How To Stop Blushing Without Trying To Stop Blushing?

If you are suffering from intense and excessive blushing, for little or no obvious reason, then you have probably thought to yourself many times. 

"Why do I blush, why can't I control my own mind and body and how can I stop it from destroying my ability to interact and engage socially"

You also know, how much emotional suffering, stress and worry it can cause you, each and everyday, and because socialising plays such a massive part of our lives. 

There is very little chance to escape the self torment and self destructive feelings and emotions, so you can find some much needed relief or rest bite from this difficult and unpleasant problem. But relief, is what you need right now. 

So what can you do to overcome your blushing and your fear of it and socializing and is there anything that you can do to help you to ease your anxiety and overcome your blushing?

The good news is. There is a lot you can do to begin to reduce and overcome your blushing and your social anxiety, and the two are both directly connected. 

But, it does take, time, effort and the willingness to learn and apply. If you are prepared to out in the required effort then a life beyond blushing and anxiety is certainly achievable.

Many of those who suffer from excessive blushing, also suffer from social anxiety. If that isn't enough to contend with, most blushers also tend to be quiet and shy by nature, they develop a fear of blushing and many also have confidence issues.

Fear, anxiety and low confidence are all negative states, which make socializing very frightening, challenging and uncomfortable.

Because of all this, they can struggle to find help. The mere thought alone of having to speak to their Doctor about it or even a family member can bring about feelings of fear and anxiety.

It can be very hard to open up to people about your blushing problem. Even if you do, most people have no idea how much you're suffering from within, and it is highly unlikely they can provide you with the help you need.

Most people do not understand the symptoms you're feeling in social situations and the amount of emotional suffering on a day to day basis.

I expect you feel like hiding yourself away from nearly all social situations. Sometimes that can seem like it's the only way you can escape all the anxiety and feelings of discomfort.

It is understandable, why you want to avoid nearly all social contact. The problem with this strategy is. What you avoid, you learn to fear more.

All blushers want to do something about their problem, but because this problem makes them feel so worried, uncomfortable and anxious.

Trying to face social situations can become so challenging, fearful and stressful.

The only other option for most blushers is to turn to the internet and browse through forums, blogs and websites.

What you need to know

Our thoughts, feelings, emotions and our stressful and fearful responses are all linked and they all affect each other.

The reasons why you go so red is down to the emotional and physical state that you're in at the time it happens. One of the reason why you blush so much is because you worry and care to much about it happening.

1) Give up the fight 

You cannot fight, force, think away or make yourself stop blushing or stop feeling anxious. That just makes your problem worse and keeps you stuck in a vicious and self perpetuating cycle. 

But you can learn how to manage your physical and emotional state and change the way you respond. 

Once you manage that, You will be virtually blush free and you will have very little anxiety.

You have to accept it can happen and be OK with that. You will have more anxious thoughts and feelings because you don't want to have anxious thoughts and feelings and you will blush more because you don't want to blush.

It's all about learning how to train yourself to keep your mind and body calm, knowing how to quickly get yourself out of those stressful, fearful and negative states that are responsible for the redness in your face and ending all the anticipating and fearing that you're going to blush.

2) Focus on the solution not the problem 

Again, thinking and focusing on trying to stop blushing and stop feeling anxious, cultivates more feelings of anxiety which results in more blushing. 

The secret, is to change your feelings and responses. What you try to stop expands and lingers on longer. 

Instead of trying to stop blushing, which just causes intense emotional arousal. It is better accept you might blush and be OK with that. When you're worrying about blushing, keep telling yourself.

"It's OK If I blush" and make sure you mean it.

Instead of wasting your time and energy focusing on blushing. Work on your physiology, managing your thoughts and emotions and changing the way you feel. Because that is the way to overcome this problem.

Blushing and anxiety happen more, when our mind and body are out of sync and balance. This means you should work on bringing your mind and body back into sync and balance.

3) Never make it your goal to never want to blush again 

Everybody goes red to some extent at times. The key is, the intensity and duration of it and how often it happens. Another key issue is, how you react to it at the time and after.

