- Your creativity
- Skill levels
- Personal development
- Finding the solutions to your problems
- Answers to your questions
- Achieving your goals
- Learning and growing as a human and a spiritual being
- Going beyond your limitations
- Taking on new challenges
- Living your life by design, not default
- Becoming emotionally free
- Taking control of your health and wealth
- Your focus of attention
- The stories you tell yourself and the picture you create in your mind
- The beliefs you choose and make
- Your physiology
- Actions you take
The ideal body posture could be described as standing, sitting and moving efficiently with the least amount of tension and effort.
You need to bring your body back into balance, where you and your body are in the flow state where your body is ticking over at its most efficient peak performance state.
3) Use Positive Language and intentions
The three secrets to success depend on
- The thoughts you think
- The words you speak
- The actions you take
5) Set Your Goals And Never Give Up
Stress is public enemy number on, the important thing
"There are no stressful situations, only stressful responses".
Have you ever noticed that the more stressed, frustrated and tense you become, the more things go wrong and the harder it becomes to perform well.
When you feel relaxed, everything becomes so much easier, you will do things better, you will function more efficiently, you will think clearer, you will be more productive and when you're relaxed, you will solve your problems easier.
You cannot always control your outside circumstances, but you can change the way you react to them and your thoughts.
Avoid the urge to rush, when you feel the urge to rush, just pause for a minute, and try not to let people and your external circumstances to control how you feel and react, deliberately slow yourself down.
Relaxing deeply will reduce your stress and anxiety, your mental faculties will improve and you will be more creative you will feel more confident, vibrant and alive.
Learn to be mindful of the thoughts, feel the feelings but stay calm around your thoughts and let them pass, and make an effort to spend twenty minutes a day relaxing deeply.
Pinpoint the things that are causing you stress, negative moods and worry, and work on them, meditation is a great way of quieting down your mind and thus reducing your stress and anxiety.
9) Be Creative
You have unlimited amounts of creativity and hidden genius locked inside of you, but to unlock your true inner genius and creativity.
You have to shift out of the negative states of fear, worry, stress and doubt and enter into the here and zone which is known as being in the zone in a flow like relaxed but alert state of mind and body.
Every time you think negative thoughts you shift more over into your negative files and you enter into what is known as your protective mind.
In this fear i
When you release your worries by getting out of the way and leaving your mind alone so it can calm down all by itself.
Then you will enter the flow like state and your creativity will begin to flow naturally and effortlessly just as it was designed to.
10) Make The Most Of Your Time
Your time is very valuable and precious to you, so make the most of it, the old saying " Your life is what you make it". We all could make more productive use of our time.
Although we need ample amounts of rest and relaxation, it is also important to keep your mind and yourself active and alive.
It is also important to realize that what you give your attention to, you will get more of it, because what we focus on expands, this includes your happiness, how good or bad you feel and how successful you become, so it's really important.
Learn to simplify your life, because you have only so much time in your day so you need to prioritize what is important and what is not and what can wait. This may mean cutting back on your commitments, even letting people down and having a bit more me time.
As there are only so many hours in a day, if you want to get more done, you either have to learn how to be more efficient and work at your maximum peak performance rate.
Avoid trying to get too much dome to soon, if you have a big goal, focus on one step at a time instead of looking at the bigger picture to avoid overwhelming yourself.
The secret is to work smarter and not harder or trying to forcefully go faster.
You can get more done and you will do it much better when you stop hurrying and you learn to stay calm as well as trying to enjoy what you're doing.
This way you will be surprised how much more you can get more done in the same amount of time.
11) Get The Positive Momentum Going
Life is all about momentum and direction and nearly everybody
There are only two types of momentum, you have positive momentum and negative momentum, positive momentum will make you feel good and it will move you in the right direction and towards where you want to be in life.
Whilst negative momentum will make you feel bad and stressed and it will take you further and further away from the place you want to be and feelings you want to experience.
There is only one exception to the rule and that is,
So choose to jump on board the positive bus and head down the road to success and happiness.
All The good things that you want and desire cannot be accessed in the negative energy frequencies what you want will only respond and show up when your consistently not thinking none resistant or opposing thoughts and you're feeling good and in the flow.
You can save so much time, hardship and you can learn so much just by studying others and following these steps and principals.
