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How To End Your Excessive Blushing And Anxiety

Avoid Making The Common Mistakes That Are Responsible For Most Of Your Facial Redness

Although you might feel a bit isolated right now, you may have even convinced yourself that there is something wrong with you that cannot be fixed and this is the way it is.

You may have said to yourself many times. Why is this happening to me?

However, although you might be suffering in silence at the moment you may be surprised to know that you're certainly not alone and there is definitely nothing wrong with you that cannot be fixed.

An important thing to mention before we go any further is.

There are no miracle quick fixes.

Your excessive blushing and social anxiety problem did not occur overnight and it is a build up and an accumulation of negative thinking patterns, bad habits and years of worry and low self esteem.

Therefore, It will take time, learning, effort and application to overcome. But, once you understand where you have been going wrong and what you need to do.

Then you will start to make steady progress and as you blush less and less your confidence in yourself will increase and you will start to feel better and better.

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You have nothing to fear or feel ashamed about

At the moment you're probably feeling, embarrassed, scared and confused. 

But there is no reason for you to feel ashamed or embarrassed about anything whatsoever and most importantly, there is no reason for you to feel afraid of a bit of heat in your face.

The only thing that you really fear is the fearful sensations. 

But if you carry on being controlled by your thoughts and feelings. Then you will be handing over all your power to the fear.

There is no reason and nothing to gain from suffering and wanting and admitting you need a bit of help is a sign of strength not and not a sign of weakness.

You mind is probably bombarded with endless what if I blush thoughts, imaginings and anticipations that are immediately followed by emotional and physical responses in your body.

That try and make you to want to avoid or escape from any social situation where you might go red.

But why does not your mind look at a situation from a different perspective like and even though your mind has evolved to focus more on the negative.

You have the power and ability to override them and turn them into a positive and when you refuse to give into the negative then your energy will also change for the better
  • What if I enjoy myself 
  • What if I remain cool and calm 
  • What if I enjoy being the centre of attention 
  • What If things go well 
  • What if I have a great time
  • If I blush, so what 
  • Even if I blush I can be confident and have fun 
  • What if I attend this social situation and I have a wonderful and fun time and I am glad I went
  • I am looking forward to
Instead of endlessly worrying about what might go wrong, turn things around and focus on the positive and better feeling opposite.

When you're worried about everything. It will keep you stuck in the negative energy that cultivates the anxiety and negative thoughts that trigger your blushing.

Because when you're anxious all the time. It can change your physiology and cause you to hold tension in your body.

This will rob you of your confidence, throw your body out of its natural calm state and make it hard for you to breathe.

Confidence is a state of being, just like fear. Confidence is a feeling of inner peace, balance and flow, where you have the knowing. 

That whatever happens you will be OK.

If you are having repetitive fearful and worry thoughts and you want to ease your racing and confused mind.

Do the opposite to what you would normally do and instead of trying to fight, stop or blockout your fearful thoughts.

Welcome them, laugh and smile at them and give your mind permission to carry on thinking them, and if you embrace and feel them emotion, without reacting or wanting to do anything.

And you refuse to listen or become emotionally involved with your fearful mind. 

Then your mind will have no other choice but to back off and it will become still and it will ease all by itself.

Or if you're having anxious or what if thoughts.

Be really firm with your mind and override them with thoughts of.

I'll be OK.

If I blush so what, it's OK if I blush.

Your Not Alone

It has been scientifically proven. That everybody experiences very mild heat in their face, many times.

But because they are not overly sensitive to it. It is that mild and quick, nobody can notice.

Those who suffer with this problem, tend to assume that they are the only ones with an excessive blushing and anxiety problem.

The truth is. There are literally thousands of people who suffer from excessive blushing and social anxiety, who are searching for a cure to this problem, each week.

Because of the fear of sounding silly or not wanting to admit that they have a problem. 

Most blushers don't talk to anybody about it so they keep their problem to themselves. Finding help or a solution can also be difficult.

Probably the one thing that you want to know right now is.

Is there a cure for blushing and what can you do do end your excessive blushing?

There are also many people who have been in your position. Who have already successfully overcome this problem.

First of all .It is perfectly natural to blush, and everybody goes red now and again to some degree. 

But for some people. 

Excessive blushing, and the fear of it happening. Can get so out of control that it can diminish the whole quality of their life and make it very hard for the sufferer to relax and interact socially.

When you start to blush easily, excessively and frequently for little or no obvious reason and this problem is consuming all your thinking and causing you endless worry, fear, stress and anxiety.

Then this is not natural and things needs to change for your own health, well-being and quality of life.

When you cannot find an answer to this problem

It can make you feel like avoiding all social situations. Where you anticipate you might be put in a social situation, which might make them blush.

You probably feel like hiding away, covering up your face or avoiding all social contact. But all that does is increase the fear and anxiety.

Just because of the fear, worry, shame, embarrassment and stress of going red in front of others.

Our brain tends to fear more the things that we want to avoid or the thing that we don't want to happen.

People who do not have an excessive blushing and anxiety problem. Have no idea what is going on, in a excessive blushers world and how much they are suffering on a daily basis.

To make matters worse. Because socializing plays such a large part in our lives. There is very little rest bite or relief for a blusher.

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Managing your feelings and emotions

It is important to understand that. You go red because of how you feel at the time it happens.

Therefore, if you want to go red less and less and you want to reduce the intensity and shorten the duration of the blush, until it is barely noticeable or it does not happen at all.

The it is essential that you learn how to relax first and stop being afraid of blushing.

Because. Fear and anxiety are one of the main reasons why you go red so much. Therefore it is important that you learn to overcome your fear of blushing.

