Getting Out Of Depression

Depression, It is not all in the mind.

I think I am depressed? You may ask yourself.

Many people think that depression is all in the mind, and although your mindset and attitude can play a big part. 

But, very often, the root cause of people's depression can be from an imbalance of the body, where your body is out of balance and harmony or something is causing your entire system not to function efficiently.

If you are feeling depressed for apparently little or no reason, then it could be an indication that maybe something in your diet is not agreeing with you. 

You may be suffering a nutrient deficiency, you are feeling run down, tired and exhausted or you're suffering from too much stress, worry or anxiety.

There are many symptoms that could indicate that you're depressed, these can range from
  • Feelings of hopelessness and pessimism
  • Feeling tired, lethargic and lifeless 
  • Low moods and low energy 
  • Feelings of low confidence and low self esteem 
  • Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much 
  • Feeling empty and disempowered 
  • Struggling to focus and concentrate 
  • Poor appetite 
  • Feeling lonely 
  • Holding on to bad memories 
  • Persistent negative thoughts
According to the World Health Organization, it is estimated that around 121 million of people worldwide are affected by depression, which may suggest that modern day lifestyles is partly responsible for the ever increase in the rise in the number of people who are depressed.

There could be a number of reasons for why you are feeling depressed which can range from biological reasons and an imbalance in your physiology, to poor diet, psychological and emotional causes.

It does not even have a lot to do with your standard of life or your level of income either, because there are many wealthy people who suffer with depression who on the surface appear to have a good standard of life.

If you're struggling with depression for quite some time now, and you have tried all the standard advice of thinking positive and you still feel a depressed, then you might be left feeling a bit confused to why you still feel this way, especially if on the face things, you have got a good quality of life.

With the seeming rise in the number of cases of people being diagnosed as being depressed, perhaps it is time to look for the reasons and root causes of why they feel so bad.

Depression is a state of mind and body and the mind and body are one whole thing, what this means is they both can have a direct impact on each other.

Although environmental factors can influence us and affect how you feel in the short term, most of the time they are not the only thing that is causing you to feel depressed.

Sometimes, if we feel as our emotional needs and requirements are not being met, then if we allow our outside circumstances to influence our perceptions and thought processes, then this will affect the functioning of our body.

Although positive thinking is not always enough to drag you out of the depths of depression, it is important to try and force yourself to be more positive and optimistic, or at least try not to dwell on the negative.

People who are depressed tend to focus more on pain than enjoyment, our mind and bodies are very resilient, and we can endure a bit of negativity, but when all you see is pain and hopelessness, then eventually your whole system is going to break down. 

Again everybodies situation is different there is not one fix that will suit everybody, if you have hit hard times, then this can make you feel low, but if you have been depressed for a long time then it could mean that there is another underlying cause for your depression.

Depression indicates that your mind and body is out of balance and harmony and your whole system is not functioning as it should, therefore the answer to overcoming your depression, could lay with getting your body functioning correctly again.

Many people assume that depression is a mental state, but because of the mind and body connection, it can also indicate that your body is out of sync.

You might have a great life, but lets say if you have a food intolerance or you are deficient in some of the vital nutrients, then this can leave you feeling depressed without a reason.

If you're feeling depressed then this could mean that it could be that it is a result of an accumulation of several different things and you might have to dig into what's causing it and then address the root cause of your depression.

It can be hard to treat depression with one singular approach because very often depression is an accumulation of many different things such as.

  • Mindset/focus of attention
  • Stress and tension 
  • Fatigue and exhaustion, both mental and physical
  • Diet and a nutrient deficiency  
  • Food sensitivity
  • Inflammation and digestion 
  • Personal and environmental circumstances 
  • Bereavement and relationship loss 
  • Sedentary lifestyles
  • Health issues 
  • Emotional needs not being met 
  • Feeling unsatisfied with your life 
  • Thinking that you're not good or worthy enough
What this means is, to overcome your depression you may need to address and make many different lifestyle changes.

Many people feel depressed because they are not satisfied with parts of their lives or the current situations that they are stuck in or they are not following their true purpose in life.

If your job or situation is having a negative effect on your emotional well-being, then it may be time to try and get away from your situation or look for a more rewarding career.

If it is not appropriate for you to leave your job or bad situation, then try to accept it and make the most of it until you find something better.

Depression can leave you feeling disconnected, where you have become too engaged with your thoughts and perceptions and you have become too dis-engaged with life itself.

Depression grips you in a state of hopelessness and emptiness

Depression can gradually creep up on you, and it is usually a result of an accumulation of many things.

Your mood is low, you feel negative and dis-empowered, you struggle to get out of bed, you'd rather be asleep than awake and you feel like there is nothing worthwhile for you to get up for.

For you, this is more than just another bad day or a few days of low mood, depression has struck and you feel drained of energy and everything has become an effort.

Depression can strike anybody at any time, and it can hold you stuck in a state of hopelessness, you may know what is causing your depression you may not have a clue, it can also suck the life out of you and take away all of your power.

Sometimes the underlying root cause of depression can be from thinking that you're somehow inadequate or you're not good enough, worthy enough. 

Perhaps you feel rejected, or you think that there is something wrong with you or you feel that you do not fit in or belong to your family, your community or even your circle of friends.

Many people who are depressed use harsh and critical words to themselves about themselves, but you would not treat your friends that way, so you should not put yourself down or be critical about yourself.

If this is the case, then it is one of the first things that will need addressing, because once you stop diminishing yourself, you will find out that other people's comments and opinions can no longer hurt you.

Your own mind can be your very worst enemy and very destructive when you constantly feed it with negativity about you and your life.

Because, your own brain can take you to a very bleak and dark place of doom and gloom leaving your stuck in a place of pessimism and emptiness.

But there is a positive flip side to this, and your mind can also heal you and lift your mood and fill you with hope and optimism when you use positive words and self praise.

It is just as easy to say nice and positive things about you than it is to say harsh and critical things, the only difference will be in the way you feel.

