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- Faith leads to hope
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- Change your mindset
- Change your emotional state
- Change your physiology
- Just STOP yourself for a minute, pause feel the feelings and take a few deep breaths.
- Allow the feelings to carry on, do not judge, react or attempt to fight or block your feelings out
- Just allow the emotions to rise up through your body and release them, keep repeating
- Observe the feelings and sensations in your body, racing heart, negative emotions
- Acknowledge how you feel and state how you would like to feel, just let yourself know they are just feelings and they will soon pass and subside, if I leave them alone
- After a while, you can turn the images in your mind, white.
- It can help relax you and restore a sense of balance and calm
- It can reduce the intensity of your strong feelings and emotions
- It will help you sleep better
- It can give you the relief you have been looking for
- It can remove you out of your negative state and return you back to your calm natural state
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- A traumatic, unpleasant or negative emotional experience that has happened to you
- A horrific or traumatic experience, that you have seen or witnessed
- Worry and intrusive thoughts
- Random recurrences of stressful or painful memories
- Wanting to avoid any reminders of your bad experience, such as people, places, triggers and situations
- Chronic uncontrollable stress
- Anxiety, anger, frustration, irritability, depression
- Panic attacks
- OCD thoughts and behaviors
- Mood swings
- Trouble sleeping
- Nightmares and flashbacks
- Stuck in survival mode
- Guilt and self blame
- Feelings of distress and hopelessness
- Negative outlook
- Isolation, withdrawing from society
- Low self esteem and self worth
- Acknowledge and observe the thoughts and feelings
- Feel the feelings and allow your mind to carry on thinking the thoughts for a minute or two
- Then let the thoughts go
- Nightmares and waking up feeling anxious and sweaty
- Feelings of panic and anxiety
- Chronic stress
- Obsessive thoughts and behaviors
- Feelings distressed
- Stressful and physical reactions when you're reminded of the bad experience
Everytime you're bad memory causes a stressful response it takes up to 36 hours for your body to get rid of the stress hormones, this is not good for your health or well-being.
If your bad memory is constantly being played out in your mind, your body won't even get a chance to return back to its natural resting state and your body will stay out of balance most of the time.
Bad memories can demoralize your whole quality of your life, they can cause you endless stress, frustration and anxiety, and even lead to depression or alcohol and substance abuse.
Trying to bury your emotional traumas and wounds with alcohol or substance abuse, or trying to occupy your mind with other distraction methods, is not the answer and it can make matters worse.
Alcohol and drugs may temporarily alleviate your emotional hurt and torment, but as soon as their effect wears off, the pain will resurface.
Alcohol, smoking and drugs are all stimulants, and although they may initially relax you, when their effect wears off, you will feel more stressed and pumped up.
At the moment your bad memory has all the power over you, but it does not have to be that way once you strip away all the strong emotional attachment.
You should not be constantly punished and tormented by an unpleasant experience that happened in the past, which was not your fault.
It is a sad fact of life that very often the victim or the innocent one is left to suffer the most, usually in silence.
What you may not realize is that you have the power and control to erase your bad memory if you decide to do so.
When you get stuck in a cycle and pattern of stress and intrusive thoughts, the high levels of stress can put a strain on your adrenaline glands, and because you get stuck in a state of high levels of stress.
This can then this can have a knock on effect, which can result in other emotional issues like anxiety, anger issues
Your emotional brain is more powerful than your rational brain
Your nervous system cannot tell the difference between the images and pictures that are taking place in our mind and a real threatening or traumatic event.
Therefore, the internal images of your mind can change your body physiology and throw your physiology out of balance.
Then it can feel very
The emotional part of your brain that processes emotions, which is involuntary, will automatically react with fear if it perceives what it thinks is a threat or if it thinks, something is causing you pain.
The trouble with this inbuilt survival mechanism is, it can get stuck in a vicious loop and cycle and it can get it wrong.
This is true in the case of bad memories, because your stress response is being activated because it senses a threat, even though the bad situation is well in the past.
The reason why it is happening is because, the human brain is divided into two parts, the rational mind and the emotional mind.
The rational mind controls about 90% our decisions, but when the emotional mind which is far more powerful and it is the part of our brain that controls our fear and fight or flight responses takes over, it will overpower the rational mind causing our emotional impulses to influence us.
The emotional mind, which uses strong and powerful emotions and activates the fight or flight responses, operates at very fast speeds.
The emotional mind, will send messages to the body to release adrenaline and the stress hormone cortisol into the body, to quickly prime our body with a big boost of energy so we can take action against the perceived threat, which usually, no longer exist.