If you make it an obsession to never go red again. Then that is asking for trouble. A virtual blush free life is possible with time, effort, understanding and practice and that needs to start with having the attitude of.

I couldn't care less if I blush and I am not bothered what others say or think.

If you let it bother you or you react badly, you will create a fear of that situation. It is better to shrug it off and dismiss it as no big deal and try and learn something from that situation to help you in the future.

4) Accept help if you need it  

If you're struggling, accept it is going to take a bit of time to fully recover, spend some time learning and get as much help as possible, because it can take a very long time to figure things out for yourself.

If anybody tells you they have a miracle overnight fix for a blushing problem then I would "err on the side of caution".

There is absolutely no reason why you cannot overcome this problem and you can free yourself from your daily emotional pain and suffering.

But it takes time and effort and a brand new attitude and approach. You have, without you knowing, been programing and conditioning yourself for years, to associate blushing and the social trigger situations that cause it with your fight, flight freeze response.

So it is going to take time and effort to undo, change and reverse the process.

Your goal should be to make continuous and progressive improvements and progress with the attitude of keep learning, practising and repeating and applying the right strategies.

There is a lot of free information on this page and site. 

If you want a quicker way and a proven solution. If you're prepared to put in the time and effort that is required to overcome your blushing and anxiety for good.

There is a genuine program available called Blush Free, which has been created by a former Ex chronic blusher Gary Ambrosh who spent years researching and coming up with a real solution to this problem.

If your interested. The program will provide you real life and helpful, techniques, tips, information and the right strategies, that you can apply and implement in your daily life and those real life trigger social situations.

Which will teach you how to "Stop A Blush" before it happens, help you eliminate and change all those anxiety and blushing inducing thoughts, feelings, as well as helping you change the way you respond.

The Blush Free Solution is split into two stages. The first step, will quickly help you eliminate your excessive, frequent and intense blushing, which is by far the major problem

The second stage will teach you how to get to the next level, by working on and overcoming any mild blushing, learn you how to quickly change your state and quickly stop all the nervous anticipation.

The Blush Free Solution which you can access and learn in the privacy and comfort of your own home, without having to tell or talk to anybody about your problem is one of the few genuine blushing products available.

It is entirely your decision and choice what you decide to do. If you are interested, the link to the website is below.

9 Tips To Further Help You Control Your Blushing, Feelings And Emotions

The secret is to keep learning and to keep on making continuous and progressive progress and improvements.

Even if you can manage to make a 1% improvement and progress each day, then in a few months from now, you will have made giant strides to overcoming your blushing and your social anxiety.

If you keep going backwards by 1% each day, in a few months time, you will be in a much worse situation than you are now.

Below are eight tips practical tips and lifestyle changes that can help you to reduce your social anxiety and help you to overcome your excessive blushing.

It all has a lot to do with learning how to relax, feel good and train yourself how to manage your physical, mental and your emotional state.

1) Ending your fear of going red

The first step to overcoming your blushing is to cease being afraid of it. Blushing is an outward sign of an inward emotion.

Two of the main emotions that trigger the redness and heat in your body are. The emotion that is associated with fear and the sad and low confidence emotions.

The reason why you fear it is because you don't want it to happen and you don't like it. The trouble is not wanting it to happen keeps the fear cycle going.

The best way to cease being afraid of going red, is to accept it could happen and let yourself know it is OK for you to blush and mean it. As this will end the emotional arousal.

One of the reasons you go red so often is because you worry to much about it happening, when you cease caring about it happening, you will begin to go red less and less.

This can be hard concept to grasp, because your current mindset is one of, you don't want to go red, but it is a pattern that you need change and break.

Even if it does happen, shrug it off as no big deal, otherwise you will create a fear of that particular social situation to add to all your other fears of it.

You want to begin to reduce your fear, not add to them and you do this through a process of elimination.

2) Low confidence emotions

The other emotion that trigger all that redness in your face and body are the low confidence and sad emotions.