One of your first steps is to repeatedly affirm to yourself that, "You are good enough" as soon as you wake up, on going to bed and at times throughout the day.

Changing those negative thought patterns

Although there can be many contributors to your depression, such as outside influence environmental factors, feeling unsatisfied with your life and diet.

The words you speak and the thoughts that you think can have a massive impact on how you feel.

People who are depressed have allowed their negative thoughts of self doubt, insecurity and pessimism, to dominate their patterns of thinking for such a long time that they become habit and a normal way of perceiving themselves and their world. 

These negative thought patterns will need changing and it will take time and effort, but eventually, if you persist, then the new more positive or pleasing thoughts will become the new norm and way of thinking.

The only way to change your thought patterns is through repetition and practice, and the best time to start is, first thing in the morning and last thing before you go to sleep.

Get up and look forward to the day ahead, tell yourself, what a great day to be alive and you're going to have a great day.

Try to keep your focus of attention on all the good things that can happen, because if you carry on from where you left off the day before, giving all your attention to all the bad that might happen, you will carry on feeling low and insecure.

There is a better option than to think negatively, negativity is just a state of mind, but it is not compulsory and everybody is free to think better feeling thoughts, even though many choose not to.

Because you can think yourself into feeling bad, but you can also think yourself into feeling good or anything else that you choose.

Therefore, it is time to change the subject and replace those old bad feeling thoughts with fresh and new thoughts of hope and optimism.

Faith is your power and healer

Having faith is one of the most powerful energies that can take you out of depression, because faith leads to hope and hope leads to optimism and change.

If you begin to develop faith that bit by bit things will get better, then once you get the momentum going, nothing can defeat you ad you can fill yourself with joy and happiness with a few well chosen words.

If you are feeling depressed, then the chances are that you have also lost a bit of your confidence in yourself and your abilities, it may even cause you to question and doubt your own true inner powers.

Many people who suffer with depression also lack self esteem, some may even have an inferiority complex, which can cause feelings of insecurity, leaving you feeling anxious and defeated.

But when you develop a strong faith in your ability to overcome anything, then you can begin to overcome any self doubt and feelings of insecurity,

Start to rebuild your self confidence and develop some inner faith in yourself, it may also help you to start to do a bit of soul searching, ask yourself why you feel so low and insecure.

If you are struggling or you have a problem that you want to overcome, then remember, you're never alone because your inner being and god are always there if you need help.

Say your prayers and ask the universe for help, and it will be given to you, many people are still unaware of the power of prayer or inner guidance.

Try and use your adversity to help you become stronger and to bring you new opportunities, and love yourself for who you are.

Start off by doing the simple things

Once you have hit rock bottom, you can either stay stuck there, or you can decide to do something about your depression.

Sometimes the way out of depressions is to first focus on the simple things and by making small simple changes. 

Gradually begin to introduce yourself back into doing some of the things that you once used to enjoy.

It is highly unlikely that you're going to make a quantum leap from feeling depressed to feeling happy.

Often it can be more of a case of, making gradual and steady progressive improvements, and to begin with, any improvement is a step in the right direction. 

If you have been depressed for a long time now, then it may prove hard to motivate yourself, so at the start you may have to literally force yourself to make some positive and subtle changes.

Getting outside in nature can make a big difference to you and how you feel, so try to go for regular walks and just observe the calming effects of nature, or just sit or potter about in the garden, because gardening can keep you occupied and lift your mood.

Planting and growing things can give you a sense of achievement, and just by making small changes to your life on a consistent daily basis, can give some meaning back to your life and help you to lift the fog of gloom.

When you decide to do some new things, be mindful as your mind will try and stop you, sometimes you just have to go and do it, to help to motivate you, play some happy music and switch off any sad songs. 

If any negative thoughts creep into your mind just let your negative mind know that they are not going to stop you and just ignore them and proceed, because the more you think about something the more you will talk yourself out of doing it.

Doing relaxing things that you like or enjoy can distract you from your depression and it can allow you to give your mind a chance to settle.

Try to be mindful of all the things and thoughts that start to make you feel bad, do not try to repress your feelings, just acknowledge them, feel them and then focus on something that makes you feel better.

Tell yourself, "Yes, I am feeling sad at the moment, how I want to feel is happy and calm", tell your mind to give you feelings of happiness and joy.

If you notice yourself slipping back into a negative state, immediately start to turn things around or do something that will distract you before the fog of doom and gloom has a chance to descend. 

As your inner strength and energy starts to return, you can turn your hand to planning and doing bigger and better things. 

Setting yourself some goals can give you a sense of purpose, just keep yourself occupied and keep on building on your successes.

Depression is not all in the mind

Today we seem to live in a society that wants instant results or a quick fix to our problems and challenges and our lifestyles are constantly changing, and not always for the best.

We are all perfectly equipped and we all have a built in coping mechanism to deal with life's challenges and setbacks.

So we have to ask the question. Why are so many people still struggling with depression?

After all, we are designed to be happy and to feel relaxed, so, if you're depressed, then this suggest that there is something out of sync with you and your life.

Depression is actually just a term used to describe an emotional and physical condition, and there may be many reasons to why people feel depressed.

Why it may be so hard to treat depression may be due to the fact everybodies causes of their depression may vary and be slightly different from person to person.

What this means is, everybody is a different case, and what might be one persons root cause of their depression can be completely different to another.

This means that, what might work for one person may not help the next, so it is important to try and pinpoint the actual root cause of your depression first, then treat it.

To successfully treat your depression you will need to find out what is causing it and then work on your mind, overcome your problems or your physical body or all three if it is required, because more often than not, it is more than one thing that is responsible for your depression.

