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82 Self Help Tips To Help You Be A Happier, Calmer And More Succesful You

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Life can be sometimes, hard at times, but sometimes we make it a lot harder than it needs to be. 

For safety and protection reasons. Evolution has conditioned us to think negative first, which had been hardwired into our brains.

Fear lies at the chore of our negative emotional patterns, thought process and behaviors. This can severely restrict us and hold us back in many negative and self limiting ways and make our life a misery. 

If we desire to change, feel great and to be successful, it is important to work on relaxing, changing our thinking and change the way we react to our mind and our external circumstances.

The first step towards positive change and betterment starts with a decision that you want to change, you want to do it and you want to better yourself and your life.

The second step is to strive to keep on learning and growing, because there are no limits to what you can achieve, do or become, as long as you want to do it.

On this page there are many practical self help tips and information, to help you get started and moving forwards in a new and exciting positive direction. 

Many people want to feel good, experience more joy and to be successful, but they are not sure how to go about it, after all, nobody has ever told us. 

One of the reasons so many people are struggling and feeling stuck and bad about themselves is because they have a lack of meaning or direction in their life.

Setting goals and wanting to be successful, is not just about making more money, it is all about giving you a sense of meaning and purpose.

The aim of this site is to help you get rid of all the bad stuff, replace it with the good and to help and inspire you, to achieve your goals and make the positive changes that you want.

Before you can achieve success, it is important that you set and put the basic foundations for success, positive change and betterment into place first.

This may require working on the sometimes mundane and tedious task like. Doing some emotional clearing work, rewiring your brain, and developing a growth mindset. 

Which will awaken you up to, what is possible when you let go of all your restrictions and limitations and what you are truly capable of.

The journey towards success, betterment and growth, is not always fast and easy. Sometimes it can take time, effort and determination.

Nobody changes, gets the best out of life, becomes successful or becomes the absolute best version of themselves, without making an effort to change. 

In life you are in full charge of how you feel and think and you create your own luck, circumstances and successes.

But the positive rewards for all your efforts, will be well worth if for you as you begin to move away from all the bad, you begin to feel better and you see yourself moving towards the life of your choice.

In this modern day, people are looking for instant success and instant results. 

But it doesn't always work that way. But the universe tends to help those who want to help themselves.

A way to approach self development is all about making continuous and sustained progress. 

Betterment, calmnss, happiness, learning and growth, are the chore ingredient for success. 

You're not going to get it right all of the time and it is important to learn and better yourself when you have a setback or failure.

If things don't always workout or when things go wrong for you, try not to be hard on yourself, let you know it is OK and it is not your fault. 

Sometimes we put all the blame on ourselves or we feel responsible for all or shortcomings, adversities and setbacks.

As long as you're doing your best, that is good enough.

When things go wrong, instead of beating yourself up and becoming frustrated with yourself and life, analyse where you went wrong, stay positive and try to become better or do things even better next time.

Every setback, every mistake and every failure, presents an opportunity to learn, grow and get better.

If you want to excel and perform at your most efficient and creative best. Then you have to feel relaxed, balanced and at peace, emotionally, mentally and physically.

Because there is nothing more important for you, than to feel good and in the zone.

As you begin to see that you're making steady progress, this will empower you and make you feel better and you will become hungry for more.

Developing a success mindset, forming new helpful beliefs and success habits, taking good care of yourself and working on your physiology, are all important.

Life is all about, betterment, fulfillment, enjoyment, contentment, learning from your mistakes, continuous growth and expansion. 

Success, happiness, a positive mindset, feeling calm and at peace and enjoyment should be a way of life, and personal development is a lifelong process. 

Where you keep learning, growing and expanding through the course of your life.

Doing a bit of self development and betterment here and there, will probably not yield you the results you're looking for.

To achieve your full potential and to make the positive changes that you're seeking then ideally you need to be in it for the long term, because you can never stop learning and growing.

Reading and learning are a great place to start, but information and knowledge are only powerful, if you apply that knowledge and you turn what you have learned, into action. 

"Like the air you breathe, abundance in all things is available to you. Your life will simply be as good as you allow it to be".

Esther Hicks.

Stagnation happens, when we do not analyze and change what we are doing wrong or we don't look to do things better.

Self development, personal growth is all about bettering yourself in every aspect of your life. It is more of a continuous process, not a final destination, because there is always more to learn, see and do.

You get better, through learning, doing and repeating the right techniques, positive habits and strategies. 

Then first step to a better you and a better life starts with the implementing of daily positive rituals, positive habits and healthy and productive lifestyle changes.

But for those who are self disciplined and persistent, reap the positive rewards and benefits.

Making small changes and adjustments each day, will result in big gains over a longer period of time.

The biggest mistake anyone can make, is to live their life by their negative beliefs, waste their inner genius, talents, abilities and creative potential, ignore the opportunities that come their way, and put limitations and restrictions on themselves.

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1) Basic Guidelines To A better Life 

You should always. accept yourself, respect yourself, be yourself and stay true to you.

Because you're already good enough, smart enough and capable enough. Your goal should be, to stay positive, become the best version of you and have the best life experience possible.

Start off with small changes and steps and gradually let the new better you build and grow and one day you will be that ideal you.

There is nothing more satisfying in life than 
  • Finding the solutions to your problems 
  • Answers to your questions 
  • Achieving your goals 
  • Learning and growing as a human and a spiritual being 
  • Going beyond your limitations 
  • Taking on new challenges 
  • Living your life by design, not default 
  • Becoming emotionally free 
  • Taking control of your health and wealth
The foundations for a happy life are, bringing your mind and body into balance and a state of calm, so it functions and operates at its peak performance best.

When some people develop mental health conditions and emotional problems such as anxiety and depression.

They look for external explanations or psychological problems. Yes, external, circumstances can have an influence on how we feel.

But, good health and well-being also, has a lot to do with supplying your body with its basic requirements that are necessary to keep you at your peak physical and mental efficient best.

Some of the basis bodily requirements are
  • Quality sleep 
  • Deep relaxation 
  • Activity/exercise 
  • Good quality nutrition 
  • Avoiding too much sugar, junk food, alcholol and any other potentially harmful substances
The things that will either move you towards the life you want or take you away
  • Your focus of attention
  • The stories you tell yourself and the picture you create in your mind 
  • The beliefs you choose and make
  • Your physiology 
  • Actions you take 
Good health, happiness and emotional welling can be achieved when your mind, body and your biological system is balanced. 

Most of our problems occur when our body and system becomes out of balanced.

Some of the most fundamental and important key elements that can affect our happiness, good health and emotional well-being are
  • Food intolerance/sensitivity, bad bacteria in the gut, unhealthy low in nutritional value foods
  • Stress
  • Good relationships with your family, partner, friends and work colleagues
These days, many people are eating for convenience and taste, rather than nutrition.

When your body does not get its basis fundamental necessities, your body does not function at its best, and as a result, you will suffer. 

When your body functions efficiently, you will feel better and your life will get better.

2) Feeling Comfortable 

The biggest enemy that anybody can have in life, is having tension in the mind and body. Tension, not only makes you feel bad and uncomfortable. 

But it can also increase anxiety and it can leave you feeling tired, negative and irritable. When your body is tense, you tend to have more tense related thoughts. 

Stiffness in the neck and muscles can also put you in the startled mode.

To be at your best and to perform and your peak efficient best, you need to feel relaxed and comfortable. One of the biggest causes of tension and low moods is bad posture habits.

Many self help websites focus on the mind, but the body is equally as important. If you want to look better, feel more comfortable, improve your mood and your self confidence.

Then it is important that you try and stand, sit and move with poise, ease and the least amount of tension as you possibly can, without stiffening or collapsing.

3) The Importance Good Nutrition 

Our bodies need all the required raw minerals and vitamins so it can restore itself and function at its peak performance and optimum best, so you can enjoy good health, skin and well-being.

Dr Linus Pauling. Who has twice won the Nobel Laureate has suggested.

"The root of all diseases is directly related to a lack of minerals".

According to Dr Mark Hyman.

"Good food can upgrade our bodies and bad food can downgrade it".

What all the experts agree on is. We all need good quality essential nutrients to keep us feeling happy, energized, functioning efficiently, healthily and may even help us look younger.

Your mind and body, need and crave the essential nutrients.

If you suffer from a nutrient deficiency, then this can live you feeling fatigued, cause feelings of weakness, affect your mood, and much more.

The best recommended types of good foods are, whole, organic, unprocessed and fresh.

Plants, lean white meat, fiber, eggs, omega 3 fatty acids and good carbohydrates, such as whole grains, nuts, seeds, vegetables, fruits and beans.

Are some of the best sources of nutrients.

Ideally, it is best to get your daily supply of vitamins and minerals from eating a healthy and well-balanced diet.

However, this is not always possible, especially if you live an active lifestyle or you're on a low budget.

Research, suggests, that many people in the Western World don't get the daily requirement of vitamins and minerals, and it is important that you get them both.

That is necessary to promote good health, well-being and vitality.

If you have been experiencing long periods of worry, stress and anxiety, then this can deplete your body of the essential vitamins it needs

Depression and many other emotional related issues, leaky gut, skin problems and digestive issues have been linked to nutrient deficiency.

Probiotics are known to help balance your gut by supplying healthy bacteria and they could help to reduce inflammation in the body.

4) Develop Emotional Intelligence

Understanding your emotions will help you to get to know yourself better, and emotional intelligence is developing the ability to be able to assess and manage your emotions so you can control and quickly change your state at will.

Emotional intelligence is not all about your thoughts, it also involves, becoming aware of all the different types of situations that cause you to react badly or even cause you to hold back, not act and play it safe.

Once you are aware of the thoughts and situations that activate any bad feelings, you can either, feel the emotion and release it, or investigate the beliefs behind your negative feelings and once you've uncovered the limiting beliefs, you can start to change them.

It will also give you and insight into your moods, and it will give you a better understanding of what makes you feel good and what doesn't, and it will allow you to gain control of your moods and your stress.

5) Create Your Ideal Self Image

Your self image is the perception that you have of yourself, like who you are, how you value yourself, your abilities, your character and so on.

Your self image will determine nearly everything about you, and it holds the key to what you do ad become in life.

Including how you feel about yourself, your individual levels of success, who you think you are, your confidence levels, how you react in certain situations, your comfort level and much more.

Basically, it acts as the mental blueprint of your life and self worth and it is a very powerful part of you that can influence many of your actions, decisions and behaviors.

A negative self image can hold you back in life and stop you achieving the things you want to do and achieve.

How many times have you talked yourself out of doing something with the thoughts of
  • That's not me 
  • I am not very good at 
  • I couldn't do that 
  • I am not the type of person 
  • I am not a confident person 
  • It's too difficult for me 
  • I am too shy
If you think your self image of yourself is holding you back then perhaps it's time to create a new positive and capable you.

If you want to be that person who is more charismatic, confident and self assured or you want to be more successful, then you first have to see yourself as the person you want to be.

It is time to start building yourself up, instead of knocking yourself down.

6) Use Positive Language and intentions

The spoken words that you speak and the thoughts that you think, create your beliefs and sow the seeds for who and what you become and the kind of life that you live. Your words create our future, so choose them wisely.

“If you think you can, you can, if you think you, can't you're right!” Abraham Lincoln

We all talk to ourselves, and we all talk to each others, the conversations that you have with you, are more important than the ones that you have with others.