The rational mind takes longer to process information, therefore the emotional mind wins everytime.
Therefore, until you break this fear circuit and response, your emotional mind will carry on triggering the stress and fear response to those internal images that are being flashed in your mind or those external triggers.
There are ways to help you to control and your panic and stressful responses, you can imagine yourself on a tropical beach and engage all your senses, at the onset of any stress or fear.
If you have been suffering with post traumatic stress, then it can deplete your body and brain of the natural nutrients that it requires to keep your brain and body in balance and working efficiently.
A deficiency in the key important nutrients has been associated with depression, anxiety and mood swings.
Long periods of stress and anxiety can deplete your body of all its natural vitamins and nutrients that it requires to keep your mind and body in its peak and most optimum balance and performance efficiency.
A balanced diet of healthy foods rich in nutrients, vitamins and minerals can help to relax you, improve your mood and help you feel less anxious.
It may pay you to consult your doctor or nutritionist to determine your nutritional needs and daily dosage requirements.
Magnesium is one of the most powerful nutrients that can help reduce stress and anxiety, this key mineral is well known for its natural power to calm you.
Other studies have shown that there is a link between moods and a deficiency in the B vitamin range, again if you're thinking about taking supplements, it may pay you to consult with your doctor or dietician about the correct daily dosage
Vitamin D has also been linked with being able to help reduce stress and anxiety.
If you keep on dwelling or focusing on the past, your perceptions of what happened and how you handled the situation at the time will then go onto to shape your beliefs.
These beliefs will be seen and acted on as being true by your emotional mind and your negative memories will then determine how you think respond, feel, act and behave.
Our memories guide and mold our perceptions and they keep us haunted and imprisoned by the past.
All your negative memories become stored in your powerful subconscious mind just as you would store a program on a computer hard drive.
Your subconscious mind acts like a video recorder at it records everything that is happening and has ever happened in our life up to date.
Our bad experiences and negative memories cause us a negative feedback circuit, this can keep you stuck in a cycle of negativity and resistance.
Imagine you had a collection of photo's and some were of a past partner who you are still no longer with but you have not got over yet.
If you keep going into your photo album and looking at the picture of your partner and it is still evoking feelings of sadness and hurt, the best thing to do is not to keep going into your photo album.
The same principal applies to your mind, if you keep going into your emotional memory bank and looking at hurtful images of or you keep reminiscing over the past you will drag up the feelings of hurt and sadness.
Once a negative neural connection has been created, your brain cells will keep on igniting a negative emotionally charged feeling from the trigger thoughts or bad memories that you will feel throughout your body which will replicate the physical feelings and trauma you experienced at the time the bad event happened.
Release your tension and reduce your stress
Because our mind works
Your mind has also evolved to associate the symptoms and the sensations of the fight or flight response with danger, such as tensing of your muscles, adrenaline, shallow breathing and rapid heartbeat.
So you're already feeling stressed, your mind will interpret this as something bad is about to happen so it will seek out the threat that does not really exist, and in its desperation to find the threat it will filter through your past negative memories.
Your mind may even link the stressful feelings in your body as being the same stressful and fearful feelings you experienced at the time of your traumatic experience, and in some cases these feelings can act as one of your triggers.
Posture and the fight or flight reflex mode
A lot of advice about anxiety, stress and fear issues focuses mainly on the mind and although correcting the mind faults is important, it is equally as important to work on the body.
The mind and body are one whole and they work together as one unit, therefore your body follows and responds to your mind and your mind responds to your body.
What this means is, your mind listens to and reacts to the signals and feedback that are being relayed by your body so if your body is experiencing symptoms of stress or your muscles are tense and stiff.
Then your emotional mind will try to make sense of these feelings which are all linked to the fight or flight response mechanism.
And, because you experienced similar types of stressful symptoms and the time of your bad experience, then, anytime you feel stressed or tense,
Then, because your mind works in patterns, feelings and associations, then it can cause your mind to match up these feelings with images of your bad or traumatic experience.
If you experience a lot of stress and anxiety, then your posture can shrink in stature, which will cause feelings of insecurity and low confidence.
What you may need to be aware of is, anxiety can cause you to shrink in stature.
This is where the head protrudes forwards and then the back of the head gets pulled down, which will put you in the fight or flight reflex mode which can increase your anxiety levels.
This fear and danger related posture is linked to the fight or flight response, sometimes known as the startled mode, because it can cause you to react more, with fear and stress.
This is the posture we go into at times when we feel threatened, and it was designed to make us smaller in stature and more compact so we would become a smaller target to help us avoid being hit or physically hurt.
