How To Turn Relationship Insecurities Around To Create A Better, Loving And Happier Relationship?

Are you always worried about your relationship, do you feel the constant need for reassurance from your partner? 

Are your relationship insecurities so strong that you feel the urge to question and doubt what your partner is up to or where they are?

Are your, hidden and unresolved insecurities putting a strain on your relationship to the point where you risk pushing your partner away.

But, did you know that you can use your relationship insecurities to help you become a better you which can make your relationship stronger, better and more passionate.

Insecurity in a relationship is very common, at it is the root cause of many problems in many relationships.

You might not even beware that you have these hidden insecurities and patterns that are damaging your relationship as well as hurting you.

If you are feeling insecure in your relationship, then this can lead to emotional and even health problems if you leave it untreated.

Having a happy relationship is really important for our emotional well-being, a good trusting and loving relationship, makes a happier and more peaceful you, 

When you experience troubles in your relationships it can have a negative impact and knock on effect on your life.

Such, as, it can make you feel unhappy, it can leave you feeling angry, frustrated, sad and stressed, it can disrupt your sleeping patterns and it can make it hard for you to focus on anything good or positive.

How often, have you allowed your doubts, insecurities and suspicions, even if you have no real evidence to back them up, push you into saying or doing things that caused a heated argument or resulted in something that you later regretted?

Your past insecurities can also block of your chances of enjoying a normal, healthy, loving and fulfilling relationship, both on a physical and an emotional level.

Relationship insecurities, can spoil a relationship that you're already in.

Or if you have been involved in a bad or abusive relationship, they can prevent you from starting a new loving relationship for the fear of having to go through the same bad experience again.

Bad relationships, can lead us to stereotype, all men/woman as being the same.

The first step that you need to take is to learn to be aware of those intrusive and obsessive thought patterns that are driving your insecurities and impulses to seek reassurance or feel the need for certainty.

Once you have become mindful too those repetitive thoughts, you can begin to challenge and question them, so you don't allow them to push you into a confrontation or cross examination of your partner.

The last thing you want is to have a heated and argument, because they cause more damage than good, and there is little to gain, but a lot to be lost, by having an argument.

But it is not just you who will suffer, because when you allow your insecurities to surface and spill out, then your partner will also feel it.

If you feel insecure, you are probably always seeking reassurance, but when you fall into the insecurity pattern, it does not matter how much reassurance you receive. 

Unless you tackle the root cause of your fears, then your old insecurities and feelings will keep on coming back to sabotage your happiness and put your relationship at risk.

Fear and insecurity thrive on the need for certainty and the knowing everything will be OK. 

But you can never have the complete certainty that you're after. 

To begin to suffocate and reduce your relationship insecurities, it is best to accept the worst case scenario could happen, and know that you will be alright, by welcoming a bit of uncertainty, you will have less feelings of insecurity.

Sometimes having a care less type of attitude, can actually end your fears and worries, which can actually have a positive effect on your relationship.

Turn your insecurities into positives, and use them to motivate you to solve your own worries and relationship insecurities, so you can harness all that energy to help you make you and your relationship better.

Because when you feel content and at peace this is going to reflect itself, back out into your relationship in many positive ways.

Of course, you want to have a happy and loving relationship, but once you know you can handle a relationship breakup, you can put all your energy and focus on having a great relationship.

Because your relationship is not meant to make you feel unhappy, worried and anxious, 

You should be enjoying a fun and passionate relationship experience with all the many positive physical and emotional benefits that a good solid and loving relationship can bring you.

Is your imagination a reflection of the truth?

If you suffer with relationship insecurities, then sometimes no matter how many times your partner reassures you, it is never enough.

You want to stop worrying and fretting about what your partner is up to, or why he/she has not immediately answered your latest text.

But yet again, you find that your imagination is taking over you and filling in all the blanks.

But can you really trust your imagination, let alone act on it?

Do you always think the worst case scenario and then believe it, instead of looking at the more realistic reasons first?

Your imagination is very good at creating the story and scenario in your mind that you fear and worry about the most.