You will talk to yourself more than you talk to anybody else, so be nice and kind to yourself. Speak to yourself, the same as you would advise others you want to empower, build their self esteem and give them encouragement.

If you want to change the way you feel and your life experiences, start to change the conversations you have with yourself. You and your life are a reflection of your inner dialogue and mental chatter.

Negative thoughts and words will disempower you, diminish you and hold you back, and it will create a world of fear and insecurity.

Every time you think and follow a negative thought, you will strengthen the negative neural associations and bad feeling response.

Everytime, you think and focus on a positive or good feeling, thoughts, you will strengthen the good feeling neural associations, emotions and calm and happy physical feelings. 

Pin up positive quotes and affirmations on card around your house or buy a poster, that has positive quotes and sayings as put it up on your walls.

A lot of people allow their negative thinking to beat them, and then worry about worrying and thinking negative.

Constant patterns of negative thinking evoke the momentum of negative emotions, like anger, sadness, loneliness, fear, anxiety, stress, frustration and shame.

We all know that if you want to create the life we want, feel happy and achieve our goals, we need to change our thinking to be more positive as well as changing our emotions. 

But negative thinking and negative emotional patterns, can become hardwired into our brains and system.

To succeed at your goals and to create the life you want, you might benefit from using, proven, techniques to rewire your negative neural associations and pathways so you can break your negative thought processes and emotional patterns and responses.

It is all down to being mindful. The idea of mindfulness is not to attempt to try and stop or control your thoughts, but it is important to make sure, you do not allow your thoughts to control or think you.

So, be positive and have a strong faith, where you expect with confidence, that you will achieve your goals and desires.

The three secrets to success largely depend on
  1. The thoughts you think  
  2. The words you speak
  3. The actions you take

7) Set Your Goals And Never Give Up 

Without goals we stand still, and achieve very little, we don't move forward and when we don't move forward, you get bored and stagnate. 

Goals give your life meaning and a purpose. They give you something positive to focus on and they prevent you from getting bored.

The general rule of thumb is to try to escape the mindset of wanting instant success and instant results.

With most goals. The best approach, is to focus on a long term strategy of continuous growth and betterment.

The basic principles of success are gained through supplying value, giving people want they want and striving for excellence as well, aiming to be the very best at what you're doing.

Sometimes thinking outside the box and being a bit different to the norm, can give you a distinct advantage over the rest.

Although it can pay, to follow a plan, idea or strategy that is already proven and already works, an alternative approach can also stand you out from the crowd.

A good approach might be. To take a proven strategy and plan, and make it better or make it different.

Learning how to stay focused, learning from your mistakes and getting better from your setbacks, will also help.

As will, thinking smarter and trying to out think your competitors. Spending some time seeing things from your customers' perspectives, problems, needs and wants is also a good strategy to follow.

Persistence and desire to be prepared to do whatever it takes, no matter what obstacles get in your way, with the attitude of, you will break through all challenges to reach your goal.

Will install within you a winning and unstoppable mentality, that will one day, bring you the results you want.  

Whether it Is your desire to live the best life possible, to be more successful, to be at your peak, physical best or whatever else you want to have, achieve or become. 

Having a goal, benefit and positive reason for why you want to do it, become it or better you and your life. 

Will be and act as the foundation of your motivation and it will set the blueprint for your future success and happiness.

Because, when you have a positive reason and a desired outcome or result to aim for. 

It will fuel you full of positive inspiration, that will inspire you to take action that ineeded, so you can be at your peak performance and optimum, efficient, functional best.

8) Face Adversity And Come Through It

Life can seem tough at times, and we all have to face our fare share of problems, upsets, disappointments and setbacks.

When adversity strikes, it is not always advisable to try and override it straight away with positive thoughts or to try and force yourself to feel good.

We need time to acknowledge and process the emotion and take on board the adversity or bad thing that has or might happen to us, don't try and bury your feelings, allow them and the moment to happen.

But equally, you don't want to remain down for too long or fall into a negative downhill spiral. When things go wrong for you or you're not getting the results that you expect for your hard work and effort.

It is OK to feel down, upset, annoyed, frustrated or disappointed.

The first thing to do is, accept what is or your current situation, and just allow it to happen, just weather the storm, feel or express the emotion and let it fade away by itself.

Once you have processed the feelings and you have accepted the situation. Then it is time, to release it and set yourself some new positive intentions and make some new choices.

First, create a new light of hope and then turn that hope into optimism and positive expectation. 

Let you know, that things will turn good, you'll figure it out, you'll come back better and stronger, and everything will work out for you.

In times of adversity. Keep repeating the quote below by Louise L Hay

“All is well. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation only good will come. I am safe." 

9) Learn How To Sit Comfortably

These days more and more people are living sedentary lives and sitting down a lot. Sitting, especially, sitting uncomfortably, is being described as the new health hazard.

If you're sitting down for long periods of time, then it is not doing you any good and sitting down to much is very unhealthy.

When you sit down, within minutes, your calorie burning rate starts to slow down. 

After you have been, sitting down for a while, your blood flow decreases, and your heart has to work harder to pump the blood around your body.

Prolonged sitting every day, can cause weight gain and it can cause your muscles will start to weaken.

When you're sitting wrong, it can cause your internal organs to be compressed, which can restrict your breathing and play havoc with your digestive system. 

Sitting down for long periods in the a bad posture or the wrong decision is one of the main causes as of back pain.

Physical movement and regular activity, helps to promote the release of the feel good hormones.

When you do sit down, it is important that you sit correctly, as shown in the video below.

10) Learn More Skills

The more skills you can learn and the more knowledge that you can amass the higher your chances are at achieving more success in all area's of your life. Skills mean more success, more wealth and a better life experience.  

Learning more skills will present you with better career and business opportunities, but learning new skills, it's not just all about creating more wealth and getting promoted at work. 

We can also benefit tremendously by improving our social skills, our life skills and our relationship skills. 

Life in general is a skill, how successful you become, who you become and what you achieve is a skill and you have the ability and with the right mindset and will to learn you have the capability to become more skillful at anything you desire.

11) Be Creative 

You have unlimited amounts of creativity and hidden genius locked inside of you, but to unlock your true inner genius and creativity.

You have to shift out of the negative states of fear, worry, stress and doubt and enter into the here and zone which is known as being in the zone in a flow like relaxed but alert state of mind and body. 

Every time you think negative thoughts you shift more over into your negative files and you enter into what is known as your protective mind. 

In this fear ingrained mindset your awareness and focus will narrow into survival mode and your creativity will begin to shrink as your mind and senses search for non existent threats and more things to worry about.

When you release your worries by getting out of the way and leaving your mind alone so it can calm down all by itself.

Then you will enter the flow like state and your creativity will begin to flow naturally and effortlessly just as it was designed to.

12) Make The Most Of Your Time

Your time is very valuable and precious to you, so make the most of it, the old saying " Your life is what you make it". We all could make more productive use of our time. 

Although we need ample amounts of rest and relaxation, it is also important to keep your mind and yourself active and alive. 

It is also important to realize that what you give your attention to, you will get more of it, because what we focus on expands, this includes your happiness, how good or bad you feel and how successful you become, so it's really important.

Learn to simplify your life, because you have only so much time in your day so you need to prioritize what is important and what is not and what can wait. 

This may mean cutting back on your commitments, even letting people down and having a bit more me time.

As there are only so many hours in a day. If you want to get more done, you either have to learn how to be more efficient and work at your maximum peak performance rate.

Avoid trying to get too much dome to soon, if you have a big goal, focus on one step at a time instead of looking at the bigger picture to avoid overwhelming yourself.

The secret is to work smarter and not harder or trying to forcefully go faster. 

You can get more done and you will do it much better when you stop hurrying and you learn to stay calm as well as trying to enjoy what you're doing.

This way you will be surprised how much more you can get more done in the same amount of time.

13) Listen, Learn And Grow

You should never stop learning. No matter how much you know already, there is always an opportunity to learn more information and better your life skills, your work, hobby and goal related skills. 

Science is constantly discovering more, technology is forever advancing, as a human race we are figuring out more about the world and finding better or new ways of doing things, so don't get left behind.

The same applies to personal growth and development, and learning more about you and how to better your life will keep you feeling alive, energized and motivated. 

We all need something worthwhile to motivate us to get out of bed in the mornings and give our lives meaning and purpose.
Spend a little time each and every day reading, studying and learning something new that is going to help you.   
Focus on your own personal growth and self discovery journey. 

Aim to improve yourself in every way possible and learn how to access and release your true hidden talents and capabilities.

Be ready, prepared and fully committed to achieve your dreams and better you and your life experience. 

Invest some time in improving and advancing your various skill levels, whether that is related to your work, career advancements, problem solving, your communication skills or pursuing your goals and hobbies.  
If there is something that you have been wanting to learn or do for a very long time, just do it, go for it and seize that opportunity and don't look back.

The worse thing you can do, is look back with regret, because you allowed procrastination or self sabotage to prevent you from following your dreams.  

Procrastination and excuses will hold you back and keep you small and stuck.

You can save so much time, hardship and you can learn so much just by studying others and following these steps and principals.

  • Listen 
  • Learn 
  • Apply what you've learned 
  • Do and practice

14) Be Kind And Considerate To Others 

Be kind and considerate to others and yourself, sometimes when we argue we only see things from our point of view and we give very little attention to the other side of a disagreement.

Our egos can wreck relationships and friendships. Do not pursue your own interests or satisfy your own ego at the expense of others. 

Although we perceive ourselves as individuals we are all as one, treat others with respect and you will have more chance of them returning it back,

It is everybody's  duty to forget about their ego and pride every now and again and not deliberately go out of your way to treat others bad or cause them any harm. 

We all have feelings and we all deserve to be treated well, also try not to judge or prejudge others and if you can avoid focusing on their bad points and the negative side of people unless it is truly justified otherwise they might just keep on showing that side of their personality to you.

15) Unlock Your True Potential

Life can be tough at times and it is all too easy to fall into a rut. But you are far tougher and more resilient.

It is not about, what life throws at you, but how you learn to react to your challenges, failures and setbacks.

Hidden within you, you have more talent, potential, creativity and power than you might have thought.

Each time you get knocked down or you have a setback. Always vow to come back, stronger, better, wiser and more powerful.

To unlock your true potential, learn how to relax and get in the flow.  

Believe in yourself, focus on what you want and keep taking inspired action until you get to your desired destination.

Study, read and learn new skills and tap into your inner creativity, power and genius.

16) Change A Negative Mood

We all endure challenging times, we all have low moods, if you're feeling in a negative mood, except how you feel and express and acknowledge your emotions but never put up with a negative mood for long.     

Many people think that they have no influence on their moods and their mood just happen, so they just accept them or they wait for their mood to lift by itself.

But with a bit of practice you have the ability to change and influence your mood and when you know how to improve your mood, it will have a positive impact on your well-being, your quality of life and even your health.

There are many things that you can do to influence and change your mood, such as changing your thoughts and perceptions.

Another way to change your mood, especially if you're feeling bored or disinterested is to do something different, like going for a walk, listening to some upbeat music.

If you feel upset or negative, focus on or plan for a better future or imagine yourself relaxing in an exotic location and focus on how calm and good you feel or think back to a time when you felt really happy.

Laughing is a great mood booster and so is smiling for a few minutes every hour or so, or you could name five things that you are grateful for. 

