making the same mistake again.

But in the case of most bad or traumatic memories. 

The chances of the same thing happening again, are remote.

The downside and flaw to bad memories are:

Your body cannot tell the difference between the actual event and the bad memory that is playing out in your mind.

Therefore. Because your body cannot tell the difference between your actual bad experience and your visual bad memory.

It will automatically react with strong negative emotions or unnecessary stressful and fearful responses each time you recall your bad memory or you're reminded of it.

This all means that you body cannot tell the difference between the real time bad situation, emotional responses and the ones that you're creating within your mind.

The reality is. 

Your emotional response that you're creating now has very little significance and relevance to what originally happened to you.

What is basically happening to you now is:

Your brain and bad memory is now tricking your body into believing and reacting as if your still in danger, you're still witnessing a horrific event or you're still being hurt.

The emotional pain you experience in the days, months and years after can inflict you even more upset, hurt and misery than the actual bad experience.

For many people their mind and body are living in the same bad experience on a daily basis.

Your bad memory creates and holds you in a continuous vicious cycle.

During this negative state of being. 

Your bad memory influences your body and mind and your body and emotions influence your thoughts, imaginings and mind.

This keeps the sufferer state of being and mindset, stuck in their painful and negative past.

The way to break free from this cycle is to break the cycle and reduce the emotional links and reactions away from your bad memory.

The way to change is to decide to stop repeating the same mistakes and patterns and to make new and different choices and ways of reacting.

Releasing your painful past

You may have already tried many different coping and thought and feeling, suppressing tactics.

However, coping strategies or thought, memory and feeling suppression.  

Are of little use, as they will not fix the root cause of your stress, sadness or feelings of discomfort.

Coping strategies, only tackle the physical symptoms and they won't address the real root cause of the problem.

 They might give you some short term temporary relief. 

But, very often. In the longer term. They can make your anxiety and emotional suffering, even worse than it was when it first started.

Thought and feeling suppression tactics, will cause more emotional arousal and long term suffering.

Coping and suppressing techniques, do more harm than good and they can also lead to harmful and addictive behaviors and insomnia, which just further adds to your problem. 

Often, people will turn to desperate and addictive coping measures. Because, it is the only way they have got to temporary relieve their inner pain and emotional suffering and torment.

Sadly. These harmful practises are sometimes the only ways to get the person who is in immense pain, to get through the day.

The good news is. There are much better, natural and safe ways to turn down your emotional intensity and remove the fearful and painful feelings and emotions away from your bad memory.

Below are some important things for you may like to consider carefully:

1) If you try to forcefully forget, suppress or not think about your bad memory, your mind will think about it more, which will trigger more unpleasant, thoughts, images, feelings and emotions.

2) If you try to suppress, numb, blockout or fight with your bad memory, thoughts and feelings. It will cause a state of inner unbalance, disharmony and discomfort. 

Which can lead to more emotional trauma, anxiety, OCD, stress, panic attacks, depression and negativity as well as putting you at risk of other health potentially related issues, later on.

When you enter a fight with your bad memory, mind and feelings. 

It will create and hold you permanently stuck in a vicious anxiety, stress and bad feeling cycle and loop.

This can cause you to needlessly suffer and it can trick you into thinking that there no hope and no cure.

Many people are tricked into the belief. That they have no control over their feelings and emotions or there is no solution to end the stress, anxiety and pain, caused by their bad memory.

This, simple is not true.

Anybody can begin to turn down and turn off their emotional pain, suffering and intensity.

Next time you have anxious thoughts and feelings. 

Instead of trying to stop them, push them away or avoid the situation that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Invite them into your mind, and let your mind think the thoughts and allow your body to freely feel the feelings, whilst you just watch and remain calm and focus all your attention on the task you're doing, and watch the difference.

Do not offer your thoughts, your feelings or the contents of your mind any resistance whatsoever.

Just relax around them and let them come bye and pass away without any reaction at all.

Embrace the thoughts and feelings and relax into them and they will quickly subside.

Because, do you think that your meant to suffer and be permanently condemned to a life of living hell. 

Just because you were unfortunate enough to suffer a negative or painful experience, which was not even your fault or even if you have wronged somebody yourself?

Do you think, nature and creation, who designed you. Who has created the most marvellous, sophisticated and amazing creation and biological computer and advanced spiritual and physical being, yourself.

Who is capable of enjoying and experiencing a wonderful life and who as the ability to control their mind, feelings and emotions and the capability to do and achieve great things.

Got it wrong or it did not provide you with an inbuilt mechanism, to turn of your bad feelings, stress and anxiety?

If you dig deep into the very fabric and foundation of consciousness. There is only pure love. Everything is else is a manifestation of your focus of attention.

All suffering else is temporary and will pass, if you learn how to let go of your suffering. 

With the right techniques and strategies. 

You have the power to learn how to control your feelings and emotions, prevent your mind from getting in the way as well as promoting your own emotional healing and self recovery. 

Mindfullness

Mindfulness is a good and natural way to help you reduce and change the emotional and physical reactions that are being triggered by your bad memory.

The best way to get the maximum benefits of mindfulness is to find somewhere quiet where you can shut yourself from the rest of the world and any outside distractions.

The get even better results. Have an exercise workout before you try using meditation mindfulness, to burn of any excese high levels of energy.

Quick mindfulness exercise for bad memories

Find somewhere where you can sit or lay down.

Don't rush into trying anything.

Just let your body relax and slowly release any tension.

Start to take some slow deeper breaths.

Breathe all the way in, then release the breath, don't push all the way out. 

Then repeat for about five minutes.

If you have been feeling anxious, tense or stressed.

Then you may find it hard to initially relax and unwind.

If you're struggling.

Take it one step at a time.

Take a few deep breaths, then relax and slowly build up the amount of deep breaths you take, each time.

When you're feeling relaxed.

Deliberately focus on and recall your bad memory.

As you keep focus on your bad. Work on relaxing your body and taking some deep breaths.

The idea is to bring down the emotional reactions.

It takes a bit of practice, but if you persevere you will get better.

Once you have mastered this mindfulness exercise.

You can use the same principal, should you start reliving your bad memory, as it will quickly calm your mind and body, so you can enjoy what you're doing.

The real important, thing to understand about bad memories are:

Very often, they do not get better with time, in fact in many cases they get worse and spread into many other area's or they trigger other emotional trauma issues and suffering.

The longer you remain stuck in these bad feeling, negative state. 

The more damage you can potentially do to:

  • Your health
  • Your relationships
  • Your quality of life 
  • Your well-being
Healing your emotional trauma, from within

Because of the mind and body connection.

Tension, muscle stiffness and chemical and stressful symptoms of stress will confuse the mind which will put your emotional part of your brain and your senses on high alert to danger.

The emotional part of the brain can interpret muscle tension and stress as;

Something bad is about to happen. This can put you in survival mode as your confused mind frantically searches for a threat.

Because it won't be able to find a threat. It will create on in your mind, based on your bad memories.

Therefore it is important to change and reduce the feelings that have been attached to your bad memory as well as learning to reduce your stress and release any tension. 

You would benefit tremendously through spending some time each day 

  • Deeply relaxing 
  • Keeping active  
  • Eating a healthy diet
  • Being mindful
Taking good care of yourself and learning how to calm your anxious mind and restore feelings of calm and balance, both emotional and physically is an important step on your journey to healing and recovery.

What has happened cannot be changed.

Therefore, it is essential that you accept what has happened so you can start to move forwards and enjoy the rest of your life. 