The solution is not to try and make your partner change or constantly text you and reassure you, the solution is, to change the way you react and perceive your situations.

The thing to be aware of, your imagination is not real, it is just a projection of possibilities that often are not backed up by any evidence.

Again, learn to be mindful to the thoughts and imaginings that are causing you all your stress and your negative emotions.

Instead of judging without real evidence, and instead of becoming engaged in the stories of your mind, decide how you want to respond to your thoughts and feelings.

We all have our own thoughts and perceptions, engaging in thoughts of doubt and insecurity lead to strong negative feelings and emotions.

Once you learn how to change the way you respond to your experiences and your imagination, then you will be left feeling calmer, more in control and more at peace.

And when you are at peace with yourself and your relationship, your partner and your relationship will benefit, greatly.

All you have to do is to practice changing the way you respond to your thoughts and beliefs, this takes a little bit of practice, but you will soon be left feeling calmer and more in control of your feelings and emotions.

When you sense an emotion, and you either try to suppress it or resist it, then you will not process that emotions, so your problem and your insecurities will persist and you won't overcome it or let go of it.

Many of us hold on to negative thoughts, feelings and emotions instead of releasing them.

The thing to do is to acknowledge the emotion and thoughts, feel the emotion and feelings, without reacting, and then choose what you're going to do about your fear, concern or worry, or just change it, dismiss it or release it and let it go.

Is a previous bad memory, causing your insecurities

The reason why many people suffer with relationship insecurities is because they have previously been in a bad or abusive relationship.

Bad relationships, experience where you have been hurt, treated bad or cheated on, can stop you enjoying new relationships.

It only takes is one bad relationship experience to negatively affect your future relationship.

It is bad enough having your ex partner cause you all the hurt and pain, but you cannot afford to allow them to spoil and jeopardize your future happiness.

They may even put you off starting a brand new relationship,

What you have to ask yourself, are you going to believe and accept that every relationship that you have now or in the future is going to be the same as your bad experience. 

Bad memories can act as fuel for insecurities and negative thought patterns.

If you think that you have a bad memory that is the reason behind your insecurities and fears, then you do not have to let your bad memory rob you of the love, joy and happiness that a relationship can bring, and the happiness that you deserve.

The strong emotions, such as anger, anxiety, insecurity, suspicion and frustration, can cause you to  

  • Seek reassurance all the time 
  • Make you clingy 
  • Cause you to doubt and check up on your partner 
  • Lead to arguments 
  • Trying to figure out what your partner is up to 
  • Questioning the fact, has he/she gone off me or does he/she still love me
Feelings and emotions that are linked to insecurity can be very powerful and dictating if you allow them to simmer and gather momentum.

Because of these strong emotional drives, you won't be able to help yourself and you will probably end up saying things to your confused partner that you later regret or things that can damage your relationship.

If you feel insecure in your relationship, your mind will constantly search for evidence to back up your insecurities and your mind will find problems, even where problems don't actually exist.

Some of you may ask the question, there is no smoke without fire? 

So far we have focused on the person who feels insecure and pointed out how most of the time their insecurities are just a figment of their imagination, feelings of unworthiness or the after effects of a previous bad relationship experience.

But not all relationships are perfect and bad things do happen, sometimes there might be a valid reason for your worries, suspicion and concerns, even though most of the times you will probably be worrying over nothing.

Many experts only focus on the perfect scenarios, but sometimes you need to be able to deal with the imperfect situations, accept the worse case scenario, (But do not put up with it) to take you closer to having the perfect relationships.

We cannot totally ignore the fact, that there are some unscrupulous people who cheat, treat people bad or they spend just a bit too much time with their mates, at work or doing their hobbies.

Sometimes you may have to try and distinguish between your imagination, your ego, your insecure self and your intuition.

It is your intuition that you need to listen to and not your ego.

If bad things do happen to you, then do not allow anyone to diminish you or knock you down.

Let yourself know, that you're are amazing and great.