A once mildly annoying blushing problem can soon escalate out of control and turn into a nightmare of a problem.

Once you become to overly aware of the heat in your face and once you start to worry and become afraid of it happening.

Then this is where you start to blush easily and excessively all the time for no obvious reason and it starts to happen when you're half way through a conversation or when the slightest bit of attention is put on you.

You may ask yourself.

How can I find a sense of calm and how am I supposed remain comfortable with something that I fear and worry about happening?

You can only create a positive situation, by first understanding the negative that is responsible for creating your problem.

If you can begin to overcome the urge of trying not to blush and you practice learning how to try and maintain a relaxed state. When you're in those social situations that might trigger a blush.

Then you will have taken a massive step forward in your quest to reduce and overcome your excessive blushing.

What puts you in a negative and fearful state and what stops you from remaining in calm and relaxed state is.

Worrying, dreading and trying to stop yourself from blushing.

The reason why you worry and feel anxious about it happening is. Because you have attached your fight or flight response to the heat in your face.

But it is not just the blushing that is your problem. You will also have created a social fear of any trigger situation that may cause you to go red.

As we have already mentioned. Blushing happens because of the emotional and physical state that you're in at the time.

If you generally happy and you're grounded in the calm of the now. It is highly unlikely to happen or it will be much easier to control and prevent it from happening.

The reason why you feel anxious is because you're anticipating and projecting in your mind what you fear might happen.

Or you automatically responding with fear. Because of a a previous similar type of negative social experience where you previously went red or you felt embarrassed.

So how do you prevent all the emotional arousal that leads to all the fear and anxiety that inevitably results in your face turning bright red.

By starting to not care less if you go red, not caring what others think or say and telling yourself. 

That is OK if I blush, and mean it. Because what you fight and battle with, persists and gets worse.

Trying to forcefully stopping yourself from going red and trying to stop yourself from feeling anxious will only result in an adverse effect of.

More fear, more worry, more anticipation and more excessive blushing.

What you want to focus on is. 

Learning how to relax your mind and body, working on your happiness, self confidence and changing the way you respond.

If you sense you're about to blush then you can do the opposite to what you would normally do and try and make yourself go red.

Tell yourself

"I am going to make myself go as red as you possible can"

Or keep saying silently to yourself.

"I want to blush.

Whilst relaxing your shoulders, smiling and taking some slow deep breaths.

If you have already started to go red. Again, relax, and focus on your breathing. Do not tense or panic as it will only get worse.

You can also, change your physiology or stand up or move about to break the pattern and get out of the freeze state.

All you need to cease your blushing is to learn how to be calm, happy and relaxed.

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Reasons why we blush

Blushing is a chemical and physical reaction to an inward emotion which is triggered by anxious or negative thoughts or by a automatic learned response and behavior.

Most articles state that blushing is caused by anxiety and fear, and although this is true and fear and panic are responsible for a lot of people's blushing.

Fear is not the only emotional state that and response that triggers blushing. Negative thoughts and low confidence feelings and emotions will also trigger redness in your face.

Blushing is preceded by an emotional response, and the release of adrenaline into the body and physical and chemical changes in the body.

Two of the main emotions that are responsible for the heat in your face and body are. 

The emotion that is associated with fear. And the emotions that is associated with low confidence, feeling insecure and low.

This means that much of your blushing is linked to your fight, flight freeze response and feelings and thoughts of low confidence and low self esteem.

Therefore you first step for you to take is for you to try and pinpoint. Which emotional state is responsible for your blushing. 

And then work on that particular emotional state, physical state and mindset.

For some their blushing could be due to fear and an overactive sympathetic nervous system. For others it could be linked to low confidence, feeling unhappy, low self esteem and feelings of insecurity.

For most blushers. There excessive blushing could be alternatively caused by both low confidence and the fear of blushing, which will mean you will need to work on both these key issues and triggers.

If your blushing is triggered by fear.

When you are in a social situation and you react with fear. You will either freeze or you will feel the urge to avoid or get away from the situation, which your mind is perceiving to be a potential threat.

Adrenaline will be released into your bloodstream, your heartbeat will quicken. Often people will breathe shallow and rapid or they will tense and forget to breathe. 

Fearing blushing, will definitely cause it to happen more. Sometimes, it can then become a self fulfilling prophecy and it will happen, just because you fear and expect it to happen.

Also, if you worry and fear it happening. This will activate even more anxious thoughts and feelings that will again, significantly increase the chances of it happening. 

The emotions of insecurity and low confidence will also activate the opening of the blood vessels in your face. 

The end result will be a hot and red face and feelings of self consciousness in your mind. 

The more aware, bothered and sensitive you become to the rising heat in your face and the thought that you're going red and everybody is going to notice or even worse, make a comment.

The more emotionally overwhelmed you will feel and the more you will try to fight it, causing you to freeze tense your body and panic even more.

This will inevitably lead to your face getting hotter and redder which will make the blush more intense and longer in duration.

Which is the opposite to what you want.

To stop the fear emotional arousal that triggers a blushing response.

A shift in attitude is required. To one of not caring whether you go red or letting yourself know or the attitude of.

"If I blush, so what" or "It is OK if I blush" 

The more you can learn to remain calm, cool and comfortable, even with the thought of going red, the less it is likely to happen.

If you constantly worry and obsess about trying to stop blushing. 

It will just keep you stuck in a vicious cycle, pattern and loop of anxiety, worry and stress and ultimately, more excessive and intense blushing.

This does not mean that you have to put up with this problem for the rest of your life nor does it mean that you cannot become blush free.

Because a blush free, carefree life is possible. Once you change your attitude about it, you cease worrying about it and you train yourself how to calm your mind, body and change the way you respond.