Exercising is a good mood enhancer and eating a good, varied, well balanced healthy diet will keep you lean and functioning effeciently. 

As they say, "Yesterdays food is today's mood"

Sometimes food intolerances can leave us feeling low and lethargic.

If you're having a real bad time, have a good cry and then tell yourself your going to put up with this mood, for lets say two days and then you're going to feel better. 

Find a way of relaxing deeply, stay in the now ad choose to be happy and make sure you do not become dehydrated. (Do not drink excessive amounts of water in a short period of time.)

17) Dissapointments

In an era where we are being told to be grateful, many people end up trying to suppress their emotions.

First of all, it's good to be grateful and thankful as much as you can.

But, it is OK to feel a bit disappointed when life knocks you back, and you have every right to feel upset and disappointed at times.

Especially, when things aren't going as well as you would like, or if you have put in a lot of effort in your goals or a task, and you have not got the results that you want or expect.

So, if you feel frustrated or disappointed, express the emotion, stay with it and allow yourself to feel and experience the feelings, of disappointment.

But, make sure you don't stay with it for too long. 

Because after you have expressed and processed the emotions, accept your situation and either stop caring so much, or work on trying to do things better, or focus on coming back stronger.

18) Raise Your Energy Vibration 

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.”

Albert Einstein

There are many good reasons why you should raise your vibration.

You will be 
  • More focused, 
  • More intelligent 
  • More creative 
  • You will function better 
  • Your memory will be better
  • You will perform better 
  • You will attract new opportunities 
  • It will help you resolve or solve problems 
  • Things will go better 
  • People and life will treat you better 
  • You will experience better health 
  • You will have better relationships
  • You will feel better
Your true power lies within getting the most out of your higher faculties. This is the nonphysical side of you where you can access your creativity, inner guidance and intellect. 

As well as looking at, designing and creating your future before it exists. Your five major faculties are
  • Will 
  • Memory 
  • Imagination 
  • Intuition 
  • Perception
To tap into your true non physical powers and potential. You need to raise your vibration so you hold yourself in that flow like, in the zone state.

The universe, including ourselves, is a mass of frequencies and information. We all have a range of emotions, (Vibrations) that function at different frequency levels.

You have low levels of vibrations, otherwise known as negative energy, such as fear, sadness and frustration. In this frequency range, are all the things that are not wanted.

Then you have, the higher levels of vibrational frequencies. Where all the good stuff can be accessed such as love, happiness and inner peace. 

These are the vibrational frequencies where all the good  things that you want, can be accessed. 

As they say.

"To change your world on the outside, you have to change your world on the inside".

Our focus of attention or how we react to outside events and situations can change our frequency ranges. 

The thoughts we think and the feelings we experience, dictates the results we get and the way we behave and perform. 

To start getting the life and results that you want, your thoughts and vibration, have to be a match to what your desired outcome is. 

One way to end negative resistance, is to sometimes, accept and embrace what you don't want, with a couldn't care less attitude.

But it is not just your thoughts that affect how you feel. 

Your body's basic needs, like, relaxation, good quality sleep, a relaxed and balanced posture, good nutrition and keeping active, can all make you feel better.

All you have to do is, allow that free flowing all powerful and all creating energy flow through you. This is when all the plans, opportunities, circumstances and idea's are created and born.

You then need the will and inspired inspiration, to take you the rest of the way. This is what as known as, the flow state, and the flow state will start to take you to where you really want to be.

19) Take It Easy

So much of our stress and tension is because we are trying to pack too much into our day and these days, unlike our ancestors, most people live their life at a hundred miles per hour.  

Trying to rush, setting unrealistic deadlines or thinking and planning too far ahead all contribute to more stress and tension. Sometimes we need to breathe deeply and deliberately slow ourselves down a touch.  

You have to learn to take it easy, if you have a goal or task to complete take one step at a time and try to enjoy it.

If you think too far ahead and you focus on too many things in one go or you think about all the things you need to get done, it will begin to emotionally overwhelm you.

Avoid buying into the belief that you have to rush to meet work deadlines or personal jobs you need to do. 

You will get more done and you will do it better if you stay calm and you don't try to deliberately hurry, work smarter, not faster, and cut back on your to do list or allow yourself more time.  

20) Stop Trying So Hard

One of the most common mistakes people make, when they aren't getting the life, things or results that they want are. They convince themselves that they need to try even harder.

Trying hard is an inner result reflection of how you're thinking and feeling, and it is a strong indication, that you're focusing, on what is not wanted, instead of focusing what you do want.

This can lead you to thoughts of self doubt and trick you into believing that you have to struggle and try even harder and harder to be successful or achieve your goal or objective.

But as a general rule of life. The harder you try. The more the things that you want, seem to carry on eluding you.

You cannot force things to happen, you have to just, trust in your own abilities and trust in life, as the old saying goes. "What you resist, will persist"

Your life and the results that you're getting, are an inner reflection of how your thinking and feeling.

And your mindset is a result of your emotional state which is often determined by what is, and how you have been responding to, and perceiving your external circumstances.

You will perform at your peak performance best, and you will obtain your desires, when you're feeling a sense of inner calm and balance.

And when you get out of the way, and you allow things and life to happen naturally and intuitively.

Because when you consciously intervene and try to hard, or you try to control things, instead of going with the flow, you will lose your natural ability to be at your efficient best.

Therefore, instead of allowing things to happen naturally and intuitively, easily and effortlessly.   

You will switch over from your natural state of allowing and free flowing energy, thus disrupt your natural thought processes and smooth bodily movements and feelings. 

That, are already in place, for you to effortlessly perform and to be at optimum and maximum peak performance best.

Trying too hard, will also lead to feelings of desperation, frustration and fear. 

Which will result in more struggle, emotional stress and tension and it will shift you into a victim mindset of not happening or not going to happen.

Self doubt, equates to, thoughts and feelings of failure, and it's not going to happen, or, I am not good enough. 

Feelings of desperation, thoughts of things going wrong and focusing on what you don't want or what you don't have, can prevent you from having, all the things that you desire and crave for.

Learn to let go, trust in the process of life and things will work out fine and try to enjoy what you're doing a little more and let life flow effortlessly and allow things to happen naturally.

Getting into the habit, of expecting without doubt and a sense of knowing with certainty, that everything will work out for you, exactly as you want it to.

21) Become A Morning Person

Become a morning person, if you listen to many people they will often say that they are not a morning person or they always feel moody, first thing in the morning. 

The thing to be aware of is, if you keep repeating these kinds of statements, then you will continue to start the day off feeling negative.

Each new morning is a brand new day and a chance to wipe the slate clean.

On awakening, you have two choices, you can either seize the day or you can carry all your negative emotional baggage with you into the new day.

As you wake up you will have a brief window of opportunity to set your emotional benchmark for the coming day ahead.

This is the time to grab the chance to feel good, and when you can break up the old patterns of negative thinking and take control of your thoughts, perceptions and emotions, rather than allowing your circumstances, thoughts and emotions will control you.

Because, the more you focus on the negative, the more negative stuff you will experience and the harder you will find it to be at your peak performance best.

Anytime that you're feeling negative, ask yourself why you feel low or why are you in a bad mood, evaluate your life and where you are right now with your goal, and take things from them.

As you go to bed, create an unwinding down procedure, mediate or use hypnosis because this will relax you and you will also sleep better and wake up feeling more relaxed and energized. 

Even spending a few minutes of gratitude and appreciation as you fall asleep, then as soon as you wake up. 

Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself ten times, that you like you and you are good enough.

22) Use Your Imagination Wisely

Have you heard the saying "you're only limited by your imagination". 

Your imagination is a very powerful tool capable of creating great things, but when it used in self defeating ways, your imagination can scare you to death, run you ragged and drive you crazy.

Our body responds to the reality depicted by our imagination. The trouble is, most people spend most of their time imagining things that they don't want, instead of imagining and visualizing what they do want.

Worrying is, imagining what you don't want or the worse case scenario. Anxiety is imagining things going wrong or imagining the things that you dread or dislike happening.

Anger is often, when you are visualizing, what you really want to say or do to somebody or what somebody had done to upset you.

Sadness and depression, is where you imagine scenarios of loss or hopelessness. Frustration and desperation, are when you are imagining or you have the mindset of not having or not happening.

All these negative imagining spilt your energy and cause a negative resistance, and energy block, preventing you experience the free flowing energy, that creates all the things you want.

You can, however, imagine and visualize thing going well or visualize what you want, and when you do, notice how much better you feel.

23) Only Deal With Things When Your Feeling Relaxed

If you want to perform better, improve your creativity, solve a problem, find an answer or tap into your true potential.

Then you need to learn how to relax first, because being calm is the key to all successes, discoveries and creativity.

Everything becomes easier when you're calm and balanced, 

  • Your performance levels will increase, 
  • You will function better, 
  • Your reaction times quicken 
  • Your intelligence will increase 
  • You will sleep better, 
  • You will be more confident  
  • Things will generally work out better for you.

When you're stressed and anxious life becomes harder and you will struggle to perform well, but when you slow down and you learn to relax.

Then the answers to your problems will come to you or you will find your problems just melt away into insignificance because a problem can not stay active without the fuel of negative energy.

24) Take Time To Meditate

You have probably already aware of how meditation can help you to reduce your stress and anxiety. But there are also many more positive health and emotional benefits you can gain from meditating.

Meditation helps you to calm your body and mind and restore you back to your natural and most productive and efficient state of inner calm and balance.

Meditation also helps you to become more focused, creative and intelligent. And in that deeply relaxed state, you will have access to the information and answers to your problems and challenges.

These days far too many people are suffering from too much stress and worry. Eventually, many people get stuck in a stressful and fearful state. 

To some people, stress becomes their normal state of existing, but it is far from normal and potentially very bad for your health, your well-being and your life.

Meditating for just ten to twenty minutes a day. Will help to restore your energy levels, calm your worried mind and leave you feeling calm and balanced.

25) Find Your Purpose In Life 

Everybody needs a purpose in life, as young adults our purpose can be to bring up a family and buy and design your home. 

But, after a while, especially as our children grow up we need more otherwise you can run the risk of going though the motions and your life can become stagnant.

This is when you may benefit greatly by finding your life's purpose, of course you don't have to wait until you're a bit older to follow your passion and discover your life's purpose. 

It does not matter what age you are, always have a purpose in life because it will give your life new meaning.

Having a purpose will motivate, inspire and energize you, it will stop you feeling bored and it can also reward you financially. 

It can pay you to find or do things you love, you enjoy or you good at, it certainly is not what others have told you what to do.  

Your life purpose could be anything, it should be something that makes you feel good, things you are passionate about, it should also be something that challenges you and keeps you growing

Numerology can help you to discover your true life's purpose.

Doing something that helps others or contributes something good in the world is always rewarding, follow your intuition and do whatever makes you feel stimulated, inspired and alive, helping others or adding value to others or the world is always a winner.

26) Calm Your Worrying Mind

Everybody worries, and worrying can become a habit and some people even worry about worrying, which can cause endless frustration and stress.

But worry is bad for us, it can cause us to lose our appetite and zest for life, it can disrupt our sleep and make us feel tired and stressed, not to mention the damage it can do to our health and well-being.

Worry happens when the mind gets stuck in a vicious cycle and it is fueled by strong emotions. 

Many people can't stop worrying, they may try to distract themselves from the worrying thoughts, but they soon find that they cannot run away from their anxious mind and it is not long before they start worrying again.

