Posted by Steven 08-04-2017
Are you hiding the real authentic you behind a mask, are you fed up with all the pretense and trying to be something that you're not.
From the moment we are born, we are told what is safe and what is not, we are told how we should behave, what we should and should not do and what we should and should not say.
Our mind is the most powerfullest biological computer that exists, what we put in comes back out, yet we have no real say in our early yet most important programming and conditioning.
Many people are held back due to some of the negative and limiting early childhood beliefs that were installed by others, which can have a negative impact on you for the rest of your life, if you do not release them and change them.
As we become more self aware journey through our life we tend to lose a bit of our identity and character as we try to conform and fit in with the pack, just so we can feel socially acceptable.
These days there seems to be more and more pressure on people to look good and everybody wants to come across confident and charismatic in front of others.
You have to sometimes ask yourself though, are you more interested in trying to please and impress others, than being your true self?
We tend to think everybody is judging us and everybody is our biggest critic, this can cause you to try and conform to how we think we should be perceived by others, instead of being and expressing who we really are.
There is nothing worse for setting you back or knocking you down, than a few negative suggestions or critical comments made by others.
But the truth is, our own biggest critic and judge is ourselves, the trouble is, when you treat yourself bad, then you are inviting others to treat you bad too.
Sometimes, because of the need to be perfect and flawless, we forget that we are human, if we embarrass ourselves, show ourselves up or we make a mistake, instead of letting it go, we beat ourselves up over it.
Many people think that they are not good enough, they are inadequate or they think that they need to change, this type of thinking however, just creates inner insecurities.
For those who are not happy with parts of themselves or for those who think that they are not good enough, they look to change or wish to be like somebody else.
Some will go to great lengths to try to hide their insecurities or mask over them, even to the point of trying to fake their confidence or pretending to be someone who they aren't
The trouble is, when you try to pretend to be someone you're not, this soon becomes exhausting and hard to keep up, others will use alcohol to help them be more confident and outgoing.
In the long term you cannot fake
It is far better to accept who you really are and then work on your weak points and improve on your strengths.
There is nothing wrong with being different, the world would be a dull place if we were all the same, so be proud of you you really are.
Many people become afraid of who they really are, so they try and project the image of what they think they should be and how they would like to be seen, this is often reinforced by the ego.
The trouble is, when you try to hide the real you, then you will start to create an inner battle and struggle with yourself.
Over time, as we endure to be like others, our true authentic self becomes buried and in its replacement comes what we think we should be in the presence of others.
So what is your true authentic self?
You could describe the true authentic you as the person you are when you are alone by yourself.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be your best you, but you should never hate yourself, put yourself down or want to be someone else, because when you do that then you will be creating a negative self image of yourself.
Bring out your positive self
- How you view and identify yourself
- How you value yourself
- How you feel about yourself
- Your self worth
- How you react and handle pressure or challenging situations
- The things that you will or won't do
- I am not very good at
- I am not a lucky person
- Good things like that never happen to me
- I am not a confident person
- I am not that type of person