Acceptance is one of the first stages of releasing emotional trauma. It is also important that you show yourself a lot of self respect and love.

You will be then faced with two choices:

1) You can take the negative path. 

Where you try and fight, resist, outrun, defeat, suppress, numb or eliminate your feelings and emotions. 

This approach will cause you to become stuck in a most vicious negative cycle and loop, where you will allow your bad feelings and stress to gather momentum causing you to replay the very thing that you just want to forget.

This will trigger immense stress and emotional suffering for you which can lead to addictions and well-being and health issues.

Everytime you focus negatively on your bad memory, the negative emotions will become stronger and your bad memory will keep on disempowering you.

Trying to defeat, resist or suppress your bad memory, will end up defeating you every single time.

2) You can develop a positive attitude

Where you gather as much information about bad memories and your mind, feelings and emotions.

Then you can combine what you've learned with natural techniques that can help you to change the way you feel and respond.

So you can start to take full control of your feelings and emotions which will allow you to change the way you respond as well as learning you. 

How to turn down all the emotional intensity that has been attached to your bad memory.

Each time you reduce those bad feelings, you will feel more empowered, more in control and more relaxed, calm, happier and balanced.

Again, you cannot change the past, but you can change the way you respond to it.

It is a basic, flawed and damaging human belief that most people have come to think that they have no control over their own mind, feelings and emotions.

These beliefs can lead people into wrongly thinking that they need to rely and totally depend too much on:

  • Other people 
  • Addictive substances 
  • External things
To try and help, give them some temporary relief from their bad memories, feelings and emotions.

If you're looking for a permanent solution to remove the strong emotional reactions and negative feelings away from your bad memory.

Emotional Freedom Techniques- Is a natural and very quick way to help you to release and dissociation energy blockages and emotional associations caused by bad memories.

Healing your emotional wounds

"What you resist, persists"

However. If you embrace, accept, observe and feel your uncomfortable feelings and you just allow them to rise up through your body and away, they will quickly pass on bye, with a minimal amount of discomfort.

The more you fight against something or the more you try to resist something, the longer you will hold onto it.

Next time you begin to feel anxious.

Don't fight it, relax with your thoughts and feelings.

The key is to try and reduce and slow down your tense and emotional responses. By embracing, feeling them, relaxing and going with them instead of reacting.

Take a few deep breaths, embrace and feel the feelings and let those anxious thoughts and feelings carry on.

If you practice doing this, those feelings and thoughts will quickly subside. 

They only persist when you resist or fight with them.

With this in mind a new approach and attitude is needed.

Only focus on what you want. 

Which is to feel calm, happy and balanced, and then work on feeling calm and balanced.

Because nobody, ever overcomes their bad memories, fears and phobias by trying to think them away, force them away or trying to fight them into submission.

The stages of emotional trauma

There are several stages that form bad or traumatic memories.

The first stage is the actual negative or unpleasant experience itself.

Then you go through the emotional stages after. 

Such as.

  • Anxiety 
  • Embarrassment
  • Shame 
  • Anger 
  • Sadness 
  • Fear 
  • Jealousy 
  • Guilt
Which can negatively impact your actions, mood and behaviors.

Acceptance can be a great way of releasing emotional suffering.

But acceptance can also have an negative impact on you.

Especially. When you accept the way you feel and you accept that there is nothing that you can do to treat and heal your emotional wounds.

Then you won't do the work that will heal your pain and end you suffering.

f you think back to the times before your bad or negative experience.

Then you will see that you were happy and at peace with yourself.

At some point in your life.

You knew how to have fun.

And it is OK to think about your happy memories and the times you used to have fun and enjoyment.

Thinking of the good times certainly feels better than focusing on bad ones.

Emotional trauma at its worst

According to John Leach who is a senior research fellow at the University of Portsmouth. There is now a genuine medical condition which occurs when some people just give up on life.

Leach said that the condition often occurs after a person has suffered severe emotional trauma. 

It appears that some people seem to reach a point where they feel that there is no escape from their mental and emotional torment, imprisonment, stress and pain.

Dr Leach believes that giving up on life after experiencing a major truama can lead to disintergration of the person which can be fatal in some cases.

The research seems to point towards the theory that severe trauma can lead to a lack of motivation and a belief that the person no longer has any control of their situation and over their mind, feelings and emotions.

Which can lead them to a disinterest in life and a deep sense of hopelessness.

When we lose faith and hope in our ability to free ourselves from our emotional trauma and negative past.

It can lead to feelings of depression and a sense of feeling trapped, isolated, alone and stuck.

Motivation and faith that you can heal your past and you have the ability to take back control of your feelings and emotions are a key ingredient which is necessary to heal your emotional wounds and to regain your interest in life.

Once you start to believe that you can heal and let go of your emotional wounds and trauma.

Dr Leach said the most common interventions were physical activity or the renewed faith that the sufferer was able to see that their situation was partially within their control.

Both of these would activate the release of the feel good endorphin dopamine.

Relaxation, mindfulness and natural tenchiques that will bring down the emotional intensity and energy charge that is attached to your bad memory. Will also help to put you in control of your feelings and emotions.

Although most people do not give up on life, after they have had a traumatic experience.

They spend years and years of mental, emotional and physical suffering.

If left untreated, This can begin to take it's toll on you, eventually grinding you down both mentally and physically and making your life, feel as if it is not worth living.

You cannot change what has happened.

But, when you feel as if you're ready.

You can use your bad or upsetting experience as a catalyst for you to make something good come from it.

Make this your moment and vow to yoursel that you're going to come through this dark period of your life and you're going to create a better life for yourself.

If you feel ready. Make that all important decision.

That, you're going to use your bad experience too catalyst you to do something great or to achieve something great despite what has happened to you.

Decide, you have every intention to make your life worth living doing the things that you love doing or you feel passionate about.

Everything changes after a traumatic event or experience

When trauma strikes your life changes and your physiology, attitude and your pshchological state changes.

This state of mind and body, then needs reversing and chaning, before you can return back to a normal, peaceful and happy life.

Those who do not address and treat their 

  • Bad memories
  • Emotional trauma's
  • Emotional suffering
  • PTSD
Remain stuck in a negative and dark place of emotional, physical and psychological imbalance, distress and disharmony.

In this state it is impossiblle to 

  • Feel calm and balanced 
  • Experience joy and happiness
  • Enjoy the moment
  • Reach your highest performance levels
  • Be yourself
And it is not just the major traumatic experiences that can negatively impact us. 

Even the smallest negative experience can affect you and haunt you for years and years to come.

Everybody is resourceful enough to come through the most horrfic and terrible life situations and it is amazing what strength we can summon up inside of us when we really need it.

"You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice"

-Bob Marley

Real strength and power is when you learn how to control your emotions and you reach a turning point in your life where you allow nothing or nobody to rob you of your inner peace and happiness.

And when you rise up and keep moving forwards in a positive direction, despite what has happened to you.

Because you were born free and you can return to that inner calm state of emotional, physical and psychological balance.

Emotional trauma rarely goes away by itself. 

But all emotional trauma can be overcome once we adopt a new approach and attitude.

When we concentrate our mind and we learn to change the way we feel and react to our mind and feelings.

Then anything becomes possible.

But we cannot change until we accept what has happened and we decide that we are going to do whatever it takes to free ourselves from our negative past.

You cannot change what has happened but you can change the way you perceive it, what you choose to do about it and how you choose to react it.

Sufffering is not your only choice.