Blushing is more likely to happen if your feeling low, unhappy or underconfident.

Sometime we can feel low and insecure if we have been ill or we are mentally and physically burnt out or exhausted.

Keep yourself hydrated and if you feel low or you lack energy. Make sure yout ake it easy and get plenty of rest and relaxation.

Therefore it is essential for you to work on increasing your confidence and being as happy as you possibly can.

Things that can affect your confidence and happiness are. You're posture. Avoid leaning forwards, slouching or trying to stand too tall and rigid.

People who are low on confidence, are often told to stand tall, however this can lead to muscle stiffness which can leave you feeling uncomfortable. 

Muscle stiffness is also linked to, your fight or flight reflex mode, causing you to react with fear. Also, the more tense you are, the more blood you will force into your face.

A better way of putting it would be to sit, stand and move at your naturally height and full expansion, without stiffening.

One of the reason why people suffer low confidence is because they don't like themselves enough or they think that they're not good enough or worthy enough.

Each day as you wake up and go to bed. Stand in front of the mirror, gaze into your eyes, and say to your reflection several times.
  • I love myself 
  • I like myself 
  • I am good enough in every way
And do this every single day.

Learn to like and approve of yourself, faults included. Manage your self talk, because the only person that can diminish you is yourself.

Believe in yourself, and no longer see yourself as inferior to others. 

Your diet is also important as is staying well hydrated as they both can affect your mood and your anxiety levels.

If you are sensitive to certain foods, then this can affect how you feel, it is also important that you eat a healthy balanced and varied diet. 

Having high nutritional foods, so you get the required amount of your daily vitamins and minerals is essential. Or take a vitamin and mineral supplement.

Getting enough quality sleep is also important and try to avoid burnout or exhaustion. Focus on doing the things you enjoy and make it your dominant intention to feel good.

Thinking about blushing, will never result in a solution, all it does is activate more negative energy. Pick thoughts that make you feel good or think about general or neutral thoughts and things.

Get yourself a hobby, paint, read, go for long walks or do anything that does not make you feel bad.

It is very hard to manage your blushing and anxiety if you're sitting or standing in tense postures. The video below is an excellent demonstration of how to sit and stand with the least amount of tension.

When you sit down, it is important to sit right, so you're sitting on your sit bones, but you should not try to sit up straight or tense.

When you sit down, it is essential that you don't slump or tense your body when you get in and out of your chair or whilst you're sitting in your seat.

Because when you sit with a collapsed spine with your head protruding forwards or you're in a shrinking posture. 

Then you're sending a signal to your brain that you're being threatened and you will be putting yourself in survival mode.

A shortened posture is linked to insecurity, low confidence and submissiveness and it can significantly increase the chances of your face turning red should any attention be put on you. 

In evolutionary terms. 

The red face sort of acts as a surrender signal to the dominant and confident individuals and it is relaying that they aren't posing a threat.

The person in a shrunken posture is accepting a subordinate and submissive position in the group and when you're in a submissive posture, a blush is almost inevitable.

Tensing your muscles, lifting up your chin and chest and trying to sit and stand too tall is just as bad as shrinking in stature. 

Tense and tight muscles are linked to your fight or flight reflex response. Therefore, if your muscles are tense then again.

Your brain, will interpret these signals as your being threatened, which will increase your anxiety levels and increase the chances of you going red.

Also when we sit and stand in tense and out of balanced postures or we shrink in stature and allow our chest and head to collapse. 

Then this can cause low confidence emotions or the release of adrenaline which causes more anxiety and is responsible for the opening of your blood vessels in your face.

Although there is no way of proving this. Tense or shortened postures, will make you feel more uncomfortable and it will increase your chances of going red.

One of the main reasons for blushing is anxiety and low confidence emotions, which are all linked to your body.

The reason why you go bright red has a lot to do with how you're feeling both physically and emotionally. 

Therefore anything that can help to make you feel more relaxed and confident is going to help you.

The video below, will show you how to sit and stand, with the least amount of tension.