Applywhat you've learned
- Do and practice
13) Create Your Ideal Self Image
- That's not me
- I am not very good at
- I couldn't do that
- I am not the type of person
- I am not a confident person
- It's too difficult for me
- I am too shy
14) Be Kind And Considerate To Others
Be kind and considerate to others and yourself, sometimes when we argue we only see things from our point of view and we give very little attention to the other side of a disagreement.
Our egos can wreck relationships and friendships. Do not pursue your own interests or satisfy your own ego at the expense of others.
Although we perceive ourselves as individuals we are all as one, treat others with respect and you will have more chance of them returning it back,
We all have feelings and we all deserve to be treated well, also try not to judge or prejudge others and if you can avoid focusing on their bad points and the negative side of people unless it is truly justified otherwise they might just keep on showing that side of their personality to you.
15) Have A Healthy Balanced Varied Nutritional Diet
Reducing your stress and eating a healthy nutritional diet and making sure you do not dehydrate will help to lower your anxiety and reduce your stress.
If you have been experiencing long periods of worry, stress and anxiety, then you may need a good quality nutritional supplement especially the B vitamins and magnesium as stress and anxiety can deplete your body of its vital vitamins and mineral resources.
More and more people in the self development industry are realizing the importance of food and nutrition.
Many problems such as, digestive issues, bloating, mood swings, fatigue, low energy and much more are now believed to be a result of food intolerance and sensitivity.
Depression and many other emotional related issues, leaky gut, skin problems and digestive issues have been linked to nutrient deficiency or eating too many
Long term stress and anxiety can deplete your body of it's vital vitamins and nutrients.
Probiotics are known to help balance your gut by supplying healthy bacteria and they could help to reduce inflammation in the body.
Research has shown that Omega 3 may also lower inflammation as well as help to prevent some chronic diseases, it is also believed to help relieve certain skin conditions like psoriasis.
There are many more inflammation reducing foods like, green leafy vegetables, fruit, olive oil, nuts and garlic. If you're on prescription drugs, check with your doctor first.
If you find your healthy foods look a bit bland and unappetizing, then you can try adding some
If you're having a real bad time, have a good cry and then tell yourself your going to put up with this
Find a way of relaxing deeply, stay in the now ad choose to be happy and make sure you do not become dehydrated. (Do not drink excessive amounts of water in a short period of time.)
The universe only deals and speaks in the language of vibration, there are many different cultures and languages, but no matter what your cultural background or what native language you speak, all feelings are universal and the same.
When you're in the flow and the peace of the here and now then things will work out much better for, you will perform better, your creativity will increase and you will gain access to the universal guidance and intelligence.
Your energy controls everything from your financial situation, your health to a large degree, your relationships, how you feel, your thought processes and what you become and achieve.
Albert Einstein summed everything you need to know in his famous quote,
18) Raise Your Energy Vibration
- More focused,
- More intelligent
- More creative
- You will function better
- Your memory will be better
- You will perform better
- You will attract new opportunities
- It will help you resolve or solve problems
- Things will go better
- People and life will treat you better
- You will experience better health
- You will have better relationships
- You will feel better
So much of our stress and tension is because we are trying to pack too much into our day and these days, unlike our ancestors, most people live their life at a hundred miles per hour.
Trying to rush, setting unrealistic deadlines or thinking and planning too far ahead all contribute to more stress and tension. Sometimes we need to breathe deeply and deliberately slow ourselves down a touch.
You have to learn to take it easy, if you have a goal or task to complete take one step at a time and try to enjoy it.
If you think too far ahead and you focus on too many things in one go or you think about all the things you need to get done, it will begin to emotionally overwhelm you.
Avoid buying into the belief that you have to rush to meet work deadlines or personal jobs you need to do.
You will get more done and you will do it better if you stay calm and you don't try to deliberately hurry, work smarter, not faster, and cut back on your to do list or allow yourself more time.
20) Become A Morning Person
Become a morning person, if you listen to many people they will often say that they are not a morning person or they always feel moody, first thing in the morning.
The thing to be aware of is, if you keep repeating these kinds of statements, then you will continue to start the day off feeling negative.
Each new morning is a brand new day and a chance to wipe the slate clean.
As you wake up you will have a brief window of opportunity to set your emotional benchmark for the coming day ahead.