Often people's depression can be an accumulation of many different things, such as 

  • Stress, worry and anxiety 
  • Environmental factors and external circumstances 
  • Loss and grief
  • Relationship issues 
  • Chronic fatigue and exhaustion, both mentally and physically  
  • Poor and unhealthy diet and lifestyle, lack of good nutrition 
  • Inflammation in the body, digestive issues 
  • Personal problems 
  • Low self esteem, feeling not good enough and low, self worth
Sometimes to fix your mind you have to work on your body and sometimes to calm your body you will have to work on your body, and the end result should be to bring your mind and body back into balance and harmony.

Other causes could be, that some of us are living sedentary and inactive lifestyles, our bodies have been designed to keep active.

Exercise and movement can help to stimulate those calming endorphins that will help you to feel happy and relaxed.

This does not mean you have to spend ages exercising, but more and more people are spending longer periods of time sitting down.

Sitting down for long periods can also play havoc with your posture and your physiology.

Our mind and body is supposed to be in balance, so our chi energy freely flows around our bodies, because when your mind and body are in balance and working in harmony with each other, then you will feel good.

But when this energy becomes blocked such as times when we are feeling stressed or negative, or we are standing and sitting in tense out of balanced postures, then our whole physiology can become out of balance and sync which will have a negative impact on our mood.

Our mind and body are all one whole and everything is connected and when we are relaxed and happy our physiology will be at its most efficient best.

But when either our mind or our bodies are out of balance, it will have an effect on our physical, mental and emotional state.

To overcome depression, we must take control of our minds, look after our bodies, get plenty of rest and relaxation and take back full control of our well-being.

Perhaps we are not using our minds as much as we should either. Your mind is a never ending processing, machine so it needs to be kept active or filled with constructive things for it to focus on.

Things like physical exhaustion, stress, worry, poor diet and nutrition, dehydration and a lack of relaxation and sleep can all lead to you feeling low, physically drained and dis-empowered.

Our body can reveal a lot about our well-being so it pays to listen to what your body is trying to tell you. 

If you feel tired and exhausted you need to rest, if you're stressed and anxious you need to relax and if your body is zapped of energy and you feel lethargic it could indicate you need more healthy nutritious foods or better quality sleep.

Eating foods that are low in good quality nutrients can take a toll on your mood and your gut, and it is now believed that the mind and gut are linked and having a healthy gut can play an important with your mood, energy levels and your mindset.

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There is always another choice 

In life we have certain expectations, standards and emotional needs. Having a good income/job, happy relationship, hobbies and social life are a few examples of our emotional needs and when we think our emotional needs are not being met it can lead to us feeling down and sad.

People begin to feel down and dis-empowered when they think they are in a situation that they cannot escape from but the reality is, you're only in the mindset of you cannot escape from or change your situation.

If you're depressed, you may feel your life is going nowhere or somehow you are stuck in a boring job or an unfulfilled relationship where you're just going through the motions with no purpose or direction.

Sometimes depression is a time where you need to identify your emotional and personal needs and think about a change of direction. 

People often get depressed when they feel they have lost something or there is something missing or lacking in their life.

You may feel life is passing you by quickly where you have hit a plateau in your life or it could be due to your daily repetitive and mundane routine. 

If you have had a good thing and lost it, then you can slip into a downward spiral, but just because you have hit bad times does not mean you cannot bounce back and do even better.

Sometimes people achieve their dreams and needs, but because they only plan for the short term. When they reach their wants they have no further plans, goals or direction so they keep themselves stuck in the same old groove of life for such a long time that eventually they become stagnant and slump into depression. 

There is always another choice or another way to perceive and respond to a situation, there is always an alternative, better and more positive way to think to every bad situation and a few setbacks does not mean it's the end of your world. 

The trouble often starts when we allow things on the outside world to influence our internal representation of our inner reality and what we think is possible or not.

Sometimes things we don't like and bad things happen, what you have to be careful is how you choose to respond and act in your outside situations and circumstances.

You may need to introduce a bit of meaning and purpose in your life to keep your focus to worthwhile causes and things that will occupy your mind.

But although you need to pursue your passion and find your purpose to give your life more meaning, you need to enjoy what you're doing instead of doing it for the money or because you think you should do it.

We all set goals and we all have a certain level of success, targets or achievement that we work towards and is a good thing. 

But sometimes when we want something so bad we try to hard and lose sight of the enjoyment and when it does not happen straight away or if we have a slight setback, it can have an adverse effect on us and leave you feeling even worse than before you started your goal.

Change the stories of your mind

Emotional suffering seems to be an accepted part of our every day life experience and although we all feel down from time to time, when you feel down for prolonged periods of time then there is a good chance that you are depressed.

Part of the reason why many people get depressed and then stay depressed is because they tend to worry a lot and they also suffer with prolonged periods of stress and anxiety.

Worry and stress bit by bit drains and saps all your energy and zest for life, it puts you into a fear driven world which prevents you from relaxing and enjoying life. 

After a while worry and stress will leave you feeling mentally and physically exhausted which is often the catalyst for future depression.

So learning how to stop worrying so much and reducing your stress and anxiety is an important process in your mission to getting out of depression. 

The secret is to slow down your mind and body because after prolonged periods of negative thinking the mind and body become exhausted and stuck in a negative energy. It's a bit like your low on fuel.

Then when you go to bed in a restless mindset of worry and negative thinking, then your brain will continue this pattern throughout your sleep, disrupting your natural and needed sleep rhythms and patterns.

Your restless mindset and body will cause you to have more bad dreams. When this happens there will be a very good chance that you will wake up feeling still tired, still feeling down, stressed and dis-empowered which will leave you feeling demotivated with feelings of hopelessness and sadness and this pattern will keep on repeating itself.

One way to help with your worries is to learn how to constructively problem solve, this can involve dealing and accepting what is then instead endlessly worrying about your problem look for solutions and devote your energy on the solution and not the problem.

If you want to start the new day feeling more empowered and happier then you have to begin to do the ground work the night before.

Once you learn how to relax and manage your worries then you will notice your energy and enthusiasm returning so you can start to work on making your life better.