  • You can give in and become a victim of your past
  • You can refuse to be a slave to your past and you can give it all you have got to heal your wounds
Live in the now, not the past

Today is a wonderful time to be alive.

There is no reason why you cannot enjoy the now and plan for a great and fulfilling future once you change your inner world and you break free from where you are being held hostage to by the illusions of your past and your mind.

And that's exactly what a bad or traumatice memory is. It is nothing more than an illusion of your mind although the feelings feel very real to you.

Because there is only the now. That is all there ever is.

The past is in the past and the future never arives. Because you're always in the now.

The only way you can access the past and the future is to go there in your mind.

The now is where all your true powers are and it is the point of your attention where you are always free from all your emotional suffering.

If you focus on enjoying the moment, then nothing can hurt you.

Lets say, for a short while. 

You become so engrossed in a book that you're reading or a film that you're really enjoying and enthrawled in.

During that time, you forget to feel bad or you forget to focus on your bad memory, and because you're not thinking about how bad you feel or what happened to you. 

You, enter a state of being where you're so engaged in the now, you automatically feel calm and balanced.

To access the now you have to let go of your past and keep out of your future. Life is all about going with the flow and being in the zone.

The only way to be in the zone is not to allow anything to affect you.

The mind often gets in our way of our attempts of being happy. 

The only time you should visit the past is when you are reliving happy memories and times and the only time you should take a look into the future is when you're percieving a positive one.

You cannot drive out fear, negativity or stress with more fear, more negativity and more stress.

The only way to drive out fear and negative feelings is to replace them with calm and feel good feelings and emotions.

That's the only way you can do it.

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that"

"Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that"

-Martin Luther King

If you have an emotional bad or traumatic memory that is causing you stress or emotional suffering.

You have to change the strong negative feelings and emotions to happy and calm feeling emotions. 

Because there is no other way of doing it.

You cannot feel happy and calm and stressed and negative at the same time.

Change your physiology, change your focus of attention and change your feelings and you will be free.

The calm and positive feelings are where all your power lies.

Negative thoughts and feelings will disempower you tremendously, demotivate you, drain the life at of you and ruin your ability to interact and function efficiently.

Stress, tension and negativity are toxins to your mind and body. They destroys lives and rob you of your happiness and enjoyment.

Positive and calm thoughts and feelings will empower you tremendously. They are your state of ultimate power and they will unlock your ultimate true inner potential.

You have two directions to go

  1. You can carry on living a life of emotional suffering, limitations and stress
  2. You can motivate yourself to change your feelings and you can go on to live a wonderful and successful life
Love is the most powerful of all emotions and love, calmness, joy, happiness and the other positive emotions will suffocate fear, anxiety, worry, stress, anger and all the other negative emotions.

But love is not all about the relationship love.

Love is about.

Loving yourself. Loving your life, loving all the little things that you have and loving standing up for yourself, your rights and your beliefs.

True happiness is where you can stand tall and strong.

Despite all the bad things that life throws at you.

Where you can feel peace and inner calm. 

Regardless of what was, what is or what might be.

Where you reach a place of inner calm, harmony and balance and you remain in a state of inner calm and balance so allow nothing or nobody to hurt you, affect you or bring you down to your knees.

You might have your temporary setbacks and challenges. But you don't stay down for long.

Because. Once you learn how to control your emotions and you learn to let it go of your past. You win and you start to move forwards and live again.

Focus you attention on what you are good at, and become the best you can

You possess limitless talents and abilities and there is nothing that you can not overcome, do or achieve with the right positive mindset and attitude.

Once you let go of your past, and you channel all your focus of attention and energy onto how you want to feel and what you want to do, become and achieve, so you can be the best you and live the best life possible, rather than carrying on remaining a prisoner and victim of your past.

When you focus on your bad memory, it will take you out of the peace of the here and now. Negative feelings expand when we either venture into our past or we fear the future.

By focusing your attention on doing the things that you want to do, it will help relax you and bring you back into the present moment.

Although you may be hurting or feeling annoyed or upset. Practising a bit of gratitude can help you to reduce anxiety or negative feelings and even showing a bit of forgiveness, for you sake, and not the person that hurt you, can ease feelings of anger.

People relive their bad memories each day, playing the same old vivid images, sounds, repeatedly. Putting themselves through the same unnecessary emotional pain, torture, stress and suffering.

If your point of attention remains on your bad memory, it will continue to activate those same old painful feelings of discomfort and emotional pain.

Endless and repeated negative experiences that are being replayed over and over in your mind will lead to no positive outcome, only more emotional suffering.

It is not going to set you free, and it will only serve to make those already unbearable negative neural associations and feelings of discomfort stronger and stronger.

Although it will do is reinforce those negative memories, further disempower you and further empower your negative or upsetting experience and feelings that are holding you stuck in a negative perpetual, vicious cycle.

How is holding on to your bad memory, constantly reliving it, suppressing it, failing to process and release the strong negative feelings and emotions and resisting it going to set you free?

The truth is, it is not, it is just going to keep you stuck in a negative cycle of physical and emotional imbalance and disharmony.

When your body is out of balance and sync, you will become emotional and physically imbalanced and that just creates a breeding ground for more emotional trauma and feelings of a loss of control over your thoughts, mind and feelings. 

Which can lead to emotional overwhelm, obsessive behaviors and unwanted repetitive thinking, addictions, anxiety, stress and physical illnesses and emotional further suffering.

Recurring negative emotional experiences are not normal, so you should never normalize them, all they do is hold us in an emotional prison of the mind. 

A bad memory, will hold you in a bad place and a negative state of suffering and misery and the mental and emotional trauma will manifest itself in the body in the form of feelings of discomfort and unease.

Bad memories and experiences are not meant to teach us a lesson or for us to learn something from either, although we can use them to make sure we avoid making the same mistakes or to motivate us and drive us on achieve great things.

They are an indication that we need to release them, change our focus of attention and its time to let it go and move on with our lives.

If think we think that we need to somehow suffer, deal with or to find closure so we can grow or our we think that our suffering is a necessary part of life, then we are wrong. 

Anything that makes you feel bad or brings you emotional suffering is not normal or necessary, is just the result of negative energy and attachment.

What is going to set you free, is learning how to reduce the intensity of the feelings and emotions that have become attached to your bad or negative experience.

If you have a bad memory that is ruining the quality of your life and causing you endless stress, emotional pain, restless sleep and unpleasant feeling, symptoms and sensations.

Instead of just putting up with or trying to just cope with, deal with, live with, put up with, suppress, avoid or fight with your mind, feelings and emotions.

Why not decide to do something about ending your daily emotional and physical hurt, sadness, grief, stress,  discomfort anxiety and suffering, because you have the power to let go of your past and move on? 

By learning and teaching yourself how to reduce the intensity and let go of all those bad feeling emotions and physical responses that are attached to your bad memory. 

How bad memories work?

Your subconscious mind stores emotional memories and information in a specific way. By using your five senses, such as.

What you saw, heard and smelt at the time of your negative experience. The feelings that you felt, such as fear, anger sadness, guilt or grief during your bad experience. And to a lesser degree taste.

Your senses are always gathering information from your surrounding environment and then they relay that information back to your emotional control panel of your brain.

Your brain then uses the incoming data to gauge how you should react. Should your senses detect anything remotely similar to the contextual images, sounds, smells, feelings and tastes in your external environment.

It will activate all of those painful emotions and unpleasant feelings and stressful responses over and over again.

To make matters worse. Because, feelings are one of your five senses. If you feel tense or stressed, your mind will associate these feelings with your bad memory, triggering even more unpleasant thoughts, feelings and emotions.

