8 Tips To Help You Attract And Find Love

If you have struggled with dead end or failed relationships or if you have not had any relationship at all for quite some time now then probably by now you are fed up and frustrated of being alone. 

If this is the case for you, then you have probably asked yourself the question? Will I ever find love, but that is a negative statement which can repel men away from you or make you not bother.

Also by asking yourself these types of negative questions you're sending out the wrong messages and because you're focusing on the absence of what you don't have your adding negative energy to the equation and we all know that negative energy brings about negative circumstances.

So to start off with, to find love, you have to stop telling yourself things like, why can't I find someone one, or I will never meet someone, because that will reduce your chances of attracting someone to you. 

Frustration, not having and desperation are negative all energies, and you have heard the age old story, that when people try too hard they push the very things they desire further away.

Although you need to remain optimistic, you also need to start doing and taking steps that will increase your chances of finding your soul mate. 

Try not to be too specific with the type of person that you want to meet as that will reduce your options.

We all hope that we will meet our ideal partner, and from our early childhood days we are fed with stories of one day meeting our prince charming or princess.

But life is not a fairy tale, so if you are waiting and hoping to meet your dream partner, then you might be waiting a long time.

If you want to find true love, then you will want to attract the right person for you that meets both your physical needs and your emotional requirements, 

This needs to be, someone who is going to be your best friend, who will be there to support you, someone who you can trust and someone who is going to respect, appreciate and treat you well, and most of all, someone who is going to make you happy.

Many people due to their past conditioning, upbringing and previous bad experiences, end up attracting the wrong types of partners. 

Some people just seem to go from one bad relationship to another, which just further reinforces their negative perceptions about relationships and the opposite sex.

This can leave you feeling and as if all men/woman are the same and making you believe the negative belief, that you're better off staying single, which can deny you of experiencing all the positive benefits that a long term fulfilling relationship can offer you.

Science and relationships 

Most people think the way to meet someone is by getting out there and finding them and although that is an important part of it, before you set about meeting somebody there is a lot of ground work you can do that will increase your chances of finding true love that up until now has been so elusive to you.

Because the language and communication structure of finding love or your true soul mate is believed to go way beyond the realms of normal conscious communication and actions.

You might think that the emotional and mental work is not important and all you want is to just find your true love, but you have to ask yourself if you are doing things right then why haven't you found your perfect relationship yet.

Science is suggesting that we can communicate on a deeper subconscious and spiritual level through our thoughts, beliefs and the emotions we send out before we actually meet the person of our dreams. 

What this means is, you send out messages and the universe responds to your signals and tries to arrange a chance meeting with your ideal mate.

What messages we put out are designed to attract us to our true soul mate, when you are thinking about your ideal mate. 

Send out the wrong signals and you will either repel a potential partner or you will attract the wrong type, send out the right positive and clear messages and the universe will try to match you up with someone who fits your suitability.

One of the biggest repellents to finding your soul mate though, is focusing on not being able to find a partner or having a negative attitude, you must believe that there is someone out there and you will be introduced to them at some point.

Beyond the radar of your conscious understanding your sixth sense acts like a subconscious communication network which is working behind the scenes to try to match you up with our intended life partner to be. 

Attracting your ideal soul mate is not all about physical looks, it has a lot to do with whether or not you are sending out the right signals and messages. 

When you send out the right signals with power, energy and intent, then the universe will match you up with a chance meeting with your true soul partner, this is not just the idea of some guru's it is now gaining scientific backing. 

This seems to be nature's way to give us a helping hand to find our intended life partner and true soul match. 

Your mind and feelings act like a transmitter where you send out and receive information, your future soul match might too be trying to broadcast you're a message, but unless you are in tune with them then you're not going to pick up their messages of love.

TIPS TO HELP YOU FIND LOVE 

On a outside material and physical level you may feel like you have everything that you want, you may have good looks and a good body, you may a have a successful career and a good social circle of friends but on the inside you may feel empty and you need to find your soul mate.

Being engaged in a true long lasting loving relationship is one of life's fundamental elements for having a satisfying state of well-being and good health. 

If you have been involved in bad relationships you may think that there are no ideal partners out there, but that is not true, it's just a perception because there are plenty of good people available you just have to look in the right places for them.

Being single can leave you feeling that there is something missing in your life and at some point in most people's lives, it can seem difficult to find your ideal partner, but there are a few things that you can do to boost your chances of finding love.

1) Value yourself first 

Before you start on your quest to find your true love, you have to realize that it will require a certain amount of time and effort to make it happen so try to avoid falling into the trap of getting impatient and desperate, just trust it will happen. 

This may involve that you have to do some ground work on yourself first, all the experts will tell you this. The inner works must start off with you learning to accept and value yourself first, perhaps you have low self esteem or you feel unworthy which you will need to address. 

If you were brought up in a loving and happy family background that expressed love, then you will find it a lot easier to find love and it will be much easier for you to give out love than it would if you were brought up in a family or an environment where there was little love and bad relationships. 