3) Reduce your stress and release any tension

Blushing is much more likely to happen when you're feeling stressed or tense. 

When you're feeling stressed and tense. Your mind interprets this as, something bad is about to happen which will increase your anxiety levels.

Fear and anxiety are a physical state. Therefore it is essential for you to relax and keep active.

Exercising and keeping active is a great way to relieve the physical symptoms of stress, tension and anxiety, it can also help to boost your mood as well.

Although it is important to relax, because although exercise and keeping active is important. The best way to reduce your stress, is not to get stressed in the first place.

Try and pinpoint the root causes of your stress and begin to change the way you react. Avoid rushing and if you notice yourself beginning to feel stressed.

Pause for a few minutes, and take some deep breaths and try and bring yourself back to the present moment.

Also, when you feel stressed or you feel the urge to rush. Deliberately, stop and slow yourself down.

Relaxation is the antidote to stress. Find ways to relax, and spend twenty or so minutes each day, deeply relaxing.

Things like mindfulness, meditation, listening to relaxing music or self hypnosis are great stress busters.

Avoid any stimulants or try to minimize things that causes stimulation. Cut back or eliminate on caffeine, avoid too much alcohol or high in sugar foods. 

Have a unwinding routine before you go to bed, Switch off the TV or and electrical devices, and listen to some relaxing music or read a book, before you go to bed.

If you go to bed relaxed, You will get a relaxing and restorative good night's sleep, and you will wake up feel relaxed and refreshed.

It's all about implementing positive daily habits and sticking to them.

4) Managing those anxious thoughts

If you suffer with blushing and social anxiety. Then no doubt, you will probably be dogged by negative and anxious thoughts throughout you day that will annoy you and cause you endless stress and anxiety.

You have been probably, wondering how can I stop these anxious thoughts?

The answer is, don't try and stop a negative thought. Because, the more you try and stop them or suppress them the more you will think about them.

You cannot stop a thought once it has been activated, so your next best option is, how to stop the emotional arousal and momentum from gather pace.

Because once you have allowed a negative or stressful thought to gather momentum, it is to late and your day is ruined.

The trick is. Do not try not to worry or attempt to stop or blockout a negative or anxious thoughts. Instead, changed the way you react to them.

If you' notice a anxious or worry thought. Do the exact opposite to what you would normally do.

Do not judge or react badly. Just acknowledge that it is just a thought, then allow and encourage your mind to think the thoughts.

Just observe your mind, and let your mind think the fearful thoughts, and what you will find is. After a brief bit of mild discomfort and emotional arousal. Your mind will calm down all by itself, if you leave it alone.

If you're having those what if thoughts. Answer them and turn the negative energy into positive energy. 

Let your mind know.

"Whatever happens, I'll be OK" or "If that happens. I'll be OK.

If you're feeling worried or anxious about what someone might say. Ease your anxious mind, by letting you know.

"You're OK with that"

Or say to yourself. What if everything goes great, what if I stay cool, calm and confident.

Always let you know that, you can handle it and you will be OK.

Or you can reply to those what if thoughts with, so what.

You can even ask yourself. 

"Why would I want to feel anxious"

"Why would I want to blush"

Again, the more tense you are, the more you will tend to have, tense related thoughts.

If you find yourself worrying about a social situation, again change the energy. Tell yourself things like, 
  • I will look forwards to that.... 
  • I am going to enjoy.... 
  • That sounds like fun.....
If you are having the same persistent negative and anxious thoughts, try this simple trick, demonstrated in the video below.

If all the stress and worry is disrupting your sleeping or making it hard fo you to fall asleep.

Create a relaxing and unwinding bedtime routine. Switch off all your phones, computers and TV, unless you are listening or watching something serene and relaxing. 

Have a warm bath or put on some nice relaxing and soothing music.

There are plenty of relaxing videos on Youtube or use a hypnosis recording.

When you go to bed, Write all your worries down on a piece of paper. Then don't think about trying to get to sleep.

