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How To Erase Bad Memories?

Now Is The Time To Let Go Of Your Suffering And Move On

Some people suffer or witness the most terrifying, horrible and painful experiences. But, history cannot be changed, and what has happened has happened and it can not be undone.

Therefore, for your own sake, health and well-being. There is no point in revisiting or reliving your painful past.

Because no matter how much you try to analyze, fight with and deal with your bad experience, it won't help or go away by itself.

Now is the time to focus all your energy on you and finding the solution, rather than giving all your attention on the problem and making yourself more upset, stressed or anxious.

This becomes a lot easier, when you start to reduce and remove the intense negative energy that has become attached itself to your bad memory.

Maybe the best approach you can do now is to make sure something good comes from your bad experience, and use it to motivate you to go on to live a happy, successful fulfilling life.

Because you should never, ever allow anything or anybody to rob you of your dignity, happiness, worthiness and your right to become the very best version of you.

The most important thing for you right now, is for you to let go of your painful past and relieve some of the intense stress, pressure and emotional suffering that you're currently experiencing,. 

As well as taking good care of yourself and concentrating on relaxing and restoring your mind and body back its natural and balanced and calm state.

Because bad, negative and traumatic experiences, associated themselves with negative feelings and emotions. 

What this means is.

The moment your experience a traumatic or negative experience, it instantly becomes a bad memory which will be linked to bad feelings and unpleasant responses.

In a blink of an eye, your whole life can be turned upside down and you can be thrust into a life of emotional suffering, that you did not deserve or ask for.

Once these neural, emotional and physical pathways have been created, your emotional mind will react negatively or fearfully, everytime you are reminded of your painful past memory. both externally and internally.

But it is not just your outside trigger stimuli that is the problem.

Because of the mind body connection,  anytime you feel stressed, tense or your experiencing negative feelings and emotions. Your mind will tend to drift on to your unhappy and negative memories.

Your mind becomes terrified, anytime it detects negative, tense or stressful feelings in your body or anytime it remotely associates anything that was remotely connected to your bad experience.

Everybody handles things better and feels much better when they are grounded in the present moment and they're not thinking about or focusing on the things that cause them emotional pain.

This is why it is important for you to learn how to relax and feel good, rather than dwell on the emotional pain of your past.

Your negative neural associations and emotional patterns, that are responsible for all your stress and unpleasant feelings.

Can be changed or removed away from your bad memory and all its contextual triggers. 

But things can only be changed, if you want to do it and you firmly decide that you're determined to change and do something about your emotional suffering and reclaim back your life.

This not meant to sound harsh. But it is the only option now available, and nobody ever changes or gets better, by doing nothing.

As you know. Bad and traumatic memories, wreck and destroy lives, and they cause endless suffering which can descend people to the depths of despair and condemn them to live of hell on earth.

Once think or worse you accept that you are helpless and you cannot do nothing about your emotional pain. 

Then the chances are, you won't take the necessary action steps that are required for your full recovery and healing, and that is not in your best interests.

Action is the only door open to you and it is the only way out of your emotional pain and suffering. 

But you will be rewarded for your efforts and bravery.

Because, when you start to reduce the intensity of your emotional pain and you start to notice the positive changes and the progress you make.

Then you will begin to feel happier, more optimistic about your future and you will start to feel more emotionally calm and balanced within yourself.

Escaping from the victim mindset

After you have experienced an unpleasant situations, although you are a victim of your bad experience it is important that you don't remain a victim of your circumstances.

Because, it is very easy to start to feel sorry for yourself and develop a victim mentality. 

The problem with a victim mentality is it locks you into a mindest state of a sense and feelings of helplessness and hopelessness.

This will trick you into feeling and thinking, that everything has now changed for you and there is nothing that you can do about your situation.

And this is simply not true. It is not your fault, you endured a bad situation that you did not ask for. 

But it is your responsibility now, to let go of your past and  move forwards

Because a victim mentality trap will cause you to have the negative fixed mindset, of accepting you cannot change creating a false and damaging belief.

And that you will somehow have to put up with the suffering and live with it for the rest of your life.

The danger of that is. It can lead you to looking for unhealthy ways to try and relieve your suffering and ease your emotional pain and stress.

This can leave you wanting to shut yourself off from the rest of the world or spend your entire life trying to cope and deal with your immense and damaging stress, anxiety, grief, sadness and pain.

Instead of starting the healing process it will lead you into thinking that trying to cope and survive, is more important than what you do.

Although with practice and learning how to relax and be mindful to all the images, thoughts and external circumstances that cause you to feel bad react negatively. 

So you train yourself how react calmly to your bad memory. And accepting it is not your fault and accepting what happened, is also an important step to letting it go.

Sometimes, if you're really suffering it is best to do it with the help of a professional expert in this field.

That way, you know that there is someone who is carefully helping you and that you are doing it through effective and safe methods and it is often a much faster and better way of ending your suffering.

If you feel as if you would like, expert help.

Then there is now a natural and safe program available called Erase Bad Memories Program.

(If you do decide to give the above program a go. Please let us know how you got on, as we appreciate your feedback, for future improvements)

Everybody respond differently to their negative experiences

Emotional traumatic experiences can cause people to respond in many different ways to the events that happened to them.

You can have two people or more experience the same kind of traumatic event or upset, but the way the bad experiences goes on to affect them can be completely different.

The main difference between the ones who are not affected so much bad their bad experience and the ones who suffer greatly.

All seems to come down to. How you have come to react to your unpleasant memory, the way you have interpreted the bad experience and how you perceive and respond to the bad experience afterwards.

What this means is. 

What triggers your emotional responses and how bad your traumatic experience affects you afterwards.

Depends on the emotional intensity attached, to the sounds, thoughts, images, feelings and trigger stimuli that your brain has associated with your bad experience. 

Your brain uses these internal representations, to gauge how you respond to your bad memory and how you react, feel and behave in the future.

How much emotional pain, stress and suffering you go on to experience and how badly your memory affects you after the event.

Largely depends on whether you process the emotion and if you remove the emotional charge and external stimulations, away from your bad memory

The longer you leave it without doing something, the stronger the emotional associations become and the harder it will become to free yourself from your emotional suffering.

Bad memories and negative emotional patterns, become hard wired into your brain and your bodily system, causing you endless emotional suffering and unpleasant feelings.

This can leave you feeling frustrated, because you cannot break free of your constant feelings and emotional patterns of stress, anxiety, anger and negative thoughts, responses and feelings.

If you want to reclaim back your life and go on to live a positive and fulfilling, happy and enjoyable life, set and achieve new goals, then you first have to change your feelings and your neural pathways ands associations.

Being mindful to the thoughts and images that cause you to feel bad, is a good place to start, so you can begin to instantly start to relax yourself, before the negative momentum gathers pace.

But if, your bad memories and your emotional patterns have become hardwired into your brain and the amount of emotional intensity that has been attached to your bad experience, has become overwhelming for you. 

Then, a bit of emotional work and energy clearing may be required.

How bad memories trap you in a vicious cycle

When you first experience a trauma or bad event or situation. It, is perfectly natural to have a stressful response or a negative response to the event at the time it was happening to you.

But, it can also have a lot to do with your emotional state leading up to the event and how you felt just before and during the negative experience and how well you handled it, dealt with it or coped with it.

Your mind will become terrified and it will trigger a state of instant panic, anytime it notices stressful physical or chemical changes and responses in your body.

Such as the feelings you experience when you're feeling stressed or if your muscles are tense or stiff.

Or anytime your emotional brain detects something that it remotely associates to your bad memory in your external environment or anything that comes into your imagination, regarding your bad experience.

Your body and nervous system responds to the contents of your mind and your outside external trigger stimuli.

This is why it is really important for you, to focus on natural ways, that are going to help you relax and feel good.

Some people can quickly get over and shrug off a negative experience, whilst for others, it can make their life become a living hell.

The shift in the person's perceptions of the event and whether they process the emotion and release it can be the difference between.

Whether they move on largely unaffected or whether they live a life of emotional hell, self torture and remain a victim and prisoner of their own mind.

To further demonstrate this. Many people experience the most horrific of events or unpleasant personal experiences and come out of it with no physical harm.

But even though the bad experience is now over and they are physically safe and healthy, they then go on to suffer immense periods of stress, anxiety, sadness and bad health. 

This means the repercussions you experience afterwards, are triggered by the neural associations and pathways that have been associated with your bad memory and the way your brain is now internally representing and negatively responding to your bad memory.

If you have been suffering from prolonged periods of uncontrollable stress, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, depression or sadness.

Then the internal representations and emotional and physical responses are not helpful or necessary for you anymore and therefore they need removing and changing so you can move forwards without suffering to the ghost of your past.

Your mind can very quickly conjure up convincing illusions in your imagination, that will cause your body to believe they're real. 

Making your nervous system immediately react with stressful, fearful and negative feelings.

Each time you allow your bad experience to negatively affect you. You will make the negative neural associations and pathways stronger and more intense.

Anxiety and negative thoughts and feelings, will trap you in a circular vicious cycle.

Whether you're being affected by the thoughts, images and flashbacks in your mind or by outside stimuli, the unpleasant emotional and physical responses are equally as bad.

The important thing to remember is. If you're not having negative thoughts or you are not focused on your bad or sad experience, then you will automatically begin to feel better.

In the majority of cases, but not always. The bad physical experience happens only once. 

Either way, once your ordeal is over. This is where the biggest problem is born as the shift now transform into your internal world and your minds perceptions and representation of your bad experience.

Now, all the danger and all the stressful and negative responses occur and now exist within your own imagination and how you now perceive the event.

The intense emotional pain and suffering that occurs within your mind can be much more terrifying, unpleasant and harder to cope with, than the events and situations that happen to you in the real world.
 
Unless you reduce and remove the internal neural associations and pathways and process the emotions that have been formed within your mind and body.

You will carry on reliving your bad experience over and over in your imagination, again all the time you will be strengthening the emotional intensity, which can lead to emotional and physical suffering.

The second vital thing to understand is. If the emotional intensity is removed from your internal bad memory, then your memory will lose all its power and the bad feelings will subside and melt away.

Once you remove the strong and intense neural associations from your bad memory, you will still retain your memory, but instead of all those bad feelings, you will have feelings of inner peace and tranquility.

You cannot defeat your feelings and emotions

You can try and suppress your emotional bad memory, you can attempt to block out the unpleasant feelings, thoughts, images and emotions, or you can attempt to bury your bad memories alive. 

You can use coping tactics to try and ease your suffering, or you can remove yourself from or avoid the situation or experience that caused you, or reminds you of your trauma or bad experience.