If you tell yourself that you must not blush again or your have to find a way to stop it. You will be heading into a never ending cycle, loop and trap. Where thing will only get worse.

Because the moment we try and stop or suppress our thoughts, feelings, emotions and our bodies natural responses. 

We create a fear of them, which makes them worse and more intense.

Understanding how your mind and body work is essential to prevent the physical and emotional responses that trigger your anxiety and the redness in your face.

Things that will make your blushing and anxiety a whole lot worse and a whole lot harder to manage and prevent are.

Stress and tension in your mind and body. Stress and tension are linked to your fight, flight, freeze response.

When you are feeling stressed or your muscles are tense. Then this will increase your anxiety levels, and it will put you in a nervous and heightened state of anticipation to danger.

Your emotional mind and your senses take feedback from your body, your past negative experiences and your environment to gauge how you should react.

Fear, stress and tension, will cause your body to heat up and it will activate the release of adrenaline into your body and cause an imbalance in the body. 

Tense muscles or symptoms of stress are linked to your fight, flight ,freeze response. 

Because of your mind body connection. If you're experiencing symptoms of stress or your muscles are tense.

Then your emotional brain will interpret these signals and sensations, as something bad must be about to happen. Otherwise, why would you be stressed and why are your muscle tense.

Stress and tension will make you feel uncomfortable and it will increase your anxiety levels and cause your mind to focus on anticipating all those situations where you might go red which will put you in a state of fear and significantly increase your chances of going red .

The opposite to fear, stress and tension.

Are keeping the body calm, balanced and cool.

Calming your mind and body

Your mind and body are all tied up and work together. This means your mind can affect your physiology and your physiology can affect your mind.

This is why you need to work on both your mind, your emotions and body.

The trick is to be mindful and learn to recognize your emotional triggers. Avoid anything than over stimulates you.

Part of your recovery should involve, learning how to remain calm and composed in stressful social situations and knowing how to quickly change your state, should you start to feel anxious.

You will also need to practice remaining calm around your imagination and detaching yourself from your feelings and emotions.

Your posture and muscles can increase your anxiety levels and make you blush more easily.

Our posture is linked to our emotions and our fight or flight reflex mode.

Tight muscles, especially in the neck. Can put your mind into survival mode making you feel more anxious and causing you to have more tense related thoughts.

The balance of your head is particularly important.

Your neck should be free of any tension. (Neck should not be dropped forwards or contracted)

The head should drop forwards a few millimeters. (Without dropping your neck or bending your neck)

The Alexander Technique suggest that you should

Think 

"Your neck to be free and then think your head to balance forwards and up"

Because if you try to physically do it, it cause more tension, and you want less tension.

When you lift up your chin to much, it contracts your neck and back muscles and your shoulders will become hunched and rounded, this will shift you into what is known as.

"The startled mode is connected to your fight or flight reflex response"

Also the more tension you have in your body. Such as, when you raise your chest, you force your shoulders back and you tilt your face upwards.

The more blood you will force into your face. Tension, not only makes you feel bad, it also cause heat in the face and body.

Although many people may advise you to sit up straight or stand tall. This supposedly good posture can cause more tension.

Even though you should not slouch. Everything should be comfortable and naturally. 

Maybe a better way of putting it. Change standing tall, to standing at you natural height, where you are in alignment and balance with the least amount of tension.

Building your self esteem

If you have a low regard or opinion of yourself then you will think everybody else thinks the same about you or you will worry how you come across and you will probably convince yourself everybody is judging you.

If you are hard on yourself or you criticise yourself. Then that needs to stop, right away. 

You need to get into the habit of praising yourself up, even for the little things that you do and start to be more positive about yourself.

Tell yourself that you are equal and worthy. And you are a great person who other people are lucky to know you. 

If you convince your brain something for a while, you will eventually become it.

The best thing for you to do is to stop being hard on yourself and to learn how to relax and just be yourself, and accept your mistakes and weaknesses and not care about them.

Because, the quickest way to get in the peaceful and calm energies that you need to be in is to develop a couldn't care less attitude.

Your number one goal, should be to feel  good about yourself as calm and happy as possible. 

Focusing on building yourself esteem is also going to help you.

Standing in front of a mirror for few minutes each morning and evening, smiling and saying some nice a positive things about you.

Like.

I love myself, I completely accept myself, I approve of myself as well as saying some positive affirmations about you.

Can help you build yourself esteem.

Your primary goal, should be to do everything that you can to feel good and relax.

It is all about how you feel, and learning how to manage those negative thoughts and change those fearful and low confidence emotions and stressful responses, that trigger all the heat and redness in your face.

The happier and more relaxed you feel, the better.

Do everything you can to make you feel relaxed and happy. Living a healthy and active lifestyle, is also going to help you a lot.

Set yourself in the morning

It is important that you set yourself up for each day ahead, so you can leave all your emotional baggage and worries behind you.

A little bit of preparation each morning can help you to feel more relaxed so you will be better equipped to face the challenges of the day ahead.

Always remember that there are no stressful situations, only stressful reactions. You cannot completely control external events. But, you have full control of how you wish to feel and respond.

The preparation for having a great day should always begin the night before.

Before you go to bed each night. Introduce some winding down and relaxing techniques. 

Each night before you go to sleep. It is important to do a bit of mindfulness so you can let any negative thoughts or stressful feelings of the day, just fade and melt away.

As you lay in bed. Do not engage in any negative thoughts or feelings. Just allow your mind to carry on thinking the troublesome and worry thoughts, whilst you just carry on relaxing your body and releasing any tension.

Listen to some, relaxing music, before you fall asleep or listen to a hypnosis sessions, to ease your stress and quieten your mind.