Just relax. If your mind starts to focus on worry or stressful thoughts. Don't attempt to try and stop or suppress them.

Just, leave your mind alone, and it will soon still itself. If it keeps on returning to the negative thoughts, repeat.

5) Facing your fears

Because people don't like feeling anxious or fearful. They tend to want to avoid any situation, that makes them feel uncomfortable.

But if you want to grow and build your social confidence and if you want to eliminate your social fears, you will have to face your feared situations.

Everybody feels uncomfortable at times. The trouble starts when you become afraid of feeling uncomfortable.

To eliminate your fears and anxiety. Accept that you might feel a bit anxious, and again be OK with that.

Learning to reduce your stress and releasing your tension, will make it a lot easier for you to face your fears.

Entering a stressful and challenging situation, and accepting you might feel anxious and being OK with that, will help you a lot.

If you start to feel anxious or uncomfortable. Don't try and fight it or attempt to stop it.

Just, recognise that it is just feelings and feelings cannot harm you and they will soon subside.

The best thing that you can do when you start to feel anxious and uncomfortable. Is to try and act as normal as possible.

Embrace the feelings, see it as just a fluctuation of energy. Then smile, hum a happy tune to yourself and keep smiling and start to relax your body.

Most people freeze, panic and go inside of themselves. Making a quick shift in your physiology can snap you out of the freeze state and pattern or try moving about.

Carry on, feeling the feelings and allow them to carry on, just observe how you feel and let the emotions rise up through your body and away.

Do not panic or react negatively. Just smile, relax your shoulders, take some slow deep breaths, and keep your focus of attention on what you're doing or put it on something externally.

Where most people go wrong is. They think that they must never feel anxious, so they try and stop themselves from feeling anxious.

But that is unrealistic and it will create a never ending cycle of anxiety and stress.

But it is OK to feel a bit anxious. So instead of fighting it or wanting to avoid feeling anxious. 

Tell yourself, it is OK for you to feel anxious, and remind yourself if you just embrace it, feel it and observe it. Then it will soon subside.

The trick is, to immediately focus on relaxing.

Change your inner dialogue from feeling anxious to feeling excited.

If you're feeling very anxious. Imagine yourself on a beautiful tropical beach and just engage with all your senses. 

Focus on what you can see, hear, smell, feel the heat of the sun or the gentle breeze on your body and imagine you're drinking or eating your favourite food or ice chilled drink.

You can practice this in a quiet place first.

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6) Change the way you respond

If you feel as if you're about to blush. Do not panic, accept it and tell yourself it's OK If I Blush.

If you really feel anxious and you're at the point of no return of blushing. Relax your shoulders, relax your stomach and again, take some slow deep breaths.

If you feel anxious and fearful. Whilst you're doing this. Keep telling yourself silently. "I want to blush".

Another tip some people recommend is. Try and imagine your feet warming up so you can redirect the heat into your feet, instead of your face.

You could practice this by imagining you are standing in a bowl of warm water and feel and imagine your feet warming up. 

Then, when you feel the heat rising in your face, imagine your feet warming up. This will also help distract you from focusing on the blushing, which just makes it more intense and longer in duration.

Try to keep out of your head and keep your focus of attention external.

There are much better, quicker and more effective ways of overcoming your blushing for good and you can learn these with the Blush Free Program.

7) Self hypnosis and visualization

Overcoming your blushing is all about learning how to calm your mind and your body.

Negative thoughts and imaginings will disempower you and cause you to react with anxiety and stress.

The reason why so many people get stuck in vicious loop and cycle is because they are thinking about and imagining what they don't want and then their mind and body will use the fear emotion to try and get you to avoid or get away from the imagined blushing inducing scenario.

When you think about not wanting to go red, you will activate and increase the negative and fearful neural associations and responses.

Therefore only imagine and focus on, what you do want and how you want to be and feel.
 
To try and decrease your fears and anxieties. 

Take away the negative. So instead of worrying and caring about going red. Stop caring if it happens and stop caring about other people noticing or making a comment. 

