Although you were probably brought up on stories about finding your own Prince Charming, the reality is, most guys are not like this.
The first thing to understand about men is, they are not all the hearts and flowers guys, Prince Charming or the romantic bloke that is often depicted in glossy magazines or romantic books or films.
So if you're waiting for the confident and smooth James Bond or the romantic type who is going to declare is undying love to you, write you a romantic poem, sweep you off your feet or roll up on a big white horse and take you off into the sunset or hand you a bunch of red roses, you may be disappointed.
This means that you may have to stop wishing, stop dreaming and start looking for those less obvious, but still reliable body language and behavioral clues.
Either way, you just need to know the answer, one way or another, because that is the only way to quieten your mind, balance your hormones and settle down your emotions.
The trouble is, you cannot always rely on that voice in the back of your head, your mind can be very confusing and all that trying to figure things out can be agonizingly painful.
Sometimes your mind can even make things up.
You may be considering, asking your friends for their advice. But can you really trust, your friends, or will they embarrass you and act all silly, in front of your crush?
Perhaps you already know him, does he live near you, perhaps he is a work colleague or he attends the same school as you.
That can really prove difficult to tell, whether he just wants to be friends or he yearns to date you.
The trouble, with most guys is. They can be so unpredictable, one minute they're blowing hot and then they go all cold on you.
The trouble with dating is. When you're in the friend zone, because you're both at ease it is easy to get on and the conversation just flows naturally.
But the second it becomes a date or a potential date, it can affect you both, and everything becomes completely different and you find yourself trying too hard.
From the guy's point of view, when you are casually speaking or hanging around together, there is no pressure on him to impress you and he kinds of acts naturally.
But when he realizes there is more to it or there could be more to it.
Everything changes, the guy might begin to feel nervous. All of a sudden, they will go into a panic mode or he will become tongue tied, and may appear as he is not bothered, when really he secretly desires you.
You may be surprised to know, the guy wants the same things as you
You might think men are different, but the real truth is, most men want the same things as you, and the chances are, he is thinking the same thoughts as you.
They may try to hide their real feelings and what they really want behind their ego and their alpha male cave man like, exterior.
But if you scratch beneath the surface, they are emotionally driven and all they want, behind closed doors, is a happy, loving and affectionate relationship.
If a guy does secretly likes or admires you, and he turns out to be Mr right, one thing is for certain, you would want to know.
Because, can you imagine, the scenario.
There is a catch of a guy, who has got the hots for you, but because you miss the signs, the opportunity, passes you by.
How, bad would that be, if you have just allowed what might be, future husband material to slip through your fingers?
Then there is another issue. What if he really does fancy you rotten, but he is a little bit shy, how are you going to break the ice?
2) He will try to get close to you
If he is interested in you, he will try to find every reason and chance available to get closer to you at every opportunity.
This may be instantly obvious or it might be a bit more subtle as you find him gradually edging ever closer to you in a stealth like fashion.
If he is confident, then he may pluck up the courage and walk straight up to you or he may try to edge is way ever closer to you bit by bit.
When a guy likes you, then when they are talking to you they will sometimes subconsciously and unknowingly mirror and copy your body language and action.
4) He will subtly lean in towards you
A good early indication that can be a sign he likes you is, he will tend to lean inwards towards you or face towards you when he his talking to you.
If he's confident in himself and he likes you then if he is sitting he will sit facing you with his knees pointing towards you.
If he feels really relaxed and comfortable around you think he might sit in a relaxed, laid back open legged position.
If he is a bit shy, then he may feel a bit uncomfortable facing you directly and although he will still like you, it may not show it.
So if a man is leaning towards you a lot, then this usually indicates that he is attracted to you and he wants to get a good look at you, plus he likes being up close to you.
You will also probably find as he becomes more at ease and interested in you, he will start to edge closer to you and he will bit by bit begin to turn and stand more facing you.
Therefore, if he gradually begins to turn so he he is facing you then this could signal he is interested in you.
But if he turns to the side whilst you're talking to him and his attention is elsewhere, then that is not a very good sign.
6) He will try to impress you
Most men if they like you, then they will be extra nice to you and they will be on their best
If a guy has approached you and you have already started having a conversation with him, then he might start telling you things about himself.
He may throw into the conversation things about himself that may come across as seeming a bit boastful, or he may go the other way and he might start showing you his more sensitive side.
He might not do this in front of his mates, but he may come across more sensitive and he might be more affectionate when you're alone together.
Sometimes even if you have not asked him a question about him, he may still attempt to tell you things about himself such as
- Where he works
- His personal achievements
- What he is good at
- What kind of car he drives
- And even some of his bad boy moments
Many men feel the need to make an instant good early impression to get your attention so they will go out of their way to try and impress or prove themselves to you.