Avoid any external or internal stimulation, in the last few hours before bedtime.

Each night before you go to bed. 

Stand in front of the mirror. Look yourself into the eyes of your reflection, smile to yourself and then say some positive and nice things about you. 

Tell you.

I like myself, I accept myself and I approve of myself x10.

Then say some positive statements about you. Like.
  • I am good enough 
  • I am worthy enough 
  • I am smart enough
  • I am happy 
  • I am safe
  • I am powerful
  • I am equal
  • I am feeling great 
  • I feel calm and composed under pressure
  • I can control my body
  • The best is yet to come
  • All is well 
  • Everything always works out for me
  • Tomorrow is going to be a great day

On awakening, do not just get up, carry on with the same destructive negative thoughts and emotions and do not just jump out of bed, and rush out. 

Create a morning set of positive rituals. 

Because, the first hour of your morning is important, to set yourself up for the rest of the day.

If you start off your day stressed, hurried and negative. You will risk, carrying that negative mindset and energy, throughout the rest of your day.

Allow yourself a bit of me time in the morning, to prime you up for the rest of your day.

On awakening, take control of your thinking. Remember, it is just as easy to think something positive as it is to engage in the negative, and it will feel a whole lot better. 

Or at least, only focus on neutral feeling thoughts. This takes time and practice, but you will get better and better at thinking better feeling thoughts rather than thinking by default.
  • Find five things you're grateful for
  • Do your five minutes self esteem building in front of the mirror
  • Say your positive affirmations
  • Do some light stretches or have a quick morning aerobic workout
  • Visualize your day going well or visualize yourself calmly handling and feeling calm and cool in any socially challenging situations that you might have to face
  • Ignore any negative thoughts and keep the positive momentum going
Make sure you start your day off with a glass or two of water and a good healthy breakfast. 

Listen to a self hypnosis session either before you go to sleep or as you wake up is a great way of calming your mind and body as well as reprogramming your mind for the better.

The less you care about it happening, the less it happens

The more you care about it, fear it, worry about it and think about, the more it will happen, and it soon trap you in the grip of a vicious cycle.

Once you get trapped in this vicious cycle and endless loop, it will become an internal battle with your thoughts and feelings.

Once you get drawn into an internal battle with your thoughts and feelings. They will beat you and defeat you every single time.

The best advice I can give you is.

You cannot beat, forceful stop or defeat your blushing, thoughts and feelings. If you could, there wouldn't be so many still people struggling with this problem.

That approach, just causes more stress, anxiety, adrenaline and tension which will cause you to lose control of your responses and your emotions will run riot. And you will go red more often.

What you can do, is to work on your feelings and emotions.

Because the solution to overcoming your blushing is to treat the real root cause of it. 

Because by the time you have turned bright red, it is already too late and it is a case of, limiting the intensity and duration of it.

The solution is all about learning how to be in more in control of your feelings, body and responses.

Let me ask you a few questions
  1. Are you focused on your problem or the solution? 
  2. Are you focused on what you want or what you don't want?
  3. Are you mainly in the emotional and physical state of anxiety, worry and stress or are you mainly in calm and happy emotional and physical states
If you're always worrying and feel anxious about blushing. Your mainly focused on the problem, not the solution. This will cause more negative and stressful feelings.

This means you will be also focused on what you don't want to happen. 

When you're focusing on what you don't want. Again, you're creating more fear, tension negativity, anxiety and stress.

This will hold you stuck in those fearful, stressful and negative states of anticipation and worry. 

This is not a very good strategy. Because blushing happens much more often  
  1. When you are worrying about it 
  2. When you're focused on what you don't want 
  3. When you're experiencing stress, anxiety and tension
When you were a very young child. 

You did not think about blushing, you did not worry about it happening, you did not care if it happened, you were not stressed and anxious and you were not imagining and anticipating it happening.

So you, wasn't feeling anxious, tense, stressed or afraid. And guess what. It never happened.

All you have to do is return back that young, carefree, relaxed and happy child.

Fear, stress, tension and anxiety are responsible for much of the redness in your face. Low confidence emotions and feeling low and sad, also trigger redness in your face.

What this means. If you want to end your excessive and frequent redness in your face. You need to be able to change the way you respond and learn how to manage your feelings and emotions.

The less you care about it, and the more relaxed and happy you feel, the less it will happen. 

The more you worry about it and the more anxious, tense and stressed you feel, the more it will happen.

Trying to find ways to stop your blushing. Will also make, your blushing happen more often and it will be more intense and longer in duration.

If you feel you're about to blush, try not to pay it any attention or acknowledge the fact that you're going red. 

To stop all the emotional arousal. If your worried about going red. Let yourself know it's OK if you blush.

Or acknowledge and accept it might happen, and let yourself know it does not matter.

You could think to yourself.

"Yes it might happen, so what."

If you sense a blush coming on. Just relax your shoulders, hum a happy tune to yourself, smile and take some slow, deep breaths and push your stomach all the way out.

Try and avoid saying to yourself "I'm blushing or I might blush". If you start to have those blushing thoughts, take no notice of them. 

Overcoming your insecurities

Blushing and anxiety are often linked to fear and insecurity. 

We all have our own range of inner securities, which can affect our self esteem and self confidence.

Some of our insecurities, can be linked to our body image or something that we are not happy about ourselves.

Others are down to fear of being embarrassed, (That is a common one) our beliefs, our abilities and our perceived weaknesses.

The key here is. To let go of the things that you cannot change and focus on changing the things that you can change.

The way to stop your insecurities from diminishing you and destroying your life, is through self acceptance.

Start working on improving the things that you know, you can get better at.