One of the reasons why they cannot stop worrying is because they try to hide to try and not to worry and they get frustrated with themselves because as hard as they try they cannot stop worrying.

The secret to stop worrying is to quieten your mind, but you cannot quieten your mind if you try to stop worrying, it just creates a vicious circle. 

The more you try not to think those worry thoughts the more worry thoughts you will create.

It can seem difficult to quieten a racing mind, as the mind seems to never stop thinking, but quieten it you must if you want some relief and inner peace.

So how do you calm your worrying mind?

The first step it, don't try to stop worrying, because trying to stop worrying stirs up the strong emotions that drive your worrying thought patterns.

Practice leaving alone your worrying mind alone and give up trying to stop the worry thoughts.

All you have to do is, just detach yourself from the worry thoughts and you let your mind carry on thinking them, without you opposing or resisting them.

Because if you allow your mind to carry on thinking the worry thoughts, then it will quieten and still itself, just like a pool quietens itself after you throw in a pebble.

27) Why Constructive Critism Is Not Always A Bad Thing

No one likes to be criticized, most people don't even like being advised, and although you should not have to put up with constant harsh criticism or insults, often, those who criticize are doing it because they are insecure about themselves. 

However, not all criticism is a bad thing, and sometimes a bit of friendly, constructive criticism or friendly advice can be a good thing.

The universe is always trying to help us and give us subtle clues and hints on what we need to do, this universal guidance can come in the form of our thoughts and intuition, but make sure you can tell the difference between your intuition and your ego. 

But sometimes, help will come through other people's comments, advice or suggestion. 

Because, sometimes other people can see things and notice things about where we're going wrong when it is not always so obvious to ourselves. 

So as long as it is not unwelcome advice or harsh and uncalled for criticism, don't always dismiss it or be too offended. 

Take it on board and see if you can learn something from it, because there are times when our critics can also be our best mentors, so use the criticism to motivate and inspire you to be and do better.

If people are being intentionally nasty or hurtful. 

Always remember, that people's negative suggestion, harsh judgements, critical words, hurtful remarks or spiteful comments, are not true and they cannot hurt you, until you decide to believe them or you let them in.

The real problem begins when you start to buy into them and accept them as being true, or you choose to react badly to them, the same rule applies, to your own critical voice.

Imagine you have a protective bubble around you which is protecting you, so no matter what anybody says they cannot penetrate your bubble so nobody can upset or hurt you ever again.

28) Listen To Your Body

Learn to listen to your body because when you experience pain, discomfort both physical and emotional it is your subconscious mind trying to tell you that there is something that needs addressing so try and uncover the root source of your problems and then address them.

When you're thinking about what you don't want your emotions will let you know that you need to change your perceptions or your focus of attention, when you're reliving negative or sad memories your emotions will remind you of how bad you felt at the time so give your attention to something more pleasant.  

When you're tired or exhausted, it means you need to rest and many skin conditions can be a result of a reaction to certain food's whilst stress is responsible for a large amount of illnesses.

29) We Think Too Much 

Although positive, creative and constructive thinking can be helpful and essential for us at times to create, problem solve, become more successful and design, most adults tend to over think things too much.

If your thoughts are general or neutral, then that's fine, but if they are causing you emotional pain, worry or anxiety and keeping you stuck in a negative place in your mind, then it's time to let those thoughts go and pick a better feeling subject or train of thoughts.

Humans spend too much time hooked up into negative and self destructive thinking, when really they should get out of their head and observe and enjoy more, whilst they engage in their surroundings, or focusing on what they are doing.

If you observe animals or young children then you will notice that they don't worry, they just focus on enjoying and observing.

If your thoughts are making you feel bad, then ignore them and ditch them, or change the subject.

30) Enjoy Your Personal Growth Journey 

We are all work in progress, no matter what you're attempting to be, do or become the secret to success is repetition, steady progressive continual improvements. 

When people have been on a self development journey for a while they forget how far they have come and how they used to be. Your journey should be made as enjoyable as possible.

Every successful person or high achiever had to start off at the bottom and work their way up to great success, you don't start off at the top, it's all about taking small steps. 

But you won't reach the top or achieve your dreams and ambitions if you don't take the first step.

Most people don't change until they are forced to change, but you don't have to wait to reach a point of desperation before you decide to make your life better.

31) Do The Things You Enjoy

You're here to enjoy yourself and not just please and conform to other people's idea's and ways of living their life. There is nothing more important to you than to feel good so you should make it your number one goal. 

Many self help experts suggest if you're not doing something to improve yourself, then it's not worth doing some even recommend avoiding doing activities like watching TV. 

Although it is good practice to keep on growing, learning and striving to be the very best version of yourself, you should also do the things that you enjoy and if you like watching TV then watch it. 

Be a bit selfish and put yourself first from time to time, if you like staying in, stay in if you like going out then go out more often.

Your goal should be doing the things you like and enjoy doing, things that give you joy and not do what others think is the right thing for you. 

So if doing things that is deemed boring to others, but it makes you happy then that it is improving your life and well-being.

In fact, you need very little to be happy, most people want things to make them happy, but happiness is nothing more than a state of being and it is free and does not cost anything accept a conscious effort by you to forget your negative past, be optimistic about your future and be happy and live in the present moment. 

32) Avoid Procrastination 

We all have chores, goals and tasks we need to do, if it is something that you feel passionate and excited about then it will be easy to motivate yourself to do the action part.  

But it is not so easy to get out of bed at the weekend to do the mundane chores and tasks that sometimes need to do such as house and garden maintenance or pursuing your goals when you feel tired. 

To avoid procrastination write a to do list or make one in your head, to avoid overwhelm priorities in order of preference and importance. 

You do not have to do your tasks every weekend, just make a plan and timeline of when you intend to do each job, this will help to get you motivated when the time comes. 

When you have to get started on something, be decisive, try not to spend too much time thinking about, just do it otherwise you will talk yourself out of it or you will come up with all the reasons why you don't want to do it.

33) Praise Yourself And Focus On All The Good You Do

What keeps most people stuck and negative is when they assume that there must be something wrong with them or somehow they are not good enough or smart enough.

But if you exist, then this means your equal to everybody else, you're good enough and you have limitless potential because creation makes everybody equal at source.

So it's time to forget about what has gone, what is going wrong or what could go wrong and focus all your attention on all the good about you and what can and will be. 

Get into the habit of spotting and focusing all the good things you do and all the great things you can achieve if you focus your mind with positive energy. 

Praise yourself up for everything you do well no matter how small, congratulate yourself and write down in a journal any progress or successes you have and you will be rewarded with positive feelings and appreciation for your true inner self and source.

34) Accept Yourself

Although it is good to strive to be the best version of yourself, and develop new skills and unleash your true potential.

The word self improvement, is often a bad choice of words, as it suggests that there is something wrong with, or somehow you're not good enough as you are, which is an outright lie.

So still want to do and be better, but always accept yourself for whom you are.

Because there is nothing at all wrong with you. 

You may have some negative beliefs and traits that you hold about yourself and your abilities. But, all the negative and limiting beliefs you have about you.

Are not yours, they don't belong to you, and they were bad suggestions and idea's, that you inherited from others.

Because, you are equal to others, just as capable, and just as good as everybody else.

So, let you know, that unconditionally, you love, accept and approve of yourself.

35) Start Applying Your New Knowledge 

Knowledge can be powerful but it is only powerful if you apply it to your life to make your life better. These days there are a lot of helpful information and advice available at the push of a button.

You should always carry on learning until you take your final breaths, but information and knowledge won't change or improve your life unless you start applying that information to your daily life. 

Because the application is what makes everything happens and gets thoughts into motion, because without application and the groundwork, change cannot happen and you will not get the life and the results that you're seeking. 

Information and knowledge helps us to learn new facts and help us to start to understand things, it can inspire us and activate positive inspiration and motivation which can bring to us new idea's and possibilities.

But if you want positive changes and you want to become more successful then you need to apply your newly discovered knowledge into action because all the high achievers turn idea's, opportunities and information into action and activity.

You should always carry on learning until you take your final breaths, but information and knowledge won't change or improve your life unless you start applying that information to your daily life.

Because the application is what makes everything happens and gets thoughts into motion, because without application and the groundwork, change cannot happen and you will not get the life and results that you're seeking.

Information and knowledge helps us to learn new facts and help us to start to understand things, it can inspire us and activate positive inspiration and motivation which can bring to us new idea's and opportunities.

36) Aim To Get Better

Most people fall into the trap of allowing their past mistakes, embarrassments and failures to cause them to fear a similar thing happening to them again.

This pattern of thinking and behaviour, will affect you and your ability to perform at your peak best and it will block off your true potential and capabilities, by conditioning your brain to learn to fear or want to avoid a repeat performance.

Instead of allowing your past to impact and negatively influence you, stop focusing on the negative or your shortcomings and failures, and only focus on ways on how you can improve or perform better.

Learn and study as well as striving to be the best version of yourself. Analyze your mistakes, and try to learn something that will make you better.

You have not got to spend all your time positive thinking, just ignore the negative and try to use constructive thinking.

Read more, learn more skills, work on your health and fitness and use the power of your mind to self educate and improve your talents and your creative capabilities, instead of training your mind to self sabotage and self doubt yourself

If you want more energy, if you want to keep focused, if you want to face and overcome any challenges so you get better results, 

Because, if you want to perform at your best, if you want to become more productive, experience less stress and be more efficient then you may need to get a bit more sleep. 

It is recommended by many scientific studies that on average to be our very best we need between seven to eight hours sleep per night and although it may not always be possible it is something you should try to aim for. 

If you're surviving on not enough sleep, then your cognitive abilities, your functional abilities and your ability to deal with stressful challenges will reduce and take a dip.

38) Keep Asking Yourself Empowering Questions 

The way to come up with a solution to a particular problem that you may have or if you're trying to work your way through a challenge is to ask yourself empowering questions.

Because every time you ask your mind a question and this applies to both negative and positive questions your mind has to search for and come up with an answer or solution. 

So if you need to solve a problem, lets say you want to lose weight ask yourself, then how can I type of question, but avoid using negative questions, like why am I overweight and instead said to yourself something like. 

How can I lose weight and become fit and healthy or let's say you want to have more money, again, don't focus on why you're skint or broke questions. 

Ask yourself what's the best way for me to make more money.

Although, asking the how questions can help solve a problem, for goal success ask yourself or to get the things in life that you want. 

Ask the why question, starting with.

"What can I do to......"

39) Tame The Voices Inside Of Your Head

We all have conversations with the chatterbox that lives in our heads and there seems to be a different inner voice and a different story to match the different emotional states we go in and out. 

Your inner critical voice and mental chatterbox are always busy telling you all the things that are wrong with your life or all the things you should or should not do or all the fears and dangers you should be aware of.

That inner voice can really drag you down and frustrate you at times and at times it never seems to shut up, sometimes the thoughts that enter our mind are abhorrent and they do not comply with our true charcator, some people define them as their demons. 

What you need to be aware of is, these horrible or critical thoughts in your mind, are not you and they are not true, therefore

  • You do not have to take any notice of them 
  • You do not have to accept them  
  • You do not have to believe or trust them 
  • You do not have to follow them or run with them

Our mind uses our past experiences and beliefs to try and make sense of your now and gauge how you think, feel and behave. Often, keeping you stuck in the confinements of your comfort zone.