Things like meditation and hypnosis are a great way to relax your worrying mind and set you up for a good night's restorative sleep leaving you feeling refreshed and happier in the morning so you can then take full advantage of this new window of opportunity to set your new positive statement and intentions.

Is depression caused though a chemical imbalance or negative thinking 

How you feel is determined by your life experiences and your circumstances or more importantly, how you have reacted or how you are perceiving your life and your future.

Once you start to feel depressed the stories of your mind and how you depict your current situation and your future will match the emotional theme and physical state you're currently experiencing, in other words your thoughts match your emotional state.

The more you remain stuck in a depressed state the more the negative momentum will take hold and become your dominate state. 

This will generate more negative feelings and more inner sad stories of doom and gloom.

Whatever the external reason for your depression or when things don't seem to be working out for you, what usually follows is your mind gets filled with negative thoughts and before long you start to question and doubt yourself. Maybe you feel less than others or you think you're not good enough.

As the depression takes hold, more, things seem to go wrong and all you can perceive is a bleak future and no way out of your depressed mood. 

You can soon become disconnected from your true, beautiful and worthwhile self leaving you with feelings of despair and vulnerability. 

You can soon start to blame all your outside circumstances that have not worked out for you, leaving you playing the victim mentality, where convince yourself, it's all your own fault or perhaps you blame everything and everyone else for your current predicament.

As you sink deeper into depression you may feel the whole world is against you, after a while you lose your motivation to go out or even get up in the morning. 

You may lose your appetite and you will probably begin to feel emotionally and physically overwhelmed.

One reason why people struggle to get up in the morning is because they have not got a worthwhile goal or purpose to motivate themselves, so setting yourself some new goals can help put the motivation back into your life.

If you leave your depression untreated, before long you can feel so sad and low that it starts to deplete your energy, strength and motivation to a point where you even lose the motivation to try and overcome your depression.

To change you have to make changes

To put an end to your depression you have to first, if you're stuck in a situation or relationship that is making you feel bad, then you may need to escape from that situation then you need to create a better, brighter and more optimistic future.

For whatever the reason behind your depression, a lot to do with what is causing it is down to how you are still perceiving or reacting to

  • What is 
  • What has been 
  • What will be

Sometimes you have to accept and let go of what is or what has been then you need to start to focus on all the positive things that your life can and will be because you need to let go of the past so it no longer has any power over you. 

This may mean learning to deal with past failures and mistakes and the best way to deal with them is to learn something from them and then use them to drive you to a better life experience.

This should involve forgetting the negative realities of the past and present and putting all your energy and attention only on the positive prospects of your future because positive expecting is a very potent and powerful energy force.

Your emotions are linked to your focus of attention

Your mind and thoughts are responsible for how you feel and act. What you need to be aware of is, how you feel always follows and depends on the thoughts and perceptions of your mind.

Most people tend to think with their emotions or intuitively, instead of thinking logically or positively.

The good thing is, if your mind is responsible for how bad you feel then equally your mind and your actions are the key to making you feel better and eventually curing your depression.

The words you speak, the thoughts you have and the statements, suggestions and the intentions you say to yourself will shift your energy into motion.

Negative statements and intentions create stagnant and negative energy, but positive statements and intentions will generate positive energy and positive energy will help to carry you through and out of your depression.

It is just as easy to say positive things about yourself and your life as it is to say negative things, but the rewards in how you feel will be priceless and you do not need any justification or reasons to say positive and nice things about yourself.

Anxiety, stress and depression

There is a lot of debate about whether or not the source of people's depression is caused through a chemical imbalance or a negative state of mind.

In a way both these cases are right because if you have depression then from a physical perspective you will have a developed a chemical imbalance or more importantly an emotional imbalance. 

What people who suffer with depression need to find out is what actually triggered the chemical imbalance in the first place and what is keeping it on going, because if you dig deep enough you will find that there is usually an underlying root cause of your depression.

Normally there is a reason and a trigger that initially activated the chemical imbalance and the negative state of both mind and body. It is pretty clear that many of people's depression is more than just chemical imbalance.

Depression is also a physical condition and negative state of being so the physical and emotional side of things will also need addressing. 

There is nothing wrong with taking anti-depressants especially to begin with as it can help to restore your chemical imbalance so it is advisable to work with your doctor, but medication won't fix what's wrong. 

If at some point you decide to come off your anti-depressants you should always check with your doctor first, because if you just stop taking them you can suffer with withdrawal type symptoms.

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Seek out professional help 

Some form of counselling or therapy may also benefit for you, many people find that talking to someone can help them to release the negative emotional block, but to be free of your depression long term you sometimes have to accept and release the past and what is as well as changing your attitude about you, your life and your future. 

Counselling is helpful so long as it is productive and geared to correcting what's wrong, but to keep digging up and open old wounds and examine all their negative beliefs and bad experiences can activate all those bad feelings associated with your past.

Because every time you analyze and go over all the bad stuff that has happened you are going to also activate all the emotional grief, hurt and pain associated with your previous baggage and past traumatic experiences.

The better option might be to skip the raking up the past and start to value all that is good and special about you and to revisit all the good things that have happened to you combines with envisaging all the good that could and will lay ahead.

Try to focus on how worthy you really are and search for, the evidence and things that will show you how good you really are and can be. 

Because although it can be good to talk, what you don't want is to much self pity and sympathy otherwise it can make you feel even more like a victim to your circumstances when really you are the creator of them. 

To much feeling sorry for yourself or allowing others to feel sorry for you can have a negative effect on you and you will be playing right into the hands of your depression.

Cognitive behavioral therapy is also helpful and it can also help to change your brain chemistry by correcting the chemical imbalance. 

Being mindful of the thoughts that you are thinking and then changing those thoughts to ones of hope and optimism can also help to change your body chemistry and energy. 

Boost your self esteem

Your self talk is also instrumental too how you feel and your self esteem levels so make it your goal to only say positive statements about yourself. 