So don't be put off because this does not necessarily mean he his boasting, some might, but it can also indicate that he is trying to impress you to try to get you interested in him.
However, you have to be a bit careful when a guy appears to be trying to impress you, as it can mean, that his his trying to impress his own ego and mates.
A guy who genuinely likes you, will also be impressed by you, and the things you do and say, and you might find out that he defends you and sticks up for you.
When men are around women. They soon start to try and out compete each other.
This is where there animal like instinct starts to kick in, and most men will want to come across as the strong and the smart Alpha male type.
In the animal kingdom, the strongest make, always gets their mate.
So if you notice that a guy is trying show off to you in front of his mates. Then there is a very good chance that he is trying to impress you.
He may also try to look more stronger and try to depict what he thinks is a real man and the chances are he will dress well to try to make a good impression.
When a man is trying to impress a woman he
He may try to put his mates down, to make himself look the alpha male.
If you're both attracted to each other then you will probably both
Some men might even talk a bit garbage, in their attempt to try and impress you.
Because we all act a bit out of character and a bit over the top in those few early and awkward moments as you both try to make a good first impression.
8) He will try to make you laugh
He will also smile at you a lot and he will do his best to make you laugh, during those ice breaking moments you can sometimes get those awkward silent moments where the conversation comes to an end.
If he really likes you then he will try to reignite a fading conversation and attempt to keep it going, to keep you interested as he knows those first impressions can count.
He might also look to see how you are reacting to some of his jokes or how you're responding to his conversation, to try and
For the man it can seem like he his having an audition as you would in a talent show to get you to like him, where he only has a few minutes to get your attention and impress you.
His energy and positive attitude can also be a sign that he is very interested in you and he will try to be at his very best to impress and entertain you, so he might appear as the life and soul of the party inside but he is attempting to get you interested in him.
9) He will make eye contact with you
Even if a man tries to hide the fact that he is attracted to you he will still subconsciously give it away especially through the eyes.
This means if he makes a lot of eye contact towards you then that is definitely a big sign he finds you attractive.
When a man stares at you because he likes you it will be a nice kind of stare, he may be taken aback by your looks at first, if he really likes you then he won't be able to stop looking at you.
Men who are shy or anxious, however, may find it uncomfortable to look you directly in the eye, however, their eyes can still give it away even if they are shy and nervous.
What they might do is, they will initially make eye contact towards you, but the moment you look back at them or catch them, they might look down or away.
However, if they like you then it won't be long before they reestablish their eye contact.
So if they make eye contact towards you, then they break it, then make eye contact again and this pattern can continue then this usually means that they are attracted to you.
10) Other ways his eyes can give it away
Body language experts say that our blink rate can also be a tell tale give away that he feels attracted towards you.
So if they suddenly start to blink more this can show he likes being in your company and he is pleased to see you, because when we are excited our blink rate increases.
However it is not always easy to check or stay focused on their fluctuated blink rate without coming across as being a bit weird.
Another good reveal from eyes is, when his eyes dilate it can indicate that he feels attracted to you, but again checking this out without making it blatantly obvious is easier said than done.
If you keep purposely looking to see if his pupils have become larger then he may feel a bit awkward and think your
11) He will innocently touch you
Another give away is, he will gently keep on innocently trying to lightly touch you or gently pat you, guide you or play with your hair. He will feel compelled to rub or tap you at every given opportunity.
A guy who is interested in you will search for reasons to playfully touch you, say on your arm and leg or brush up close at every given opportunity because it feels good for them to be up close to you.
However a man who is a bit shy might not try to touch you playfully and some might run out of things to say.
It does not mean he does not like you, it just means he is human and probably a very nice, caring and
12) He will be interested in what you have to say
If he feels attracted to you then he will be interested and receptive to what you have to say, your hobbies and general and random things and facts about you, including your interests, your past and what you like, hoping you have something in common.
You may also find out that he claims to also be interested in the things you like or do, if he likes you then he will be interested to find out more about you.
He will probably start asking you lots of questions about yourself and what you're interested in and he will come across as generally interested in your answers and what you have to say.
When he his speaking to you cold, then question is a great way for him to gather data about you so he can get to know a little bit about who you are and what you're about.
This will also give him an excuse to approach you again and ask you about some of the things you had previously told him and what you talked to him about the last time.
This is an almost guaranteed sign which will give him plenty of things to keep the conversation going and to get in with you. All the questions are basically so he can find something to talk to you about.
If he feels a bit anxious then sound as if he is talking about some unusual or silly topics, so try not to judge him straight away because deep down he is desperate to impress you and keep you engaged in a conversation.