But your mind cannot predict the future, yet it can give you so much grief trying, it can even make stuff up to try and attempt to guess and fill in the blanks, in times of uncertainty

Often the inner catastrophe that your mind predicts never happens, or if it does, it is never as bad as you thought. Yet the feelings you experience, are very real.

Sometimes you just have to either override your mind or tell it to shut the heck up, just as you would, if somebody else was annoying you or, they were being difficult. 

So give your inner critical and negative mind, the contempt it sometimes deserves.

Be mindful, when you might, starts to wander into thinking negative, and ignore the negative and think about something that makes you feel better. Positive self talk is a must. 

Get into the habit of taking no notice of your negative mind, dismiss the garbage and avoid reacting to that inner you. 

Because the best way to calm a negative mind, is to do nothing and just leave your mind alone to carry on thinking the trash, it will soon quieten down all be itself.

It is only when you react badly to your mind, engage with it or take it seriously, that you will have trouble.

40) Pirotitise Your Tasks

We all have chores and goals we want or have to do, but the more our tasks pile on top of us and the more we think about how much we have got to get done it can all start to feel a bit stressful and a bit overwhelming.

The key is to write a things to do list, and jot down in order of importance, all the things you want or need to get get done. List them in order of importance and priority.  

Then only focus and only work on one thing at a time or one step of your goal at a time, otherwise if you look to far ahead then it all gets a little bit daunting and overwhelming.

41) Experience A Bit Of Solitude

Although we are social creatures sometimes we could all do with a bit of solitude to grow, rest and to better ourselves. 

Having some me time and finding somewhere quiet and peaceful to retreat where there are no distractions and where you can either ground yourself with nature or connect deeply with yourself and your inner being can be an enlightening and relaxing experience which you can benefit greatly from.

Some individuals find it hard to switch off from their outer reality and everyday focus of attention so it might take a bit of practice. 

But a bit of peaceful solitude will help to reduce anxiety and your stress will melt away, plus it will help tap into your creativity and help you grow both spiritually and mentally. 

It's all about tuning out of your everyday stresses and tuning into who you really are at source, it's about having a bit of time to be yourself and recharging your batteries and becoming balanced and at peace. 

You can take a walk in nature or spend time in the country or you can just find somewhere peaceful to relax for a while. 

Because you have to grow and build from within and strength, happiness, peace of mind and confidence all come from within.

42) You Are Responsible For Your Own Life 

You are responsible for your own life, your future, how you feel and to a large degree your own health, everything we do is a choice so choose wisely and healthily. 

In each and every one of us has a happy you, an angry you, a sad you, an anxious you a stressful you are and a successful you, so with that in mind choose to be the you that you want to be.

43) Ask For Help

Do not feel to proud or embarrassed to ask for or seek out help when you need it because there is always help available. 

This can be asking someone for help and guidance, it could involve searching online

But what you need to be aware of is, you're never alone and the universe is always there to help and guide you, yet most people are not even aware of the universal intelligent mind and network of information.

When you pose a question to yourself then your mind has to come back with an answer and your all powerful subconscious mind which is connected and has access to the unified intelligent mind.

So if you have a worry, a solution to find or problem to overcome.

Keep asking yourself searching questions starting with the why's, what or how's to your problems, goals and challenges.

Typical types of examples could be, why do I feel sad, anxious, angry etc, what is the best way to and so on.

Try to stay out of your head, practice putting all your focus on external things instead of focusing on yourself.

44) Love Is All That You Need

The first step to becoming a better you, should start, with learning to love yourself unconditionally and loving yourself for who you are and learning to love life. Because love is the building blocks of the universe.

Love is the most powerfullest of all emotions. Some people think fear protects you, but love is more powerful than fear, and it is love that protects you the most.

Fear attracts all the wrong things into your life and all the things that are not wanted. As, love attracts all that is good and all that is wanted.

Negative thoughts, things and negative feelings cannot exist in the frequency of love.

When you find, faults with you or you feel discontentment for yourself, you leave yourself open to more negativity and problems.

When we lose the love of ourselves and our life, we disconnect with who we really are at the source and we slam the door closed, on what we can be, have or achieve.

When you're facing a lot of challenges in your life, when you feel broken, stuck or you feel unloved and helpless.

Always, remember, that there is a higher part of you that loves you. In life, you cannot always depend on the love of others.

But whether you like to call the higher you. God, your higher self, your inner being or source. 

That bigger part of you, will always love you, always wants what's best for you and it is always there to help and guide you, through the difficult times.

When you start to truly love yourself and you find time to love all the good things that you have. 

Then you will begin to find inner peace and unlock all the inner potential that lies within, and a powerful sense of being, will awaken from within you.

Which will give you access to your true creative powers and unlock the unlimitless potential, opening the door, to a much better you and better ways of existing and living. 

When you let go of all negative resistance, and you let in more love. You will release all negative feelings and you will be able to let go of your limiting beliefs that restrict you and keep you stuck.

It will also reconnect you to, all the wonderful possibilities that are available to you.

45) It's Your Opinion Of Yourself That Really Matters

The criticism and negative suggestions from others about you and how well you have been treated can have a damaging impact on your self image, your self esteem and your self worth.

If you buy into the beliefs and comments made towards you by others, then this can cause you to have low opinions about yourself and it can cause negative self talk.

But remember it's your own opinion of yourself that really matters  so as long as you start to like yourself and you develop a strong and positive opinion and high regard for yourself then no one else can hurt you or keep you small. 

The single biggest thing in your life that will raise your self esteem and self worth is to master your self talk because your inner self talk is the route to greater confidence, a better and more successful life and a greater you.

When things aren't going to plan, that old self defeating inner voice can start to tell us stories of failure or we're not good enough.

But remember that negative inner voice is not you, it does not belong to you, so start to override it and define yourself as a success and a worthwhile person.

46) The Importance Of Making Decisions

Before you can begin to change your life and your circumstances for the better. There is one important thing that you need to start doing, and that is. Make a positive and definite, decision.

Because it is decisions that change lives and situations and it is indecisiveness, that keeps people small and stuck. 

The moment you make a concrete decision. Your non physical side of you, sets the wheels in motion, for that decision, to become a reality. 

Your mind has to create the image of what you want or your vision, before it becomes a physical reality, so your mind, is the architect, of what's to follow. 

This is where all your true creative powers and problem solving abilities exist.

Whether you want to be more successful, make more money, advance your career, lose weight, overcome a problem, build a better body, stop a bad habit or learn a new skill. 

Things cannot change, until you make a firm decision and commitment that you're going to do, become or have what you want.

You can achieve anything you want or you can have a whole lot of things that you might have thought were out of your reach or beyond your capability, once you know how. 

But before you learn the how, you have to make a decision. Once you have made that all important decision or intention, that you're going to have, be or get what you want, without any doubt.  

To the expectation that it is a done deal and an ironclad certainty. Then, you will have taken that first all important step in achieving or having it.

So, if you would like to start living the way and life you want to live. Be more decisive. 

It does matter if you don't know how you're going to get what you, want, just take the first step and decide, the rest will fall into place as you go.

Just, know what you want, and decide firmly and definitely, with confidence, that you're going to get,  be or have what you want. 

Because those who live the life of their choice. Always know exactly where they're heading.

47) Create Good Habits

Nearly all our behaviors, actions, addictions and what we do both good and bad are the result of habits that we have repeatedly practiced doing for so long that they become things we do automatically and instinctively. 

If you have any bad or unwanted habits, then you need to replace them with good ones because some habits can be bad for your health, block your success and waste your time.

We can form habits of all kinds of things and reasons like, through fear or to help to keep us safe, a form of reward or pleasure even when the habit is bad for us.  

If you have a bad habit or addictions focus on the positive and health benefits you will gain once you given up or you have changed your habit

Everytime you manage to succeed in changing your bad habits give yourself a small reward. Replace bad habits with good habits.

Change the way you do or organized things and practice repeatedly doing things on a daily basis that will create good habits instead of allowing bad habits to rule your life.

Make habits that will help you to take you towards the success you or life you want or ones that will move you towards achieving your goals

48) You Have Choices

No matter where you are in life or how bad your situation is remember that you always have better choices and other options and possibilities and if you take control of your life and situations then your life can and does get better. 

If you don't like your job you can choose to find another, if your hand around with negative or nasty friends you can make new friends and if your in a bad or abusive relationship you have the choice to break up. 

The key is to chill out about the things that are not in your control and learn how to change your perceptions and how you respond to them.

No ones own you and you always have the choice to live your life on your terms and if something is not good for you or working out for you then change it.

49) Look For The Positive

If you look hard enough, you will find that there are many good things to be found in this world and there are many good things about you, yet most people pick out one bad thing or experience and they give it all their attention. 

Try to look for the positive in each situation, look for the good in you and learn to focus on your strengths instead of your weakness and develop a positive and optimistic attitude that everything will work out even when everything seems to be going wrong.

50) Give Your Mind Clear Instructions

Most people allow their brain to influence their thoughts, feelings, decisions, behaviours and actions when what you should be doing is you should take control and influence your mind and thought patterns.  

Your mind is a very powerful tool when used correctly yet it can be your worst enemy when it is misused or left to think on auto pilot which can result in a life of misery, limitations and pain.

Get into the habit of thinking your way into alignment and flow and give your mind clear instructions of what you want because the secret to a more successful, happiness and a more fulfilling life is down to your focus of attention and telling your mind what it is you exactly want instead of focusing on what you don't want.

51) Read And Relax 

Warren Buffet who is one of the richest men in the world credits most of his most profitable money making decisions, down to reading approximately 500 pages a day.

Warren's principals, are. " Knowledge is a bit like compound interest. It builds up over time and pays you dividend".

Nearly all successful people, high achievers and business men/woman are avid readers, and reading is a great way to self educate you, 

Reading reading will stimulate and invigorate you plus it is also a great way to learn, grow both intellectually and spiritually and it will help you to become smarter, it is also a great relaxation therapy.

So, read as much as you can, read about the field that you're in or what you want to enter or be an expert at, read as many articles as you can and keep on amassing as much knowledge as you can.

If you can manage to read one book a week, that is 52 books per year. By doing this, just imagine how wise you will be, this time next year.

52) Enjoy Being You

Although socializing and having a network of a supporting family and a close circle of good friends around you is important, it is as equally as important to get to know yourself better and learn to like yourself and enjoy your own company. 

When you are alone in being nice to yourself and get to know the real inner you who is your loyal and true friend who is always with you so make peace with yourself. 

Find things to occupy yourself because your alone time is a great opportunity to learn and to get thing's done.

Having a good and meaningful relationship with yourself is essential for your well-being, talk to yourself like you would with a close friend and start to enjoy and make the most of your own company which has its good points because there will be no one to distract you or annoy you. 

53) Breathing Exercise To Calm Your Mind, Body And Flatten Your Stomach  

Breathing correctly is essential to balance your mind and body and to bring you back into the calm and power of the now. 

When were feeling stressed or anxious our breathing becomes shallow and rapid which can trigger off the other symptoms of stress. 

By taking a few slow, deep, controlled breaths it will immediately start to reverse the stress response and when you breathe deeply the rest  of your body has to follow suit and fall back into its natural resting and relaxed state. 

At times when you're feeling emotional tension or on first the onset of any build up stress or anxiety. This is an invitation for you to relax.