For instance. If there is part of our body that we are not happy with, it may make us feel self conscious, which can affect our self esteem, which will affect how you feel and come across socially.

Because that is something that you cannot really change. It is far better to accept it, accept yourself, forget it and let it go.

If you feel insecure because you feel shy, you feel inadequate, you think that you're not good enough or you're not equal enough or you're not worthy enough. 

Then this is something that you can and should change.

The thing to be aware of. If you convince your mind something for long enough, your mind will start to believe it and accept it as being true, and it will act upon these beliefs.

Knowing this, doesn't it make sense, to only focus on or see yourself as how you would like to be or feel.

When you're worried or you're having one those low confidence moments or you feeling a bit insecure in yourself. 

Go back in time and look for those times when you previously handled a similar type of situation well and you remained cool, calm and comfortable.

Then, let you know. That you have done it before, and you have got the ability and confidence to do it now.

The golden rule is to, decide on what you can work on, and then put all your energy into taking action on the things that you can change so you can begin to start getting better and better.

Your mind will believe everything that you tell yourself. If you convince yourself negative things about you, then in time you become that negative you.

The good news is, If you start to convince yourself positive and good things about you, then bit by bit you will begin to become that better you.

You blushing is one those things that can be put into the category of things that you can do something about.

Again. You're not going to fix this problem overnight, but you can start to make progressive and continuous  progress and improvements.

And you will be surprised at how quickly you can stop your excessive and intense blushing, with the right tools and information.

And the more you start to witness and notice the positive results and progress that you have started to make, the more inspired you will be, to keep on learning and making you and your life better and better.

Change your physiology

Some of your social fears could date back to your very early childhood years.

Maybe you were shy or quiet or perhaps somehow you managed to associate things like being the center of attention with being, threatening.

Blushing is not all in the mind.

Your physiology and posture has a lot to do with whether you go red or how anxious you feel and how good you feel.

Blushing has its roots in the negative feelings and emotional states. 

Whether you go bright red or not, depends largely on what physical and emotional state you're in at the time it happens.

Ideally, you want to feel relaxed and happy.

Tension and stress in your body are linked to your fight, fight, freeze response. 

What this means is. If you're experiencing emotional tension or if you're sitting or standing, in tense postures. 

Then your mind will interpret this. Has something bad is about to happen. The same applies if you're feeling stressed.

So it is important to try and minimize your stress and keep your muscles as soft and relaxed as possible, without collapsing into a slump.

Because, although you should avoid tensing and stiffening your body.

Slouching, hunching your shoulders or leaning or bending forwards, are linked to insecurity.

Psychological things such as being shy, can affect your posture and cause your body tense and shorten in stature, in some social situations 

Or with certain people, especially authority figures, confident people or even the opposite sex.

This can cause you to feel inferior, which can make you tense up your body.

Overcoming this problem has a lot to do with feelings and emotions. 

When we feel tense, we are less confident and we have more trouble with anxiety and more tense  thoughts and imaginings.

You will also force more blood into your face, when you are tensing your body.

It is not because you're any different or they have never gone red before. It happens to everybody at times.

The reason why you have gone on to have such a big problem with it, whilst others don't is because.

They aren't so sensitive about it, and they don't see it as the end of the world scenario, when it has happened, and they don't make it their mission to try and defeat it.

The less you worry and care about it happening. The less it will happen.

Any time you feel bad. Let your mind know, that there is nothing more important for you, than to feel good now.

Do, whatever it takes to feel good.

Stopping the emotional arousal

We often start to feel worried, anxious and stressed when we learn that we have to face a situation where we know we might go red.

All of a sudden the anxiety kicks in and our mind goes on high alert to danger, causing symptoms of stress, anxiety and tension in the body.

If you don't quickly nip it in the bud. The negative momentum will gather pace, your mind will go on high alert to danger, panic will set in and your anxiety levels will increase.

Once you fight or flight and anxiety response has been activated. You cannot deactivate it.

If you engage in it and try to block it out or make it stop, it will just get worse and more intense.

All you can do to stop all the emotional arousal is to reassure your mind with things like. 
  • "It is OK to blush" 
  • "It's OK for me to be the center of attention"
  • "It's OK for me to feel anxious" 
  • What ever happen' I'll be OK"
  • I could not care less, what he/she/they might say
Can stem the anxiety, emotional arousal and stress, and if you keep affirming it to you, when you feel anxious, it can help to ease the fear and anxiety.

People who are anxious, spend a lot of time focusing on how anxious or uncomfortable they feel which can keep them stuck in a negative state.

After a while, this anxious and negative state and mindset, can be there norm.

The less attention you give to your anxious and negative feelings the better. 

The quickest way to end those anxious feelings is to use your body to change the way you feel.

On the onset of any anxious feelings and sensations.

Feel and observe the feelings and emotions, then just smile. 

Take some slow deep breaths and release any tension that you're holding onto tjhen just allow the emotion to rise up through your body and away. 

You can also smile and hum a happy tune to yourself.

Learn to be OK with feeling uncomfortable

The reason why so many people have so much trouble with anxiety is because, they don't like to feel anxious or uncomfortable.

People will go to drastic measures, to try and avoid feeling anxious or uncomfortable.

The reality is. You cannot go through life, without experiencing a bit of discomfort, and sometimes you have to go through the discomfort, to process the emotion so you can expand and grow.

When you try to stop feeling uncomfortable, you will want to avoid all the social situations, that make you feel uncomfortable.

The trouble with avoidance tactics. Your mind soon learns to fear more, the situations or people that you want to avoid.

If you want to begin to feel less anxious, you have to face your challenging and stressful social  situations and learn to cease being afraid of your feelings and emotions.