But you cannot, run away, avoid or escape from your emotional bad memories and the feelings that are connected to them.

Once you have experienced a negative or traumatic experience, it becomes a neural emotional memory and part of your history of negative experiences.

Although you cannot escape, blockout or hide from your painful or unpleasant experiences. You can begin to reduce the energy intensity, which will allow you to begin the healing process.

If you have been the victim of a horrible or traumatic experience, it is easy to fall prey to the victim mentality.

To clear one thing up. Having a victim mentality, is not the same as being the victim of a negative or traumatic experience.

When you accept, you are a victim, it can cause you to slump deeper into a dark and sometimes terrifying place, where you may resign to the fact that there is nothing you can do. 

This can leave you feeling that life, everything and everyone are against you. This mindset can then become the norm for you.

When you remain the victim, you will hand all your power over, to your bad experience or the perpetrator.

Yes, bad, terrible and horrific things happen to many people. But, if you can accept what happened, and if you are prepared to take full responsibility for your healing, you will have taken the first step on your road to recovery.

Because, whatever happened, no matter how bad it was, is best left in the past. You are a strong and resourceful person, who is capable of overcoming, anything that life throws at you.

What shifts you from being the victim, to developing a victim mentality. 

Depends on how you react after your bad experience and how you then go on to perceive you and your situation.

And whether or not you process and release the strong emotions and feelings that have been connected to the context of your bad experience.

Most people, choose to wage war on the bad memories and the feelings and emotions, but doing this, will only lead to more suffering. 

No matter how much you suffered, you have a choice to release it and free yourself from your painful past. It may take a bit of time and effort. 

But the sooner you begin to remove the strong emotional intensity, and you start to become mindful of the onset of any negative emotional arousal or build up of stress. 

So you can learn to feel the feelings, without reacting, so you can just watch your mind and just feel the feelings and let them pass, the quicker you will begin to get better. 

Shocking statistics reveal the alarming truth

Alarmingly, the statistics suggest that more and more people are struggling to cope with, the psychological, emotional and physical symptoms caused by their bad memories and trauma.

According to the Mental Health Foundation, every year, millions of workdays are lost to to mental health issues, which include, stress, anxiety and depression.

Bad memories and trauma are the root cause most mental issues. Including chronic stress, sadness, depression, anxiety, fear, phobia's, unwanted thoughts and obsessive behaviors.

This clearly demonstrates that mental and emotional issues are the leading cause of sickness and absence from work. 

But it is not just the cost of mental health issues. The sufferer is also unnecessary going through periods of persistent, stress, anxiety, obsessive thought patterns, misery, emotional pain and depression.

If that is not bad enough to live with. Mental health disorders, and bad memories are linked to mental health issues, are responsible for low moods, loss of interest or pleasure and feelings of guilt or low self-worth.

The number of war veterans who admit they are experiencing PTSD as been estimated to have risen by 70% in the last five years.

But you do not have to be a war veteran or a member of the emergency services, to experience trauma or PTSD. Anybody who has witnessed or experienced a terrifying event, can be affected.

There are thousands of people who are feeling the victims of both physical and psychological abuse or bad relationships or a loss of a loved one.

In fact, any negative or unpleasant experience can lead to emotional issues further on down the line.

Because of the ever rise in emotional and mental issues. This also suggests that conventional  treatments are largely ineffective.

Many people are still unaware, that there are a lot of things that you can do, to release your emotional pain and suffering. And you don't have to remain a victim to your past or remain just another statistic.

The trouble is, many people just relying on coping methods, some of which are not healthy, or they try and treat the symptoms, rather than tackling the root cause of their problem.

Because there are natural ways and treatments, that can help to free you from the pain of your past and begin to start the healing process, so you can return back to your normal and peaceful life once again.

The truth is, you can hold on to your emotional or you can choose to let go of your suffering, by teaching yourself how to reduce the intensity of your feelings and emotions or by changing the way you react to your bad memory.

The reason, why most people hold onto their emotional pain, is because they try to fight with their bad memory and painful past, instead of processing the memory and letting it go.

Below are natural ways to help you target and resolve the root cause of your problem, and curing your bad memory, which are effective and you can use these inexpensive techniques to free yourself from your painful recurring memories, anxieties, stresses, sadness and worries.

Although the time for the healing process can vary from person to person. With the right approach and help, you will be surprised at how quickly you can begin to reduce the emotional intensity,

Use Natural Techniques To Ease Stress, Anxiety, Feelings Of Loss And Painful Bad Memories

If you are like many people. You may have developed the misguided concept and myth, that hypnosis messes, with your mind, or you will somehow, lose control, under hypnosis.

The real truth is. The only thing that messes with your mind, and unbalances your body, is your bad memory. 

Hypnosis, is nothing more than, being in a deeply relaxed state, of which you will be in full control all of the time.

Hypnosis has been around for centuries, and it is still widely used today. The reason for this is because, it works.

By reprogramming these traumatic memories, the hypnotherapist helps you, to interpret the events in different ways, as well as replacing the negative emotions and physical responses with calm and neutral feelings.

Self hypnosis for removing bad memories, shock and trauma, is not a new concept.

It was first used during World War 1, by the German military. 

Because the Germans had come to realize that they could use the power of hypnosis, to help treat the victims who were suffering from shell shock and post traumatic stress disorder.

The hypnosis was so successful. That the soldiers, who would normally be unfit to function effectively after their post traumatic shock and stress. 

We're amazingly, able to forget and let go of their shock and trauma, and return straight back to the battle grounds.

So self hypnosis is perfectly safe and natural, and it has been proven to be effective to treat bad memories and traumatic experiences.

The big advantages and benefits of self hypnosis are 
  • It can help relax you and restore a sense of balance and calm 
  • It can reduce the intensity of your strong feelings and emotions 
  • It will help you sleep better 
  • It can give you the relief you have been looking for 
  • It can remove you out of your negative state and return you back to your calm natural state
Americas most popular hypnotherapist and biggest name in this field. Steve G Jones, has put together a remove bad memories audio program.

Steve claims that his, erase bad memory, 4 module program.

Is his most powerful hypnosis session, he has made to date, so you can be sure that you're receiving the help of one of the world's leading experts in this field.  

Each time you listen to the remove bad memory hypnosis session, you should progressively reduce the emotional intensity and attachment away from your traumatic experience. 

Over the years, there have been many scientific studies which have analyzed the benefits of hypnosis.

These studies have revealed that it is one of the best alternative treatment for many ailments, including fears, phobia's, letting go of your past and trauma's.

The reason why more and more people are using self hypnosis is because, it is one of the fastest ways to get life changing results.

If you follow this program for three weeks, then hopefully, you will experience for yourself, how easy and effective, self hypnosis is.

It uses specially formatted and skilled techniques, that work by instructing your subconscious mind to forget what the conscious mind would love to let go of. 

There are no miracle cures or magic pills, but self hypnosis, is possibly the closest thing that you will get to one.

The self hypnosis program. Removes Bad Memories is designed to help you erase your bad memory, in as little as three weeks.

If at any time, your bad memories should start to creep back into consciousness, then you can just replay the program to have a top up, as and when you feel it is needed.

Emotional freedom techniques to tap away your emotional pain, fears and anxiety

If hypnosis is not your thing, or you're interested in trying something else, which is natural and safe.

Then there is another natural technique and solution, called. Emotional Freedom Technique.

Emotional Freedom Techniques. Does exactly what it says it does, it free's you from all your emotional pain and suffering.

This simple and easy to learn technique, is a method that you can use, to tap away your, 
  • Emotional blocks
  • Psychological issues
  • Reduce anxiety 
  • Eliminates Phobia's
  • Eliminate Anger 
  • Overcome depression 
  • Let go of, and heal the past 
  • And much more
The technique, involves. Tapping a sequence of meridian points around your body, whilst repeating certain set of, releasing statements, which are followed up by, self empowering statements and phrases. 

EFT has already brought, positive and life changing benefits and emotional relief, for thousands and thousands of people, around the world.

EFT, has been classed as the "Psychological form of acupuncture". And it has been proven, to bring to the surface and release, stubborn and long held, negative emotions and blocks.

EFT can help you to experience and find emotional relief, taking you from a place of inner pain and conflict.

This simple but highly effective technique, achieves this, by allowing you to release all your emotional blocks. 

By removing the intensity of your strong negative feelings and emotions, as well as, giving you a more objective and calmer observation of your bad experience.

EFT, works by allowing you to play back, painful events and memories in your mind, allowing you to watch and observe them, from the prospective of an outside observer, whilst at the same time, EFT will help to reduce and ease your suffering.

EFT, won't erase your memories. 

What it will do is, it will allow you to think about your memory, if you want to. Without bringing about all those intense and strong emotions and the resulting mental and physical illnesses, and unpleasant symptoms.

Now, if you have been abused or experienced a traumatic experience. You, probably, won't want, to recall the memory and images.

But, for anybody, who has lost a loved one. 

They still, might not want to block their memories of their loved ones out, but equally, they won't want to endure, all the sadness, grief and emotional pain. 

Some may, still want to think about them, and EFT, will allow you to still think about your loved ones, in a new positive way, without suffering all the immense pain and sadness.

Either way, when you remove all your strong and intense feelings and emotions away from your bad memory, the memory will no longer be able to cause you so much emotional pain. 

You will be free, to choose whether you want to think about them without enduring the pain, or whether you just want allow to let them go and fade away out of your conscious awareness.

Breaking free, from the pain and emotional turmoil of your past

Every negative thought that you have that is related to your bad memory, will have a neural pathway that is connected to a specific emotional and physical response.

Each time you then have that type of negative thought again, you will re-enforce the neural pathway, which will make the emotional and physical responses stronger and more dominant.

When those sounds and images are flashed in your mind or when you have those negative thoughts, they change your whole physiology and how you feel. 

Which can negatively affect and influence your action, thought processes, behaviors, and how you feel.

How you feel matters.

Your feelings and emotions, will either, make you weak, cause you immense pain and suffering or they will leave you feeling happy, relaxed and confident. 

Depending, on what type of feelings, you're feeling. 

Everybody is either in a positive or negative state. Ideally, you want to shift out of your negative state and mindset, and into a sense of calm feelings and a quiet and still mind.

Because, a good life, good health and well-being, are all found and all exist, in the positive and good feeling range of emotions.

Negative emotions, will disempower you, they feel unpleasant, and they evoke feelings of stress, anger, and sadness. 

Those stressful and negative feelings, will negatively affect you in many unhealthy ways. 

Negative thoughts, feelings and emotions, will limit you enormously. They will drain all your energy, as well as causing you inner conflict, emotional stress, suffering and tension, and sensations of fear.

