The Many Reasons Why You Should Seriously Consider Not Have An Affair

If you are researching for reasons, why you should not have an affair. Then this shows, that you are a decent person, who at heart. Probably, just wants your relationship to be like it was, when you first met each other.

If your considering having an affair. This does not mean that you're a bad person and it is probably not what you really want so you should you feel bad about yourself.

It is just a sign that the energy and attraction that you initially had between you, is not there anymore. 

People often embark on affairs. Because they feel that there is something missing in their relationship or they are not happy with their relationship at the moment.

It could suggest that you feel a lack of love, commitment, desire, intimacy or you crave for affection and attention. 

When we feel a bit neglected, unappreciated or our emotional needs aren't being met or our partners have appeared to lost interest in us. It can push us into wanting to do things that we don't really want to do.

When someone starts to show interest in you, it can give your self esteem and ego a boost and it can make you feel good.

But, that's where it should end, because there is always a big price to pay for those who have affairs. 

You only have to watch some of the TV dramas and soaps. To see all the hurt, pain and destruction affairs can cause and the havoc they can wreak on people's lives.

Sometimes, people can even have an affair off the back of a big argument, because they are trying to make a statement or even because they have had too much to drink. 

If things have gone bad in your relationship. Rather than jumping into having an affair, that you know is going to end in tears and destruction.

Spend some quality time with your family or friends and try and avoid the opposite sex altogether until you get your head clear.

Because the worst thing you can do is to go into a new relationship when you're still carrying a lot of emotional baggage around with you.

When you feel your relationship is not supplying you with the love, fun and fulfillment it once did. Having an affair can seem exciting and fun.

Try to resist temptation and think about the future consequences

These days, there is also more temptation and choices available, because of all the dating sites available or how easy it is to meet on social media. 

For some and affair is a cry for help or an indication that your relationship has gone stagnant, you're not happy or you think you're not be treated fairly.

Perhaps, your partner has been spending more time at work following their hobbies or with their friends. Than they are with you or maybe the stresses of bringing up a family and the cost of living has affected the quality of your relationship.

It also shows, that deep down. There is a part of you who already know, that it is the wrong thing to do and you are probably aware, that the consequences are not worth the risks.

When we sense and feel, were making a bad choice, it is usually an indication, that we are.

Because, although consciously you maybe going through some difficult times with your relationship.

Your inner being and intuition. Which always knows what is best for you, is trying to steer you clear of you possibly making one of the most disastrous mistake with many unpleasant consequences.

If your looking outside of your relationship for love, affection, intimacy or passion. Then this is a clear indication, that something is missing or lacking in your current relationship.

If your still not sure whether or not you want to cheat on your partner.   

"Imagine it is a year from now.

And against your better judgement, you went ahead and you had an affair. 

Perhaps, the affair and even the risks involved had initially excited you and made you feel desired again, especially if you had been feeling as if your partner had lost interested in you or you feel some of the intimacy has gone. 

Or you were feeling as if the spark in your relationship had died down or you're partner was neglecting some of your emotional needs or not paying you enough attention. 

But after a while the guilt started creeping in and you began to feel a bit ashamed at what you were doing. All the lying and deceit, was starting to take the edge off your affair.

You may have thought that you were getting away with it. But, in nearly all cases. Your partner will suspect and know that there is something seriously wrong, right from the onset.

Then soon all your neighbors, family and friends, and your partners family and friends will know what you're up to, even though you think, that nobody knows of your secret and sordid affair. 

Soon all and everybody, will be talking about you and running you down behind your back. Some will even detest and hate you.

Imagine how your partner feels, knowing you are seeing somebody else, even though you are supposed to be committed to them.

You may have lied repeatedly or pretended, that you were doing nothing wrong. But your partner, will be boiling with anger on the inside and they will feel as if their hold world is falling apart.

This caused you both a lot of friction, stress and tension. Which resulted in many nasty arguments. 

If you knew. How much stress, pain, resentment, shame and anger you were inflicting on your partner. Which they had to try and deal with on a daily basis. Maybe, you wouldn't have gone ahead with the affair.