If you're depressed the chances are you will be suffering from low self esteem or you have always had low levels of self esteem and self worth.

Low self-esteem usually results from your conditioning and mental programming, often the roots of low self esteem can be traced back to your childhood.

The negative self criticisms and self sabotaging in your head is often down to how you have been negatively influenced or conditioned by others. 

Sometimes as a child growing up, hurtful comments, nasty remarks, treating you badly and constantly criticizing can have a huge negative impact later in your life, some over strict parents can be responsible for this. 

Perhaps you were conditioned by others to believe you were shy and quiet or nobody helped you to build your confidence or even worse they progressively dented your self confidence.

Your low self esteem and low opinion of yourself could be because you felt unloved or unwanted. Have you bought into the belief and lie that somehow you're not good enough or equal to others or others people are better than you.

Sometimes low self esteem is a result of the nasty or negative suggestions made by others or even your own parents, sometimes it's a result of verbal or physical abuse.

If you were often criticized or insulted or generally made to feel worthless as a child or teenager then the chances are you bought into those nasty or critical remarks by others and you begun to accept them as being true. 

Add on to all this the negative conditioning from your own bad experiences and years later, especially at times when you're feeling stressed or run down, then all that negative programming can resurface and influence your life and thought processes.

Often that inner critical voice in your head is not you, it is the voice of the person who put you down or made you feel unworthy or unloved, it's a bit like a recorded message by the critical or nasty person that is stuck inside your mind which keeps getting played over and over again. 

But you have not got to accept the suggestions from that voice inside your head, it is not you and therefore you do not have to listen to it or any other suggestions that make you feel bad about yourself.

You need to start to override that inner critical voice, be firm with it and replace any negative statements with positive ones about yourself, all you have to do most of the time is saying the opposite to that inner critic. 

The real inner you, loves you and only wants what's best for you and it would not crticise you or do anything that makes you feel bad. 

So immediately dismiss any negative suggestions made by others or that inner critical voice and begin to say nice and kind things about yourself and take notice how good it makes you feel.

Sometimes we seek approval or praise of others to give us a boost, but why rely on others when you can make yourself feel better and boost your self esteem at the same time by making a conscious effort to praise yourself, 

Because, despite what you think you do not need any reason to validate your self praise, and the good thing about self praise is it costs nothing and it will make you feel better.

Try and mix with positive minded and enthusiastic people, also try to avoid moaning and complaining about each and everything. Getting out and doing more things or getting involved in more social activities will help to lift your mood.

No one is immune from depression 

There are no laws or set rules as regards to depression, it can strike anybody at anytime and every bodies circumstances and situations are different so there is not even a case of one gloves fits all. 

Sometimes it can descend on people who are going through a tough time or it can gradually creep upon people over a longer period of time.

You can reach a point in your life where you have become so negative that you cannot see beyond the doom and gloom, maybe you have convinced yourself that you are never going to get out of your depressed state. 

Depression can even strike people who have seemingly perfect lives and no apparent problems on the outside, so if you have sunken into a desperate state of depression do not blame yourself as no one is immune from the grips of it. 

As well as working with your doctor and taking your medication if you are prescribed it, make a committed effort to overcome your depression naturally, and in some cases combining the two can help you to overcome your depression more easily.

Medication can help stabilize you, but it is always wise to try and tackle the root source of your depression as well.

Negative expectations will lead to negative results

Be mindful to your thoughts and feelings, this does not mean trying to monitor all your thoughts. But anytime you feel negative emotions be aware that the thoughts you are thinking are not in alignment with what you really want and how you wish to feel.

When you're experiencing negative emotions it is not totally down to your outside situations, the real reason you're having negative emotions is due to how you have been responding to and how you are perceiving your external circumstances. 

So this means the negative emotions are being activated by the thoughts you're having about you and your life and how you are perceiving yourself and your future.

Instead of looking for evidence to support and back the beliefs you hold about how unworthy you are, how bad a person you are, how invaluable you are, try to make a choice that you want to feel good and be happy.  

Then bit by bit begin to replace those negative beliefs and misguided assumptions you or others have inflicted on yourself by switching to thoughts that will make you feel good and joyous and move you forward in the direction you want to go. 

Start to make positive statements that your dominant intention is to feel good because depression will cause you to think about the worst case scenario first which will leave you blind to all the good that could be yours if only you would invite it and allow in.

Only think good feeling or general thoughts
One of mankind's biggest flaws is the need to try and be perfect, you cannot always be perfect, so let you know you're doing your best and that is good enough, when we try to hard in life it is nearly always followed by negative consequences. 

Get to know yourself and just be you and be pleased to be you, don't attempt to be the person others want you to be and don't try and satisfy and please your ego all of the time.

Be mindful to your inner self talk, a lot of depressed people are constantly putting themselves with negative statements that start of something like

  • I am hopeless 
  • I'll never 
  • I am a terrible 
  • I am no good 
  • I can't do anything right 
  • Nothing works out for me
Your friends, partner or family may also tell you similar type of suggestions and over time these negative statements can chip away at your self worth and your well-being. 

If you find yourself, saying negative things about yourself they you need to stop it right now and then begin to reverse them with positive inner self talk.

Try not to reminisce too much on things you had but you have now lost, focus on the good times ahead instead of what could have been. Think of it like this, if you watch a sad film you will respond emotionally with sad feelings, our inner world is where we can create what we want. 

When we cast ourselves as the central character whose life is full of no hope, sadness and disaster our bodies will respond with sad related emotions, until we change the dialogue of the story to happier circumstances.

With mindfulness you will soon begin to realize you only feel bad when you are harsh or critical of yourself, when you're giving your attention to what you have had and lost, when you focus on not having or thinking about what you don't want or when you're depicting a future with no hope.