Whilst positive and calm feelings, will empower you, and they will make you feel great, energized and alive.

Everybody wants to let go of, and move away from those unpleasant feelings, and everybody wants to have, more of those good feeling emotions.

However, when you hold on to your bad memories and you continue to live your life in the emotions of your traumatic experience, you will also hold onto those bad feelings and hurtful emotions.

We all think in images, thoughts and sounds and we all respond with feelings and emotions, to both our external stimuli and our internal stimuli.

Because of the emotional attachment and neural connection, which have been connected to your bad experience.

You can continue to feel bad, from something that happened, in your past.

The bad feelings and emotional responses, that have become attached to your bad memory can be activated from within or from the outside. 

But they can only be activated, if they remain attached to your bad memory. When you remove the strong emotional responses and neural associations.

You will neutralize your bad memory, take away all its power and without the emotional and physical attachment. 

Your bad memory will then lose its dominant energy and it will turn into a distant memory, that no longer bothers you or hurts you anymore.

Change your feelings, change your life

Even though, you are probably trying to do your very best, to try and carry on with your usual day to day task, work, chores and leisure activities.

Trying to handle all the stress, negativity and the emotional baggage can make it virtually impossible for you to unwind, relax and live a normal and happy life.

At the end of yet another stressful or upsetting day.

You probably find yourself having to carry the same old tiring vivid and negative thoughts, sounds and imagery, flashing and echoing within your head, as if you're still living, the painful situation for real. 

This stress, fear and negative provoking thoughts, feelings and responses, will continue to disturb your sleep patterns. 

And if you go to bed carrying the emotional baggage of your bad memory, you may awake, with the same old destructive thought patterns and responses, setting you up, for yet another day of emotional suffering and stress.

In the case of fear and anxiety. It is the strong emotions, that drive your negative thought processes and all the sounds and images that flood your mind.

This means that it is the emotion, comes before the thoughts and images in your mind. This is an inbuilt safety and survival mechanism, that acts at lightening fast speeds.

This is why it is easier to change the feelings, then it is to try and change or suppress the repetitive and intrusive thoughts.

In evolutionary terms, if you were faced with a wild, ferocious tiger, whose intentions were to kill you and eat you, thinking positive or happy thoughts, would be of little use.

Therefore, to end your stress and anxiety, you need to change the emotions and feelings, rather than the thoughts and images.

If left unchanged, these destructive patterns and cycle of stress, negative thoughts and feelings, will keep on repeating itself, day after day, year after year.

This mostly happens, because you, have not processed, removed and removed the emotion, that has been attached to your bad experience or reduced the emotional intensity.

So instead of removing the emotional attachment and processing the emotion.

You allow the stress and negative feelings to build, accumulate and gather momentum each day, which keeps you stuck, in a negative, fearful and stressful state, which becomes your norm.

A bad memory will collapse in on itself and fade into the background of your conscious awareness, if you remove the emotional attachment away from the memory and all its trigger stimuli.

This can be achieved by rewiring our bad memory's neural pathways, reprogramming our brains and removing the emotional attachment.

How bad memories change your physiology

These types of bad or traumatic experiences, cause emotional stress and tension in your body.

And when they occur, they can change your whole physiology, and keep you stuck in a stressful and fearful state.

What makes matters worse is, because of the mind and body connection. You bad memory and all its triggers, will cause you emotional stress and tension in your body.

And, stress and tension in your body, will cause you more anxiety in your mind. This can keep you stuck in a never ending cycle, of more stress, tension and anxiety.

To sum it up. Your mind affects your body, and your body affects your mindset. 

Your emotional part of your brain, is always trying to make sense of the feelings and sensations in your body and any external triggers. It uses these as feedback.

Any time you're reminded of your bad experience and anything to do with the context of the memory or at times, when you're feeling stressed or tense. 

Your emotional brain, will interpret these signals and information as feedback, both from your body or your environment and it presumes, something bad is about to happen.

This can cause more confusion in your mind and more of those fight or flight responses and more anxious thoughts.

To put an end to all this. You need to release the strong emotional associations away from your bad memory, as well as working on reducing your stress and tension.

Humans are very resilient and resourceful, capable of overcoming the most, horrific, sad and negative experiences.

What we struggle to cope with is. Our thoughts, feelings and emotions, which, when they get out of control, they can cause us more misery, pain and suffering, in the long term. 

Than any physical negative experience can.

Other emotions that are associated, with bad memories are, feelings of loss, shame, guilt, grief, anger and sadness.

The more attention and significance we give to our bad experience. The more emotion we attach to it, and the more emotion we attach to it, the more our mind will keep on returning to it.

Most people just want to forget and let go of their bad or upsetting experiences, but because of the strong and powerful emotional associations, are brains won't let us forget. 

Because of all the emotional energy attachment and significance. Your emotional mind, will keep you focused on, the very thing, that you want to forget about the most.

How unresolved memories can lead to other problems?

Unresolved trauma and bad memories, can then lead to many other negative, stressful and anxiety related issues, obsessive behaviors and in some cases, depression.

Because, when you have been stuck in a prolonged state of anxiety, negativity or stress, which for some people can be on an almost daily basis. 

Then all the constant and toxic releases of adrenaline into your body and the bad feeling emotions, can leave you, feelings burned out, depressed and exhausted.

When this happens, feelings of hopelessness and pessimism can become your dominant emotional and physical state.

Why you probably feel so bad is because?

Your bad or traumatic memory has become so dominant, that it is causing your body to release the stress hormones.

Cortisol and adrenaline into your body, which is keeping you stuck in a negative and stressful state.

If this is happening on a regular occurrence, then your body, never has a chance to return back to its natural calm and resting state.

What this means is. 

You emotional and physical state of being, gets set and stuck at, high levels of stress, sadness and anxiety.

With you having, to contend with this each day, then it is no wonder you feel so down and defeated.

Eventually, if you allow your memory to remain active and unresolved, all the negative, stressful hormones feelings and emotions.

Can throw your whole system out of balance, which can trigger feelings of depression and hopelessness.

This is because your body is constantly being pumped with the stress and anxiety triggering hormones. 

All the bombardment of stress and negative feelings.

Will prevent, the release of your natural feel good endorphins. Preventing you from experience the feel good emotions. 

This constant state of stress and negativity, can leave you feeling exhausted and defeated.

Turning hopelessness into hope

When people feel as if, there is no obvious way out or escape.

Then this is when the feelings of hopelessness kicks in, and when you feel helpless, you shift into the victim mode and mentality.

Thoughts and feelings of hopelessness, will hold you a prisoner of your past and rob you of your power. 

It is only when we feel that we have no control over our feelings, mind and emotions. That we sink into a sense of, there is no hope and it is something that we have got to put up with for the rest of our lives.

When you lose control over your feelings and emotions, it can make you feel helpless.

Now, you may be a victim of your bad circumstances and events, and unfortunately, the past cannot be changed.

But, you don't have to remain a victim, for something that was not your fault.

(If you were, the perpetrator, for someone else's pain, although, you need to learn from what you did wrong, you still need to release your pain and torment).

Because, what can be changed, is your, now and your future.

Because, no matter, how bad or helpless, you may feel right now.

There is hope.

But, first, you must remember that, your memories have a reason. 

They are designed to help protect you and remind you, not to make the same painful mistakes again.

What this means is. You're not meant to be able to delete them from your mind. 

But bad memories, should only come into play. If there is a genuine chance, that you are put in the same situation again.

In most cases, this is highly unlikely to happen again and if ever it does, you logic should be enough to guide you.

Therefore, even though your bad memories are kept and stored, for a specific reason.

So your mind can protect you and gauge how you should handle, react or avoid future similar types of situations.

You don't need, nor do you have to put up with, all the emotional responses, bad feelings, stress and constant reminders from your overactive and overprotective mind.

Because even though you're meant to keep your memories.

They are not meant to hold you stuck in painful the emotions of your past, and you don't need all the unnecessary strong emotional responses.

Because, you are not meant to carry the burden of pain, for something that happened to you in the past, for the rest of your life.

The only difference, between living a normal and happy life, and carrying on suffering is. 

Whether you change the way you react to your memory or whether you remove the emotional charge and emotional response, away from your bad memory.

The easiest way, is to remove the emotional response away from your bad memory.

If you don't remove the strong emotional responses and associations away from your bad memory. 

They will still be there, tomorrow and the next day. 

All negative experiences can create a bad memory

There are all sorts of people are trying to get over their bad memories and feelings of trauma. 

There are many different types of bad memories.

Some people have been traumatized by war, some people have been abused, some have been traumatized by witnessing horrific events.

Others have been stuck in bad and violent relationships, and some people even have social trauma's.

Virtually, any negative experience, can give you a bad memory, which can then change the course of your life and how you think, feel and behave.

Trauma, has no boundaries and the reality is, bad things happen, too decent and good people.

Experiencing something bad once, is bad enough, but, having to relive the fear and hurt, over and over again, is not doing you any good at all.

The big problem with bad memories is. Everytime you relive your bad memory, the fear and negative feelings, become more intense. 

The more you return to your bad memory, in any capacity, the more you will reinforce the strong and unpleasant, feelings, fear and stressful responses.

To make matters worse. 

When a bad memory is tagged with strong emotions, your mind will keep on returning to it.

If you have at times experienced a bit of temporary relief from all the discomfort that your bad experience, is inflicting on you, then you know, how blissful it feels, even if it is only short lived.

The more often, you get stuck in the negative feelings of your painful past, the less time you will have, to experience those happy and peaceful feelings and emotions.

Your well-being, health and happiness, are also at stake here.

They are the most important and precious thing that you have, and you must not allow anything or anyone, to steal them from you.

Therefore, if you're being tormented by your bad memory, it is important for you, to learn how, to let it go, so you can, once again enjoy your life, feel good and plan for a better future.

Getting over a bad memory, is all about, learning how to teach your mind to let your bad memory go, so you can put it in the past, where it truly belongs now.

All suffering, is meant to pass, but your memory will remain active, if you resist it and hang on to it.

Bad memories are a bit like the old records, that used to get stuck in the grove. 

Where the record would get stuck in the same place and it would then just repeat themselves over and over again. 

Until you would have enough and you would get up and move the record forwards to stop all the irritation and stress.

The same scenario applies to your mind, bad memories and emotions. People get stuck in a kind of catch 22 situation and vicious cycle that keeps on, repeating itself over and over again. 

Bad memories are one of the hardest things that you will ever have to live with, and they can interfere and affect almost everything that you do.

Life can be tough and even unbearable, when you're still carrying the scars and burden of something bad that happened to you in your past.

How you're living your life now, how you think, feel, react and behave can all be negatively influenced by, negative events and personal circumstances, that happened to you in your past.