To return back to a state of calm and regain your composure, as quickly as possible, try performing some diaphragmatic breathing techniques. 

This is where you take some slow, controlled breaths, where you breathe in from your belly, instead of that shallow breathing, where you breathe rapidly from your chest, as you do, when you feel stressed and anxious.

Because this type of breathing, will switch you from the stressful sympathetic nervous system which is also linked to your fight or flight response. 

Back to the relaxed, parasympathetic nervous system, which will help to produce a sense of deep relaxation and feelings of inner peace.

You can count in for 5 and out for 7 or in for 7 and our for 11 as you do it. Practice doing this, at times when you're lying down and already quite relaxed, to get the hang of it.

You can also do these relaxation, breathing exercises, before you're about to enter a stressful or challenging situation as it will teach your mind and body to associate the event as being safe.

If you want to get some extra benefit from your breathing exercises then you can also strengthen and flatten your stomach at the same time, as demonstrated in the video below.

This is a great way, to relax and flatten your stomach at the same time.

54) Take Some Of The Pressure Off Yourself

We all have goals, we all want things and we all want to perform well, but sometimes our desire to have or be something can become so strong that we lose the enjoyment and our focus turns to more of a negative focus.

Set your objectives and intentions, aim for personal excellence, but enjoy the journey. At times we heap way too much pressure on our self to do well that it ends up causing more stress, frustration and tension which has an adverse effect on us. 

Wanting something or wanting more is perfectly natural, but when you want something too bad then it can cause you to either try too hard or become too desperate, which actually works against you by repelling and preventing you from having the success or things you want.

This is very common with sports stars who are very skillful and talented when they are practicing or when they are relaxed but as soon as they get to a pressured moment like when they are close to victory, the nerves and anxiety kick in and they all of a sudden fall apart.

To improve your chances of success, still want to win, do well or perform well, but take the pressure off yourself by taking away the importance, neediness, desperation and significance of the outcome with the attitude of your doing your best and your enjoying what you do. 

Do your best, allow for setbacks and focus on the area's you want to improve without any pressure attached, because wanting something too much can lead to feelings of desperation and frustration which can work against you. 

55) Positive expectancy 

One of the most powerful creative forces in the known universe is the power of expectation, and this applies to both positive and negative expectations.

To achieve your desires, you have to set the universal wheels and energies in motion, and to increase your chances of you achieving your desires, it is important to expect what you want to happen, before it does happen with an unwavering faith and positive certainty.

Expecting your desired outcome before it has happened is the hardest part for many people, because it is human nature to allow what they are currently observing or experiencing or thoughts of lack and not happening to determine how they think, feel and act.

If you can see it, you can have or become it, your thoughts and feelings have creative powers, what you achieve will largely depend on your faith that you can and will achieve it, long before it has manifested.

So ditch the negative expectations, otherwise you will keep on getting more negative results and try to make it a habit to expect good things to happen, because winners expect to win and successful people expect to be successful.

So expect with confidence, and if you follow this policy, then bit by bit, more good things will start to come your way.

So let success in all you do, be your objective, focus on things going well instead of things going not well, focus on things getting better instead of things getting worse, and focus on feeling good instead of feeling bad and focus on doing well instead of not doing well.

56) Embrace Struggle and move forwards

Life is not always a bed of roses, especially if you have a goal that you want to fulfil or if you want to be successful.

Everybody gets it wrong, everybody struggles at times and everybody makes mistakes, so don't allow your failure to deter you.

To grow, you have to embrace your struggles and challenges and use them as your motivator, because our struggles and mistakes are an opportunity to learn, advance and grow.

Have faith and trust that you will come through your difficult times a much stronger and better, wiser you. Because, you are a resourceful and capable person.

Failure and setbacks can either defeat you and make you, small or you can learn to excel in challenging situations.

The formula for a better and more successful you, is to learn something from your failures, as well as trying to improve on your last attempt or effort, if you keep repeating this, you sure to succeed.

Because, it does not matter how many times you get it wrong, how long it takes you to master it or how many times you fail, as long as you keep getting back up, learning something and striving to be and do better.

To get better and become more successful and more confident, you have to sometimes step out of your comfort zone, face and overcome your fears so you can strive towards, accomplish your goals and ambitions.

Sometimes, you have to take full responsibility for your own mistakes and at times you need take full responsibility, for overcoming your problems. 

Because, if you do not believe in you and your abilities, and if you do not take responsibility for putting things right, then you will.

Have a strong belief in yourself and your ability to overcome problems and challenges. Make bold and positive decisions and intentions, and once you have made those decisions, don't look back.

The secret is to keep learning, as well as trying to keep on moving forwards in a positive direction. 

When you have a problem, let go of all those negative thoughts, and focus only on, finding a solution or getting better.

Sometimes, you have to accept, the situation, and move forwards, otherwise you will stay stuck, with the problem.

57) Replace Negative And Limiting Beliefs

Probably the single biggest reason behind why people struggle in life, why they cannot get the results that they want, why they cannot seem to make positive progress and changes in their life is due to negative and limiting beliefs.

Many of our limiting beliefs, which can prevent us from making it to the top, living the life of our choice or being the person that we want to be, were programmed into us when we were very young and we were not able to draw our own conclusions of form our own views and opinions.

If you have any negative and limiting beliefs that are also the root cause of many of our fears and insecurities, then it is time to replace them with new and more positive and supportive beliefs.

Because once you rid yourself of your long held limiting and unhelpful beliefs, you can begin to put yourself out of your misery and start living the life that you deserve.

When you first start to change and replace your old limiting beliefs or you attempt to self condition yourself, you might meet some resistance, but keep challenging them and keep on replacing them with the new beliefs.

There will be times when your old negative beliefs will keep on cropping up, especially to begin with, or when you're having a bad day and things seem to be going wrong, but again, keep affirming your new beliefs.

58) Stop Trying To Be Perfect 

Many people feel the need to be perfect, but being a perfectionist is a bad way of living your life, and in fact, trying to be perfect, will take you further away from perfection.

Perfection, can be the root source of many negative emotions, which lead to obsessive thinking, obsessive behaviours and compulsions which can lead to more anger, irritability, anxiety and frustration as you feel the need to be perfect.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to achieve excellence, and setting yourself high standards, and there is a big difference between wanting to do your very best and trying to be perfect, because there is nothing wrong with wanting to be the best.

Perfection, however, is often linked to anxiety and fear, people who want perfection, often have self esteem issues, their need to be perfect is often masking and hiding their insecurities.

People who try to be perfect often have an underlying fear of being judged or talked about by others, you will find that they care too much about what other people think of them and they will feel the need to always try and look good or attempt to impress others.

One of the most common of all human fears is, the fear of what other people think or say. We are all social beings, and we all like to come across well, and be what we think is normal. 

But, this can lead us to spend a large part of our time, worrying and obsessing about other people think about us, to a point where we can hide the person who we truly are.

Worrying about what others think about us, also leads to feelings of self consciousness, social anxiety and it prevents us from functioning socially at our peak performance best.

The truth is, other people do not spend all their day thinking about you because they to are far too busy trying to solve their own problems and better their own lives.

Pefectionists, waste so much time trying to be flawless, that it tends to backfire on them, they won't accept that it is OK to make mistakes, it is OK to fail and nobody is perfect.

Life is not always perfect, and neither are we, and we all make mistakes and feel embarrassed at times, so it is important not to be too hard on yourself and a little bit of, I couldn't care less attitude can free you from many emotional issues.

59) Let It Go

Life isn't always easy, we all have bad experiences, problems to overcomedisappointments and setbacks, which are all part of life.

But it's not the bad situations that cause us most of the pain and upset, the real damage is inflicted on us by the thoughts and perceptions that we have about the experiences that prolong the emotional pain.

You have nothing to gain by holding onto negative emotions, what's happened has happened, so if anything is causing you emotional hurt or just making you feel bad, let it go.

The formula for a better life is
  • Give up the urge to try and control everything, 
  • Stop trying so hard, and enjoy what you're doing
  • Stop resisting, 
  • Stop fighting with what you don't want, 
  • Learn to let it go 
  • Trust that life and what you want will work out and 
  • Allow everything to happen naturally
Sometimes we hold onto the pain of the past and we live our lives in the negative emotions of our worries and problems, when the better approach would be to let it go.

We tend to give all our attention to what we don't want instead of focusing on what we do want, which is not ideal as we draw towards us what we focus on the most.

When you have been living off a negative self image of yourself or you have had a bad habit or limiting belief for so long it  becomes a part of you and a part of your personality or identity.

Because of this, you can find it hard to let go even though it is serving you no good or it is not what they want. 

Stop drawing off your bad experiences and create new positive ones about you and your future.

If this is the case, do not fall victim to this mentality trap, just let it go or get rid of it because if it is not helping you or it is not what you want.

Why hang onto to something that you don't need or anything that is getting you down or making you feel bad.

So, if it something is not serving you well or not helping you, release it and no longer let it be a part of you or your life, then design and create a positive new self image of you.

60) You're so much smarter than you think

No matter what you may have been told or come to believe, you already have the capabilities built within you to learn and become smarter than you could possibly imagine.

What often stops people from learning and tapping into their true potential, is the belief and outright lie, that they are not good or smart enough, they are not in the right state of mind and body, they give up too quickly, they do not have the right strategy or they do not put in the effort or practice that is required.

As a baby and young child you were born with the ability to learn. Young children learn by practicing repeatedly, sheer determination, being in the right state, having the right mindset and through trial and error. 

For example, when children first try to ride a bike, they do not succeed the first time, they might fall off or fail many times.

But they keep up the enthusiasm and will to learn, they do not draw off their failures or allow the fear of failure to put them off having another and another go, and they do not give up until they succeed.

Instead of quitting, they keep on trying until they get it right, then they joyfully revel in their success and by doing this, it creates a positive association which allows them to be able to confidently ride a bike for the rest of their lives, without fearing it or doubting their ability to ride a bike.

On the other hand, the adult will try something or have a bad experience and instead of having another go or trying to do better, they will dwell on the bad experience or failure. 

Then they allow it to limit them and prevent them from growing or learning, or they will create the belief that they are not very good at what they're attempting to do or learn.

Your mindset, attitude and your willingness and approach to learning, do better and carry on even when you're struggling, will determine how long you stick at something and how good you become. 

Imagine how limited we would be, if we gave up after the first attempt when we were a child.

61) Be the real authentic you

In this must look and appear perfect world, where we deem everybody as our judge and critic.

Many people feel that they have to impress everybody and they somehow need to come across as perfect and faultless all the time.

We seem to be living in a world, where we have to force ourselves to pretend to be someone we are not.

In the long term, it is not a good idea to try and fake it or attempt to be something you're not. 

Sometimes, because of our insecurities and we feel we need to impress others or follow the crowd.

The character and personality that we portray to the world, is not fitting and in agreement, with who we truly are.

But, trying to pretend that you're someone you're not, can become hard work and exhausting.

So always aim to try and be true to yourself, and never be afraid or ashamed to reveal the real you.

The true authentic you, is who you really are at the source and the very heart and essence of you. Where all your true limitless potential and hidden talents can be accessed.

The authentic you, knows your good enough, capable enough and worthy enough. Basically, the real authentic you, is the you, as you are, when you're feeling relaxed and your by yourself.

But, sometimes the real authentic you can become buried under, the physical you and what you have come to think and believe, who you are.

Like your ego and all the physical traits, negative self image beliefs and fears that you have picked up.