The problem doesn't end there. Because your nervous system cannot tell the difference between what is real or imagined.

Everytime you talk about or think about your bad experience. It will again, trigger unpleasant and stressful feelings and emotions.

This can become a repetitive and an mentally and physically exhausting and deliberating vicious cycle, pattern and an habitual way of responding.

What many people are unaware of. Because, this is the only way the mechanisms of your mind and body operate and store emotional memories.

You can use the same process and mechanisms to your advantage. Allowing you to reverse the process, distort and fade the bad memory and reduce the emotional associations, physical responses and the intensity of the negative and unpleasant feelings.

When you successfully achieve this. You wont get the same high levels of stress, discomfort and bad feelings anytime you think about or you're reminded of your bad memory.

And the good news is. Because you will reduce the emotional intensity and the unpleasant physical responses, you will begin to forget about your bad experience, allowing you to feel relaxed, happier and able to move on.

Many people use coping tactics, addictive substances or things like alcohol to try and process or cope with their emotional pain and trauma.

But, there are natural and much better ways that can help you to remove, release and let go of your negative emotional bad memories, feelings and your emotional pain and truma's. 

That use the same process and mechanisms that created your bad memory in the first place. Each time you resist your bad memory or you relive it, from a place of fear and sensitivity.

You will strengthen the already strong neural associations and physical responses which will continue to disempower you tremendously.

The good news is. Once you begin to reduced the intensity of your feelings and emotions that have become attached to your bad memory.

You will begin to feel less stressed, anxious, angry or sad. And the more you reduce and bring down the emotional and physical feelings of discomfort. 

The more you will begin to free yourself from your self imposed mental prison and self torture.

As this process takes place you will begin to feel a great sense of relief as you surrender the fight allowing you to finally begin to free yourself more and more. 

If you stick at it and persist, your mind will become free and your body will return to a state of inner balance and peace.

A philosopher once said: "It is the memories of the past and the fear of the future which make our present so difficult."

Why it is important to take good care of yourself and build your energy

It is not uncommon for people who are suffering from PTSD and negative memories to lose their appetite as well as having trouble sleeping. 

All of these, will continually drain you of your energy. Which is the last thing that you need, because you need energy to help you heal your wounds and get your life back on track.

Especially if they are also suffering with depression, stress and anxiety. 

A negative experience can change your whole physiology and mental state. 

Prolonged periods of stress and negative emotions can also deplete your body of the essential nutrients that it needs to function efficiently, further depleting your energy.

If you're suffering with a stress or negative emotions. This can also cause emotional eating, and when you emotionally eat. 

People tend to reach out for the empty calorie and low in nutrition, sugary and junk foods.

It is hardly surprising that people cannot heal and let go of their past. 

When they are feeling so depleted of energy, suffering from a lack of sleep and their body is constantly stuck in a heightened and negative state of being.

If you are suffering from PTSD or the negative effects of a bad memory. It is important to reduce and remove the emotional attachment away from your bad memory so you can free yourself from your pain, anxiety and stress.

But it is also important, that you supply your body with the healthy and essential nutrients to keep your body strong and functioning at its most efficient physical best.

Getting plenty of deep relaxation and quality restful sleep, should also be one of your main priorities.

Self Hypnosis To Erase A Bad Memory

If you are like many people. You may have developed the misguided concept and myth, that hypnosis messes, with your mind, or you will somehow, lose control, under hypnosis.

The real truth is. The only thing that messes with your mind, and unbalances your body, is your bad memory. 

Hypnosis, is nothing more than, being in a deeply relaxed state, of which you will be in full control all of the time.

Hypnosis has been around for centuries, and it is still widely used today. The reason for this is because, it works.

By reprogramming these traumatic memories, the hypnotherapist helps you, to interpret the events in different ways, as well as replacing the negative emotions and physical responses with calm and neutral feelings.

Self hypnosis for removing bad memories, shock and trauma, is not a new concept.

It was first used during World War 1, by the German military. 

Because the Germans had come to realize that they could use the power of hypnosis, to help treat the victims who were suffering from shell shock and post traumatic stress disorder.

The hypnosis was so successful. That the soldiers, who would normally be unfit to function effectively after their post traumatic shock and stress. 

We're amazingly, able to forget and let go of their shock and trauma, and return straight back to the battle grounds.

So self hypnosis is perfectly safe and natural, and it has been proven to be effective to treat bad memories and traumatic experiences.

Alleviating your stressful, anxiety and distressing feelings and emotions depends on identifying your traumatic event and then integrating the emotions that were not processed at the time your negative or traumatic event happened.

For this to happen, you must first create a safe and relaxed space that enables the you to enter the time and place where the trauma occurred, which will then allow the expression and release of your previously repressed emotion,

With the assistance of self hypnosis this can be achieved through the reliving the experience that caused it in your mind.

To the extent that the you feel safe to do so, which will hopefully help yourself transform your relationship with  the trauma, and integrate the experience into your being.

Some people may need extra work, but self hypnosis for PSTD has helped most people alleviate their emotional stress, suffering and distress, so it is well worth you giving it a try.

The big advantages and benefits of self hypnosis are 

  • It can help relax you and restore a sense of balance and calm 
  • It can reduce the intensity of your strong feelings and emotions 
  • It will help you sleep better 
  • It can give you the relief you have been looking for 
  • It can remove you out of your negative state and return you back to your calm natural state
Each time you listen to the remove bad memory hypnosis session, you should progressively reduce the emotional intensity and attachment away from your traumatic experience. 

Over the years, there have been many scientific studies which have analyzed the benefits of hypnosis.

These studies have revealed that it is one of the best alternative treatment for many ailments, including fears, phobia's, letting go of your past and trauma's.

The reason why more and more people are using self hypnosis is because, it is one of the fastest ways to get life changing results.

If you follow this program for three weeks, then hopefully, you will experience for yourself, how easy and effective, self hypnosis is.

It uses specially formatted and skilled techniques, that work by instructing your subconscious mind to forget what the conscious mind would love to let go of. 

The opposite state of stress, anxiety and anger, is calm. Instead of trying to cope with, resist or deal with your bad memory.

You should always focus on returning to a state of calm and balance. 

This is why self hypnosis is so effective, because it puts you into a deeply relaxed state, and then it will help you to heal your bad memory, so you cannot lose.

Many people who suffer with stress and trauma, struggle to get to sleep, even if they do, often they are awoken by flashbacks or nightmare.

One possible reason for this is because, they go to bed in the wrong brainwave state that is needed for restful and quality relaxing sleep.

This is because, they are feeling stressed, anxious or negative when they fall asleep, which causes restless and a disturbed night's sleep. 

By using self hypnosis before you go to bed. It will help you to relax and enter the right brainwave state for quality and restful sleep, leaving you feeling relaxed and refreshed in the morning.

If you use the erase bad memory, self hypnosis recording below, it will help you sleep better and take away you emotional pain and suffering.

There are no miracle cures or magic pills, but self hypnosis, is possibly the closest thing that you will get to one.

The self hypnosis program. Removes Bad Memories is designed to help you erase your bad memory, in as little as three weeks.

If at any time, your bad memories should start to creep back into consciousness, then you can just replay the program to have a top up, as and when you feel it is needed.

Erase Bad Memories And Reduce Trauma And Emotional Discomfort With EFT 

If hypnosis is not your thing, or you're interested in trying something else, which is natural and safe.