Your mind only deals with emotions and associations

You can create a bad intense memory instantly, but you can also remove the high intensity, responses and feelings, quite quickly.

Evolution has designed our physical and emotional responses to help keep us safe and prevent us from getting hurt again.

You cannot simply wipe out or override this mechanism, no matter how hard you try. 

Once a bad or traumatic experience, becomes hard wired into your emotional memory bank, it cannot undo or correct, itself.

Your emotional brain and inner safety mechanism, only deals with feelings, pattern recognition, neural associations and physical responses.

Because, this part of your brain is subconsciously controlled, it does not respond to logic or reasoning.

Therefore, no amount of pleading or screaming, at your mind to let go of your pain, will do any good, your mind responds to feeling, this means, to free yourself, you need to change or remove the feelings. 

Because, the only way to prevent your negative experiences from causing you further emotional pain and suffering, is to rewire your brain and remove the associated, strong emotions and your unpleasant physical reactions.

Each bad memory has an emotional energy charge tagged to it. 

Everytime, you think, imagine or you're reminded of your negative experience, it will trigger the emotional charge.

What many people are not aware of, are. The strong emotions and charge, occur before the thoughts, sounds and images. 

The emotional charge, then changes your physiology and mental state. 

Once one thought or image comes into your mind, it activates more unpleasant feelings, and this process, then keeps on repeating itself, causing more stress, which puts a strain on your whole system.

All the stress, anxiety and negative emotions, can also delete your body of the essential nutrients that it needs, which can lead to more emotional and health related issues.

The danger, problem or hurt now exists within your mind

If you are struggling to cope with the negative effects of your bad memory, then you know how confusing, upsetting, and soul destroying they can be.

It can feel as if you're being tortured and tormented by something that happened to you in the past, that was not your fault and not in your control.

You may ask yourself the question

Why am I suffering now, from something that happened to me in the past, why is my brain and body, making me feel so bad, why am I allowing my past to ruin my ability to live a normal and happy life?

To try and answer some of those questions. Even though it may feel like it, your brain is not working against you, it is trying to protect you.

The part of your brain that deals with emotions, memories was designed to protect you and keep you safe.

It is your brain's primary job is to move you away from pain and to assist you to seek out pleasure.

Within your brains there is a powerful mechanism that wants you to avoid any form of pain and loves you to feel good and enjoy the things that makes you happy.

This mechanism will release happy chemicals in our brain and good feeling emotions in our body, everytime we experience something that we like or enjoy.

Even the thought of good news or doing something we love, will trigger these good feeling emotions.

There is a negative flip side to this. 

Everytime we experience or we know we are about to experience, something that we don't like or something we know might cause us emotional or physical pain.

Stressful hormones and chemicals are released, which trigger bad feelings or our fight or flight response. Again, even the thought of something bad, can trigger these unpleasant responses.

With the case of bad memories.

Your emotional brain is still quite primitive in evolutionary terms, and it will carry on trying to help you to avoid pain, including emotional pain, even long after your bad experience is over.

This can be helpful if there is a chance that you might have to experience the same type of situation again.

But it can be a disaster, if your bad experience is over and you just want to move on and live a happy and enjoyable life.

The reason why, your emotional brain operates like this to help stop you from experiencing further suffering or pain.

Your emotional brain has strong emotions at its disposal and it uses negative emotions such as fear, anxiety or sadness, which is followed by unpleasant physical and stressful responses and feelings. 

The reason why it uses these powerful emotions is to try and grab your attention or push you into taking preventive action against the perceived danger.

The problem you have now is. 

The danger now only exists within your mind and not your outside reality, there is now, nothing to fight, run away from, avoid or anything that can physically hurt you.

Your real problem now is the emotion that is being activated by your bad memory, which triggers all the unwanted thoughts and stressful and unpleasant feelings.

What this means is, it is the thoughts, feelings and emotions that have become the new threat that needs defeating or avoiding, more so than your actual bad experience.

Humans are very resourceful when it comes to dealing with real life bad situations. But we are not very good at learning how to manage our thoughts, feelings and emotions, after the trauma or negative situation is over

Because your brain only deals with and responds to feeling and emotions, you simply cannot reason with it, think it away or tell it to stop reacting with unpleasant feelings and thoughts.

No matter how hard you try, your brain will keep activating these unpleasant responses because it thinks it is necessary to make sure you don't have to go through the same bad experience again

Once a bad memory and negative feeling association has been formed, they will remain active until you disassociate the negative emotional attachment away from your bad memory.

You sometimes, have no control over what happens to you in the physical world, but you do have control over how you react on the inside.

Give up the fight to end your emotional suffering

After a while it is not just the bad experience that people struggle to come to terms. Many people struggle with the feelings of anxiety.

This becomes a secondary problem and the anxiety and unpleasant feelings can cause them more trouble that the actual experience itself.

When high levels of anxiety strike most people just want to stop their anxious thoughts and feelings. 

The trouble is, the more you fight with and the more you don't want to feel anxious, the opposite happens and you will feel more anxious.

You have not got to fight with, do anything, resist or attempt to get rid of your feelings. 

Instead, accept them, feel them and let the emotion travel up through you and away.

There is no need to do anything other than, embrace the feelings and allow them to flow through you and away.

After a while, it is not so much, your bad experience that is your problem, it is all the unpleasant feelings and emotions that you don't like.

When you try to deal or fight with your bad memory and negative feelings. Your subconscious mind will pick up on this class it as emotionally important and significant.

When your mind detects that you have a problem, because your mind has evolved to help you solve or avoid problems.

Your mind will visit the bad memory more and it will keep you focused on your problem until it is resolved or it is classified as insignificant and no longer a problem.

When a solution is not immediately forthcoming, then this will keep you stuck in the negative energy of your problem, triggering a self perpetuating cycle of more negative thoughts, feelings and responses.

Once a bad memory and the feelings created and been ingrained within your mind and your body's system. 

Those gruesome or upsetting images, can seem to be lodged and stuck in your mind, along with all the unpleasant feelings and emotions.

Because you don't like the unpleasant thoughts, images, feelings and responses. It is natural to want to stop them or get rid of them.

Not only will this prolong your suffering and pain, it will constantly bring back all the hurt. 

The trouble is. The more you try to resist or fight your feelings, the stronger and more prolonged they will become.

Most people try to deal with, defeat or get rid of their unpleasant feelings and emotions. But this just, causes an inner conflict within your mind and body.

As far as feelings and emotions go. When you try and fight or defeat your mind and feelings, you will start an internal war, which you will lose.

You simply, cannot defeat your bad memories and negative feelings. If you try, it is a battle that you cannot win, and will leave you feeling defeated every time.

When a wild animal is in its natural environment and a predator approaches. The animals fight or flight response will be triggered, so the animal can bolt away to safety.

Once the animal is safe again. It will forget about the bad experience and it will return back to its calm state and carry on doing what it was doing.

The animal does not think about the bad experience or try to deal with it or dwell on it, and it doesn't spend all its time feeling anxious or stressed. 

For humans, however. They think they have to deal with their feelings, explain the reason why they have them or they try to fight them or defeat them. 

Like the animals, we have unpleasant and bad experiences and feelings of discomfort. 

But the humans, cannot accept them and let them go, so they get stuck in a continuous negative and fearful state. 

Eventually, their negative and fearful feelings get out of control. When this happens, and you have had a whole lot of negative emotions going on for quite some time.

A bit of emotional work and energy releasing might be required, to help you to separate the emotional attachment and hurtful feelings away from your bad memory.

You cannot defeat, fight, think or force your feelings to stop, but you can learn to change the way you react to your bad memory.

This is where a bit of mindfulness comes into play.

Because, when you're having those stressful and fearful thoughts and feelings. If you want to quickly stop all the emotional arousal, anxiety and stress.

Instead of, trying to block them out or stop them. Give your mind permission to carry on thinking them, allow them to carry on, without reacting, in any way.

This may sound strange, but it stops all the stress, anxiety and emotional momentum.

One of the reasons why it takes some people so long to overcome their bad memory or trauma, is because they try and fight with, or resist their mind, feelings and emotions.

There are two types of bad memories
  1. A traumatic, unpleasant or negative emotional experience that has happened to you
  2. A horrific or traumatic experience, that you have seen or witnessed
All bad memories have a negative knock on effect

Once a bad memory has been wired into your mind and body system. 

Each time you think about your bad memory, or you're reminded of it or anything that is similar to the context of your bad experience. 

The strong energy charge and neural connections that has now become attached to your bad experience will remain within the system of your body, until it is released.

Each bad memory has its own powerful energy charge and set of triggers. Once the energy charge is activated, it triggers a series of emotional and stressful physical changes in your body.

Your mind works through, learned behaviors, associations and patterns. 

The strong negative energy, attaches itself to your bad memory, and it will remain attached, doing all its damage, until the energy is separated from your bad memory.

What makes things worse for you is. The more you fire up these strong feelings, emotions and physical responses, the more you will strengthen them and make them stronger and more intense.

There are many different forms of bad memories, but they all have a negative emotion attached to them.

Some of the emotions a bad memory can trigger are
  • Fear 
  • Stress 
  • Anxiety 
  • Worry and intrusive thoughts 
  • Anger 
  • Guilt 
  • Sadness 
  • Grief
It is not just the victim that can suffer prolonged negative emotions and stress. Sometimes the perpetrator can also suffer feelings of remorse or guilt.

Bad memories can keep you stuck in survival mode and a state of fear and stress, making you feel unsafe in what is a safe environment.

If your bad memory is causing you stress and anxiety, this will activate your fight or flight response, which is designed to give you a big boost of energy to get you moving or to allow you to defend yourself.

The trouble is, you simply cannot run away from or fight your bad memory. So all the toxic stress hormones and chemicals, remain within your body.

What most people who are suffering from a bad memory, do not realize is. Without knowing it, they have been practicing, making their stress, anxiety, fear, anger, sadness more intense, more powerful and more frequent.

The real important thing to understand is. You become better at what you practice doing and what you do repeatedly. And this applies to both positive and negative situations and things.

What this means. When you focus on your bad memory, you react badly to it or you try and deal with it or get rid of it.

You will be practicing making your bad feelings, stressful responses, neural connections and negative associations stronger. 

This will trigger more unwanted thoughts and negative feelings and emotions. Soon you can get trapped in a vicious and self perpetuating cycle. 

Most people try to resist their thoughts and feelings or try and wrestle with their problem to the ground, but what you resist, you hold onto and make it stronger. 

What scientists and many self help therapists have learned, what can be learned, can be unlearned. 

The scientists, now know that your brain has the capacity to change the neural connections and association.