If you suffer with anxiety or post traumatic stress then you may find that you habitually go into this startled mode posture during certain trigger situations without you realizing it, or if you are having flashbacks.
When you go into this guarded type of danger constricting posture, it can also cause other physical changes in your body which are also associated with the fight or flight response.
Like the, the unbalancing of the head in relationship to the spine, this posture can cause excess tension and the collapsing of spine and the body.
To feel relaxed and less threatened, your body needs to be poised, balanced and in alignment.
When your body is tense, shortened in stature or stiffened, then it can throw your whole body and physiology out of balance and harmony, leaving you feeling more insecure and more threatened.
This fight or flight associated negative posture forces the front of the head to protrude forwards and the back of the head to come down.
In this fight or flight
Your body posture can also affect your physiology, which can cause your breathing and your circulation to increase as well as promoting the release of adrenaline in your body, all of which are related to the fight or flight response.
It takes 36 hours for your body to get rid of the stress hormones, therefore, if your bad experience is constantly making you feel stressed and anxious.
Then your body will not have a chance to return to its natural relaxed state, so you can get stuck in a permanent state of high levels of panic and anxiety.
When your body is out of balance or tense, then you will lose some of your power, confidence and charisma.
Some people even get stuck in this fight or flight related posture, or they display aspects of this fight or flight response mode posture many times during the day.
For others who suffer with social anxiety, it will become an automatic response that they can go into when they're feeling socially challenged.
Other things that can cause you to enter this constricting and small in stature negative posture are, a traumatic experience.
Or bad tension habits such as slouching especially whilst you're sitting or psychological reasons anxiety or depression.
Although you should not slump slouch or shrink in stature, it is as equally as bad, to sit and stand too straight, tall or rigid.
Some people tend physical force or hold themselves up
This type of military posture, will can cause you to lift up your chin, stick out your chest and pull your back of your head down.
Because, standing or sitting in tense or stiff postures, will cause you to have more tense and anxious thoughts and more fearful and startled responses.
The same applies with stress, because if you're feeling more stressed than normal, then again your mind will read into this, that something bad is about to happen, and you will have more trouble with anxiety.
It is important to stand and sit, comfortably with the least amount of tension, this means learning to get in and out of your chair because when you sit correctly, you will stand correctly and vice versa.
Watch the videos on how to sit and stand correctly
You become more afraid
"The biggest fear people have is the fear of fear itself, so in time you learn to become afraid of your anxious thoughts, bad memories and the sensations that are associated with fear.
Tense muscles or the physical and chemical sensations that are linked with stress will switch your mind over into your negative bad memory files and data and all your focus will go in
Your negative files are the place where all the negative data for your past bad experiences are recorded and filed.
When you have a bad experience or negative memory your amygdala's which controls your emotions and is in charge of the activation of your fight or flight response records and logs the memory and the associated emotions and feelings you experienced at the time.
This will include, the time, the place and all the emotional pain that you experienced at the time of the traumatic event.
The problem is, your amygdala's never forgets anything that has happened to you, and it will keep returning to and it will keep on reacting with negative responses, especially when the memory is still classified as current ad emotionally active.
This means every time you come face to face again with the thing or situation or a similar type of situation again your amygdala will automatically trigger your fight or flight response. Your amygdala's will also fire off the fight or flight response to emotionally charged memories.
The problem being, with most people's fears there is rarely any outside dangers, as far as your mind and your senses are concerned, they think they have detected what they think could be a real treat.
What is really happening is, your anxiety is tricking you into believing you need to do something to prevent something bad from happening.
Basically, you are being fooled into reacting with fear and believing you need to take some form of avoidance measure or preventive action to what are nothing more than illusions of the mind.
The new enemy, then, comes from within, this means your body and mind will start to respond to all those what if scenarios, your fearful thoughts or your past traumas and bad experiences.
Because your amygdala's never forgets an emotional experience this same process gets repeated over and over again until you break the cycle. Our past negative experiences create our insecurities for the future.
You can put it another way, if you have any old photo's on your camera which you don't like perhaps say they hold sad and negative memories for you which evoke negative or hurtful emotions you would delete them from your camera.
If you keep on looking at the photo you will keep feeling the emotion. All of our memories have an energy attached to them, good memories have a neutral or positive energy while bad memories have a negative energy associated with them.
Because bad memories and traumatic experiences operate on a subconscious level the pain, hurt and flashbacks are being driven by emotions and feelings, therefore you cannot use words or think them away.
It is all the emotional and physical attachment that is keeping the memory active and current, if you want to be free of all the hurt and pain of the bad experience, then you need to disassociate and desensitize the emotional arousal from the bad experience.