Some of the worst thoughts, to generate low moods are the thoughts of limitations and the self statements like

  •  I am not good enough
  •  I am unworthy 
  •  Stating I can't do or I will never
  •  I have no control over my thoughts and feeling and my life
  •  I am naturally unlucky 
  •  Bad things always seem to happen to me
  •  This is who I am so 
  •  I am a bad person so I deserve everything I get
  •  Believing you are a victim to your circumstances and there is nothing you can  do  to change your current situation or mood 
  •  Nothing will ever change 
  •  I am not the types of person
  •  I will never meet anybody 
  •  I am always screwing everything up
If you use the terms always and never then, your stereotyping yourself and creating harmful beliefs that will keep you stuck where you are.

Use your feelings as guidance you will soon become aware that when you search for reasons to feel good, then your mood will match those positive thoughts and words of optimism.

Self praise, worthiness, appreciation and encouragement and you will begin to experience more and more feel good emotions and it will become crystal clear to you that you can control how you wish to feel and your destiny. 

You have not got to spend all your day trying to think positive thoughts, just spending a few minutes here and there can help or just think general thoughts that don't trigger a bad feeling reaction. 

It is more important that you don't spend any time or give any attention to thoughts that don't make you feel bad, stressed or anxious.

In some cases depressed people instead of taking decisive actions steps which is absolutely necessary, and any attempt to improve your mood and life is a step in the right direction will sadly carry on looking for reasons to support, blame and justify why they feel so bad all the time.

Try and be more optimistic

When you're depressed it can feel like hard work just to get out of bed in the morning so trying to motivate yourself to get active can feel like a mountain to climb, but mountains can be climbed.

A lot of people who are depressed think they have nothing to live for and they believe their situation is beyond hopeless, but you should never give up hope because having hope is an important part of your recovery.

Going from depressed and living the life you don't want to feel joy, happiness and living a fulfilling life will be a journey and all journey's take time but the sooner you start your journey the better.

Your recovery will probably involve some physical action and changes, but before you think too much about making those necessary changes you should first focus on your emotional side.

Some people who are depressed are wrongly labelled as being lazy, this is not true, depression robs you of your drive, motivation and energy. 

One of the main qualities of happiness and success is energy, if you feel as if you have no energy you will find it hard to motivate yourself. 

You need to build up your energy to help you to fight your depression, a good healthy balanced diet is essential, exercise can only help even if it's a brisk walk observing nature. 

If you have been depressed for quite some time, then you may have fallen into the trap of thinking you have nothing worthwhile to live for and you may have convinced yourself your best years and life experiences are in the past.

But just because one chapter of your life has gone or is over does not mean you cannot start a new and exciting adventure of self discovery as well as pursuing some new opportunities and challenges.

See any challenges as a lesson to be learned and obstacles that you need to overcome and use your failures and adversity as an opportunity to grow and be better. 

You need an energy shift and that cannot be achieved unless you introduce  hope into your life and once you can find hope with the knowledge that everything will work out OK, then you can transform that hope into positive expectations.

The best is still to come

People slide into depression when they convince themselves the best years are behind them and if this is the case, then you need to shift your attitude too.

The best days are still yet to come and there will be better times ahead, because you don't have to follow the beliefs, idea's and rules of everybody else.

Pessimism and negative thinking fuel bad feeling negative energy, but the good news is hope and then optimism will begin to switch you to better feeling energy. 

At the moment you have probably got a whole lot of negative momentum going on.

It's all about getting the positive momentum going and then keeping it going. You're not going to switch from feeling depressed to feeling blissfully happy overnight, but at some point you need to change the way you see your world and your future and develop some positive optimism. 

Depression and negative thinking emotionally and physically drain your energy and dis-empowers you, but positive thinking and optimism will empower you and bring the sparkle back.

To help you being to move out of your depressed state and that's all it is a state you need to shift your mindset from despair to hope and once you start to realize that there is hope you can go to the next level which is positive expectation and optimism.

Positive expectation not only shifts your energy from negative stagnant energy to positive energy, it also helps to create new and more exciting realities. All of your current beliefs and feelings are being influenced by your previous life experiences both good and bad. 

If you're feeling depressed, then your situation and how you feel most of the time is being shaped by your bad experiences and perceptions, but you have not got to live your life in the past or by your current circumstances. 

We are all responsible for our actions, lives and feelings and when you open up your mind to new possibilities you will open the door to a new and better reality.

You will also need plenty of rest, relaxation and a good night's sleep, if you are physically exhausted, then you need to take it easy for a while. 

Become more proactive

Try to increase the amount of activities you frequent in, making more social connections in your life is also helpful so is keeping your mind occupied with worthwhile interests and activities. 

Making the shift from depression to joy will take time, but if you take daily action steps then bit by bit you will begin to improve and feel better. 

If you're single try and find a new relationship, if you're out of work look for a job, even consider doing some voluntary or charity work. 

Helping others can help you to feel good, when you help others, it can lift you as you become rewarded for helping others with better feelings.

It helps to develop a more optimistic outlook, because optimism and pessimism are both a choice, one will leave you feeling low and the other will lift you and give you new found hope, when you have hope you will find optimism and soon your life will begin to take on a new meaning.

Go virtual to change your energy

Your imagination is a powerful tool, it will make you or break you, no doubt you have been told a countless amount of times to think positive thoughts, but that is not so easy if you are stuck in a negative place and a sense of hopelessness. 

Many depressed people struggle to find something positive to think about, the good news is, your nervous system cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is made up. 

This means you can take full advantage of this, so if you cannot find better feeling thoughts, make something up pretend everything is getting better, just make it up because it's the positive emotions that you're searching for at the moment and not the perfect and ideal life, that will come later. 

Remember the good things you can imagine are limitless, so create an ideal virtual world to start with and keep returning to it. Have you ever dared to imagine things going well and everything working out right for you for a change.

If you start to project a happier, more brighter future then your subconscious mind will start to pull you in the direction of that better life.

Move up through the emotional scale

You're not going to jump from depressed to blissful happiness overnight, but the sooner you begin your journey and you get the positive ball rolling the better, the pendulum can only begin to shift to feeling good when you choose and decide to take back control.