From your partners perspective. There is nothing more hurtful and devastating, than knowing the person they have falling in love with and committed their life too.

Returned that love and affection back, by cheating on them.

And then, it happened. You got caught.

After weeks of rowing, upset and tears. You ended up separating, and because of all of the stress and emotional upset and overwhelm. Your affair ended as well, so you lost out both ways.

To make matters worse. The person you were having an affair with was married.

Now your living on your own. You only see your children once or twice a week. (They always take the side of the innocent parent)

No more family holidays, no christmases together and more family photos and happy memories to look back at or happy family times to look forwards to.

You lost your home and everything that you have built and collected together and now you have to live in a small flat, because that is all you can afford. ( Or maybe, you had to move back in with your parents)

You also lost your way of life, some of your new friends and you had to start from scratch again on one income. 

Times are hard as you're now single, lonely and full of remorse and regret, trying and struggling to live on one wage. 

(If you have young children, then you have to pay a chunk out of your wage each week, making it even harder for you to manage to live).

Your reputation is in tatters and everybody knows your as a cheat and a liar.

For those who have children. You ruined their whole world and the secure and happy family life that they were so used to and both your children and partner feels wounded and betrayed.

You really do regret all the pain, tears and hurt, that you caused your children. Not to mention all the shame and embarrassment that you caused them at school.

Other children, can be very cruel when they find out and they can tease relentlessly.

Ask yourself. How would you like it done to you and how would you like to be treated?

Divorce and separation can also be very costly and you will end up hurting yourself as much as your hurt everybody else involved.

When people have an affair they don't consider the long term picture and outcome, they just act irresponsibly in the moment and then they suffer the disastrous consequences later. 

And once, you have done it once. The chances are you will do it again, in your search to maintain all the fun, devotion and romance, the start of a new relationship can bring.

You may have had an affair, for emotional reasons. But how do you know that the person who you were having an affair with, was just using you for physical gratification?

If you think that you're relationship has run its course or you feel it is beyond repair and you want somebody else.

Then the best thing you can do. Is to end your relationship first and then start a fresh. If you think your relationship is worth saving.

Then rather than have an affair. Wouldn't it be much better to try and respark the romance and passion in your relationship and give it your best, to make your relationship better.

Then rather than have an affair. Wouldn't it be much better to try Respark The Romance And Passion and give it your best, to make your relationship better.

Rather than heading for big trouble, pain and loss.

1. Affairs Can Be Costly Both Emotionally And Spiritually 

People spend years buying and paying for their homes, it can take a long time to gather all your personal material possessions, you are both supposed to work together, "for better or for worse". 

Yet all it takes is one moment of madness and you can lose everything you have spent years building up, including the mutual trust and the respect that you had. 

Divorce and relationship break ups can be very expensive and costly, it is far better and financially cheaper to work at your relationships. 

If you insist on having an affair, before you go to far make sure you have put enough money to cover the legal costs of a divorce, counselling and having to set up in a new home.

2. You Will Have No Idea The Hurt You Will Inflict On Your Partner

If you're considering having an affair have you ever consider the pain, anger and emotional hurt not alone the shame and embarrassment that you will inflict on your partner. 

You might think you're getting away with it but more often that not your partner will become suspicious even if they don't say anything too you straight away. 

This will cause them great emotional and psychological pain and suffering which can scar them for the rest of their lives, is it fair on your partner to cause them to never be able trust anybody again for maybe the rest of their lives. 

If you want somebody else, then it is better to spare them the physiological trauma an affair can cause and end the relationship first. You cannot have the best of both worlds, that never works out in the long run.

3. You Will Be Branded A Liar And Cheat

Do you really want to be branded a liar and cheat, affairs may seem exciting for a while, but are they really worth it, once the novelty wares off you will have to deal with all the betrayal, lies and cheating. 

Not only will you be hurting your partner, you will make your own life stressful. 