Then there is another natural technique and solution, called. Emotional Freedom Technique.

Emotional Freedom Techniques. Does exactly what it says it does, it free's you from all your emotional pain and suffering.

This simple and easy to learn technique, is a method that you can use, to tap away your

  • Emotional blocks
  • Psychological issues
  • Reduce anxiety 
  • Eliminates Phobia's
  • Eliminate Anger 
  • Overcome depression 
  • Let go of, and heal the past 
  • And much more
The technique, involves. Tapping a sequence of meridian points around your body, whilst repeating certain set of, releasing statements, which are followed up by, self empowering statements and phrases. 

EFT has already brought, positive and life changing benefits and emotional relief, for thousands and thousands of people, around the world.

EFT, has been classed as the "Psychological form of acupuncture". And it has been proven, to bring to the surface and release, stubborn and long held, negative emotions and blocks.

It basically involves tapping on his face, hands, and torso while you focus on your bad memory or you repeat key phrases

EFt can be rapid and effective ways to relieve emotional distress, anxiety, pain, anger and sadness.

This simply yet effective natural technique works by. First, you pick and focus on what emotion or situation that is causing you all your emotional distress and discomfort.

You then tune into those negative feelings (ie: anger, sadness, anxiety or fear). And then you focus on those feelings and where they are manifesting on your body. 

The more discomfort you feel the better it works and you then give the feelings a rating ranging from 1, which is minimal discomfort to 10 which is the most maximum and intense you feel.

Then you perform the tapping technique and sequence whilst you repeat a self loving statement followed by reminders of the feelings and emotions your are feelings or you focus on the situation that is causing you distress and discomfort

EFT is all about releasing suppressed or blocked feelings and emotions that have become trapped within your bodies system.

The techniques combine a form of exposure therapy, thought and feelings restructuring, releasing and letting go and rapid emotional and physical relaxing and freeing techniques.

Nobody is quite sure how this tapping technique works. But, it gets results. 

It seems to work by stimulating certain acupuncture pressure points whilst you expose yourself and bring about your trauma or negative feelings. 

Which appears to instruct your emotional part of your brain to release and switch off all those unpleasant emotional responses and reduce the emotional attachment.

This technique somehow manages to dissociate the negative feelings away from your bad or traumatic memory by sending signals to the emotional or fear control panel of your brain to release and let go of your emotional trauma or distress.

It make take a few times to bring your emotional intensity down, and EFT, won't erase your memories completely, but each time your feelings will feel less intense and your bad memory or anxiety, will begin to feel less traumatic and less significant. 

The purpose of EFt is to help you to reduce your emotional trauma and discomfort, restoring a sense of mental clarity and inner feelings of peace, stillness and balance.

What it will do is, it will allow you to think about your memory, if you want to. Without bringing about all those intense and strong emotions and the resulting mental and physical illnesses, and unpleasant symptoms.

Now, if you have been abused or experienced a traumatic experience. You, probably, won't want, to recall the memory and images.

But, for anybody, who has lost a loved one. 

They still, might not want to block their memories of their loved ones out, but equally, they won't want to endure, all the sadness, grief and emotional pain. 

Some may, still want to think about them, and EFT, will allow you to still think about your loved ones, in a new positive way, without suffering all the immense pain and sadness.


Reduce your tension and reduce your stress

Your biggest enemy that you will ever have to face is tension and stress in your mind and body.

Trauma changes your posture and physiology causing tension in the body and physical and chemical symptoms of stress.

People often get stuck in these tense and stressful states which are also linked to their fight, flight, freeze response.

Your thoughts, feelings and behaviors are linked and they all affect each other.

Tension in the mind causes stress and tension in the body. And tension and stress in the body causes more tense and fear related thoughts in the mind which creates a self perpetuating feedback loop in the mind and body.

Calm your mind and your body will follow suit, calm your body and your mind will relax with it.

People who have been traumatised can go into a shortened posture where their head protrudes forward and is pulled down at the back of the neck.

Their shoulders become hunched and stiff and their body collapses. This type of posture is associated to the fight or flight reflex response.

This fight or flight response posture can become habitual. 

Some people even get stuck in it. In this shrinking posture, which is often known as the startled mode.

In this shortened posture. You can feel more threatened, anxious, sad, insecure and repressed.

Tensing and stiffening your body is also linked to your fight or flight response. 

If you 

  • Lift up your shoulders
  • Lift up your chin and head
  • Stick out your chest
  • Force your shoulders back
  • Arch or stiffen your back
Then this mimics the fight posture and in this stance your frantic mind will interpret this as you're being threatened.

It is hard to think about tense or anxious thoughts if you smile and you relax your body and free and release your shoulders.

Our shoulder and neck muscles in particular are connected to our fight flight, reflex response mechanism and startled mode. 

When your body is naturally aligned and balanced. You will feel happier, more at ease, more comfortable, less irritated and less anxious.

Making it feel a lot easier for you cope with your challenges and making it easier for you to heal your emotional wounds.

The belief that you can heal your wounds is the first step to recovery

Faith and expectation that you can let go of your past and create a better life and a better life is the first important step, if you intend to erase your bad memories and begin the healing process.

  • Faith leads to hope 
  • Hope leads to optimism
  • Optimism leads to action
  • Action lead to results
As they say. "You're only limited by your imagination or lack of understanding"

Just by imagining yourself getting better and envisaging how good your life will be once you have let go of your suffering.

As this can help you to transform feelings of helplessness to feelings of hope and optimism.

Your brain does not know the difference between an imagined situation, a bad memory being played in your mind and a real life situation.

This means your brain cannot tell the difference from something that has happened to you and something that you're created in your mind that is happening to you.

This means your brain and your nervous system cannot tell the difference from the good or bad things that have happened to you in your real life and what you imaging.

Because your brain and nervous system cannot tell the difference from the real memories that you have and the ones you make up.

This means you can play about and change and distort the sounds and context of your bad memory as well as draining all the colour out of you bad memory and pushing it off into the distance.

You can even confuse your mind by scambling and changing your bad memories.

When you focus on a bad memory it makes you feel bad.

If you focus on good memories or happy things, it will make you feel better.

How animals quickly get over a terryfying experience

If you observe animals in the wild.

Take a wild Deer for example. 

They will happily be garazing and eating the grass, just getting on with their daily business. 

When all of a sudden, they will come face to face with a life threatening situation. Where they're all of a sudden startled and chased by an angry and hungry lion.

The Deers fight or flight response will kick in and the deer will bolt away. If the Deer is lucky enough to survive the dangerous encounter.

The Deer will quickly settle down, they will process the emotion and they will return to a state of calm and they will soon, let go and forget about their terrifying ordeal and just carry on doing what they were doing and being in the present moment.

They don't dwell on the life threatening encounter, they don't try to fight their feelings. They don't focus on it, hold on to their suffering or try to deal with what happened, or attempt to force themself to forget about it.

They just return their attention back on to the peace of the present moment and they just focus on the task they're doing.

And you to can learn how to let go of your emotions and start to focus your attention on the good things and tasks that you should be focusing on.

Using your bad experiences to do something positive

Once you have removed the strong negative energy away from your bad memory and you are starting to heal your wounds and as you begin to feel more resourceful and at peace. 

Then if you feel strong enough and ready. Can you take or make something positive out of your bad experience.

This could be. You could put all your focus and energy into helping others either, try to avoid having to go through the pain or trauma that you went through.

Or, depending on your situation or experience. 

You could perhaps set up a campaign to help others or make sure they do not make the same mistakes as you or end up in a similar bad situation or event. 