This is wonderful news, for all those suffering at the hands of a bad memory. Because now, you can undo all your negative and stressful responses, connections and associations. 

Although your brain is capable of change, it does not have the ability to change by itself.

Nearly everybody is suffering from a bad memory

Traumatic and negative experiences, affects most people at some point in their lives. Some can suffer minor discomfort and disruption. 

But for others, there bad experience can diminish their whole quality of their lives.

There are many situations that can cause Post Traumatic Stress or negative emotional pain.

Such as war, witnessing a traumatic event or accident, loss of a loved one, relationship breakup, domestic or sexual abuse, bullying, bad childhood experiences and social embarrassment. To name a few.

Bad memories can be responsible for a wide range of feelings and emotions, depending on your personal experiences.

Many people are not even aware of the fact, that their bad experiences are affecting their happiness now.

Once you have had a negative or a traumatic experience, you can be affected by both outside and inside triggers.

All the research into stress, suggest, that stress ad negative emotions are much more harmful than you might have thought and it is toxic to your mind and body.

Prolonged periods of uncontrolled stress and anxiety, can age and damage your body, both on the inside and the outside, if left untreated.

It is now well known, that stress is responsible for many serious health and sometimes potentially life threatening illnesses, not to mention the negative impact that it can have on the quality of your life.

The long term effects of emotional trauma, can have a devastating effect on you, mentally, emotionally and physically.

Once a bad or traumatic memory has been engrained in your mind, it will have a strong negative emotional and physical charge attached to it.

When these connections have been made, you simply cannot escape from them as they will follow you everywhere you go. If you try and fight with them, they will defeat you every single time.

American Psychological Association, describes emotional trauma as

"The emotional response to an extremely negative event"

The negative event can be a major traumatic experience, but this is not always the case, and you can suffer with years of emotional trauma, from just about, virtually any negative experience.

The first reactions to a negative or traumatic event are usually, the release of adrenaline, a racing pulse, shallow or rapid breathing, confusion, freezing, numbness, disorientation, all of which are part of our fight or flight response.

This is a normal response to a negative situation, and normally, after a while, you would move on and you would return back to your natural state.

However, for many, the effects of the upsetting or negative event, can linger on, long after the event is over, and this is where the problems begin.

Some of the negative effects of emotional trauma

  • Random recurrences of stressful or painful memories 
  • Wanting to avoid any reminders of your bad experience, such as people, places, triggers and situations
  • Chronic uncontrollable stress
  • Anxiety, anger, frustration, irritability, depression 
  • Panic attacks
  • OCD thoughts and behaviors
  • Mood swings
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Nightmares and flashbacks 
  • Stuck in survival mode 
  • Guilt and self blame 
  • Feelings of distress and hopelessness 
  • Negative outlook 
  • Isolation, withdrawing from society 
  • Low self esteem and self worth
If you are suffering with PTSD or you are feeling the pain and symptoms of your bad experience, and you have not yet healed your emotional wounds or processed and released the emotion from your negative experience. 

Then you will run the risk of experiencing chronic stress, emotional trauma and the possibility of physical illnesses.

The real problem begins, when you start to accept your trauma, stress, fear and emotional pain as being a normal part of your life and something that you cannot do anything about.

Emotional trauma and chronic stress, is not normal and your body cannot cope with prolonged periods of stress and anxiety, and sooner or later it will manifest as unpleasant physical symptom in your body.

Stress shuts down your digestive system, ages your body, keeps you stuck in a heightened state of alertness to danger and a tunnel focus of attention and it is estimated that it is responsible for About 80 to 85% of all human diseases.

As your body tries to struggle with all the physical symptoms of stress, your immune system will weaken down, and because your body cannot cope with all the stress. 

This is when you will start getting physical symptoms, illnesses, tension and tension headaches and high levels of anxiety.

Remove the emotional pain, not the bad memory

The latest scientific research suggests, that memories aren't permanent as what was once thought.

But can you and should you try to get rid of your bad memories? 

Memories both good and bad are meant to be permanent and there is a good valid reason for that, as they serve us of valuable data, so we can avoid repeating the same mistakes or failures. 

The most important aspect that might be being overlooked here is, it is not actually your memories that is now really hurting you.

The big problem lies with all the meaning they have for you, and the strong feelings, neural connection, responses and emotions that have been formed straight after your bad experience.

So although our memories are permanent, all the strong feelings, emotions and connections, certainly don't have to be permanent and they certainly can be and should be changed.

And, when, you break the connections and you take away the feelings and emotions, your bad memories will then become rendered as inactive and emotionally insignificant.

Your emotional part of your brain responds to the emotional significance of your bad experience.

iWhat this means is, if your bad memory is still classified as being emotionally significant, then your brain will keep on returning to it and it will carry on responding stressfully to all your memories trigger connections.

Removing all your bad memories, feelings and connections is a bit like having a firework, without a fuse, it becomes totally inactive and devoid of the energy charge that ignites and powers it. 

Many people in their search for inner peace, attempt to try and suppress their memory, unwanted feelings and emotions.

However, that It is like burying the still active memory and emotions alive deep inside your system, and when you do that.

Your bad experience will then become a part of your whole mind and body system, and it will remain there causing you constant stress and emotional pain, until the neural connections and emotional associations have been separated from your bad memory.

So, instead of letting go of your emotional pain and classifying it in the past tense, so you can move on and get back to a normal life.

What will happen is, your memory will stay alive and active, as if it is still happening in the present tense, keeping you imprisoned in, and forever reacting to the context of the whole disturbing and upsetting event.

What is a bad memory?

Your brain records all the context of your bad experience, and all the feelings and emotions, that you experienced at the time

Therefore, immediately as you experience or witness a negative, traumatic, scary or upsetting experience. 

Your senses take in all the context of your surroundings and sends it directly to your brain, and use them for future reference.

What this means is. 

Let's say for example, if there were sirens or gunfire going on, or smoke and fire, during your bad experience.

Your brain would then store the data for future reference, and your brain would attach these sounds to your fight or flight response mechanism.

These are known as neural associations and pattern recognition and they will become your trigger memories.

Any time, then, you are walking down a street, and you hear a siren or loud bang, or you come across a fire, your emotional brain.

The part of your brain that protects you and keeps you safe.

Will automatically recognize these triggers as being similar to what happened during your bad experience and it will automatically link them to, you're about to face a dangerous situation again. 

Because this part of your mind does not deal with logic or reasoning, only patterns, associations, feelings and responses, it will involuntarily activate your fight or flight response.

Your brain cannot distinguish between what happened during the time of your bad or traumatic  experience and a normal everyday event, even though it has no relevance to you. 

When a person who has not had a bad experience hears a siren going off or they hear a sudden loud bang, they might be startled for a few brief seconds, but because they have not connected their fight or flight to the noise or images, they will quickly return back to a state of calm.

However, in the case of the person who has experienced a traumatic event, because their brain has learned to associate danger with the sound of a siren, things unfold completely differently.

When your senses send data to your brain and it finds a negative emotional pattern recognition and an association with danger, your mind will flood the body full of adrenaline and your fight or flight response will go off, time and time again, even in the absence of any real danger or threats.

These are just two typical examples, anything that occurred during the time of your bad memory will become stored and filed as a neural association and pattern recognition.

All bad memories have an active energy charge

Your bad memories, then become, active mental programs, that will run in your subconscious mind.

Your amygdala's, which are two tiny organs within your brain which are in charge of all your emotional memories and responses, will then classify your bad experience as emotionally significant.

Your amygdala's and your emotional part of your brain will then store and use this data for future reference to gauge how you should react in the future. 

To warn you and make sure you don't have to endure the same bad experience or a similar type of experience again.

Shortly after your bad experience, your brain will soon start to create and build a series of neural networks and connection, to what happened in the context of your bad experience and the emotions you experienced.

Everytime then, you react badly to your bad memory, you try to resist it or you try to fight with it, these neural connections and emotional connections become stronger.

All trauma's, fears or phobia's are a learned experience, but you might not have known, that they can all be unlearned.

Once these neural connections and learned behaviors are formed, they become hardwired into your brain and your physiology.

It was once thought, that these neural associations, which are responsible for all your stress, anxiety and negative feelings, when set, could not be changed and it was something that you would just have to live with.

But now some scientists have now confirmed what some of the leading experts in natural therapy techniques have been telling us for years, that your brain has the ability to change and many people have successfully already used these natural techniques, for recovery from life long trauma's and fears.

Recent research in the study of neuroplasticity has proven that our brains are genetically hardwired to change, heal and rewire itself. 

Therefore, it is now possible to change all those fears, negative emotions and stressful responses that have been connected to your traumas and bad memory.

Your brain works by learning to connect negative emotions and stressful responses to your external experiences and environmental triggers.

When these neural connections get fired off, they send messages to your brain which then activates your nervous system which triggers all the stressful and negative responses and the chemical changes in your body.

Once these connections are set, they will become part of your neural structure and physical makeup, and they will continue to cause you all that painful PTSD and negative feelings.

The good news is, the scientist are now telling us, that these neural structures and stressful and fearful associations and responses, can be changed.

You have the ability to rewire your brain and heal your past wounds, so your brain does not keep firing of your fight or flight response and negative emotions.

Your brain has the capacity to remove the old negative and stressful responses and connections, and once your brain has been reprogrammed, it will send new messages to your brain, so it no longer responds, with all that damaging stress and the unpleasant feelings and reactions.

At the moment your brain and body is reacting negatively to your bad or traumatic experience, but when you change the feelings of your bad experience, your body will no longer react in the old stressful and unpleasant ways.

Your original trauma altered your brain and created new and instant negative associations and neural connections. 

To reverse this, and it can be undone, you will need to again, change your brain and how it has come to respond to your bad experience.

The turning point and problem, was your bad experience, but it is now possible to alter the connections to your bad memory and experience, all you have to do is to change your experience within.

Many people still think that once you have become broken, you cannot be fixed, however, this is certainly not true, and with the right techniques, you can rewire and fix your broken brain.

As everybody's brain and body works exactly the same way, this means that everybody can heal and recover from their PTSD or their bad memory.

At the moment, you are probably feeling a bit uncomfortable, because you probably have little hope or optimism.

But, there is hope and there are natural solutions, with that in mind, it is far better to feel uncomfortable and hopeful than it is, to carry on feeling uncomfortable, pessimistic, fearful or sad.

And you can begin to feel hopeful and optimistic, because you have an inbuilt ability to change your feelings and responses that are at the moment, attached to your bad experience.

The thing with neuroplacicity and changing your brain's responses to your bad experience is, your brain cannot simply rewire itself, and even though it has the capacity to change.