The best thing to do is to Learn to be OK, with feeling uncomfortable, so you can process the emotion ad begin to eliminate the fear.

This can mean. Having to accept and embrace those unpleasant sensations and staying put, until the feelings subside.

If you're in a social situation, and you notice the onset of anxiety or you learn that you have to face a social situation, that would normally make you feel anxious.

Accept and acknowledge how you feel. Let you know, you are perfectly safe, and it is just feelings, that will soon pass.

Then, embrace and feel the feelings, and allow them to carry on. Just put on a big smile, relax your shoulders, release any tension, and take some slow deep breaths.

Observe your feelings, but carry on as normal as if nothing is happening.

Use your imagination wisely

The one thing all excessive blushers do is. 

Through the use of their imagination, they create a fearful and a traumatic social scenario, then they try to escape from or avoid that situation, because it makes them feel uncomfortable.

Basically, you're creating a scary scenario in your head, and then you want to avoid that social situation.

If you're like most blushers, you spend a lot of time anticipating situations in your mind, where you might go red, which causes you sensations of fear in your body.

Anxiety is often a sign of intelligence and creativity, you're just using tour inner talents in self defeating ways, instead of putting it to good use.

But you can, you know, use your imagination to anticipate, things going well and seeing everything work out, and it is just as easy, and far less painful to envisage you being and feeling calm, cool and confident.

Always focus on how you want to be and feel. Because your energy will match, what you're imagining.

If you feel the onset of anxiety. You can begin to change the feelings by imaging that you're on a beautiful beach.

Engage all your senses and focus on what you can
  • See 
  • Hear 
  • Feel on your skin 
  • Smell 
  • Taste
Once a fearful thought has been activated, you cannot make yourself stop thinking about it.

People, worry endlessly for hours, days, weeks and months because they try to suppress, stop or block out their anxious thoughts.

The easiest way to stop your worry thoughts is to, leave your mind alone, and just relax, do not take the thoughts seriously, and just let them carry on. 

There is no need to react badly, judge or do anything, if you practice this, your mind will quickly calm itself.

When you try to stop your thoughts, you cause more emotional arousal.

It's all about learning to manage and change your state.

Very often. In between, the initial emotional response and the stressful and fearful response. 

Your mind will create images and sounds, of a potential blushing inducing scenario, which will cause your body to react with fear.

The video below will help you to stop the emotional response cause by those negative imaginings.



Are you the sensitive type?

People who suffer with blushing and social anxiety. Tend to be the sensitive or shy type, often they will feel ashamed and embarrassed, about their facial redness. 

If you fit this type of person. Do not feel ashamed or embarrassed by your blushing or if you show yourself up or make a mistake. 

Also, try not to be too sensitive, to what others say about you. Learn to take a joke and try not to overly react to others. 

No one is perfect, nor should you try to be, so you need to give yourself a break.

Before you can overcome this problem, you will first need the right information, knowledge and then you will need to apply and implement that knowledge into your daily life.

The only difference between the person who overcomes their facial redness problem, and those who don't is. 

The person who overcomes their blushing problem. Learns what they are doing wrong and they make good use of that knowledge to change their lives.

Hopefully this article can help you to gain the knowledge and understanding you need, so in time you can end your blushing nightmare.

Daily rituals to change the way you feel

Without you realizing it, you have probably conditioned yourself to feel, think and react the way you do through years of worry, stress, negativity and a lack of belief in yourself and your abilities. 

Or you have bought into the belief that you're a shy or quiet person, or somehow, you think that you're not good enough or there must be something mentally or genetically wrong with you. All of which, are not true.

Blushing is linked to feelings of insecurity, so it is important to work on yourself and how you feel.

This is not something that can happen overnight, and you should start to incorportate some positive and new lifestyle changes and habits into your daily life. Repetition is the key, to your success.

These could include
  • Getting enough deep and relaxing sleep 
  • Getting your daily requirements of vitamins and minerals 
  • Having goals
  • Keeping active 
  • Taking up a hobby, like photography, painting, reading or other relaxing activities 
  • Positive self talk 
  • Drinking enough water and staying hydrated (Avoid drinking excessive amounts in one go)
The key to overcoming your blushing and anxiety, is not about trying to get rid of it, deal with it or fight it, which just generates more bad feelings.

The secret is about managing your feelings and responses, so what you should be working on, is learning to change the way you feel

Your body can determine the way you feel, smiling for a few minutes can improve your mood. The way you hold your body can change the way you feel.

Feel good, takes practice.

Each night and on awakening, allow yourself about ten minutes, to work on building your self esteem and conditioning yourself to feel good. 

If you go to bed in a negative state, you will wake up with the same negative thoughts and feelings, plus you will have.

Allow at least ten minutes me time, to relax and pamper yourself before you go to sleep. Take a bath, or switch off all your electrical devices half an hour before you go to bed, unwind and listen to some relaxing music.

There are plenty of relaxing music videos with natural beauty imagery on You Tube.

Before you drop off to sleep. Breathe in and breathe out and just let go of all the negative stuff that is stuck inside your head, and let you know, all is well.

Then, find five things that you're grateful for.

Develop a ten minute morning ritual, to set yourself up for the day.

Again, as you wake up. Find some things to be grateful and spend a few minutes showing some gratitude. 

Stand in front of the mirror, and tell you that you love and accept yourself. Then repeat ten times. "I am good enough".

Spend a few minutes, relaxing, and visualize your day going well. See yourself, being cool, calm and relaxed, in the typical situations that would make you blush or feel anxious.

Put some feel good music on, and spend a few minutes, taking some slow deep breaths, or have a few minutes exercise warm up, or go for a walk.