You could start a support group or write a blog to support and help other victims or help people who are still suffering the same kind of emotional pain or trauma you experienced.

If that doesn't suit you. Then you could make it your intention to achieve a goal, become successful or do something great with your life.

Because there is always many more opportunities and wonderful things that you can do. Once you let go of your painful past.

Break free from the chains that are imprisoning you

"Have you heard the story of the circus elephant that was chained to a small post and was unable to escape and free himself from the small post and his imprisonment.

The huge elephant could easily snap the chain and escape to freedom. The trouble is, even though he could easily break free, and escape is captivity.

He did not know that and so he never even tried.

The reason why the adult elephant could not escape to freedom was because of the emotional and painful associations and bad memories that were ingrained in his mind.

You, see.

When the elephant was a baby.

The baby elephants trainer, used the same simple methods. Where a chain was tied to the baby elephants leg and then attached to a wooden post.

The chain a post, were strong enough to prevent the baby elephant from escaping. Even, if the baby elephant attempted to break free.

The chain, was strong enough to hold the baby elephant. If when the baby elephant pulled with all his might.

The chain would cut into the baby elephants leg, and it would create a wound which would cause the baby elephant pain and discomfort.

In the end, the baby elephant soon learned to associate, trying to break free, with pain, after a bit of suffering, he would eventually, give up trying.

Even, when the baby elephant grew up, because of his bad and painful memory, which he associated with trying to escape. He would never again try to break free."

You are smarter and wiser than the elephant, and you have the opportunity to break free from the emotional pain of your bad memory.

And therefore, set yourself free from your internal imprisonment and find the emotional freedom, that has always, been available to you.

How you emotional past can affect your now and your future

"Somebody once told me a story about a guy who was out driving his car without a care in the world.

When suddenly a man driving a van had a heart attack and the van veered across the road and hit his car.

The van driver died, and the guy became so traumatised that he could no longer drive his car again.

Every time he then tried to drive, he was engulfed with fear and panic and he would immediately start shaking."

One moment, driving was a natural thing that he did automatically without thinking about it. Then because of his traumatic accident.

His mind had become alert and scared of the same type of thing happening again. 

And his mind was using his bad memory has feedback and triggering sensations of fear, to try and get him to avoid driving again.

Within a matter of minutes, this poor guys life had been changed.

This clearly demonstrates how a bad experience and memory can instantly change your life, indefinitely and change your perceptions, actions, feelings, behaviors and life.

It it takes is one bad experience, and it can negatively impact you in so many ways and even spread into other areas of your life.

Shocking statistics reveal the alarming truth

Alarmingly, the statistics suggest that more and more people are struggling to cope with, the psychological, emotional and physical symptoms caused by their bad memories and trauma.

According to the Mental Health Foundation, every year, millions of workdays are lost to to mental health issues, which include, stress, anxiety and depression.

Bad memories and trauma are the root cause most mental issues. Including chronic stress, sadness, depression, anxiety, fear, phobia's, unwanted thoughts and obsessive behaviors.

This clearly demonstrates that mental and emotional issues are the leading cause of sickness and absence from work. 

But it is not just the cost of mental health issues. The sufferer is also unnecessary going through periods of persistent, stress, anxiety, obsessive thought patterns, misery, emotional pain and depression.

If that is not bad enough to live with. Mental health disorders, and bad memories are linked to mental health issues, are responsible for low moods, loss of interest or pleasure and feelings of guilt or low self-worth.

The number of war veterans who admit they are experiencing PTSD as been estimated to have risen by 70% in the last five years.

But you do not have to be a war veteran or a member of the emergency services, to experience trauma or PTSD. Anybody who has witnessed or experienced a terrifying event, can be affected.

There are thousands of people who are feeling the victims of both physical and psychological abuse or bad relationships or a loss of a loved one.

In fact, any negative or unpleasant experience can lead to emotional issues further on down the line.

Because of the ever rise in emotional and mental issues. This also suggests that conventional  treatments are largely ineffective.

Many people are still unaware, that there are a lot of things that you can do, to release your emotional pain and suffering. And you don't have to remain a victim to your past or remain just another statistic.

The trouble is, many people just relying on coping methods, some of which are not healthy, or they try and treat the symptoms, rather than tackling the root cause of their problem.

Because there are natural ways and treatments, that can help to free you from the pain of your past and begin to start the healing process, so you can return back to your normal and peaceful life once again.

The truth is, you can hold on to your emotional or you can choose to let go of your suffering, by teaching yourself how to reduce the intensity of your feelings and emotions or by changing the way you react to your bad memory.

The reason, why most people hold onto their emotional pain, is because they try to fight with their bad memory and painful past, instead of processing the memory and letting it go.

Unresolved trauma and bad memories, can then lead to many other negative, stressful and anxiety related issues, obsessive behaviors and in some cases, depression.

Because, when you have been stuck in a prolonged state of anxiety, negativity or stress, which for some people can be on an almost daily basis. 

Then all the constant and toxic releases of adrenaline into your body and the bad feeling emotions, can leave you, feelings burned out, depressed and exhausted.

When this happens, feelings of hopelessness and pessimism can become your dominant emotional and physical state.

Why you probably feel so bad is because?

Your bad or traumatic memory has become so dominant, that it is causing your body to release the stress hormones.

Cortisol and adrenaline into your body, which is keeping you stuck in a negative and stressful state.

If this is happening on a regular occurrence, then your body, never has a chance to return back to its natural calm and resting state.

What this means is. 

You emotional and physical state of being, gets set and stuck at, high levels of stress, sadness and anxiety.

With you having, to contend with this each day, then it is no wonder you feel so down and defeated.

Eventually, if you allow your memory to remain active and unresolved, all the negative, stressful hormones feelings and emotions.

Can throw your whole system out of balance, which can trigger feelings of depression and hopelessness.

This is because your body is constantly being pumped with the stress and anxiety triggering hormones. 

All the bombardment of stress and negative feelings.

Will prevent, the release of your natural feel good endorphins. Preventing you from experience the feel good emotions. 

This constant state of stress and negativity, can leave you feeling exhausted and defeated.

American Psychological Association, describes emotional trauma as

"The emotional response to an extremely negative event"

The negative event can be a major traumatic experience, but this is not always the case, and you can suffer with years of emotional trauma, from just about, virtually any negative experience.

The first reactions to a negative or traumatic event are usually, the release of adrenaline, a racing pulse, shallow or rapid breathing, confusion, freezing, numbness, disorientation, all of which are part of our fight or flight response.

This is a normal response to a negative situation, and normally, after a while, you would move on and you would return back to your natural state.

However, for many, the effects of the upsetting or negative event, can linger on, long after the event is over, and this is where the problems begin.

Some of the negative effects of emotional trauma

  • Random recurrences of stressful or painful memories 
  • Wanting to avoid any reminders of your bad experience, such as people, places, triggers and situations
  • Chronic uncontrollable stress
  • Anxiety, anger, frustration, irritability, depression 
  • Panic attacks
  • OCD thoughts and behaviors
  • Mood swings
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Nightmares and flashbacks 
  • Stuck in survival mode 
  • Guilt and self blame 
  • Feelings of distress and hopelessness 
  • Negative outlook 
  • Isolation, withdrawing from society 
  • Low self esteem and self worth
If you are suffering with PTSD or you are feeling the pain and symptoms of your bad experience, and you have not yet healed your emotional wounds or processed and released the emotion from your negative experience. 