Sometimes you have to stop caring any more, to free yourself of all the inner pain, this does not mean that you should have to put up with being neglected, unappreciated or cheated on.

But for your own sake and peace of mind, you need to put a bit more focus on doing what is best for you and making the most of your talents, instead of beating yourself up all the time over your partner.

Your own happiness is the most important thing, and the reality is, others can hurt you, but only you can defeat and diminish you.

If you feel that you have been treated badly or unfairly, you need to avoid going rushing in with all guns blazing, just in case you have totally misjudged the situation or you overreact, when it is not justified.

When we feel our boundaries have been crossed or we have been treated badly, it is very easy to get hooked up into our negative emotions such as feeling angry or resentful.

Once you become engaged with your emotions and the stories in your mind, you will be heading for trouble and suffering.

Again, you need to make sure you don't allow your anger to simmer and gather momentum, until you reach boiling point.

If you have to confront your partner or deal with a situation you want to be able to think clearly and rationally, instead of going with your emotions.

At the onset of anger, again, embrace the emotion and let it run, until it passes, then when you're calm, you can analyze your situation, and deal with it calmly or let it go.

Stopping your anxieties from ruining your relationship

Sometimes, your present relationship insecurities can be a result of previous bad experiences or perceptions that you may have made about men/woman.

This is what fear does to us, it uses our past negative experiences to try and make sure that we avoid getting hurt again, unfortunately, our fears and anxieties can rob us of our chance of having a happy relationship and life.

But it is not just your relationship anxieties that can ruin your relationships, you may have other underlying insecurities about yourself that can spill over into your relationship.

The trouble is, whatever happened in the past should be left in the past, but because of the way our minds work, it can make us over-generalize a possible situation which might hurt us. 

It may go something like this

"My Husband/boyfriend-wife/girlfriend, left me- No men can be trusted!"

"I was cheated on by my lover, so you now stereotype all men/woman as being the same, so you convince yourself,  how can you ever trust any man/women again"

"My partner who I loved and who I have been with for a long time left me. Therefore, I will never allow myself to fall in love again, because you only end up getting hurt!"

This type of generalizing can leave you feeling guarded and it can prevent people from being able to trust and commit into forming new loving relationship, merely because of all the fear and anxiety of making the same mistakes again, or you now have the attitude of, is it worth the risk of getting hurt again.

This can also lead you into putting up your barriers and maybe becoming a bit too defensive and judgmental.

Love is a very powerful emotion and driving force, it can be great when love is blooming and everything is running smoothly, but it can crush you and bring you down, when it goes wrong, or more importantly, even if you think it is going wrong.

You must not allow your past to prevent you from having a happy relationship, what you have to be aware of is, all people and circumstances are different, so try not to let what has happened in the past to condemn yourself to live an unhappy life.

We learn to avoid anything that might cause us emotional pain, but not everybody is the same, so why allow somebody else that is no longer a part of your life, to make your life unhappy now or in the future.

If you find that your relationship insecurities and anxieties are getting the better of you, then you might benefit greatly by learning how to manage those anxious thoughts that are fueling your insecurities.

Do your insecurities run deeper

If you are feeling insecure about your partner, then it can also force you to try and control them and get them to think and act how you want them to be.

Your insecurity in your relationship could be a by-product of some other deep insecurities that you still have about yourself that maybe you're not aware of.

It may be an indication that there may be many other parts of your life that are not reliable and it may mean that you do not have a very good relationship with yourself.

Life is full of insecurities and we often make the mistake of relying on material things such as our relationship, our jobs, money, and other material possessions to make us feel happy and secure.

This however is a recipe for disaster and hurt, because we are handing over all our power and happiness to others and other things and this breeds feelings of anxiety and insecurity.

Nothing in the physical world is guaranteed or secure and you can lose things at any given moment, including your partner. 

Because, if you allow your life to resolves around relying on your partner for all your happiness more than feeling good about yourself then this will breed insecurity.

Most people who are insecure in their relationship tend to hold many insecurities about themselves.

Many deep down, think that they are not good enough, worthy enough or deserving. 