And when anybody is a bit nervous there brain is not properly engages and you will find that they speak quickly and they often speak without much logic or thought.
13) He may try to protect and defend you
He may even come across as protective and you may find he defends you in front of others. If a man goes out of his way to come across to talk to you, then that is a giveaway sign that he likes you.
If he is shy then he might not directly approach you, but you find out he will appear around you at every given opportunity hoping that you will initiate the conversation or make the first move.
If he playfully teases you then this can mean he has feelings towards you, again this is not always the case and if the teasing is critical or nasty orientated then steer clear of him.
14) He may appear a bit nervous
Some men are more naturally confident than others and a
So if he seems awkward and a bit anxious then that can be a give away sign he likes you, especially if he has been trying to pluck up the courage to chat you up so try not to judge him on his first impressions.
So if he appears uncomfortable, edgy and awkward it does not mean he does not like you, the chances are he has already spent quite some time worrying about it before hand and he will have made himself nervous even to the point of high anxiety levels.
So when you speak to him or ask him a question this can lead him to get tongue tied or he might freeze and his nervousness can make him struggle to pronounce his words, or he may talk fast, he may even blush which can be another outward sign that he likes you.
If he is a bit uncomfortable or shy then it may cause him to talk to you about any old nonsense, some guys are so shy it can seriously impede their relationship, chances and their shyness can make them want to avoid you even though they really want to be with you.
Sometimes men want to make a good first impression, but because they're trying to hard to be perfect it can actually cause them to look awkward, if they are really shy then they might be a bit quiet because they're worried about messing up.
A good give away that may reveal if he his attracted to you is, he will touch his earlobes quite a lot or he may show signs of nervous laughter or he may be a little fidgety.
If he starts to rub the back of his neck or mess with his ears, it can be a sign that he feels a bit pressured or uncomfortable.
15) He may come across as a bit anxious
16) Bumping into you will become more than a coincidence
If a man is really keen on you and he wants to pursue you then you may find out that all of a sudden he will keep bumping into you or turning up at the social places you frequent, if you find that you keep running into him then there is a good chance that it is no coincidence.
He may ask you for your phone number or he might have already gotten it from somebody else and the he will start texting you a lot about general or random stuff and everyday things and gossip.
This does not necessarily mean he is stalking you or harassing you so long as you know who he his before you reply to his messages.
17) He will find all of your jokes funny
A guy who likes you will be pleased to see you and he won't be able to hide it, he will probably instantly switch into a happy mood every time he bumps into you, he will be more energetic and positive when he is around you.
He will laugh at all your jokes and funny stories, even if he inwardly does not really find them that funny, he will probably even laugh and smile at your bad jokes.
18) He might ask for your phone number
If you have just met a guy and he ask you for your phone number or ask you where you live or work at the end of the night then this will be an indication that he likes you because it shows he is keen to see you again.
19) He may give you gifts
Another sure sign a guy likes you, especially if you have already been dating him is for a while is, he will offer to treat you or he will give you gifts as spending money on you means he is keen on you, he may also give you a lot of compliments and respond positively to you.
A guy who showers you with treats out and gifts is demonstrating to you that he thinks your special and the one for him. This does not mean you should not show a bit of caution to strangers or people you're not sure about who keep giving you gifts.
20) He will make contact with you via digital devices
Although his actions and
Such as he may eagerly respond to any text messages that you send him, if you have approached him then if he likes you he will stay and chat and have a laugh with you.
If you are on any of the social media sites and a guy joins in your conversations and chat or he may leave you random positive
21) He will want to spend a lot of time with you
If a guy is keen on you then he will want to spend a lot of time with you and he will let you easily influence and persuade him to do what you suggest and he will be willing to try new things with you.
He will be eager to go
Just because he may not make a physical move towards you straight away does not always mean he does not feel attracted to you, in
As long as he does not go cold on you and he is still emotionally connected to you then he likes you.
He will also probably pay more attention to you than he does with his friends. A good sign that he likes you is, he will introduce you to his family,
- He, like you is not sure whether, you like him, and this could be holding him back
- He is a bit shy
- He his scared of losing your friendship
- He feels scared of being rejected
- He thinks, you're not interested in him
- The girl is not showing any clear signs back, that she is interested in him
- The girl keeps going on about her ex, or other guys that she likes
- The girl has said or done something that has put the guy off her
- He wants to make a move, but he keeps on hesitating
- Because he thinks that you will reject him, he talks himself out of making a move
- He is waiting for you to make a move, or give him a big clue or a clear indication
- The girl is playing a bit too hard to get
- He has been put off by rumors about the girl he fancies
- She is not showing any signs or emotions
- The girl is sending mixed signals
- He is not interested
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