Then you will run the risk of experiencing chronic stress, emotional trauma and the possibility of physical illnesses.

The real problem begins, when you start to accept your trauma, stress, fear and emotional pain as being a normal part of your life and something that you cannot do anything about.

Emotional trauma and chronic stress, is not normal and your body cannot cope with prolonged periods of stress and anxiety, and sooner or later it will manifest as unpleasant physical symptom in your body.

Stress shuts down your digestive system, ages your body, keeps you stuck in a heightened state of alertness to danger and a tunnel focus of attention and it is estimated that it is responsible for About 80 to 85% of all human diseases.

As your body tries to struggle with all the physical symptoms of stress, your immune system will weaken down, and because your body cannot cope with all the stress. 

This is when you will start getting physical symptoms, illnesses, tension and tension headaches and high levels of anxiety.

Should you try and forget your bad memories?

The latest scientific research suggests, that memories aren't permanent as what was once thought.

But can you and should you try to get rid of your bad memories? 

Memories both good and bad are meant to be permanent and there is a good valid reason for that, as they serve us of valuable data, so we can avoid repeating the same mistakes or failures. 

The most important aspect that might be being overlooked here is, it is not actually your memories that is now really hurting you.

The big problem lies with all the meaning they have for you, and the strong feelings, neural connection, responses and emotions that have been formed straight after your bad experience.

So although our memories are permanent, all the strong feelings, emotions and connections, certainly don't have to be permanent and they certainly can be and should be changed.

And, when, you break the connections and you take away the feelings and emotions, your bad memories will then become rendered as inactive and emotionally insignificant.

Your emotional part of your brain responds to the emotional significance of your bad experience.

iWhat this means is, if your bad memory is still classified as being emotionally significant, then your brain will keep on returning to it and it will carry on responding stressfully to all your memories trigger connections.

Removing all your bad memories, feelings and connections is a bit like having a firework, without a fuse, it becomes totally inactive and devoid of the energy charge that ignites and powers it. 

Many people in their search for inner peace, attempt to try and suppress their memory, unwanted feelings and emotions.

However, that It is like burying the still active memory and emotions alive deep inside your system, and when you do that.

Your bad experience will then become a part of your whole mind and body system, and it will remain there causing you constant stress and emotional pain, until the neural connections and emotional associations have been separated from your bad memory.

So, instead of letting go of your emotional pain and classifying it in the past tense, so you can move on and get back to a normal life.

What will happen is, your memory will stay alive and active, as if it is still happening in the present tense, keeping you imprisoned in, and forever reacting to the context of the whole disturbing and upsetting event.

Why you're trapped in your bad experience

Have you ever wondered why you're having so much trouble with your bad or traumatic memory and why it is happening?

When you have endured or witnessed the pain and stress of a bad experience, your brain will record everything that is happening to you and everything that was is going on in your environment at the time your bad experience occurred.

Let's say for example.

If there were sirens or gunfire going on, or smoke and fire, during your bad experience, your brain would store the data for future reference, and your brain would attach these sounds to your fight or flight response mechanism.

These are known as neural associations and pattern recognition and they will become your trigger memories.

Any time you are walking down a street, and you hear a siren or loud bang, or you come across a fire, your emotional brain.

The part of your brain that protects you and keeps you safe, will automatically recognize these triggers as being similar to what happened during your bad experience and it will automatically link them to, you're about to face a dangerous situation again. 

Because this part of your mind does not deal with logic or reasoning, only patterns, associations, feelings and responses, it will involuntarily activate your fight or flight response.

Your brain cannot distinguish between what happened during the time of your bad or traumatic  experience and a normal everyday event, even though it has no relevance to you. 

When a person who has not had a bad experience hears a siren going off or they hear a sudden loud bang, they might be startled for a few brief seconds, but because they have not connected their fight or flight to the noise or images, they will quickly return back to a state of calm.

However, in the case of the person who has experienced a traumatic event, because their brain has learned to associate danger with the sound of a siren, things unfold completely differently.

When your senses send data to your brain and it finds a negative emotional pattern recognition and an association with danger, your mind will flood the body full of adrenaline and your fight or flight response will go off, time and time again, even in the absence of any real danger or threats.

How long does it take before your PTSD takes hold?

Normally the impact of witnessing or experiencing a traumatic, life threatening or negative experience, should start to fade away after a period of time.

But for many, this is not the case, and severe emotional difficulties and problems can soon take root and start to seriously affect the person's life and their ability to function normally on a daily basis.

This is what Post Traumatic Stress and bad memories does, it throws your body out of sync and balance.

Sometimes the effects of Post Traumatic Stress can be a delayed reaction, you may initially find that you start to recover from your ordeal after a few weeks, but the problem can lie simmering dormant under the surface of your mind, but it can come back with a vengeance to torment you at a later date.

Bad memories become more active at times when you're feeling stressed or your muscles are tight and tense.

Some of the symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress are

  • Nightmares and waking up feeling anxious and sweaty 
  • Flashbacks 
  • Feelings of panic and anxiety 
  • Chronic stress 
  • Obsessive thoughts and behaviors 
  • Feelings distressed 
  • Stressful and physical reactions when you're reminded of the bad experience
You may think that your PTSD is making it impossible for you to live a normal and healthy life, it can make you feel like a prisoner in your own mind. 

But that is a belief, not a fact, and beliefs, feelings, circumstances and emotional connections can be changed.

Some people are even afraid or too proud to seek help or change, but the truth is, living the rest of your life with PTSD is far more scary than seeking a cure.

Nobody wants to suffer, all people want is help to free themselves from the pain, they just don't know what to do or how to go about it, often without realizing it, they make their symptoms worse.

Evolution is to blame

Our brains have evolved to try and keep us safe and focus on the negative. This is a good thing in a way, but sometimes this process can go wrong or get out of control, and when it goes out of control it needs to be fixed.

The trouble is, our fight or flight response and survival mechanism is still very primitive, and it can get out of control.

In order to survive when our world was once a dangerous place to live in, our mind and body had to develop a system, where we could go from a state of calm to high energy, power and strength in a matter of seconds, to give us a better chance of surviving.

This is where our fight or flight mechanism was born, its only flaw is, it does not respond to logic or reasoning, and it is a case of act first, because has far as your mind is concerned, it is better to be safe than sorry.

You cannot just tell your mind you don't want to react to your bad memory, telling your brain to fix itself is like yelling at your computer, when it has got a programming fault.

If you have had a bad or traumatic experience at some stage in your life, your conscious mind will immediately take all the information as input, which it will send to your subconscious mind for processing. 

Once you have been through the bad experience, all the information will stay locked up in your memory bank for later recall, should it be needed. 

Your mind will do everything it can to prevent you from having to endure the same bad experience again, the problem with our minds is, they cannot think logically, your brain just responds to data, physical stressful symptoms in your body and input from your senses. 

All the information that was recorded at the time of your bad experience, will then be stored in your emotional memory bank and used as data to gauge how you should react in the future.

The only thing your mind has got to protect you is strong negative emotions to alert you, which will activate adrenaline and the symptoms of stress so you can try and avoid or escape from the situation, should it happen again.

The trouble is, you cannot run away or avoid the images and thoughts in your mind, you cannot run away from the feelings in your body and it is not helpful if your fight or flight response is going off, everytime you hear or see anything that your mind remotely associates with your bad experience.

Even if you have to face that same or similar experience again, your subconscious mind will automatically return to the memory, and bring it back into your conscious awareness which will cause you to feel the same sensations as you did at the time of the bad experience. 