If this is the case, then, it will need addressing, each morning and before you go to bed, stand in front of the mirror and say ten times, 

  • I am good enough 
  • I am worthy enough 
  • I like myself
Although you would like to have the certainty that you and your partner will live happily ever after, you simply cannot have that guarantee and if you totally rely on your partner to determine your happiness then you run the risk of a life of more emotional insecurity and suffering.

What you cannot ever lose though, is your ability to feel good regardless of any outside person, situation, thing or possession. 

You may stop together with your partner for the rest of your life, but this is not just about your relationship, it is also about you as well.

If you want to invest some time in feeling more secure and happy, then some of that time should be spent on working on feeling good about yourself and growing. 

Because the only thing that is ever secure is the love that your inner being has for you, and when you're feeling insecure your going against what your inner being knows is best for you, so make peace with yourself and your relationship will take care of itself. 

Learn to love and form a good relationship with yourself because your inner being is the only thing that you can truly rely on, and nothing can ever take that away from you.

What you do have full total control over is, your own happiness, your future, your thought processes and your feelings and it is equally important to love yourself as much as you love your partner.

Your relationship should not be the means to your happiness, your happiness should be the means to a great relationship.

You might want to ask yourself?

Are you just feeling insecure about your partner or do your insecurities run much deeper. 

Because there could be some other underlying insecurities that you hold about yourself that could be the root cause of your relationship insecurities.

This can be thinking that you're not worth or good enough or it could be a sign that you undervalue yourself or you have a low opinion of yourself.

It is equally if not more important to love and feel good about yourself than it is to devote all your feelings and love to just your partner.

There is no one more important to you than you, and learning to like, respect and appreciate yourself are necessary ingredients for having a wonderful and loving relationship and life.

It is great to be in a loving and happy relationship, but what matters the most to you is the love that you have for yourself.

It is not wise to totally rely on your partner to determine how you feel, because they will have their own mood swings, issues and problems to deal with.

Feeling insecure is unattractive and a bad way to live your life, you will be more attractive if you start to feel good about yourself and your partner will thank you for it.

Release your insecurities so you can begin to enjoy your relationship

When you're feeling insecure in your relationship, it actually spoils your relationship and prevents you from enjoying what should be a happy and fulfilling experience.

Insecurity, will also erode, your quality of life, and your emotional well-being, often forcing you to try and have full control and assert all the power over your partner's behaviours, actions and life.

In a good happy and solid relationship, the two partners, see themselves as equals, and they display, trust and they co-operate with each others.

In a good and happy relationship, you should enjoy doing things together, but at times, you should also allow them to pursue their own interests and hobbies, and to a degree, do their own things.

To avoid conflict and to reduce your insecurities, have a conversation with your partner about the things that you both like doing. 

If there is something bothering you, do not bottle it up, talk to your partner, in a calm manner, about what it is that is bothering you.

Once you find out what they like doing, so long as what they are doing is innocent, don’t try to change or stop them. 

Many experts suggest that you make sacrifices in your relationship, but this can cause resentment and add more pressure.

So sometimes it is better, to allow them to do the things they enjoy, as long as it is not excessive, and as long as you both, spend some quality time together. 

At the same time, spend some time doing the things that you like and enjoy. You have not got to spend, all your time together.

The key is, to meet each other halfway, instead of trying to be with your partner, or to constantly want to keep tabs on them, all the time, just to ease your own insecurities and doubts.

When you begin to release your insecurities, and you let go of the need to control, monitor and you stop becoming so clingy, then you will free yourself up, to enjoy doing some of the things that you like, which should work wonders for your relationship.

You're only insecure because you seek certainty and you fear the consequences

One of the reasons why you're feeling insecure is because you think there is a consequence or a price to pay.

The consequences usually resolve around 

  • The fear that your relationship is breaking down 
  • The fear that your partners are having or they might have an affair
  • The fear they are losing interest in you

If you're feeling insecure about your relationship then there is little point in torturing yourself, perhaps it might help you to ask yourself?