Thoughts and feelings go together they mirror each other, so try and be careful not to allow your current emotions and thought processes to keep you locked into the believe that things are always going to be this bad.

Make yourself look beyond the worst case scenario because there are always two ways to perceive a situation, no matter how bleak it may appear.

It can help to get angry just to bring you out of that low feeling, mood, you should not make a habit of this, but doing it a few times can transform you out of the energy state of depression. 

Once you shift to anger, try and then jump to a better feeling mood then keep going until you reach a more positive state of joy and optimism.

Each day try and think of some better feeling thoughts, it will take time to move up through to the positive emotions range but it is a process you need to do. 

You need to get the positive momentum going and then you need to keep those relaxed positive feeling. 

Eat a good healthy and balanced diet 

At one time it was thought that the main causes of depression were primarily neurological or brain related.

However, this theory does not explain the reasons why some people seem to have it all in life, yet they are still struggling with depression. 

Although environmental and situational circumstances and events may be the root source of some people's depression, recent research now suggest that the underlying root cause may be directly related to inflammation of the gut and bad bacteria found in the gut.

For a long time now Doctors and nutritionists have recognized that there is a direct connection between the brain and the gut and by starting to listen to your body and paying close attention to your digestive system and what you're eating, you may soon find out that you can improve your mood.

There are certain things that you can do to help you to begin to reduce any bad bacteria in your gut and cool down excess inflammation. 

The trick is to aim to cultivate good bacteria in your gut and to start to cool your gut down.

Some foods that can cultivate good bacteria are believed to be,

  • Broccoli 
  • Probiotic supplements 
  • Yogurt that contains lactobacillus acidophilus
  • Sauerkraut
  • Blueberries
  • Kale 
  • Cabbage
  • Cauliflower
  • Bananas
  • Fermented plant-based foods
One way to begin to restore balance in your gut and cool the flames of inflammation is by cutting back on some of the bad foods and foods that are hard to digest and starting to eat more whole foods and healthy nutritious foods.

Some of the low in nutrient foods and the chemical compounds that can be found in some processed foods can be hard for our body to break down 

Some studies have suggested that you can significantly reduce your depression by cutting back on some of the low in nutrient processed foods.

Because of the mind and body connection, it is important to take care of our body, our physiology and the food we eat can have a big impact on how we feel. 

Try and eat a good healthy and well balanced diet full of fresh fruit, plenty of vegetables and whole grain foods plus the daily protein requirement.

Eating healthy foods with good carbohydrates will keep you energized and it will help regulate your moods. 

During population studies, it has been suggested suggest that allergy sufferers are more likely to have depression than people who do not suffer with allergies. 

But it is not just seasonal allergies that have been linked with depression, some experts also believe that food intolerance and food sensitivity can trigger bouts of feeling depressed and feelings of lethargy. 

It is stated that just because you have an allergy does not mean you are prone to depression, but it could explain the reason why some people who appear to have everything they want in life still suffer with depression.

If you are suffering depression or you're feeling lethargic for no apparent reason, then it may pay you to visit your doctor for a food intolerance test. 

This does not mean you have to cut out all the foods you enjoy because it may only be one specific food that is triggering the reaction.

You may need to find out what foods make you feel bad and then try and eat more of the foods that make you feel good and less of the ones that make you feel bad.

Omega-3 fish oil is believed to be good to help improve your mood and a omega 3 deficiency has been linked to inflammation and depression.

Some experts now suggest that we are getting too much omega 6 fats and not enough omega 3 fats.

It is believed that too much omega 6 fats can increase inflammation in the body and the brain that can affect our moods and more omega 3 and less omega 6 lowers inflammation and improves our mood.

This does not mean you have to cut out all omega 6 fats, but it can help to re-address the balance.

The brain and the body require a certain amount of fats and proteins, and not all fat is bad for you. 

Researchers believe that turkey, chicken, Brazil and walnuts nuts, eggs, avocados and oily fish can all have a positive impact on our moods.

Omega-3 fatty acids are classed as one of the major building blocks for optimal brain chemistry and health. 

Although there is no specific set standard for how much omega 3 you should take, the recommended daily dosage for omega three generally seems to suggest, ranging from 500mg to 1000mg

If you are unsure, ask your doctor about the recommended daily dosage.

Foods High in Omega 3 Fatty Acids are

  • Flaxseed oil
  • Seeds
  • Walnuts, 
  • Fish roe (eggs) 
  • Salmon
  • Mackerel
  • Sardines 
  • Tuna 
  • Herring
  • Seafood
  • Spinach 
  • Anchovies
Our bodies need the daily requirements of nutrients and vitamins and a lack of nutrients and vitamins as been linked to depression and low moods.

According to new research, inflammation in the body and the brain can be partly responsible for mood swings and depression.

Tests have revealed that people who suffer with high levels of depression have a higher rate of inflammation in the body and brain.

Some of the things that can increase your inflammation levels are,

  • Smoking 
  • Excess alcohol 
  • Too much refined sugar
  • Stress and tension 
  • Processed foods 
  • Too much red meat 
  • Lack of or poor quality sleep 
  • Soya oil
  • Dairy/cheese 
  • Gluten 
  • Vegetable oils 
  • Too many fried foods 
  • Artificial flavourings/Sweeteners 
  • Saturated fats/too much omega 6 fats
Avoid processed forms of sugar, dairy and gluten– Natural sugars, grains and dairy products are good for you. 

Refined sugars, gluten and processed dairy products have been altered from their natural state. 

These alterations promote the development of bad bacteria and drastically reduce nutritional value–leaving your brain starved and causing it to malfunction.

Eat plenty of fats and proteins–Not all fat is bad for you. Researchers believe that chicken, turkey, brazil nuts, eggs, avocados and oily fish all have a powerful impact on our mental state. 