The reason why you cannot just think or talk your bad memory to go away is because there is an invisible barrier that lies between your conscious and subconscious mind.
 
This acts a safety mechanism which evolved to help protect you and keep you safe, because if you had to face a real life threat, then there would be no time for thinking logically, and your mind would act and respond instantly to give you a better chance of surviving.

Therefore, unless you change your inner subconscious programming, your mind will carry on doing what it has been programmed to do, because it thinks it is necessary to help to protect you from having to go through the.

This barrier is a bit like having your own inner security guard whose job is to protect you and prevent anything from reaching your subconscious mind that goes against your previous programming, even though it is your wish to delete the bad memory. 

This is why you will struggle to change or get rid of your bad memory, because your inner security guard thinks you need your old programming to help you avoid having to go through the same bad experience again.

Again, this can be a good thing, because it can help to keep you safe should you about to encounter a real threat or danger.
  
But it is no help when your fight or flight response is constantly going off when it is not needed or it is not appropriate, as in the case of your bad memory.

In order to end all the emotional pain and suffering, you have to bypass your inner security guard, so you can access your own subconscious mind.

The difference between your mind and body being balanced and out of balance, is the amount of emotional attachment and significance that has become connected to your bad experience.

Why you get stuck in a self perpetuating cycle of stress and anxiety

Everytime you're bad memory causes a stressful response it takes up to 36 hours for your body to get rid of the stress hormones, this is not good for your health or well-being.

If your bad memory is constantly being played out in your mind, your body won't even get a chance to return back to its natural resting state and your body will stay out of balance most of the time.

Bad memories can demoralize your whole quality of your life, they can cause you endless stress, frustration and anxiety, and even lead to depression or alcohol and substance abuse.

Trying to bury your emotional traumas and wounds with alcohol or substance abuse, or trying to occupy your mind with other distraction methods, is not the answer and it can make matters worse.

Alcohol and drugs may temporarily alleviate your emotional hurt and torment, but as soon as their effect wears off, the pain will resurface. 

Alcohol, smoking and drugs are all stimulants, and although they may initially relax you, when their effect wears off, you will feel more stressed and pumped up.

At the moment your bad memory has all the power over you, but it does not have to be that way once you strip away all the strong emotional attachment.

You should not be constantly punished and tormented by an unpleasant experience that happened in the past, which was not your fault.

It is a sad fact of life that very often the victim or the innocent one is left to suffer the most, usually in silence.

What you may not realize is that you have the power and control to erase your bad memory if you decide to do so.

When you get stuck in a cycle and pattern of stress and intrusive thoughts, the high levels of stress can put a strain on your adrenaline glands, and because you get stuck in a state of high levels of stress.

This can then this can have a knock on effect, which can result in other emotional issues like anxiety,  anger issues,phobia's, OCD and depression.

Nutrient deficiency, anxiety and stress

If you have been suffering with post traumatic stress, then it can deplete your body and brain of the natural nutrients that it requires to keep your brain and body in balance and working efficiently.  

A deficiency in the key important nutrients has been associated with depression, anxiety and mood swings.

Long periods of stress and anxiety can deplete your body of all its natural vitamins and nutrients that it requires to keep your mind and body in its peak and most optimum balance and performance efficiency.

A balanced diet of healthy foods rich in nutrients, vitamins and minerals can help to relax you, improve your mood and help you feel less anxious. 

It may pay you to consult your doctor or nutritionist to determine your nutritional needs and daily dosage requirements.

Magnesium is one of the most powerful nutrients that can help reduce stress and anxiety, this key mineral is well known for its natural power to calm you.

Other studies have shown that there is a link between moods and a deficiency in the B vitamin range, again if you're thinking about taking supplements, it may pay you to consult with your doctor or dietician about the correct daily dosage

Vitamin D has also been linked with being able to help reduce stress and anxiety.

How it all evolved

This procedure for storing bad emotional memories was designed to keep us safe, if we were threatened the mind would record the memory of the thing, time and place so it could warn us if we faced the same threat or dangerous situation again. 

The feelings and trauma you experienced when the life threatening event happened were then recorded and stored deep in the emotional part of the mind.

This was vital so your mind would be better prepared to respond immediately to give you a better chance of survival if ever you came face to face with the same or similar type of predator and situation.

If a potential threat was detected the mind would scan through its data to see what happened the last time you were in that situation. 

If your mind matched the perceived threat with a memory of a past bad encounter it would activate the fight or flight process over which we would have no control.

The fearful emotions are designed to feel bad, it's job is designed to alert us to prepare for action, the options available were, to run, fight, avoid or surrender. 

The world back then was a very dangerous place with a potential threat to our safety lurking around every corner. Back then our mind's primary job was to keep us safe, it did this by trying to keep us in the safety of our comfort zone. 

This was the area where man lived, here the mind new the surrounding environment was relatively safe, so therefore your mind and body could switch to a more relaxed state. 

Whenever man attempted to venture outside his comfort zone the mind would go on high alert to danger, it did not like the idea that you were going into unknown or dangerous territory, it believed that it was best to fear anything that it did not know was harmless. 

The mind had evolved to play things on the safe side, this meant caution first, logic second, this is why even in today's relatively safe world our mind still tends to fear the unknown and it hates change.

So as soon as early man attempted or even thought about stepping outside his comfort zone the mind would grab past negative memories of anything it perceived as a threat. 

It would then flash these images into our conscious awareness as an early warning system to alert us of all the perceived risks, it did this to try and make us stick in the safety of our comfort zone.

To demonstrate how your mind and feelings operates, think about a bad experience or something that makes you anxious and notice how you feel, now think of a pleasant and happy memory and notice the difference in how you feel. 

A bad memory is like being in a trance or a negative state of being, when you're having those bad and traumatic experiences playing out in your mind, you're basically stepping back into the situation for real, through the internal reality of your mind.


Positive thinking is not always the answer

Some people try to use positive thinking to help them remove bad memories and even though positive thinking will make you feel better, the powerful emotional memory can keep coming back.

Others will try and repress them or use other techniques, but more often than not these methods fail because the subconscious mind which acts like a video and data recorder works with emotions, feelings and associations and not logic or reasoning.

Sometimes our subconscious mind will base our feelings and responses on we handled our past experiences and how those bad experiences effected us at the time and after the event.

To become free of your traumatic past you have to disassociate and detach the negative energy charge from the bad memory, but you cannot merely think it away, because thinking largely operates at a conscious level. 

If you have a film on your video recorder that you would like to remove, your not going to erase it just by talking to your video recorder in a positive manner or trying to reason with it.

That approach will probably achieve nothing, to remove the film you have to delete it from your files, once you delete it is has gone for good. 

However, trying to just delete a bad memory from your mind is not quite so simply as deleting a picture from your digital camera because unlike the camera your memories and your neural pathways are a bit more complex.

You can put it another way, if you have any old photo's on your camera which you don't like perhaps say they hold sad and negative memories for you which evoke negative or hurtful emotions you would delete them from your camera. 

If you keep on looking at the photo you will keep feeling the emotion. All of our memories have an energy attached to them, good memories have a neutral or positive energy while bad memories have a negative energy associated with them.

Because bad memories and traumatic experiences operate on a subconscious level the pain, hurt and flashbacks are being driven by emotions and feelings, therefore you cannot use words or think them away.

It is all the emotional and physical attachment that is keeping the memory active and current, if you want to be free of all the hurt and pain of the bad experience, then you need to disassociate and desensitize the emotional arousal from the bad experience.




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