Because you want to try and leave behind, all your past negative blushing experiences and what you don't want. 

But, you cannot do that. If you keep on thinking about what you don't want to happen.

You cannot get rid of all your unwanted negative and fearful thoughts. But, you can learn to detach yourself from them and your imagination.

Find somewhere quiet, take some slow deep breaths, release any tension you're holding on to and just allow yourself to relax.

Then think and imagine the situation that caused you to feel anxious and then, try and remain and keep your body relaxed whilst you keep on imagining the fearful situation and keep doing this.

See, each anxious and embarrassing situation as a challenge for you to overcome and an opportunity for you to learn and become better.

Replacing reacting with fear with remaining cool, calm and at ease, should be what you focus on.

The only way forwards is to rise and no longer care if you go red.

Often low confidence is attached to a blushing problem. Confidence is just a feeling, which is the opposite to fear and a knowing.

That whatever happens, you'll be OK.

It is impossible to feel confident if you are worrying about going red all the time.

The secret is to try and be yourself and to be the person you choose and not the person that your past  negative experiences and others has defined you to be, think and behave.

Self hypnosis is a powerful tool that can help to retrain and reprogram your mind to react differently in all those situations where before you would go red and react wth fear.

Self hypnosis is a useful tool to use alongside other relaxing techniques. It is also a useful tool to help you relax and reduce your stress and tension.

The two self hypnosis sessions I would recommend are.

It is important to reprogram your mind and change those fearful responses and neural associations, with calm responses and associations. 

These sessions will teach your mind how you want to respond. 

Even with the power of hypnosis, change can take time. Do not use them once or twice and then dismiss them.

The trick is to pinpoint the situations that make you go red and then. One by one, work on changing the way you feel.

Even if you do decide to give self hypnosis a go. 

If at any time during your day, you start to imaging blushing scenarios.

Still, see and imagine yourself in any situation where your mind presents a fear imagined blushing scenario, being and feel calm, cool and at ease.

And keep using the self hypnosis sessions, until you start responding differently and then any time afterwards you feel you need a top up.

However, it is still important to have a healthy and relaxed lifestyle as well. Because if you're feeling overly stressed, anxious and tense, then it becomes a lot harder to control your body and your blushing.

8) Develop a couldn't care less attitude

Although we should always be nice and respectful to others and treat them well.

To help you overcome your fears and feelings of embarrassment sometimes a couldn't care less attitude is a good approach.

Like not caring what others think or what they might say to you or not caring if you blush and not caring about others noticing it or saying something about it.

We all make mistakes and we all feel embarrassed from time to time, but is it worth you constantly worrying about it or beating yourself up afterwards.

Learn to let things go and move on and give up worrying and caring about what others might think or say about you.

9) Thought Field Therapy

Fear and anxiety is one of the main reasons why you blush.

The fear and anxiety is another term for your fight, flight freeze response and the reason why you are feeling anxious and going red so much is because you have attached your fight or flight response to the feeling of heat in your face and all those trigger social situations that make you react with fear.

If you want to end your social anxiety and your excessive blushing. 

Then you will need to remove your fight or flight response and associations from your blushing (Heat in your face) and all your social triggers and external stimuli.

Thought Field Therapy is a simple but highly effective technique that can help you to reduce and dissociate your fight or flight response away from your blushing and any social situation, that makes you feel anxious or causes you to freeze or react with fear.

The video below with demonstrate the powerful TFT tapping routine. You can find plenty more of these Thought Field Therapy videos on Youtube.



All you have to do is focus on or imagine yourself in those situations that make you react with fear or tune into the thoughts that trigger an anxious response and then perform this simple tapping routine a exercise.

Go through each different social situation that might make you blush and think about what is making you feel anxious or what you're worrying about or anticipating might happen or what has previously happened.

You can also, focus on and imagine that you're in a situation and you're starting to blush or you can feel the heat rising in your face.

The more uncomfortable you can make yourself feel, whilst you're doing this technique and thinking about a social situation that is or might make you blush or cause you to react with fear, the better.



 

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