Low moods have been linked to a Vitamin D efficiency, which is required for good brain health and functioning. (Check with your Doctor or Nutrienists).

Your posture can impact your mood

There is a direct link between feeling bad and your posture and your body posture can impact your mood and your physiology. 

As a rule, with most cases of people who are depressed also have poor body posture where they hunch their shoulders, lean forward and drop their head.

When you stoop forward, your chest goes small which will restrict your breathing and makes your heart have to beat faster, it also compresses your inner organs and plays havoc with your digestive system. 

This type of posture will disrupt your bodies natural free flowing feel good energy and you will experience more of the negative energies linked to sadness, feeling inadequate, vulnerable and a sense of hopelessness.

It will also cause a lot of tension in your neck and shoulders and because your head and body is leaning to far forward it will put extra load on your neck and upper back muscles leaving you feeling tired and dis-empowered.

This slouched and crunched posture will also change your state to negative energy and because of the mind body connection you will have more negative thoughts and your stories in your mind will turn to the ones that depict sadness, failure and doom and gloom.

Your thoughts and feelings drive your life's experience and to put an end to your depression you have to think differently but if you have hit difficult times then all those negative thoughts that have followed due to your situation can have an impact on your posture and your physiology.

Although you may need to change your situation, it can be very hard to lift yourself out of depression if your body is not balanced and aligned because of the link between our mind, physiology and the emotions that we feel.

Laughing is still one of the best ways to change your energy into a more positive state, make an effort to smile for at least two minutes at a time, then do this at regular intervals because smiling is known to boost your mood.

Avoid looking down, because looking at the ground can lower your mood, try and look straight ahead with your eyes as much as possible without lifting your head back too much.

Ignore sad films, stop watching the news and try and avoid listening to too many sad love songs. Instead, watch programs that make you laugh and listen to relaxing or uplifting music.

Think back to a memory or time or times when you felt happy or a situation or program that made you laugh and return back to that memory over and over again to boost your mood.

Laughter really is the best medicine

Laughing is still one of the best ways to change your energy into a more positive state, make an effort to smile for at least two minutes at a time, then do this at regular intervals because smiling is known to boost your mood.

Avoid looking down, because looking at the ground can lower your mood, try and look straight ahead with your eyes as much as possible without lifting your head back too much.

Ignore sad films, stop watching the news and try and avoid listening to too many sad love songs. Instead, watch programs that make you laugh and listen to relaxing or uplifting music.

Think back to a memory or time or times when you felt happy or a situation or program that made you laugh and return back to that memory over and over again to boost your mood.

Dealing with grief and trauma

Sometimes we experiences tragedies or bereavements which are out of our hands and all we can do is mourn and allow time to heal. You cannot get back a lost loved one, but in time you can get back your happiness.

You may never completely learn to come to terms with a bereavement, however you should always remember the good times and hold onto those treasured memories, but you need to try to move on and enjoy your life.

Grief is a process and there are various stages you will have to go through to overcome grief. At the first stage of grief, you may go into the denial stage where it's hard to let go, this stage may also be accomplished by guilt, anger and frustration.

The next stage of grief is acceptance, but even though you may then have come to terms with the loss your emotions will still be all over the place and it can take time to start to return to something like your normal self.

After the acceptance stage, you will have to try and rebuild your life and move on in the best way you can, you may feel lonely and find yourself on your own a lot.

You will need the support of family and friends and you may need to build a new or different life, or get yourself involved in some forms of social activities/groups or take up some new interest, hobbies or set yourself some new goals.

Joining a church or charity group or organization especially if you can comfort or support others who are going through a similar grieving experience can help you to feel better as well as helping them.

If you want some reassurance and comfort do some research into the afterlife, there are now thousands of accounts from people who have had a near death experience who have come back to tell their story, so have the attitude that some day you will be reunited with your loved ones because they might be closer to you than you think.

More depression tips

If you are stuck in a bad, violent relationship where you have been abused, get out of it, seek professional help or try and get support from your family and friends. 

Although we all like a bit of company, when you're by yourself, learn how to like yourself and start to enjoy your own company.

Having a pet such as a dog or cat can help to lift your mood and give you a bit of company, if you get a dog, then you will have the added bonus, of all that exercise you will get from taking it for a walk.

Sometimes in life we have to accept things the way they are and try and make the most of what we have instead of wishing things were better. It's great to have wants and goals, but your happiness and your emotional well-being should not never depend on them.

If you're stuck at home feeling isolated, lonely or bored, try and find things to occupy your mind. We all need a purpose in life, try blogging, enroll in an evening class, join a social media website or you can get more involved with community activities.

Mindfulness is one way to help you in your fight with depression, this involves learning to become more aware of those negative and pessimistic thoughts. 

Once you realize the thoughts and your own perceptions which cause the negative feelings you can learn to take no notice of them and let them go. Then switch your thinking to something more constructive or positive.

Make sure you stay hydrated, our body is around 70% water so make sure you drink plenty of water, just don't drink too much in one go. 

When our bodies are dehydrated it can switch us into the survival mode meaning more fearful thoughts.

Depression is linked to both the mind and body, it is also caused through exhaustion of both the mind and body. 

When you spend months or even years focusing on thoughts of hopelessness it will exhaust you and it will deplete your energy levels.

Sometimes to avoid burnout and exhaustion we have to learn how to say no, there is a limit to how much time and energy you can devote to others, your own well-being and interests are more important to you than pleasing trying others.

Use Modern Technology To Boost Your Mood

If you have been feeling low or depressed for quite some time, then you can easily get stuck in that negative state almost to the point where it becomes an accepted part of your life.

Although positive thinking helps, depressed people because they have felt down for so long it can prove just too hard to make that shift to those feel good emotions.

Thanks to the advancement in technology you can now entrain your brain and your body to harmonize with your natural feel good energy frequency. This recordings will coax your body back to the feel good state automatically.

Once you begin to feel better, then you need to seize the window of opportunity to take back control of your life and your thoughts.

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