Why trying to suppress your emotions, will make you feel worse?

The biggest mistake you can make when trying to overcome their bad memory is, they try and fight with their bad memory, thoughts and feelings which just prolongs their problem and delays the cure.

It is perfectly normal to feel negative emotions and feelings of discomfort, after you have experienced a sad or traumatic event.

If you have had a bad experience, then it is naturally going to knock you back for a bit.

However, for some, their intrusive thoughts, sadness, stress and anxiety can get out of control, if you have reached this point, then you need to accept, that your situation needs addressing, preferably, sooner rather than later.

Many people, through a lack of information, spend years and years suffering, mostly because they do not know what to do or they cannot get the help they need.

All too often, they will suffer in silence and leave it and leave it, until they reach a point, where they decide they just cannot take any more and they reach a stage where they vow to themselves, enough is enough and I am finally going to do something about it.

The sad part is, once they do manage to free themselves from all their unbearable pain, stress and suffering, they wish they had done something about it much earlier.

One of the mistake many people make is, they think they should not be having negative thoughts and feelings, so they try to stop or avoid having them, or they try to suppress or repress them.

Then they start to feel bad about having negative thoughts and feelings and they begin to think that there is something mentally wrong with them, some wrongly accept, that this is the way it is now, and they will have to struggle and suffer for the rest of their lives.

But it is not a normal way of living and it should not be normalized.

Trying to suppress, repress, distract or avoid your negative thoughts and feelings, is one of the biggest mistakes you can make.

We experience negative emotions for a good reason, your thoughts and emotions act as your inner guidance system, that you need to listen to.

It is an indication that there is something that is not quite right on the inside, or there is something that you may need to pay attention to or address.

Your negative thoughts and emotions are messages that are coming from your subconscious mind, which is trying to relay an important message or warning, that all is not well.

When you try to stop or repress your negative thoughts and feelings, or you try and distract yourself away from them or use anything else to try and suppress the feelings and emotions.

What will happen is, your thoughts and feelings will come back stronger and louder, because when you try to mask, resist or repress your thoughts, feelings and emotional pain, then you will generate more emotional pain and stress, not less.

We all get negative thoughts and emotions, the trick is, do not live your life in the negative emotions.

A quick insight into how your mind works, goes like this.

Most people spend all their time thinking about what they don't want, what they want to forget about or what they don't want to think about.

Your mind can seem quite childish at times, the harder you try not to think about something or they more you want to forget about something, the more your mind will think about the thing you want to forget or let go of.

When you don't want to think about something, you will attach strong emotions to those thoughts and images, your mind will then class your issues as being significant, so it will keep on returning to it.

But really, your mind is quite basic and easy to trick, because if you apply a bit of reverse psychology and you try and make your mind think about something, it has the opposite effect.

Watch your thought and let them go
  1. Acknowledge and observe the thoughts and feelings 
  2. Feel the feelings and allow your mind to carry on thinking the thoughts for a minute or two
  3. Then let the thoughts go
Then this is usually enough to process the emotion, allowing your mind to quickly, calm back down with little disruption, so you can relax and focus on something else.

When your bad memory comes into your mind, instead of trying to push it away, think about a happy time, a comedy program that made you laugh or a time when you felt relaxed, to try and match calm feelings to your bad memory.

Or you can imagine yourself in a calm and relaxing, tranquil location, engaging with all your senses, do this many times, until you can relax at will, then when you're feeling completely relaxed, deliberately think about your bad memory.

When you think about your bad experience, it will bring about unpleasant feelings, but when you think about good memories, it will activate good feelings, and you always have the power to choose what you want to think about.

However, in the case of PTSD or bad memories, if you have had a whole lot of negative emotional attachment going on, then the chances, some additional emotional work and energy clearing will be required.

Your system is not designed to suppress or repress negative emotions, and when you ignore them for a long time, you will run the risk of  experiencing emotional overwhelm, chronic stress or a complete breakdown later on down the line.

Your body is very resilient, it can withstand a lot of punishment, but it can only take so much, if you have been suffering with long term stress and emotional overload, then eventually, something is going to break.

Emotional arousal and imbalance will lead to the manifestation of unpleasant physical symptoms and conditions in the body.

Everything catches up with you in the end, if you do not heal your past and balance your mind and body.

Rather than trying to fight or repress your feelings and emotions, it is a lot better and healthier, to minimize and even remove the emotional attachment or practice changing the way you react. 

It is your natural instinct to react badly and get upset and frustrated everytime you have those thoughts, sounds and images play out in your mind.

But each time you react negatively, you will strengthen the neural connections.

You do have another option how you choose to react, and you can embrace the content of your mind and react calmly around those thoughts and images, so bit by bit you begin to reduce the discomfort.

Some experts suggest, changing the context of the memory, like changing the sounds, smells and imagery, so you begin to scramble the scene.

The more that you try to push against your thoughts and feelings the more they will push back against you, which will leave you feeling defeated and mentally and physically exhausted.

This does not mean that you have to become submissive to your thoughts and feelings or allow them to dictate your behaviors and actions. 

iI just means you need to process the emotion and teach your mind and body to no longer react with fear, stress or negative feelings.

Instead of trying to suppress and repress your thoughts and feelings, try to understand and become aware, why you're having these negative thoughts and feelings.

Your negative thoughts and feelings are an indication that something is out of balance on the inside of yourself.

When you try and suppress your negative thoughts, feelings and emotions, or you use any other forms of treatments or tactics to distract yourself or mask the feelings, or you fail to address the root cause of your suffering. 

Your body will function even worse and it will cause more stress, negative feelings and unbalance, and you will continue to allow your negative thoughts and feelings to rule and run your life, actions, decisions and behaviors.

People who turn to drink or recreational drugs, or any other forms of addictions to try to suppress or cope with their stress, emotions and pain, or they apply other coping or distraction methods, only do it because they cannot find any other form of relief or inner peace.

But you cannot find peace and happiness in things that cannot give you the happiness, peace and the relief that you're seeking.

Why you're trapped in your bad experience

Have you ever wondered why you're having so much trouble with your bad or traumatic memory and why it is happening?

When you have endured or witnessed the pain and stress of a bad experience, your brain will record everything that is happening to you and everything that was is going on in your environment at the time your bad experience occurred.

Let's say for example.

If there were sirens or gunfire going on, or smoke and fire, during your bad experience, your brain would store the data for future reference, and your brain would attach these sounds to your fight or flight response mechanism.

These are known as neural associations and pattern recognition and they will become your trigger memories.

Any time you are walking down a street, and you hear a siren or loud bang, or you come across a fire, your emotional brain.

The part of your brain that protects you and keeps you safe, will automatically recognize these triggers as being similar to what happened during your bad experience and it will automatically link them to, you're about to face a dangerous situation again. 

Because this part of your mind does not deal with logic or reasoning, only patterns, associations, feelings and responses, it will involuntarily activate your fight or flight response.

Your brain cannot distinguish between what happened during the time of your bad or traumatic  experience and a normal everyday event, even though it has no relevance to you. 

When a person who has not had a bad experience hears a siren going off or they hear a sudden loud bang, they might be startled for a few brief seconds, but because they have not connected their fight or flight to the noise or images, they will quickly return back to a state of calm.

However, in the case of the person who has experienced a traumatic event, because their brain has learned to associate danger with the sound of a siren, things unfold completely differently.

When your senses send data to your brain and it finds a negative emotional pattern recognition and an association with danger, your mind will flood the body full of adrenaline and your fight or flight response will go off, time and time again, even in the absence of any real danger or threats.

These are just two typical examples, anything that occurred during the time of your bad memory will become stored and filed as a neural association and pattern recognition.

A typical example of how this works is

If you witnessed a horrific car crash, where you would hear and see emergency service sirens, then every time you walked down a street and you heard the sound of a siren.

Then this would be enough to trigger your fight or flight response off again to try and get you to move away from the situation.

The same applies if you have been in a bad relationship, you have been abused or any other negative experience, and it will do everything to try and make sure you do not have to suffer the same experience or a similar type of experience again.

How long does it take before your PTSD takes hold?

Normally the impact of witnessing or experiencing a traumatic, life threatening or negative experience, should start to fade away after a period of time.

But for many, this is not the case, and severe emotional difficulties and problems can soon take root and start to seriously affect the person's life and their ability to function normally on a daily basis.

This is what Post Traumatic Stress and bad memories does, it throws your body out of sync and balance.

Sometimes the effects of Post Traumatic Stress can be a delayed reaction, you may initially find that you start to recover from your ordeal after a few weeks, but the problem can lie simmering dormant under the surface of your mind, but it can come back with a vengeance to torment you at a later date.

Bad memories become more active at times when you're feeling stressed or your muscles are tight and tense.

Some of the symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress are

  • Nightmares and waking up feeling anxious and sweaty 
  • Flashbacks 
  • Feelings of panic and anxiety 
  • Chronic stress 
  • Obsessive thoughts and behaviors 
  • Feelings distressed 
  • Stressful and physical reactions when you're reminded of the bad experience
You may think that your PTSD is making it impossible for you to live a normal and healthy life, it can make you feel like a prisoner in your own mind. 

But that is a belief, not a fact, and beliefs, feelings, circumstances and emotional connections can be changed.

Some people are even afraid or too proud to seek help or change, but the truth is, living the rest of your life with PTSD is far more scary than seeking a cure.

Nobody wants to suffer, all people want is help to free themselves from the pain, they just don't know what to do or how to go about it, often without realizing it, they make their symptoms worse, yet genuine help is available.

Bad and traumatic memories can become deeply engrained in your mind and physiology, where they become an automatic and involuntary subconscious controlled response.

But, bad or unwanted memories do not have to be permanent, because you can rewire your brain to stop visiting your bad memory as well as taking away all its power. 

It was once thought that it was not possible to rewire your brain, and unfortunately many people suffered all their life.

To make matters worse, the post traumatic stress, can lead to many other stress and emotional related problems, such as anxiety, panic attacks, mood swings, addictions, depression and OCD.

But it is not just the victim that suffers, because the after effects of a traumatic experience can also put a strain on your relationships and your family.

It is not your fault

Post traumatic stress, physical, verbal bullying or sexual abuse or any other form of emotional trauma, can have a profound effect on your health and well-being.

If you have suffered physical, psychological or sexual abuse, then this can have a long term effect on your self worth and self esteem, you may have even already developed a low opinion of yourself.. 

In the case of abuse, some people even wrongly think, or they are made to believe that is their fault.

Whilst post traumatic stress caused by witnessing or experiencing a traumatic or gruesome event can lead to many psychological and anxiety related issues. 