Trying to please your ego and others, can be on of the biggest causes of stress, negative emotions and anger.

62) Essentials for being happier

Happiness is an option and state of mind and body that we all have the choice to access at any given time.

To test this, forget about your troubles, stop focusing on what you don't have or what could go wrong for a minute and think of a time when you felt really happy and good and return back to that memory and experience and note how much better you feel.

You have the ability to change your state, through your imagination, so this proves that you do not need any physical possession, thing or experience to make you feel good.

This does not mean you should not strive to live the life you want or have the things you desire, but you should not rely on anything or anybody for your happiness.

Some of the key ingredients of happiness are, to try to get on with others around, accept that people are different and try to have good relationships with others and try not to allow outside, what is to influence, upset you or affect how you feel. 

Try and stay present in the moment, if you start to have angry, anxious or negative thoughts, focus on your breathing, relax your body and choose to ignore or not to get emotionally involved with the unwanted thoughts and images of your mind, so you can quickly return to the peace of the now.

Try to enjoy your work, except you have to work, because if you spend a large part of your life working and if you hate your work it will drag you down and depress you or get a new more challenging and rewarding life.

If you have a repetitive job, focus on ways to better your life, take up new hobbies, interest or learn new skills, learn a new language, skill or set up a second income stream that you can do in your spare time, something you feel passionate about. 

Then use your time at work to add value to your life and grow, your new venture, self image, hobby or passion so you can make the most of all that spare available time to better your life.

Look after yourself and treat your body with respect, focus on keeping fit and healthy, because there is a lot that you can do to improve your health and well-being.

Exercise is a medicine that can help to keep you fit, reduce pain and help you to feel good, the same applies to learning how to relax, reducing stress and tension and laughter.  

Maintaining a continuous flow of energy and feeling good state of mind and body, is a fundamental ingredient for your well-being and happiness.

63) Be More Independent And Self Indulgement 

Whether you are single or in a relationship from time to time it will not do you any harm to be more independent and self indulgent, do not feel embarrassed or ashamed to do things on your own, because nobody owns you.  

We grow stronger from doing things, so step out of your comfort zone and find out more about yourself and what you want, buy a ticket and hop on the bus or train by yourself as travelling is one of the best ways to learn and experience life more. 

You might feel a little apprehensive at first, but feel the emotions and still do it. You can learn so much more about yourself by going out alone and it can give your confidence a boost, make an effort to speak to strangers, especially if they are alone. 

Think about yourself more and put your needs first every now and again, if that means being a bit selfish, then so be it. 

If you have a point to make say it, you don't have to be argumentative or aggressive, but you also don't always have to hold back either. 

Sometimes you have to experience the bad to find the good, in time you will learn from your experiences what makes you feel good and what does not, so you will know what to do and what to avoid. 

64) Acceptance

Sometimes you have to accept the things that you cannot change or you have to accept that change and goals can take time.

If you want to achieve a personal goal, let's say you want to start your own business or build a better body, then you have to accept these things can take time and there will be obstacles and challenges to overcome, however this does not mean you have to give in.

Sometimes there are things that we want to change, but we either can't or we have no control over them.

It can make your life a lot easier if you accept and let go of the things that you cannot change and put all your energy on to working on the things that you can change.

Sometimes the first step to change is to accept what is or accept and surrender to your current situation so you can release all the feelings of stress, frustration and disappointment which will leave you a clear mind to plan your strategy for a better future or overcoming your challenges. 

Acceptance of your current situation can save you a lot of stress, worry and anxiety, lets say you're stuck in a traffic jam, if you accept the situation and surrender to what is, you're going to feel a whole lot better than trying to resist something that you cannot change. 

The refusal to accept your current situation or problem can lead to you to resist it and opposing it which can cause you to hang on to your feelings of annoyance, fear, irritation, anger, stress, sadness, disappointment, resentment and frustration. 

Failing to accept the challenging things that life throws at you can result in unnecessary emotional pain, but the most important thing you need to accept is you.

65) Try Not To Focus On Yourself

One of the single biggest causes of emotional suffering and pain is when we put too much negative focus on ourselves or what we consider to be our weaknesses and flaws.

Another form of negative self focus is when we become too aware and too bothered by our negative thoughts and feelings which nearly always makes them worse.

Unless your inner self focus is positive or aimed at making you grow, try not to put too much attention on yourself and get out of your head and more engaged in the world around.

If you have a problem admit you have a problem, then either do something about it or seek help, if you're struggling, if things aren't going well or if you're going through a difficult time admit it and then plan for a better future.

66) Problem Solving

Behind every problem lies a solution and an opportunity to grow and do things better. The reason why so many people fail to solve their problems.

Is because people become too focused and fixated on their problem, instead of focusing on finding the solution.

Another reason why people stay stuck with the same old problems is because. They treat the symptoms rather than, fixing the root cause.

A problem usually remains a problem until you either accept it and let it go. Or you fix the root source of your problems.

You failures, setbacks and mistake, are your best teachers, so use them to motivate you to be or do better, next time.

The first step to overcoming a problem. Is to be aware that you have an issue that needs fixing. Then you need to pinpoint the root cause and work on resolving it, until you're happy and content.

The next step is to. Get out of the negative energy that is making your problem worse. Writing down your worries and problems on a piece of paper can help.

"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them".  

Albert Einstein.

Make a list of, where you think you might be going wrong and why you think you have your problem.

Analyze and evaluate your problem, and write down or ask yourself, what can you do to make things better or what you can do to solve your problem.

Start doing some research, and take any action that is required. You can also ask your mind, to find a solution to your problem or difficulties or if you need help.

As it is quoted in the bible

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.

"If you carry on doing things the same way, then you will keep on getting the same results".

Once you have done everything that you can, or there is not forthcoming solution to your problem, then you will need to accept it and let it go.

Techniques like meditation can take you out of the energy of the problem and it can transform you to the calm energy where the solution can be found. 

67) Take A Positive From A Negative

Life can seem tough at times and we all go through challenging times, everybody has bad emotional experiences that we have to deal with.

If you have had a bad or unpleasant experience, the thing is, try not to dwell on it. Because there is no little to gain through, through analyzing or over thinking what has already happened.

When you allow what is or what has happened to start to bother you, then your mind will see it as being significant.

The more significant you make it, the worse your issue becomes, and your mind will tag negative emotions to it which will keep you focused on what you don't want and it will hold the negative thinking patterns in place.

Whatever is bothering you, drop the matter or issue and let your mind know that, you'll work or figure it out. 

"Every time you make a mistake, or you get things wrong, there is a lesson to be learned".

We cannot always control what happens in your environment, but you can control how you react.

See the negative as an opportunity, to learn and grow. 

Make it your intentions that you will become a better me from your negative experience and you will come back and be a better person. 

Use your experience to motivate and drive you on, so you will be better prepared and more able to handle future similar types of situations.

68) Good Time Management

If you want to get more done and be more productive, then it is important to make the most of the limited time that you have available each day.

Because there are only twenty four hours each day so if you want to be more efficient, if you want to get more accomplished, then you need to maximize your time. 

Getting more done should not involve rushing or trying to cram too much in, because that will just make you flustered and less in control. 

Good time management is all about being more productive in the amount of time that you have allocated each day and making the most out of your time.

Sometimes, slower, is quicker and more productive.

To get more done, you need to operate at your peak performance levels. 

Sometimes it's better to relax, forget deadlines and slow down to get more done or to do things quicker, because you will perform better when you're feeling relaxed but motivated.

The harder you try, the more difficult it is to perform well, and when you rush, you will just get more frustrated, stressed and things will tend to go wrong. 

The secret is to work smarter than harder, so instead of just rushing in or trying to force yourself to go quicker. Calm yourself down, take it easy and gradually build up your speed naturally. 

Work at a pace that suits you, make yourself comfortable, because when you feel relaxed and comfortable, you will find your optimum peak flow performance level. 

Instead of seeing things as a choir, learn to enjoy what you're doing and you will find you will do it so much better and more efficiently, and you will get better results.

69) Be Proud Of Yourself

We're all very good at beating ourselves up, we all put ourselves down too much, we're all far too hard on ourselves and we're all our own biggest critics

But all this self knocking of ourselves can erode our self esteem and self worth. So isn't time people started praising themselves up a bit by starting being kind to themselves and definitely started to feel more proud of themselves.

Because if you want to be more successful, happier and you want to boost your self esteem levels, then it is essential to appreciate your efforts ad vital to feel proud of yourself and all of your achievements, no matter how big or small they are.

Your inner self will reward you when you feel proud of yourself and your achievements and it is a vital element in building your self respect, self esteem and your self worth. 

The good things are, your mind will react the same way, if you're feeling prouder of the little things that you have done, than it would if you had accomplished a big achievement.

Therefore, praising yourself up for the small things will bring about the same positive results as being proud of the big things.

70) Have A Growth Mindest

Many people's mindset is a result of their past negative experiences, their inherited limiting beliefs and conditioning, which can keep you small and stuck.

When they then have to face a particular challenge, especially if it is similar to a type of situation or challenge where they struggled or failed at before, then those negative experiences can knock their self confidence and seriously hold them back.

To develop a growth mindset you have to be open to change and new possibilities and idea's about your abilities and potential.

A good place to start, is to believe in yourself and your ability to change and improve. A growth mindset, will help you to take a step up to the next level as you begin to increase your skill levels. 

If you want to grow, you have to ditch your past negative conditioning. This will also require stepping out of your comfort zone.

Self growth, is all about how you react to outside circumstances, failures and challenges. As well as, how you deal with setbacks.

Failures and setbacks are a part of learning and growing, they're designed to make you stronger and better. 

The best way to grow, is to learn from your failures and mistakes, with the mindset of always trying to get better and advance.

Use any negative criticism and any setbacks to drive you on to fight for what you really want.

When you take on a new challenge, see yourself succeeding and victorious, listen to upbeat music before you face the challenging situation and keep boosting yourself up with some positive inner self talk.

71) Express Your Emotions

Your emotions act as your inner guidance system and you cannot run away or hide from them. It is also a bad idea to try and suppress them, because when you bury an active emotion. They are like a volcano ready to erupt.

Sometimes your emotions try to deliver you an important message from within. They could be telling you that you need to take some course of action, change your perceptions or change the way you're thinking.

So, never try and bury an emotion. Because when you try and suppress a negative emotion, they will become an inner part of you, effecting you on a physical level in many unpleasant ways.

The first step is pinpoint and acknowledge which emotion you're feeling. Ask yourself, what am I feeling right now, and ask your mind, what is the important message.

Then feel the emotion and observe it, let it rise through you and away, but don't react to it or judge it, just let the negative emotion carry on, but do not engage or run with it or the thoughts in your mind.

Then you can decide what you want to do with it. You can ignore them and let them go. But sometimes, you may need to do some emotional healing and clearing work.

If you do not learn to process your emotions, you will remain a victim of your circumstances and your history of negative experiences.

Becoming mindful, is a good place to start. Because if you learn how to process your emotions, instead of trying to outrun them or fight with them, you will stop them gathering momentum.

Talk to yourself, reassure yourself and use positive and encouraging self talk. Check your body, to see how the emotion is affecting you physically.

You may need to release any emotional tension. Sometimes relaxing or exercising can help you deal with the physical symptoms. Sometimes your diet, can affect, how you feel, make sure you stay hydrated.

