It does not matter who you are, everybody gets days or times in their lives when they come face to face with adversity, setbacks and failures.
Bad things do happen to us all, and although you cannot completely avoid adversity, what is essential is, learning how to turn failure, disappointments and defeat into positivity and success.
Bad days are an inevitable part of life, and when you have a bad day or you feel like your whole world is falling apart or your goal is collapsing, then you simply cannot override these difficult times with positive thoughts.
Although positive thinking is a big part of being successful, you need to put it aside for the time being whilst you process the negative emotions.
Sometimes you have to go through it, to come out the other side a wiser, stronger and more resilient you.
Because when things are going bad, and you feel frustrated, sad, disappointed or stressed, then trying to positively think your way out of these negative states, is probably not going to help you, especially if you have a lot of negativity going on.
When you feel sad and defeated, it can make you feel like giving up on your goals and trying to do better in your life.
This can leave you feeling defeated, unmotivated and disempowered, and you might ask yourself, what is the point in trying.
If you're not careful then you can soon slip into the why me, victim mentality.
If adversity has struck, do not try and fight it or suppress it, just accept what has happened, and allow the feelings and the situation to pass by itself.
Take some time out, to pamper yourself, do something that you enjoy, read a book, go for a walk in nature or meditate and relax, so you can cease the negative momentum.
During adversity or challenging times, you want to acknowledge how you feel, then feel the emotion and let them pass.
Because, before you can overcome a problem or a bad situation, you have to feel and process the emotions, only then can you move on.
There are times to think positive, but we also need to learn how to be more resilient and stronger at times of adversity or when you're down on your luck.
Training yourself to surrender to adversity, accept the bad times, and just allow the thoughts and feelings to flow through you and away, instead of engaging in all those negative emotions and doom and gloom stories of your mind, will stop all the negative momentum.
It is a good lesson in life to learn how to react to a bad situation, with the attitude of, it is not the end of the world and you will be OK, as this will help you to deal better with future failures, adversities and setbacks.
You cannot always control your situations, but you can control how you choose to react to them.
When adversity strikes, you're going to feel down and bad, therefore you have not got to try and justify how you feel.
When people are told that they must feel positive all the time, when things do go wrong or bad, they can feel that they must remain positive and upbeat, some can even feel guilty or bad about feeling disappointed or frustrated, especially in this age of you must feel positive.
Of course, you want to get that positive mindset and feelings going again as soon as possible, but you cannot jump from feelings of adversity, frustration, sadness and disappointment to feeling full of joy, optimism and positivity in one move, without processing those negative emotions first.
So acknowledge the negative feelings, feel them and allow them to come through you and away, then once you have processed the emotion, then you can decide on what you want to do.
If things have gone bad for you or you have experienced a setback or disappointment, then be honest with yourself.
Let you know that, I am disappointed, this is not how I wanted things to go, you expected better, you wanted thing to go better and you feel you deserved better.
At this point, allow that bad feeling moment to have its time.
Have a rant, moan or cry, and let out those negative emotions and then release them and move on in a positive and optimistic attitude and mindset.
Give yourself a treat to pick yourself up, or meditate or relax deeply, have a long soak in the bath, go for a walk, or do something that you enjoy, just to break up the negative momentum.
Then, once you have accepted the situation and you have felt the emotions, and you're feeling better, then start to shift to a solution or problem solving mindset, and put all your energy and focus on to trying to figure things out and make things better.
Instead of beating yourself up, see if you can learn a valuable lesson from your setback or failure.