Would it be the end of the world if your relationship broke down, because in some cases, people can find more happiness after they split up and they go on to find a more suitable partner or it leads to a better life. 

This does not mean that you should give up on your current relationship, but just by accepting that your relationship might end and you're OK with that, can ease some of your insecurities.

Anxiety is fuelled by the need for certainty, but you cannot always have the certainty that you're seeking. 

The need to have the certainty that you and your partner will stay together forever, can be the very thing that ends up destroying your relationship.  

If you accept, you cannot have the relationship certainty that you're after, but you let yourself know whatever happens, you'll be OK, then you will begin to take away some of those feelings of insecurity.

Then you will have taken a big step in dealing with your relationship insecurities, and the good thing is, because you will be feeling better you'll relationship will actually benefit from this.

You feel insecure because you cannot look beyond the consequences of a break up, and although you don't want to split up, by letting your mind know you can handle and cope with it you will actually be giving your relationship a much better chance to flourish and sparkle.

By accepting the worse case scenario and dealing with it, you will show to your mind that the consequences are not that bad, and if the worst scenario, did happen, you can handle it and it's not the end of your world.

Just by doing this it can calm you down, leaving you to focus on better things, and very often what you will find when you cease worrying and thinking about your relationship.

This will take all the stress and pressure off you and your partner, and you will probably find, that, your relationship will grow stronger. 

The breeding ground for anxiety and insecurity, is all the uncertainty, self doubting and the not knowing, but sometimes in life you cannot always have the guarantee you're seeking. 

But if you can reassure your mind that, you can come through, the breakdown of your relationship and you can still enjoy your life, then this will allow you to enjoy the time you have with your partner.

Is your past robbing you of feeling good now

If you have been previously cheated on or you have been let down or hurt before, then this can drive and fuel your fears and insecurities.

One of the root causes of insecurity in relationships is having a negative past relationship experience.

If you have been hurt, deceived or cheated on in your past or your present relationship, then that is bound to make you feel a bit insecure because it is a very unpleasant and painful experience to endure and go through. 

There is usually an after effect of being cheated on, if it has happened to you before then you will be on your guard in the future, you will know how to spot all the signs so if a similar incidence occurs you will pounce on it straight away because of your now new suspicious mind. 

This is not your fault, you were not the one who cheated and because of all the hurt, then you naturally don't want it to happen again.

The only problem is, just because it happened once does not necessarily mean it will happen again. 

But our past bad relationships or our negative experiences in our current relationship can leave us feeling vulnerable or insecure.

Anxiety and insecurity thrive off the fear of something bad happening, but if you tame down the consequences, then you will cut off the fuel supply to your fears.

Anxiety and worry will rob you of living your life in the peace and happiness of the now, our bad experiences can make us live our lives in the past and they can make you afraid and insecure about the future. 

When you're feeling insecure and anxious then the part of your mind that deals with emotions will begin to increasingly exaggerate the risks and keep you stuck in a negative state of blowing up everything out of proportion. 

This is why it is just as important to solve your own insecurities and work on yourself as it is to work on your relationship. 

Some typical negative thoughts are

  • This is too good to last 
  • Everything always goes wrong for me 
  • I am driving him/her away 
  • I cannot stand the thought of losing him/her 
  • He/she is losing interest in me
  • He/she is more interested in their friend/hobbies 
  • Has he met someone else 
  • What's he/she up to/planning 
  • Why is he/she quiet 
  • What can I do

Insecurity is a form of anxiety and when you feel anxious your mind will search for reasons and meanings to validate your fears and insecurities. 

If you believe something to be true, regardless of whether it is true or false, then your mind will search for evidence to support those beliefs. 

If you don't know exactly what they're doing, it can make you suspicion, causing your mind to fill in the blanks.

This may cause you to constantly monitor your partner and question what they're doing, what you think is wrong or what they're up to. 

But remember you're not a mind reader so be careful not to read into something that is not accurate or even true because the human mind is very good at making things up.

This may lead you to constantly question and probe your partner and to seek reassurance that they still love you or everything is fine. 