Find somewhere quiet, and do some deep breathing and gradual muscle relaxation or buy a home massage device.

If you're feeling anxious you can acknowledge it. "Yes, I am feeling anxious right now, then embrace and feel it, then say, how I want to feel is peaceful and calm".

You can do this with any negative emotion. We all have bad experiences, how you react to these situations and you perceive them is the key.

If you do not process or let the emotion go, you will stay stuck in a bad feeling place.

Write down on a piece of paper, or keep a diary, and jot how you feel or how you felt at times during the day, especially if negative things happened to you. 

Then in another column, write down how you would like to feel, react or behave. Sometimes your emotions could be telling you, that you need to think differently or find a better feeling thought.

72) Self Education

Throughout our early years and onwards we have often relied on others to help us out, comfort us or solve our problems.

When you were a baby you were totally reliant on your parents and then at school, you were educated by your teachers and society, and the life skill information we needed was not always available to us.

The only problem with relying on others for help or advice is, we can struggle to solve our own problems and challenges.

Today, however, the information is readily available to nearly everybody and there has never been a better time to self educate yourself. Thrive on learning new things and new skills.

So if you want to get fitter, improve your health and lifestyle, become more successful, learn a new language or develop a new skill, solve a problem, or you need help and support, then get into the habit of asking yourself questions or research and study the topic or subject that you want to know about.

73) Relax yourself before a stressful situation

It is perfectly normal to feel a bit of mild discomfort before a challenging situation or event, but for some, these types of situations can cause a lot of stress and a full out anxiety attack.

If you feel anxious and tense before a particular situation, then somehow you have managed to condition your mind that the forthcoming stressful situation is threatening.

What you need to do is to start to condition your mind to associate the stressful situation as being none threatening.

Do a little bit of preparation before the challenging situation, so just before you face the challenging situation.

Relax and ease your muscles and take some slow and controlled, long, deep rhythmic breaths, make the out breath longer and push all the way out, as this will help you to condition the mind that the situation is safe.

Again, before you enter the stressful situation, imagine that it has already happened and you have already come through the situation and everything went well.

74) Cut Out The Self Blame

No matter how hard you try, there will be times when you struggle and you will get off days and there will be times where things go wrong or you will experience negative emotions.

Things like the Law of Attraction, state that we are responsible for our own destiny, outcomes and feelings, and although this may be true, we are also human beings.

Some go as far to say, when things don't turn out the way we want, it's all our fault or that we are to blame for our shortcomings, problems or failures.

But so long as you're doing your best, that's all you can do, and you should not blame yourself for everything that goes wrong or when things do not quite work out. 

Because it's OK to experience negative emotions, it's OK if you have not yet achieved your goals and it's OK to get things wrong.

When we blame ourselves or we get upset and frustrated because we have not reached the levels we want or we are not getting the results that we expect.

Then it can lead to self blame, disappointment, believing that we are not good enough and even mild depression.

You will find that you will benefit more from a bit of friendly self encouragement and self praise.

Just have faith through the bad times, keep doing your best, take one step at a time and vow to turn your adversity and failures into success.

But most importantly of all keep your spirits up during those difficult times and enjoy your life experience and every time life knocks you down, come back more powerful, stronger and better. 

75) Face Your Fears

Everybodies got fear and anxiety.

We all have bad experiences and we all feel a little bit uncomfortable at times, but for some their fear and anxiety, can get out of control.

The reason why fear and anxiety can get out of control, is because, people start to become alarmed and sensitive to the sensations of the fear sensations and eventually, they begin to fear the fear itself.

To end the fear of the sensations of fear. You have to break the cycle and pattern, that holds the fear in place and keeps it repeating on itself.

Most people don't like or they won't accept, that it is natural, to experience a bit of mild discomfort at times.

So, when they have sensations of fear and anxiety, which could arise out of the blue, because they have been worrying a lot or they've been experiencing high levels of stress.

They declare war on their anxious thoughts and sensations of fear and anxiety, and they become under the illusion, that they have to go on an endless quest to, deal with, get rid of or defeat their fear.

However, this approach, has the opposite effect, and it triggers more fear, anxiety, tension and stress.

When you start to notice the onset of discomfort and emotional arousal.

Most people become alarmed and confused by these unpleasant feelings and emotions, and their mind reacts as if something bad is about to happen, which increases the fear and panic.

Your natural instinct, is to want to get away or avoid the perceived danger, because this is how you have evolved, to respond, to the sensations of fear. 

But in most cases, the danger is not real in your actual reality, the fear and danger only exist within your mind and body. 

This means, there is no avoidance action needed or no need to want to get away.

Once the anxious thoughts and fearful feelings have been activated, you cannot reverse them.

So the best thing to do is to, when you feel fearful and anxious in the absence of danger.
  1. Accept the feelings, thoughts and emotions 
  2. Relax your body, smile and take some slow deep breaths
  3. Observe them, but don't react or become alarmed  
  4. Act as you would normally 
  5. Embrace and feel the feelings 
  6. Leave your mind and body alone, and let the feelings subside away peacefully
There is no need to do anything other than begin to relax yourself. Fear and anxiety, will try to fool you that you need to avoid or escape from a stressful or challenging situation.

But don't allow your fear to bully, dominant or control you.

As Suzan Jeffers said

"Feel the fear, and do it anyway

Everytime you feel fearful, anxious, tense or stressed. It is an indication, that you need to relax. So instead of, fighting with your thoughts, feelings and emotions, relax your mind and body.

When you fight and resist your fear, it causes tension in your body, which makes you feel more anxious.

Practice bringing yourself back to the present moment, get out of the future, ignore the past, and focus on getting into that flow like, zero resistant state.

76) Turn Your Idea's Into Actions

We all have ideas, and good idea's can lead to many good things.

Have you had a good idea that your gut intuition was telling you to follow through with it, but you let the opportunity to pass.

Idea's are the foundation of every material thing that has ever been created or made, but although you need an idea to create, idea's are useless without actions.

Because it is not the idea that is the most important thing, we all have idea's all the time, it is what you do with the idea that matters.

The best time for new creative idea's is to focus on what you want, then find somewhere peaceful and quiet, and relax deeply, because idea's and creativity flow, when you're at your most relaxed.

Keep a pen and paper with you, so you can then jot down your idea's, then follow them up with inspired action.

77) Savor All The Good

With all the doom and gloom going around, combined with all of our everyday problems and challenges. It is very easy to fall into the negativity trap and worse case scenario mindset.

Many people have gotten into the bad habit of dwelling on, or holding on to the bad and ignoring all that is wonderful and good.

Focusing on the bad, makes you feel bad, but you can change this habit and start to feel better, by starting to focus on all the good.

If you look for it, then you will find plenty of things that are good. 

All you, have to do is. Find something beautiful, something that you have done well or something that is positive and keep your attention on it for a minute or two.

This can be something that you're observing in nature, like a beautiful flower or butterfly, animals or scenes of nature. 

A special or funny moment, a photograph of a loved one, something you're grateful for or something that you have done right or well.

It does not matter what it is. Anything good will work, just get into the habit of holding it in your awareness, and milk the moment. 

This will help you break the negative patterns and habits as well as, help you to be more creative, more productive. As well as boosting your mood.

78) It Is You That Really Matters

All material things are temporary and although it is important to have the best life experience as you possibly can, the thing that matters the most to you is you.

There is an old saying which states, "There is nothing like your first love"

And it is true to a degree, your first love is special, but a physical relationship is not your first love, your first love is the love you have with yourself.

Because the love you have with you is eternal and unbreakable and unlike physical love with another person which is an expression of your love, which can be taken away from you at anytime.

Nothing can ever take away the love your inner being has for you, because the inner you is always there for you and it will never let you down

So learn to love you, like you and make peace with yourself.

Make your mind a place of peace, release all pain and let go of all suffering and find your happy place, learn to love yourself and your life.

You will find your true happy place, when you stop allowing outside situations and circumstances from upsetting you, and when you can feel good internally without relying on anything external.  

79) Get The Positive Momentum Going

Life is all about momentum and direction and nearly everybody has momentum going on in their lives. 

There are only two types of momentum. You have positive momentum and negative momentum, positive momentum will make you feel good and it will move you in the right direction and towards where you want to be in life.

Whilst negative momentum will make you feel bad and stressed and it will take you further and further away from the place you want to be and feelings you want to experience.

So get that positive momentum and mindset going, and never again allow your mind to wander on to the negative.

80) Decide what you want to be, have or do

Nobody is born successful, skilllful or confident, it is a skill like all skills that they have learned and developed.

Then make it your number one priority and intention, to figure it out, learn or become, what you want.

Change all the I can't's to I can learn, change all the I wish, for, I will find a way.

Successful and confident people, think differently to normal people. Successful people have to go through the process of learning and they face the same problems and challenges as those who are not successful.

The only difference is. The confident and successful person, won't shy away from a challenge and they will learn the skills and do whatever it takes, to take them to the next level and bring them the success that they are seeking. 

Whereas, the average person will hesitate, and think themselves out of doing things. They will come up with all types of excuses. 

Like, I am not the type of person, what if, I can't, which will prevent them from attempting to learn the skills or become successful.

The successful and the high achievers, however. Will make it their intention. To learn the skills, figure it out or develop the confidence and winning mindset they require to better themselves..

Anybody, can become more successful, better themselves, become more confident or learn new skills.

So instead of shying away, from new challenges. Make it your mission and intention that.
  • You're going to learn the skills you need 
  • You're going to build your confidence, in the area's where you feel you need more confidence 
  • You're going to be successful
81) Learn How To Relax 

Stress is public enemy number on, the important thing with stress is. You need to catch it in its early stages before it gains too much momentum. 

You know what they say about stress.

"There are no stressful situations, only stressful responses". 

Have you ever noticed that the more stressed, frustrated and tense you become, the more things go wrong and the harder it becomes to perform well.

When you feel relaxed, everything becomes so much easier, you will do things better, you will function more efficiently, you will think clearer, you will be more productive and when you're relaxed, you will solve your problems easier.

The biggest trigger of stress is. Negative thinking, rushing and reacting badly to your outside situations, especially things that are not even in your control. 

You cannot always control your outside circumstances, but you can change the way you react to them and your thoughts. 

Avoid the urge to rush, when you feel the urge to rush, just pause for a minute, and try not to let people and your external circumstances to control how you feel and react, deliberately slow yourself down. 

Relaxing deeply will reduce your stress and anxiety, your mental faculties will improve and you will be more creative you will feel more confident, vibrant and alive.  

Learn to be mindful of the thoughts, feel the feelings but stay calm around your thoughts and let them pass, and make an effort to spend twenty minutes a day relaxing deeply.

Pinpoint the things that are causing you stress, negative moods and worry, and work on them, meditation is a great way of quieting down your mind and thus reducing your stress and anxiety.

82) Try and see the funny side of things

Sometimes we can, put too much focus and effort on our goals, or what we don't have, what is wrong and life in general. That we can tend to take ourselves and our lives too seriously. 

When we are facing adversity, when we get things wrong, when we make a mistake or embarrass ourselves. 

We tend to allow these events and we react to things, as it is then end of the world, type of scenario.

But, sometimes it is better to try to laugh things off, and attempt to see the funny side of things.

You can even try and see the funny side of some of your problems and perceived weaknesses, as this can help you to feel better and even assist you in resolving your problem.

In the end you cannot get everything right first time all the time. 

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