Everybody hates the cheat, not matter how bad your relationship has become your partner does not deserve to be cheated on.

4. If You Have Children They Will Resent You

If you have children, then you will have to consider their feelings too, you might not think it, but your children will not be happy to find out that their mother/father is having an affair. 

You're basically telling them you don't think their mother/father is a worthwhile person, children often copy the actions of their parents and they might go the other way and think it's OK to cheat on their partners when their old, lead by example.

Usually they will immediately side with the victim parent, affairs not only destroy family life they can seriously affect your children both emotionally and mentally.

Plus, you will bring complete shame on your children, you run the risk of other children teasing and ridiculing them at school, older children can become very angry with the parent who is having or had an affair 

Children are smart, and they often know or sense what is going on, this can leave your children feeling angry and resentful of the offending parent.

When you get caught, who side do you think your children are going to take?

5. Unwanted Pregnancies OR STD

When people embark on an affair the passion is running high and logic and rational thinking goes out of the window. 

When people rush into things they make quick and rash decisions, affairs can lead to unwanted pregnancies and even sexual related diseases. 

This is not a good idea, especially as it has been disclosed that the antibiotic-resistant strain of gonorrhoea is on the rise.

6. The Other Person Might Want More

Most people only have an affair because they want some fun and excitement brought into their lives, they don't usually want any emotional involvement. 

However the longer the affair goes on the more chance one or both of you will start to become emotionally attached, this is when you become involved in a three way triangle and someone if not everyone is going to get hurt. 

You have to ask yourself is the reward worth the risk and suffering to you, your partner and the hurt and shame you will inflict on your family, don't get into something that may prove hard to get away from.

7. People Get Hurt Emotionally And Physically

When affairs come out into the open people get hurt both emotionally and physically, you must be aware of the fact that when people realize their partner is having an affair they become angry and enraged. 

They can act totally out of character and affairs to violence and outbursts of anger, in the worst case scenarios people get seriously hurt. Ask yourself this question, how would you like it done to you.

8. Thou Shall Not Commit Adultery

This is one of the ten commandments, whether you believe in God or not, adultery was understood to be a serious offense back in biblical times even before the ten commandments was written by the finger of God on the stone of tablets. 

If you listen to the stories of those who have encountered a near death experience they will nearly all mention about the past life review with a higher powerful spiritual being and they get shown any hurt they inflicted on others. 

They question they get asked is? What did you learn to love, were meant to love more and hurt people less.

This is not about moral preaching, but anybody who is thinking of having an affair should bare in mind the seriousness of their actions, giving in to temptation is a sign of weakness and loss of self control, it often leads you down the path of personal misery and suffering. 

Adultery usually starts off as a thought or idea, so pay attention to your thoughts, it would be far better to put in as much effort as you can to improve your relationship and sorting out any difficulties you have between you and your partner without arguing or shouting at each other.

9. You Will Join The Cheats That In The Past You Have Condemned

People are very hypercritical, before they have an affair they have probably slated and criticized others whom they know have cheated on their partners, ironically if you proceed with having an affair then you will join the group of people who you once despised. 

If you have watched the Jeremy Kyle or the Jerry Springer show, you will observe that everybody hates the cheat and the liar and everybody show empathy towards the victim, affair stir up a lot of emotion. 

Do you really want everybody pointing the finger at you, damning you and classing you as a cheat and a liar.

10. Affairs Are Tacky And There Is A High Risk Of Getting Caught

Everywhere you go you will be looking over your shoulder, you won't be able to go out in public like normal couples because of the risk of getting caught, do you that class that as having fun and exciting. 

It is a small world and no matter where you go you will run the risk of being seen, especially these days with all the camera's people have on mobile phones. 

If you have an affair with someone at work or someone locally, when it all goes wrong life can become very awkward for both of you. 

The third party in the affair is often only being used for physical gratification by the adulterer. 

It is far better in the long run to try and work on or save your relationship. If you feel that it has gone beyond the point of saving them for everybody sake and feelings the best thing to do is end the relationship and then look for somebody else.

 


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