Make this a habit.

Release your tension

Muscle tension and stiffness are linked, to your fight or flight response, and your mind uses it as feedback.

When we feel anxious and insecure then we can shorten and shrink in stature and go into a tense and insecure guarded type of posture

This type of of posture is linked to low confidence emotions, insecurity and feelings of surrender and submissiveness. 

When your spine collapses and your head drops down. 

Then, this is thought to be a sign of submissiveness and our faces tend to go bright red, as if it is a sign for what we deem as a potential threat not to attack us.

This means, when you feel anxious and stressed, your muscles will tense, and if your muscles are tense and stiff, you will feel more threatened.

The other type of posture that is similar and linked to your fight or flight response is the starttled posture.

Our rapid response to a life threatening situation, allows us to escape from danger or surrender to the attacker.

For people who suffer with anxiety and blushing, and the two are linked. This startled, fight or flight response, can become an habitual habit.

The fight or flight response, is also accompanied by an increase in your breathing, (Some may hold their breaths) and the release of adrenaline in your body.

Other physical symptoms are, stiffening of the muscles, pulling the back of your head down, contracting the neck muscles, hunching your shoulders and protruding the head forward.

Any feared social situation, can temporarily put you into this startled mode, some can even get permanently stuck in it.

Because, of the mind and body connection. In this fight or flight mode, you will tend to have more anxious thoughts and imaginings, and you will feel more socially threatened.



Some people go the other way where they forcefully try to stand tall, where they lift up their chest ans chin and they pull their shoulders back.

This is equally as bad, it causes access tension and stiffness and it indicates that you are being threatened.

It is really important to move, stand and sit poised and balanced, with the least amount of tension.

Many of us have picked up some bad tension habits. Try to release any tension and avoid the urge to rush as this will trigger your stress response.

Be mindful, when you start to over tense your body, make an effort, not to grip things too tight and use the least amount of force and tension as possible.

The same applies with stress. Learn to relax and slow down. If you feel the urge to rush, deliberately pause and slow yourself down.



Relax and reduce your stress

Stress and tension cause heat in the body and redness in your face. Therefore, it is of utmost importance for you to keep those muscles relaxed and learn how to reduce your stress, so you cool your core body temperature.

Your stress and fear response are both linked and driven by the same emotional, physical and chemical process which causes much of the redness in your face.

Learning how to manage your thoughts, as mentioned above will help you to reduce your emotional stress. Remember, thoughts are not fact, so they can be challenged, dismissed and changed.

The other way to reduce your stress is learning how to relax and change the way you respond. Again, mindfulness is the key.

If any time you notice yourself feeling stressed, pause, and take some slow, deep breaths, to stop the momentum. Focus on your breathing to bring you back into the present moment.

Each day, find some me time. Practice some deeply relaxing techniques. Go for a walk, exercise or listen to some relaxing music.

At the moment you fear being put on the spot or being the center of attention, because you don't like it or you dread it happening.

The opposite of fear and dread, are love, like and enjoy. Each day, find somewhere quiet to relax, do some deep breathing, close your eyes. 

Then, imagining yourself loving and enjoying, all those social situations, where you used to react with fear and dread. 

Another exercise that you can use to reduce the emotional attachment is.

Each night think of a situation that made you feel anxious, perhaps a typical type of social situation or a stressful or anxious situation that happened to you during your day.

First, find somewhere to relax. When you're feeling relaxed, recall those thoughts, imaginings, or the actual situation.

Then try to keep your body relaxed around those thoughts and imagined stressful situations, and carry on thinking about the fearful situation whilst at the same time focusing on responding calmly.

This will help you train your body to stay calm. It is all about changing the feelings. Once you feel calm in that situation, you can then imagine yourself feeling cool, calm and comfortable.

Try not to react badly, to the heat in your face

Another problem for the blusher is, they can start to become too sensitive and too overly aware of any rise in heat or temperature in the face.

This can cause self consciousness in the mind which can result in negative feelings or it can cause you to react with fear and anxiety which can cause you to become tense which will force even more blood into your face.

There are many reasons that can cause a rise in temperature in the face, many are a result of body temperature fluctuations which aren't even visible externally.

You may think you're going bright red, when it is not the case. Try not to become overly sensitive or bothered by a bit of heat in the face.

Because your mind can quickly learn to associate blushing and the people and trigger situations that cause it, as being a threat that needs to be defeated or avoided and it will use anxiety and sensations of fear to alert you to when it might happen.

To make matters worse, you will have also attached fear too, whenever your face starts to warm up, making you panic more as well as making you feel more self conscious.

So try to become less sensitive when you notice your face getting warmer, everybody blushes slightly at times.

Also, try to keep your chore body temperature low, although you don't want to feel cold all the time, try to wear loose fitting clothes that leave you feeling comfortable and not too hot.

Stress, anxiety and tension will raise your body temperature, so try and stay cool and relax, ease your body.

Sometimes you can think that you're going red when you're not, before you assume that you're going bright red. Often what you're feeing, is a temperature fluctuation.

Care less about what others think or say

Try to care less what people think about you or say about you.

The real truth is you don't really care about the red face, it's the amount of meaning, fear and significance that you have attached to your face going red and the caring what other people think or might say, that you don't like.  

Lets, say, you went jogging and it made your face go red, it would not really bother you and you would not care if people noticed. 

But when you go red due to social embarrassment, everything changes because it makes you feel self-conscious, weak and ashamed, because you believe, you should have grown out of it by now.

One of the biggest fears, is the fear of what other people think, when it comes to socializing, we just care too much about what others think, and we somehow think that we have to impress them or perform perfectly in front of the.