Whatever your bad or negative experience was, the pain you feel is the same for everybody, and the psychological effects can make it hard for you to face and cope with and interact with the world and everyday life.

For the military and nearly all other bad experiences, once the physical battle or incident is over, the emotional battle begins, in war your enemy is external, with post traumatic stress, the enemy lies within.

The truth is, whatever your bad experience was, it was not your fault, yet it is you who is left to pick up the pieces and to try find ways to cope, with your thoughts, feelings and emotions.

On top of your agony and suffering, you are probably trying to put a brave face on the world, or support your family and enjoy yourself socially.  

But it is not easy to live a normal life, when you're carrying the burden and scars of your bad experience, some will try and hide their inner torment, others will attempt to act as normal, but this can be difficult to say the least. 

People can distract themselves or hide things on the outside to a degree, but you cannot escape from the pain from within, and it will follow you everywhere you go. 

You have become victim to your circumstances, that alone is bad enough, but you don't have to remain a victim to your past hurtful or traumatic experiences.

Maybe you have tried to find ways to cope or deal with the constant emotional onslaught of your bad memory, often people resort to less than healthy ways to help them deal with and manage the pain and suffering.

The only reason why you have become locked into this reality of stress and fearful responses is because your mind has created some negative neural and chemical conditioned associations and reactions to certain stimuli and that is what is causing you all the pain.

The only way to free yourself from all the emotional pain and physical symptoms is to change the neural conditioning, feelings and responses that have been hooked up to your bad memory.

Just imagine if there was a pill that would make you forget about your bad memory completely so no matter how bad your experience was, it could no longer cause you any more pain.

Well, at the moment, there is no magic pill to erase your bad memory, but there is a solution that will help to take away all your pain and condition your mind to no longer visit your bad memory.

You have already suffered enough, If you suffer one day more, that is too much.

Evolution is to blame

Our brains have evolved to try and keep us safe, this is a good thing in a way, but sometimes this process can go wrong or get out of control, and when it goes out of control it needs to be fixed.

The trouble is, our fight or flight response and survival mechanism is still very primitive, and it can get out of control.

In order to survive when our world was once a dangerous place to live in, our mind and body had to develop a system, where we could go from a state of calm to high energy, power and strength in a matter of seconds, to give us a better chance of surviving.

This is where our fight or flight mechanism was born, its only flaw is, it does not respond to logic or reasoning, and it is a case of act first, because has far as your mind is concerned, it is better to be safe than sorry.

You cannot just tell your mind you don't want to react to your bad memory, telling your brain to fix itself is like yelling at your computer, when it has got a programming fault.

If you have had a bad or traumatic experience at some stage in your life, your conscious mind will immediately take all the information as input, which it will send to your subconscious mind for processing. 

Once you have been through the bad experience, all the information will stay locked up in your memory bank for later recall, should it be needed. 

Your mind will do everything it can to prevent you from having to endure the same bad experience again, the problem with our minds is, they cannot think logically, your brain just responds to data, physical stressful symptoms in your body and input from your senses. 

All the information that was recorded at the time of your bad experience, will then be stored in your emotional memory bank and used as data to gauge how you should react in the future.

The only thing your mind has got to protect you is strong negative emotions to alert you, which will activate adrenaline and the symptoms of stress so you can try and avoid or escape from the situation, should it happen again.

The trouble is, you cannot run away or avoid the images and thoughts in your mind, you cannot run away from the feelings in your body and it is not helpful if your fight or flight response is going off, everytime you hear or see anything that your mind remotely associates with your bad experience.

Even if you have to face that same or similar experience again, your subconscious mind will automatically return to the memory, and bring it back into your conscious awareness which will cause you to feel the same sensations as you did at the time of the bad experience. 

The reason why you cannot just think or talk your bad memory to go away is because there is an invisible barrier that lies between your conscious and subconscious mind.
 
This acts a safety mechanism which evolved to help protect you and keep you safe, because if you had to face a real life threat, then there would be no time for thinking logically, and your mind would act and respond instantly to give you a better chance of surviving.

Therefore, unless you change your inner subconscious programming, your mind will carry on doing what it has been programmed to do, because it thinks it is necessary to help to protect you from having to go through the.

This barrier is a bit like having your own inner security guard whose job is to protect you and prevent anything from reaching your subconscious mind that goes against your previous programming, even though it is your wish to delete the bad memory. 

This is why you will struggle to change or get rid of your bad memory, because your inner security guard thinks you need your old programming to help you avoid having to go through the same bad experience again.

Again, this can be a good thing, because it can help to keep you safe should you about to encounter a real threat or danger.
  
But it is no help when your fight or flight response is constantly going off when it is not needed or it is not appropriate, as in the case of your bad memory.

In order to end all the emotional pain and suffering, you have to bypass your inner security guard, so you can access your own subconscious mind.

The difference between your mind and body being balanced and out of balance, is the amount of emotional attachment and significance that has become connected to your bad experience.

Why you get stuck in a self perpetuating cycle of stress and anxiety

Everytime you're bad memory causes a stressful response it takes up to 36 hours for your body to get rid of the stress hormones, this is not good for your health or well-being.

If your bad memory is constantly being played out in your mind, your body won't even get a chance to return back to its natural resting state and your body will stay out of balance most of the time.

Bad memories can demoralize your whole quality of your life, they can cause you endless stress, frustration and anxiety, and even lead to depression or alcohol and substance abuse.

Trying to bury your emotional traumas and wounds with alcohol or substance abuse, or trying to occupy your mind with other distraction methods, is not the answer and it can make matters worse.

Alcohol and drugs may temporarily alleviate your emotional hurt and torment, but as soon as their effect wears off, the pain will resurface. 

Alcohol, smoking and drugs are all stimulants, and although they may initially relax you, when their effect wears off, you will feel more stressed and pumped up.

At the moment your bad memory has all the power over you, but it does not have to be that way once you strip away all the strong emotional attachment.

You should not be constantly punished and tormented by an unpleasant experience that happened in the past, which was not your fault.

It is a sad fact of life that very often the victim or the innocent one is left to suffer the most, usually in silence.

What you may not realize is that you have the power and control to erase your bad memory if you decide to do so.

When you get stuck in a cycle and pattern of stress and intrusive thoughts, the high levels of stress can put a strain on your adrenaline glands, and because you get stuck in a state of high levels of stress.

This can then this can have a knock on effect, which can result in other emotional issues like anxiety,  anger issues,phobia's, OCD and depression.

Your emotional brain is more powerful than your rational brain

Your nervous system cannot tell the difference between the images and pictures that are taking place in our mind and a real threatening or traumatic event.

Therefore, the internal images of your mind can change your body physiology and throw your physiology out of balance.

Then it can feel very upsetting, and overwhelming to try and hold yourself together and live a normal life when your emotions are all over the place and your body is reacting with the physical symptoms of fear.

The emotional part of your brain that processes emotions, which is involuntary, will automatically react with fear if it perceives what it thinks is a threat or if it thinks, something is causing you pain.

The trouble with this inbuilt survival mechanism is, it can get stuck in a vicious loop and cycle and it can get it wrong. 

This is true in the case of bad memories, because your stress response is being activated because it senses a threat, even though the bad situation is well in the past. 

The reason why it is happening is because, the human brain is divided into two parts, the rational mind and the emotional mind.

The rational mind controls about 90% our decisions, but when the emotional mind which is far more powerful and it is the part of our brain that controls our fear and fight or flight responses takes over, it will overpower the rational mind causing our emotional impulses to influence us.

The emotional mind, which uses strong and powerful emotions and activates the fight or flight responses, operates at very fast speeds. 

The emotional mind, will send messages to the body to release adrenaline and the stress hormone cortisol into the body, to quickly prime our body with a big boost of energy so we can take action against the perceived threat, which usually, no longer exist.

The rational mind takes longer to process information, therefore the emotional mind wins everytime.

Therefore, until you break this fear circuit and response, your emotional mind will carry on triggering the stress and fear response to those internal images that are being flashed in your mind or those external triggers.

There are ways to help you to control and your panic and stressful responses, you can imagine yourself on a tropical beach and engage all your senses, at the onset of any stress or fear.

Nutrient deficiency, anxiety and stress

If you have been suffering with post traumatic stress, then it can deplete your body and brain of the natural nutrients that it requires to keep your brain and body in balance and working efficiently.

A deficiency in the key important nutrients has been associated with depression, anxiety and mood swings.

Long periods of stress and anxiety can deplete your body of all its natural vitamins and nutrients that it requires to keep your mind and body in its peak and most optimum balance and performance efficiency.

A balanced diet of healthy foods rich in nutrients, vitamins and minerals can help to relax you, improve your mood and help you feel less anxious. 

It may pay you to consult your doctor or nutritionist to determine your nutritional needs and daily dosage requirements.

Magnesium is one of the most powerful nutrients that can help reduce stress and anxiety, this key mineral is well known for its natural power to calm you.

Other studies have shown that there is a link between moods and a deficiency in the B vitamin range, again if you're thinking about taking supplements, it may pay you to consult with your doctor or dietician about the correct daily dosage

Vitamin D has also been linked with being able to help reduce stress and anxiety.

Your mind is like a video recorder

If you keep on dwelling or focusing on the past, your perceptions of what happened and how you handled the situation at the time will then go onto to shape your beliefs. 

These beliefs will be seen and acted on as being true by your emotional mind and your negative memories will then determine how you think respond, feel, act and behave. 

Our memories guide and mold our perceptions and they keep us haunted and imprisoned by the past. 

All your negative memories become stored in your powerful subconscious mind just as you would store a program on a computer hard drive.

Your subconscious mind acts like a video recorder at it records everything that is happening and has ever happened in our life up to date. 

Our bad experiences and negative memories cause us a negative feedback circuit, this can keep you stuck in a cycle of negativity and resistance. 

Imagine you had a collection of photo's and some were of a past partner who you are still no longer with but you have not got over yet.

If you keep going into your photo album and looking at the picture of your partner and it is still evoking feelings of sadness and hurt, the best thing to do is not to keep going into your photo album. 

The same principal applies to your mind, if you keep going into your emotional memory bank and looking at hurtful images of or you keep reminiscing over the past you will drag up the feelings of hurt and sadness.

Once a negative neural connection has been created, your brain cells will keep on igniting a negative emotionally charged feeling from the trigger thoughts or bad memories that you will feel throughout your body which will replicate the physical feelings and trauma you experienced at the time the bad event happened. 

Your mind operates off the way it has come to perceive the world based on the data it has collected from your life up to date.

Your mind responds to what it has learned to fear and it will continue to carry on doing what it knows and thinks is best for you even if it is making you feel bad because it's primary job is to keep you safe.