This is the time to grab the chance to feel good, and when you can break up the old patterns of negative thinking and take control of your thoughts, perceptions and emotions, rather than allowing your circumstances, thoughts and emotions will control you.
Because, the more you focus on the negative, the more negative stuff you will experience and the harder you will find it to be at your peak performance best.
Anytime that you're feeling negative, ask yourself why you feel low or why are you in a bad mood, evaluate your life and where you are right now with your goal, and take things from them.
Even spending a few minutes of gratitude and appreciation as you fall asleep, then as soon as you wake
21) Stop Trying To Hard
Life can be hard at times, but sometimes we can want something so much that it can actually lessen our chances of getting what we want.
Life is full of choices, and there is always an opposite possibility and alternative to everything that you want or have in your life which is all the things you don't want or all the things you would like but you don't have.
Some examples are as follows
- Feeling good/Feeling bad
- Having lots of money/Having very little money
- Good relationship/Bad relationship
Life should flow as easy and effortless as possible, but sometimes when we want something to badly we just try too hard to get it. In life, sometimes you just need to get out of the way and allow life to happen.
There is a greater force at work that will bring us the things we want, if we just trust and allow things to happen in their own time, when the time is right and you're emotionally aligned to receive all the good things that you want.
The harder you try for something, the more desperate you will become for that particular thing, and in life you generally get what you believe and not what you want.
Desperation, leads to negative energy, frustration and disappointment and negative energy, frustration and disappointment, will block off all the good that you're seeking.
To believe, you first have to have total faith and trust, that what you want will happen or it will come to you, all you need to do, is enjoy life, stay calm and take action when it is needed.
When we are not getting the results that we expect, it is common practice, to think we have to try even harder, or work even harder.
When you obsess and worry about what you want, but you don't yet have, you will cultivate the energy and the beliefs of not having, and your reality is a reflection of your subconscious beliefs and the energy that you project.
Sometimes you just need to let go of the need to try and control and make things happen, and just chill out a bit, and allow nature and the universe to work their magic.
22) Use Your Imagination Wisely
23) Only Deal With Things When Your Feeling Relaxed
If you want to perform better, improve your creativity, solve a problem, find an answer or tap into your true potential.
Then you need to learn how to relax first, because being calm is the key to all successes, discoveries and creativity.
Everything becomes easier when you're calm and balanced,
Yourperformance levels will increase,
- You will function better,
- Your reaction times quicken
- Your intelligence will increase
- You will sleep better,
- You will be more confident
- Things will generally work out better for you.
When you're stressed and anxious life becomes harder and you will struggle to perform well, but when you slow down and you learn to relax.
Then the answers to your problems will come to you or you will find your problems just melt away into insignificance because a problem can not stay active without the fuel of negative energy.
24) Take Time To Meditate
25) Find Your Purpose In Life
Everybody needs a purpose in life, as young adults our purpose can be to bring up a family and buy and design your home.
This is when you may benefit greatly by finding your life's purpose, of course you don't have to wait until
It does not matter
Having a purpose will motivate, inspire and energize you, it will stop you feeling bored and it can also reward you financially.
It can pay you to find or do things you love, you enjoy or you good at, it certainly is not what others have told you what to do.
Your life purpose could be anything, it should be something that makes you feel good, things you are passionate about, it should also be something that challenges you and keeps you growing.
Numerology can help you to discover your true life's purpose.
Doing something that
26) Calm Your Worrying Mind
No one likes to be criticized, most people don't even like being advised, and although you should not have to put up with constant harsh criticism or insults, often, those who criticize are doing it because they are insecure about themselves.
The universe is always trying to help us and give us subtle clues and hints on what we need to do, this universal guidance can come in the form of our thoughts and intuition, but make sure you can tell the difference between your intuition and your ego.
But sometimes, help will come through other people's comments, advice or suggestion.
Because, sometimes other people can see things and notice things about where we're going wrong when it is not always so obvious to ourselves.
So as long as it is not unwelcome advice or harsh and uncalled for criticism, don't always dismiss it or be too offended.
Take it on board and see if you can learn something from it, because there are times when our critics can also be our best mentors, so use the criticism to motivate and inspire you to be and do better.
If people are being intentionally nasty or hurtful.