When were worried and anxious we tend to ignore the logical reasons and only focus on the worst case scenario's.

Some typical types of questions could be 

  • What have I done to upset you
  • What's wrong with you 
  • Have you gone off me 
  • Do you still love me 
  • You'll never leave me will you

Emotional Neediness And Being Addicted To Love

When you become too insecure in your relationships it can indicate that you have become addicted to love where you may have reached a point of coming across as too needy, clingy and desperate which can be very unattractive to your partner.    

Love is a very powerful emotion and it becomes even more powerful at times when you have become separate from a loved one or you think you're about to lose the love of your life. 

This can drive you to desperate measures and irrational thinking patterns, actions and behaviours.

Some of the reasons that can make you become addicted to love is because somewhere along the way you may feel some of your emotional needs were not properly met or you do not like or love yourself as much as you should.

This can cause you to seek constant reassurance and security from your partner because it is the only way you have to balance and stabilize their emotions.

Channel Your Love In Other Ways

You cannot always rely and depend on your partner to give you the full undivided attention and emotional security that you seek. 

The reason being is, they are far to often tied up with their own issues and interests, so no one is going to devote all their attention and give you the love you want and you feel you need all the time. 

Love is a very powerful emotion to a point where the need to feel loved and wanted can start to disrupt your whole life where you might reach a point where you get to the stage where you're constantly yearning for love to much.

Maybe you have been hurt in the past or maybe you have lost someone you love and you are trying to recapture that love, connection and good times, perhaps you have been cheated on and that is driving your insecurities.

Your desire to be loved could stem back from your early childhood, perhaps you felt neglected or unloved when you were young and that has made you yearn and crave love now.

To make matters worse you may get envious of your friends and other people who you think are in a perfect relationship causing you to question, is there something wrong with you and asking yourself why does everything always go wrong for me. This can leave you stuck in a seemingly never ending negative cycle.

Before you can have a happy and secure relationship you need to have a good relationship with yourself first and if you're a person who craves to be loved then you should first start to channel some of your love in other directions including on yourself.

Turn your inner passion, love and creativity into pursuing your true purpose, many famous writers, artists and musicians use their inner feelings to drive them to success and do more things of the things you love.

You will often find that when you come to terms with your own insecurities and you be yourself and you put more attention into loving yourself and feeling good without having any external conditions attached then your life will start to improve.

Because when your relationship with yourself improves your relationship with your partner or the opposite sex will improve as well. 

And although your goal is to have a loving and fulfilling relationship with your partner is not going to be there all the time, so you need to enjoy and make the most of your free time and put it to good use instead of digging up your insecurities and torturing yourself.

Give Up The Need To Try To Control Everything

Your relationship insecurity can cause you to try to control your partner making you come across as bossy and to dominate

When people are insecure and because of its links to anxiety, it can cause you to want to have a feeling of certainty that everything will always be OK.

But unfortunately the need for certainty can lead to more worry, stress and tension and even anger which can cause even more problems in your relationship.   

You have to accept that you cannot have everything on your terms and the more you try and control your partner and your outside situations the worst you tend to make things.

It is far better to learn how to control your internal world and dialogue because when you master how to control your thoughts and emotions, then you will find that you will begin to calm down which will have a positive impact on your relationship.

Sometimes the insecure person will issue about their looks and their bodies and because they are insecure about their looks they will constantly look to their partners to seek approval and validate how good they look. 

Even when their partner tells them that they look great, the insecure partner will not accept the nice comments.   

They will often instantly dismiss or contradict the compliments by saying things like, no I don't, I look fat or I look ugly, this does not suit me. 

It can be very frustrating and annoying for your partner, especially when their compliments are genuine and sincere, so accept all the nice things they say to you.

Yet if you are happy with yourself and happy in your own skin you won't need or seek out reassurance all the time with your partner. 

The key is, accept what you cannot change and improve on the things you can.    

If you keep putting yourself down and being harsh on yourself, that is what will become your self image which eventually will become a part of you and your reality. 