This is a major fault of the still primitive part of our protective mind, so there is no point in yelling at, becoming annoyed or screaming at your own mind.

Your mind has made the fearful associations with your past bad experiences, which become learned behaviours

To undo these negative associations you will need to unlearn and disassociate the fearful associations and responses.

You cannot wipe out a memory either, what you have to do is separate the emotional charge from the bad memory, that will render it inactive.

When something happens to us that causes us pain, hurt, suffering or we just don't like what happened it gets stored as an emotional memory. In prehistoric times the emotional brain would save and file all bad experiences as an emotional memory. 

How it all evolved

This procedure for storing bad emotional memories was designed to keep us safe, if we were threatened the mind would record the memory of the thing, time and place so it could warn us if we faced the same threat or dangerous situation again. 

The feelings and trauma you experienced when the life threatening event happened were then recorded and stored deep in the emotional part of the mind.

This was vital so your mind would be better prepared to respond immediately to give you a better chance of survival if ever you came face to face with the same or similar type of predator and situation.

If a potential threat was detected the mind would scan through its data to see what happened the last time you were in that situation. 

If your mind matched the perceived threat with a memory of a past bad encounter it would activate the fight or flight process over which we would have no control.

The fearful emotions are designed to feel bad, it's job is designed to alert us to prepare for action, the options available were, to run, fight, avoid or surrender. 

The world back then was a very dangerous place with a potential threat to our safety lurking around every corner. Back then our mind's primary job was to keep us safe, it did this by trying to keep us in the safety of our comfort zone. 

This was the area where man lived, here the mind new the surrounding environment was relatively safe, so therefore your mind and body could switch to a more relaxed state. 

Whenever man attempted to venture outside his comfort zone the mind would go on high alert to danger, it did not like the idea that you were going into unknown or dangerous territory, it believed that it was best to fear anything that it did not know was harmless. 

The mind had evolved to play things on the safe side, this meant caution first, logic second, this is why even in today's relatively safe world our mind still tends to fear the unknown and it hates change.

So as soon as early man attempted or even thought about stepping outside his comfort zone the mind would grab past negative memories of anything it perceived as a threat. 

It would then flash these images into our conscious awareness as an early warning system to alert us of all the perceived risks, it did this to try and make us stick in the safety of our comfort zone.

To demonstrate how your mind and feelings operates, think about a bad experience or something that makes you anxious and notice how you feel, now think of a pleasant and happy memory and notice the difference in how you feel. 

A bad memory is like being in a trance or a negative state of being, when you're having those bad and traumatic experiences playing out in your mind, you're basically stepping back into the situation for real, through the internal reality of your mind.

Release your tension and reduce your stress

Because our mind works by associations, it is not just your triggers that can bring back those painful memories. 

Your mind has also evolved to associate the symptoms and the sensations of the fight or flight response with danger, such as tensing of your muscles, adrenaline, shallow breathing and rapid heartbeat.

So you're already feeling stressed, your mind will interpret this as something bad is about to happen so it will seek out the threat that does not really exist, and in its desperation to find the threat it will filter through your past negative memories.  

Your mind may even link the stressful feelings in your body as being the same stressful and fearful feelings you experienced at the time of your traumatic experience, and in some cases these feelings can act as one of your triggers.

Also, when you go to bed feeling anxious or stressed, then we get a more restless and poor quality sleep, which will increase your chances of having more nightmares and you will awake feeling stressed and irritated.

Posture and the fight or flight reflex mode

A lot of advice about anxiety, stress and fear issues focuses mainly on the mind and although correcting the mind faults is important, it is equally as important to work on the body.

The mind and body are one whole and they work together as one unit, therefore your body follows and responds to your mind and your mind responds to your body.

What this means is, your mind listens to and reacts to the signals and feedback that are being relayed by your body so if your body is experiencing symptoms of stress or your muscles are tense and stiff.

Then your emotional mind will try to make sense of these feelings which are all linked to the fight or flight response mechanism. 

And, because you experienced similar types of stressful symptoms and the time of your bad experience, then, anytime you feel stressed or tense, 

Then, because your mind works in patterns, feelings and associations, then it can cause your mind to match up these feelings with images of your bad or traumatic experience.

If you experience a lot of stress and anxiety, then your posture can shrink in stature, which will cause feelings of insecurity and low confidence.

What you may need to be aware of is, anxiety can cause you to shrink in stature. 

This is where the head protrudes forwards and then the back of the head gets pulled down, which will put you in the fight or flight reflex mode which can increase your anxiety levels.

This fear and danger related posture is linked to the fight or flight response, sometimes known as the startled mode, because it can cause you to react more, with fear and stress.

This is the posture we go into at times when we feel threatened, and it was designed to make us smaller in stature and more compact so we would become a smaller target to help us avoid being hit or physically hurt.

If you suffer with anxiety or post traumatic stress then you may find that you habitually go into this startled mode posture during certain trigger situations without you realizing it, or if you are having flashbacks. 

When you go into this guarded type of danger constricting posture, it can also cause other physical changes in your body which are also associated with the fight or flight response. 

Like the, the unbalancing of the head in relationship to the spine, this posture can cause excess tension and the collapsing of spine and the body.

To feel relaxed and less threatened, your body needs to be poised, balanced and in alignment. 

When your body is tense, shortened in stature or stiffened, then it can throw your whole body and physiology out of balance and harmony, leaving you feeling more insecure and more threatened.

This fight or flight associated negative posture forces the front of the head to protrude forwards and the back of the head to come down.

In this fight or flight posture, it will contract your spine, making the neck short and stiff, the shoulders can become hunched, as well as the stiffening of the arms and legs.

Your body posture can also affect your physiology, which can cause your breathing and your circulation to increase as well as promoting the release of adrenaline in your body, all of which are related to the fight or flight response.

It takes 36 hours for your body to get rid of the stress hormones, therefore, if your bad experience is constantly making you feel stressed and anxious.

Then your body will not have a chance to return to its natural relaxed state, so you can get stuck in a permanent state of high levels of panic and anxiety.

When your body is out of balance or tense, then you will lose some of your power, confidence and charisma.

Some people even get stuck in this fight or flight related posture, or they display aspects of this fight or flight response mode posture many times during the day.

For others who suffer with social anxiety, it will become an automatic response that they can go into when they're feeling socially challenged.

Other things that can cause you to enter this constricting and small in stature negative posture are, a traumatic experience.

Or bad tension habits such as slouching especially whilst you're sitting or psychological reasons anxiety or depression. 

Although you should not slump slouch or shrink in stature, it is as equally as bad, to sit and stand too straight, tall or rigid.

Some people tend physical force or hold themselves up unnatural and tense posture's, where they force their shoulders back, lift up their chest and chin. 

This type of military posture, will can cause you to lift up your chin, stick out your chest and pull your back of your head down.

Because, standing or sitting in tense or stiff postures, will cause you to have more tense and anxious thoughts and more fearful and startled responses.

The same applies with stress, because if you're feeling more stressed than normal, then again your mind will read into this, that something bad is about to happen, and you will have more trouble with anxiety.

It is important to stand and sit, comfortably with the least amount of tension, this means learning to get in and out of your chair because when you sit correctly, you will stand correctly and vice versa.

Watch the videos on how to sit and stand correctly



You become more afraid of the fear and feelings 

"The biggest fear people have is the fear of fear itself, so in time you learn to become afraid of your anxious thoughts, bad memories and the sensations that are associated with fear.

Tense muscles or the physical and chemical sensations that are linked with stress will switch your mind over into your negative bad memory files and data and all your focus will go into survival mode.

Your negative files are the place where all the negative data for your past bad experiences are recorded and filed.

When you have a bad experience or negative memory your amygdala's which controls your emotions and is in charge of the activation of your fight or flight response records and logs the memory and the associated emotions and feelings you experienced at the time.

This will include, the time, the place and all the emotional pain that you experienced at the time of the traumatic event. 

The problem is, your amygdala's never forgets anything that has happened to you, and it will keep returning to and it will keep on reacting with negative responses, especially when the memory is still classified as current ad emotionally active.

This means every time you come face to face again with the thing or situation or a similar type of situation again your amygdala will automatically trigger your fight or flight response. Your amygdala's will also fire off the fight or flight response to emotionally charged memories.

The problem being, with most people's fears there is rarely any outside dangers, as far as your mind and your senses are concerned, they think they have detected what they think could be a real treat.

What is really happening is, your anxiety is tricking you into believing you need to do something to prevent something bad from happening.

Basically, you are being fooled into reacting with fear and believing you need to take some form of avoidance measure or preventive action to what are nothing more than illusions of the mind. 

The new enemy, then, comes from within, this means your body and mind will start to respond to all those what if scenarios, your fearful thoughts or your past traumas and bad experiences. 

Because your amygdala's never forgets an emotional experience this same process gets repeated over and over again until you break the cycle. Our past negative experiences create our insecurities for the future.

Positive thinking is not always the answer

Some people try to use positive thinking to help them remove bad memories and even though positive thinking will make you feel better, the powerful emotional memory can keep coming back.

Others will try and repress them or use other techniques, but more often than not these methods fail because the subconscious mind which acts like a video and data recorder works with emotions, feelings and associations and not logic or reasoning.

Sometimes our subconscious mind will base our feelings and responses on we handled our past experiences and how those bad experiences effected us at the time and after the event.

To become free of your traumatic past you have to disassociate and detach the negative energy charge from the bad memory, but you cannot merely think it away, because thinking largely operates at a conscious level. 

If you have a film on your video recorder that you would like to remove, your not going to erase it just by talking to your video recorder in a positive manner or trying to reason with it.

That approach will probably achieve nothing, to remove the film you have to delete it from your files, once you delete it is has gone for good. 

However, trying to just delete a bad memory from your mind is not quite so simply as deleting a picture from your digital camera because unlike the camera your memories and your neural pathways are a bit more complex.

You can put it another way, if you have any old photo's on your camera which you don't like perhaps say they hold sad and negative memories for you which evoke negative or hurtful emotions you would delete them from your camera. 

If you keep on looking at the photo you will keep feeling the emotion. All of our memories have an energy attached to them, good memories have a neutral or positive energy while bad memories have a negative energy associated with them.

Because bad memories and traumatic experiences operate on a subconscious level the pain, hurt and flashbacks are being driven by emotions and feelings, therefore you cannot use words or think them away.

It is all the emotional and physical attachment that is keeping the memory active and current, if you want to be free of all the hurt and pain of the bad experience, then you need to disassociate and desensitize the emotional arousal from the bad experience.

If you do feel like you require some professional help, then America's number one hypnotherapist Steve G Jones has created an effective Remove Bad Memories Cure! 

 


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