An unhappy and negative upbringing and conditioning can have a negative impact on your future relationship successes, especially if you did not feel loved or wanted.

A bad family upbringing, especially if you were heavily criticized or you were told you were not worthy can dent your self worth and lead you to make bad choices as far as choosing the right partner or even putting you off relationships entirely. 

So you may need to work on learning to love, value and appreciate yourself first, because your first goal should be to get in alignment and balance with yourself and find out who you really are. 

The next step is you need to learn to be in love with you and who and what you are so you begin to have a good relationship with yourself, sometimes instead of trying to find love it would be better if you learned to love yourself, then let love find you.

This means casting aside all those self doubts and insecurities and then making a fresh start with a clean state. You will need a clear head and a positive and optimistic outlook with the new found confidence that you are good enough and you are a worthwhile person with a lot to offer to the right person. 

When you love yourself and your life, then you will transmit the most powerful energy in existence which is love and that love should return back to you tenfold.

2) Be happy even when your single 

Although it is your goal to find love, you must adopt the attitude of, you're going to be happy regardless whether you're single or whether you're in a relationship. 

Yes you want a loving and lasting, fulfilling relationship, but you should never allow your happiness to depend on it or anybody else otherwise you will be heading for trouble.

The ironic thing is, when you're happy being single, you will shift out of that state of desperation, therefore you will find it easier to attract a partner, most people meet their ideal partner when they stop trying so hard and just go out and enjoy themselves. 

There are several reasons for this, first if you're coming from a place of desperation, then you will be sending out the wrong signals which will repel a potential partner away.

Secondly, if you're not happy with yourself and you have a low self esteem then you run the risk of coming across as too desperate, needy and insecure, which isn't very attractive and it is the single biggest reasons why people fail to get what they desire.

Remember a relationship is a two way thing and they also have to love and respect you back, because when they do that then they will go out of their way to make sure the relationship lasts. But that won't happen if your insecure or you don't love and respect yourself.

When you do meet your true soul mate there can never be a place in your relationship for complicity or taking each other for granted. 

Although a relationship is a two way thing and it is up to both of you to make it work, to keep your relationship alive act as if you're a hundred percent responsible for making it work 

This will involve you making a conscious effort to meet your true love including working on your spiritual and emotional side as well as continuously working on your relationship, avoid allowing things to slip just because you think everything is fine when you have been together for some time because neglect is a relationship destroyer.

3) Write a love wish list

You can try writing a love wish list and many people claim this has been a major factor in finding their soul mate, but don't search for perfection and don't be too specific or picky because beauty and perfection only lie in the eye of the beholder. 

Ideally, it is good to have things in common, but really your true soul mate should be your best friend and lover regardless of their hobbies and interests, and by being a bit more general you will widen your possibilities which will increase your chances of meeting someone.

Most people want a loving and responsible individual who operates in similar circles as they do, but even though you may find someone who has a lot in common with you and that can be a bonus, the solid foundations of all relationships should be built on love and not just because you both have things in common.

So one thing you can do is, you can write your soul mate wish list consisting of some of the things and traits that you like in someone and some of the things that you're looking for in a partner.

On your wish list you can write down some of the qualities that you're looking for, like the positive characteristics and personality type you're searching for, you can put them in order of importance if you wish. 

Although you can add to your wish list things like looks and body type, again try not to be too specific because love and connection go way deeper than physical appearances.

By doing this, it will help to send out the right signals so you attract the person that you think would be more suited to your requirements and needs, your ideal soul mate does not have to share the same hobbies or beliefs as you.

4) Believe and trust that it will happen

Have total faith that it will happen, you need to believe your soul mate can hear you on a subconscious level, you must put out the right clear messages that you're ready to have the best chance of a quicker encounter. 

If deep down you don't really believe in what you're doing, then you're not going to put out the right tone and a strong frequency. 

You need clear signals of intent, you need to be totally sure without doubts so you avoid creating resistance and interference.

If you do your soul work halfheartedly, it will send out a weak signal, any doubt will lead to just hoping you will meet somebody, but there will be doubt and uncertainty, if you have any doubt you will repel the right partners away. 

When you add emotion to what you're thinking about you tend to create that situation. This means when you're focusing on what you don't want or have your adding negative emotion to those thoughts and images you're creating in your mind and that can repel away the very things you want. 

So only think about what you do want and paint a positive picture in your mind with a positive outcome, imagine how good your life is going to be when you have met your ideal soul mate. This also may mean letting go of the past and bringing yourself into the present moment. 

Once you do this, get out of the way and just let it happen naturally, do not try to interfere with the process, the only thing you have to do is, follow your gut intuition and take action when you think it is appropriate. 

Ideally you should match up with someone who matches your inner spiritual needs and desires, you should both get on well together and enjoy each, others emotional needs and company. 