But trying to be perfect is a bad way to live, and the reality is, people aren't spending all their time thinking about you, or judging you, because they are too wrapped up thinking about their issues and life, to give you a second thought.

So try not to care what other people think so much and don't presume they are all judging you or thinking about you because they're more concerned with their own issues and life. 

Try not to guess and imagine, what you think others are thinking about you either. People are more concerned about themselves and their own problems, than they are about you.

Sitting comfortably

The more comfortable you feel, the better. Many people give little thought to how they get in and out of their seat.

Many people will just flop into their seat and allow their body to collapse. When this happens, it won't be long before you start to feel uncomfortable and insecure.

Others will try to sit up too straight or rigid, because they have been told that it will make them feel more confident. But again, this can soon lead to muscle stiffness and it can put you into the startled mode.

The secret to feeling comfortable and confident. Is all to do with how you get in and out of your chair, ideally you want to make sure that you're sitting on your sit bones, so you are upright but relaxed.

Watch the videos below, on how to get in and out of your chair, so you sit relaxed and alert.



The low confidence emotions that cause the redness in your face

Fear is one emotion that can trigger redness in your face, but it's not the only one and although most experts focus on the worrying and fearing it which is critical many overlook the other emotional trigger.

The other emotion that is responsible for the redness in your face is the low confidence emotion.

When you're in a negative and the low confidence state, then the slightest of triggers many which would not trouble you normally can immediately light up your face.

Things that cause low confidence emotions are

  • Low self esteem and not feeling worthy
  • Low moods or depression
  • Tiredness, feeling run down and exhausted
  • Negative and pessimistic thinking 
  • Feelings of hopelessness 
  • Poor diet 
  • Slouching, allowing your spine to collapse, your body to become out of alignment or leaning back 
  • During colds and viruses 
  • Stress and anxiety
The opposite to low confidence emotions is happy and feeling good and balanced, so work on increasing your happiness, get adequate good quality sleep as well as plenty of rest and relaxation. 

Allowing your spine to collapse, letting your back curve in a C shape, having a rounded posture, bending forwards or letting your body become out of alignment will quickly drain your energy and put you in a low confidence, insecure and negative mood.

Gratitude is a good way to feel good, so is being at peace and being present in the now. So do whatever it takes to make you feel good, do the things you enjoy and give up thinking about blushing because the positive emotions are what you want to feel.

Exercise or stay active but do not physically overdo things, you must not become burnt out as this can seriously lower your mood. 

Try to reduce the amount of stimulants that you intake like cutting back on to much sugar, caffeine and alcohol. 

Some people are food intolerance or food sensitive and this can have a negative impact on their moods and how they feel.

Do not dehydrate, dehydration can leave you feeling tired, more anxious, sad and low on energy, drinking cool water can also help to lower your core body temperature. 

Drink smaller amounts often and avoid consuming large amounts of water in a short period, the idea is to keep yourself topped up, because drinking too much in one go will not work way and it can be dangerous. 

To much bad thinking and wrestling your problems to ground will drain your energy and dis-empower you so the anti-dote to bad thinking is constructive and optimistic thinking or even just thinking about everyday neutral types of thoughts. 

The best way to end bad thinking is to pay it no attention, then think about something more pleasant, if what you're thinking about is making you feel bad, then it is time to change the subject.

Your confidence can very quickly desert you at anytime, we all make mistakes and we all have bad days so do not be hard on yourself and allow yourself to get things wrong from time to time, because perfection is one of the biggest confidence killers. 

If you do go red or you do not come across in any situations very well, have the attitude of so what, it is no big deal, then forget about it otherwise you will create a fear of that situation.

To much bad thinking and wrestling your problems to ground will drain your energy and dis-empower you so the antidote to bad thinking is constructive and optimistic thinking or even just thinking about everyday neutral types of thoughts. 

The best way to end bad thinking is to pay it no attention, then think about something more pleasant, if what you're thinking about is making you feel bad, then it is time to change the subject.

Your confidence can very quickly desert you at anytime, we all make mistakes and we all have bad days so do not be hard on yourself and allow yourself to get things wrong from time to time, because perfection is one of the biggest confidence killers.

Avoid any stimulants

Other things that can increase your anxiety levels and increase your chances of blushing are stimulants, like too much caffeine and alcholol.

Magnesium, has been described as natures natural calming mineral and anti-dote for stress and anxiety.

Taking the recommended daily allowance of magnesium, can help to lower your stress levels and leave you feeling calmer.



Regulate your breathing

If you have been suffering a lot of stress, worry and anxiety. Then this may have affected your natural and calming breathing rhythm and cycle.

You may find yourself breathing shallow or you may even hold your breath when you are faced with a stressful situation.

Practicing deep rhythmic breathing and returning your breathing back to its natural most efficient and relaxed pattern, can help you to lower your stress and anxiety.

A good time to do this, is before you drop off to sleep, and first thing in the morning, and maybe every hour or so during the day for a while, or if you at any time, you start to feel anxious and stressed.

Doing this before you enter a stressful situation can help to condition your mind, to associate the situation with being safe, it can also help you, to prevent yourself from going bright red.

Sit or lay down comfortably. If you have been feeling stressed or tense, this can be quite hard to begin with, so it might take a bit of practice.

Take a few normal breaths, to just settle yourself down, allow any negative thoughts to just sail through your mind, and focus on your breathing.

Then, once you start to feel more relaxed. Inhale in, for the count of five, hold for a few seconds, and breathe out for the count of seven. 

If you're still having trouble, breathe in for the count of two and out for the count of three. Then, breathe in for three and out for the count of four, until you gradually build up to in for five and out for the count of seven.

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