So isn't it time you started being nice to yourself and when you love and accept yourself completely, then the good thing is you will begin to feel more secure in your relationship. 

Remember the thoughts you have about yourself and your relationships will determine your actions and decisions that can determine the future outcome of your relationship and your life. 

Trust Your Intuition, Not Your Imagination

Sometimes there may be a valid reason or you may have an underlying niggling suspicion about what your partner is up to or how they are treating you, perhaps they're behaving oddly or acting differently and this could be why you feel a bit insecure.

The trouble is, our mind hates the not knowing, so when we feel a bit insecure or unsure about something then our mind and our imagination will try and second guess and fill in the blanks for us.

The only trouble with our imagination is, it is not very accurate or reliable, most of the time it blows things out of proportion and it makes things up based on the information it is fed or the data it has collected from your previous experiences. 

When we believe something is not right, regardless of whether we're right or wrong, or if we believe what we think or suspect is true.

Then our mind will search for evidence to back up our claims and suspicions, things that conform to our beliefs. Our imagination will use this information as feedback and then it will just make things up by creating negative stories in our mind.

The things to remember is, do not always trust or follow your imagination, otherwise it will endlessly torment you and cause you grief and stress.

Try to listen to and follow your intuition rather than your imagination. If you find your imagination is starting to create a story in your head to match your uncertainty over a situation regarding your partner, then just pause for a minute or two, and say to yourself.

What am I creating here, what evidence or grounds in reality do I actually have to back up these beliefs and idea's. 

Then, instead of winding yourself up, take a break, go and relax and then reassess the situation or try and look at it from a more objective perspective or a different possibility or let it go. If you're still concerned, when you have calmed down, have a talk with your partner.

Trust In Yourself And Your Life

Trust plays a massive role in the success of a relationship, this means trusting your partner and learning to have trust in yourself and your unique qualities.  

Learn to believe and value yourself, trust everything always works out right if you get out of the way and you allow things to work out without you trying to control everything including your partner. 

Trust is vital if you want to end all your relationship insecurities, things that cause you to lose your trust are, being the victim of an affair and having a low opinion of yourself. 

Try not to get too jealous unless it is really warranted, especially if your partner talks, admires or looks at the opposite sex. 

Everybody talks to the opposite sex now and again.

Remember beauty lies in the eye of the beholder and they have chosen to be with you for a reason. 

You will have a developed a special bond between you and your partner, the moment you show your insecurities is the moment you will begin to chip away at that special bond.

If you have deep insecurities then you need to address them and the sooner you deal with your insecurities the better otherwise you run the risk of causing a breakdown in the trust you have with your partner which can in time cause a unrecoverable rift between you. 

It is far better to work on improving your relationship instead of trying to destroy all the good you already have. 

Some people who feel insecure in their relationships wrongly presume that their partners have lost interest in them especially if they spend a lot of time pursuing their interests or working long hours. 

Your partner and you should be allowed to enjoy doing their own things and being too possessive is a sign of insecurity.

But everybody should be entitled to do their own things and it does not necessarily mean they have lost interest in you and you can have separate interests yet you can still have a healthy and loving relationship.

Don't allow your own relationship insecurity and doubts from robbing you of a perfectly good and healthy relationship.


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Manage Your Anger

 Learn how to deal with the root cause  of your anger

Reduce Your Stress

Start to  lower your stress levels and return back to inner peace

Positive Thinking

Enjoy the many health benefits of positive thinking 

 Meditation For Stress

Nearly all the most successful people relax for  twenty minutes a day 

Manage Anxious Thoughts

Stop fighting with your thoughts and learn how to quieten them

Overcoming Fear

Wise up to fear and learn how to tame and outsmart the beast

 Dealing With Worry

Worrying can effect your health and quality of life

Be More Successful

Tips on how to become more successful in your life

End Panic Attacks

Help to end panic attacks and general anxiety disorder

The Power Of Hypnosis

Use the power of hypnosis to tap into the software of your mind

New Years Resolutions

Out with the old and in with the new ideal and more happier you