How To Overcome Shyness And Feelings Of Anxiety?
Once you begin to overcome your shyness and social anxiety.
You will start to experience and become a different, more socially calm and composed, better version of you and you will expose yourself to a better way of being and living.
The key is to start to change from within. Imagine and affirm to yourself, as if you are already the better version of you that you would like to be.
There is a shy you and there is a more outgoing you. There is a happy you and there is a sad you. There is a confident you and a less confident you.
You choose and decide the version of you that you would like to be and work towards being that better you.
Self hypnosis is still one of the most powerful tools that can allow you to access your subconscious mind allowing you to change your mental programming.
If you want to overcome your shyness. Then you should consider giving self hypnosis a try. If you do, stick at it until you make the changes you desire.
- I don't have the confidence to
- I am just not very good at
- This is going to be scary
- Nothing goes right for me
- It's not me
- I am never going to
- I can't do
- I am not the type of person
- I am always nervous
- When you are comparing yourself unfavorably to others
- When you feel your inadequate
- When you think that you don't measure up
- When you think that you're different or there is something wrong with you
- I am good enough
- I am capable enough
- I am interesting enough
- I am confident enough
- I am powerful enough
- I am worthy enough
- I am courageous enough
- I am secure enough
If you want to be the type of confident person that you would like to be, start to see and affirm yourself as the new outgoing and socially comfortable you, see yourself as that person whom you want to be.
The good thing about beliefs is they can be changed and when you change your beliefs you will change your behaviours and you will change with them for the better.
You have the choice at any moment to be more talkative, happier, outgoing and spontaneous and although it might take time for you to take on your new self image always, remember the person who you want to be is always available for you to access if you choose.
12) Look forwards to social events
The difference between confident people and shy people is. The confident and extrovert person will look forward to a social event or party, the see and imagine things going well, they feel excited about the forthcoming gathering.
This is preconditioning themselves to have a good time and to feel relaxed and at ease and they usually do.
On the other hand, the shy and anxious person will perceive the same situations completely different. They will tend to worry and dread about everything that can possibly go wrong,
This is mentally programming themselves to feel nervous and anxious about the event and when the time comes they feel anxious, which destroys their confidence and they do not enjoy the occasion, this can lead to relying on alcohol to give them the confidence to socialize.
When you look forward to something it fills you with those good feeling positive emotions of excitement, joy, confidence and happiness which will suffocate those feelings of anxiety and nervousness, when your filled with excitement you cannot wait for the time to come.
When you dread the thought of something it triggers negative emotions, more worry and anticipation and the urge to avoid the situation.
Get into the habit of looking forward to social events, feel excited about them and replace words like I don't like or dread with enjoy, like and love.
When you feel anxious. Reply with. That seems like fun. Always reassure your anxious mind that you can handle it or whatever happens you'll be OK.
Practice leads to confidence, make an effort to join in the conversations more. Sometimes you just have to push yourself and push yourself through the discomfort barrier.
The more you practice and the more you do things the better you will become at them.
13) Boost your self esteem
Ask yourself the question what's really holding you back and limiting your self confidence? The answer to that might be your fears, conditioning and undervaluing yourself.
What you have to say is worthwhile and matters, you know that you want to express yourself, but your feelings are preventing you from doing so, but you can override your feelings if you wish.
Replace the negative what if thoughts to positive what if thoughts, like what if everything goes well.
This will shift your energy to a more positive state, such as what if I make a fool of myself to what if I come across as calm, bold and confident.
Get into the habit of praising yourself. Even for those little achievements and accomplishments.
If other people give you praise it makes you feel good and boosts your confidence if they say negative things about you it can knock your confidence, the same applies with how you speak to yourself.
When you praise and say positive things to yourself it makes you feel good on the same token, if you say negative and self defeating things to yourself it makes you feel bad, so it makes sense to focus on more general and positive thoughts.
Human evolution has taught us to focus on the negative and if that's not bad enough, we then totally exaggerate and blow trivial things completely out of proportion to the extent where one negative experience can dominate and influence our patterns of thinking, our actions and
So in future ignore the negative and only focus on the positive and the all that is good in your life and this world, because you will always find what you search for the most.
If things wrong for you or if you make a mistake, it's no big deal just laugh it, let it go off and move forwards. Ask yourself how do you want to live your life?
It should be exciting, enjoyable and fun, if you're not living the life you want, then you have to do something about it.
Each morning and even. Find five things to be grateful or thankful for, because gratitude and appreciation helps to keep you in a calm and positive energy.
The antidote to fear, worry and anxiety is those calm and positive feelings and emotions.
14) Stop caring what other people think or say
In order to grow in confidence and develop socially we sometimes need to think what the heck, then tell ourselves I know I can do this, I am not bothered what people think.
Avoid giving your attention to anything that causes negative resistance and emotions, practice thinking only about things that cause good feelings. To be more confident you need those good feeling emotions.
Keep pushing yourself bit by bit, it's all about conditioning yourself to be more bold and courageous, do and say things where normally you would hold back.
Practice being confident in front of a mirror, just by observing yourself looking confident can do wonders for you, this is what successful people do.
We are also told as children not to show ourselves up or make a fool of ourselves or don't speak until your spoken to, grow up. All these kind of remarks would condition us to be shy and introvert.
Shy and anxious people are constantly tormented and help back by their feelings of insecurity, sometimes we just have to be brave and say what the heck and then just do it.
Try to stop monitoring and gauging how you're feeling and how you're coming across, remember they are only feelings, they cannot prevent you from doing anything unless you give into them.
Refuse to allow anybody to intimidate you.
The Fast Track Route To Becoming More Extrovert
This is a short article promoting the "Extrovert Me" program written by leading self help guru and creator of many of the worlds leading self help products Bradley Thompson.
You've been invited to a huge party. Great! Or could it be ... 'oh no'? For shy people a party can be something to fear. Listen to what Sharon P. of Dallas, Texas told me about shyness.
"I was so shy! If I walked into a crowded room I felt everyone was looking at me. I would turn red trying to have the most basic conversations. My self-confidence would plummet and more than once I have run out of a room in tears."
The extrovert, however, is the polar opposite to the shy person. They happily attract attention. They even want to meet you. They're confident, friendly, fun and lively, heck, they're irresistible to everyone they meet.
Which are you? Are you an extrovert or are you shy like Sharon used to be? If you're a shy person listen closely.'You weren't born shy and it's not your fault.' Contrary to what you've heard you are not naturally shy or anti-social.
Nobody is born 'shy'. It's a developed conditioned response. Best news? You can easily unlearn shyness and become one of the extroverts.
Imagine that! Bouncing into the next social gathering without fear and beaming with confidence. It is possible I know it for a fact.
How do I know? How can I speak with any authority on becoming an extrovert? My name is Bradley Thompson and I researched the topic extensively before designing the program "Extrovert Me". I designed it to bring out the extrovert in you. It works!
Frankly, it's one of the most rewarding self-development programs I have been involved with in the past 12 years. Why?
Because when I designed this program I knew I was creating something to change people's lives.
It has, it does, and it will for you too. If you are the slightest bit curious about what it would be like to be one of the extroverts then do what Sharon did before she banished her shyness forever.
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