5) The first step to finding love is too learn how to love yourself first

The starting point too forming a relationship is to be happy and at peace with yourself first, because if you attempt to find an outside solution to an eternal problem it is never going to work. 

This may involve building your inner belief in yourself and correcting some of those doubts and insecurities that you may have, if you have an unloved part of you then you might find it hard to get a partner to love you back, therefore true love always has to start with you loving and respecting yourself first. 

So if you don't have the love you want in your life, it could possibly be because you are not loving or accepting a part of you, another culprit is thinking negative or believing you don't deserve to be loved.

Self love means complete self acceptance of yourself, including your perceived faults, this means no more obsessing or worrying about how you feel about certain aspects of your body. 

There is no harm in exercising and eating healthy to tone up your body, but anything you cannot change accept it and learn to love that part of yourself. 

Start looking deep into the mirror to install some deep self love, look into your eyes and send yourself some love, learn to like what you see, then tell yourself how much you love all aspects of you and your body. 

You might not like some aspects of your personality, perhaps you find it difficult to accept your anger, insecurities. If this is the case, learn to control your emotions.

If you have been constantly beating yourself up, self doubting, being overly critical about yourself and you have not given yourself the love and respect your inner being deserves. 

To build your self love and respect requires daily practice, the more you do it the more windows of opportunity will flood into your life. 

You may even think you're overly shy or too extrovert or there may be some other flaws you have that are stopping you from forming a relationship, but remember they are only perceptions and perceptions can be changed. 

Some people even think they are just not cut out for the relationship game, this is not true, working on your confidence can improve your dating chances. 

If you don't love yourself, then you will tend to rely on someone else to do it for you, when people have the reassurance that others love them, then this can temporarily suppress, their own lack of self love. 

The problem with that is, you are not fixing the issue, what you are doing is relying on others to give you the self love that you have been denying giving yourself. It may be OK in the short term, but long term it can have a negative effect on your relationship as your insecurities start to surface.

The more attention you give to love, including loving yourself, the more your love will expand and attract love back, at the heart of you is an ocean of pure consciousness and consciousness is based on love, it is the foundation of all existence.

To find love on the outside you have to generate it on the inside first because they love you will find on the outside is a reflection of the love that is radiating from you on the inside and if you don't really love yourself, you still might attract a partner on a physical level, the problem is, sometimes you can attract the wrong type of person for you.

Because like attracts like, you may find that you will attract a matching partner who also does not love themselves either. In that case you will both be depending on each other to give out love. 

6) Work on your physical appearance

Millions of romantic books about romance are sold every year, these books always depict a beautiful woman and a tall, dark, strong man, you might not find that fairy tale romance, but in reality finding love can be a lot easier than what you might think.

Although looks and physical appearance is not the basis of finding your true soul mate and not everybody is blessed with the perfect body and model looks, but everybody can do a bit to tone themselves up, dress smart and look the very best they can be.

People can spend many wasted years not liking parts of themselves, this attitude will have many detrimental negative effects on you and your life, but if you can start to accept and even embrace the whole you, both physically and spiritually then you can find that changes will happen fairly quickly. 

7) Change your habits and behaviours

If you're not in your ideal relationship yet, then this could indicate that you need to take a good in depth and honest look at your habits, thinking patterns and behaviours, because if you want your circumstances to change you sometimes have to make some lifestyle changes and do some emotional work on yourself.

Sometimes we tend to blame everything on our circumstances and other people, but sometimes you have to examine yourself to try and figure out who you are and what made you, or what makes you think like you do and behave like you do.

Most of who we are today, is a direct result of our conditioning and experiences and the first thing you may need to do is to put all your bad relationship experiences behind you and change some of your old limiting perceptions. 

All your failed previous relationships are not always the other person's fault, and we do choose to be with them in the first place. 

When you start to see yourself as a nice worthy person you will begin to attract your ideal match, but maybe you need to change the type of person that you are normally attracted too otherwise you will carry on attracting the wrong type of partner. 

If you want to find your soul mate, then maybe it's time to do things differently, so stop allowing your past failed relationships from depriving you of forming a new happy one, do not dwell on the past just try to learn something from it that will help you make your next relationship a success.

Because unless you stop making the same mistakes you will run the risk of ending up in the same old scenario again and again, so take something from your previous relationship and use it to improve your next one. 

You don't have to put up with mediocre or second best either, because when you expect good things, then you will receive good things back.

8) Put yourself in the right places 

Although you will need to work on building your inner confidence, your self worth and ditching all that negativity and pessimism, there will come a point where you might need to take action to finally catch your true soul mate. 

It is possible that you may encounter a chance and random meeting, but sometimes you may have to put yourself in the right places.

This may involve socializing more, joining a reputable dating site, joining a night class, going to a singles bar or engaging on social networks, just be careful who you agree to meet with and where you meet up if they are a complete stranger. 

On your first date or so, make sure you meet up where there is going to be other people around.

 

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