Always remember, that people's negative suggestion, harsh judgements, critical words, hurtful remarks or spiteful comments, are not true and they cannot hurt you, until you decide to believe them or you let them in.
The real problem begins when you start to buy into them and accept them as being true, or you choose to react badly to them, the same rule applies, to your own critical voice.
Imagine you have a protective bubble around you which is protecting you, so no matter what anybody says they cannot penetrate your bubble so nobody can upset or hurt you ever again.
28) Listen To Your Body
Learn to listen to your body because when you experience pain, discomfort both physical and emotional it is your subconscious mind trying to tell you that there is something that needs addressing so try and uncover the root source of your problems and then address them.
When you're thinking about what you don't want your emotions will let you know that you need to change your perceptions or your focus of attention, when you're reliving negative or sad memories your emotions will remind you of how bad you felt at the time so give your attention to something more pleasant.
When you're tired or exhausted, it means you need to rest and many skin conditions can be a result of a reaction to certain food's whilst stress is responsible for a large amount of illnesses.
29) We Think Too Much
Although positive, creative and constructive thinking can be helpful and essential for us at times to create, problem solve, become more successful and design, most adults tend to over think things too much.
If your thoughts are general or neutral, then that's fine, but if they are causing you emotional pain, worry or anxiety and keeping you stuck in a negative place in your mind, then it's time to let those thoughts go and pick a better feeling subject or train of thoughts.
Humans spend too much time hooked up into negative and self destructive thinking, when really they should get out of their head and observe and enjoy more, whilst they engage
If you observe animals or young children then you will notice that they don't worry, they just focus on enjoying and observing.
If your thoughts are making you feel bad, then ignore them and ditch them, or change the subject.
30) Enjoy Your Personal Growth Journey
We are all work in progress, no matter what
When people have been on a self development journey for a while they forget how far they have come and how they used to be. Your journey should be made as enjoyable as possible.
Every successful person or high achiever had to start
But you won't reach the top or achieve your dreams and ambitions if you don't take the first step.
Most people don't change until they are forced to change, but you don't have to wait to reach a point of desperation before you decide to make your life better.
31) Do The Things You Enjoy
You're here to enjoy yourself and not just please and conform to other people's idea's and ways of living their life. There is nothing more important to you than to feel good so you should make it your number one goal.
Many self help experts suggest if you're not doing something to improve yourself, then it's not worth doing some even recommend avoiding doing activities like watching TV.
Although it is good practice to keep on growing, learning and striving to be the very best version of yourself, you should also do the things that you enjoy and if you like watching TV then watch it.
Be a bit selfish and put yourself first from time to time, if you like staying in, stay in if you like going out then go out more often.
Your goal should be doing the things you like and enjoy doing, things that give you joy and not do what others think is the right thing for you.
So if doing things that is deemed boring to others, but it makes you happy then that it is improving your life and well-being.
In fact, you need very little to be happy, most people want things to make them happy, but happiness is nothing more than a state of being and it is free and does not cost anything
32) Avoid Procrastination
We all have chores, goals and tasks we need to do, if it is something that you feel passionate and excited about then it will be easy to motivate yourself to do the
But it is not so easy to get out of bed at the weekend to do the mundane chores and tasks that sometimes need to do such as house and garden maintenance or pursuing your goals when you feel tired.
To avoid procrastination write a to do list or make one in your head, to avoid overwhelm priorities in order of preference and importance.
You do not have to do your tasks every weekend, just make a plan and timeline of when you intend to do each job, this will help to get you motivated when the time comes.
When you have to get started on something, be decisive, try not to spend too much time thinking about, just do it otherwise you will talk yourself out of it or you will come up with all the reasons why you don't want to do it.
33) Praise Yourself And Focus On All The Good You Do
What keeps most people stuck and negative is when they assume that there must be something wrong with them or somehow they are not good enough or smart enough.
But if you exist, then this means your equal to everybody else, you're good enough and you have limitless potential because creation makes everybody equal at source.
So it's time to forget about what has gone, what is going wrong or what could go wrong and focus all your attention on all the good about you and what can and will be.
Get into the habit of spotting and focusing all the good things you do and all the great things you can achieve if you focus your mind with positive energy.
Praise yourself up for everything you do well no matter how small, congratulate yourself and write down in a journal any progress or successes you have and you will be rewarded with positive feelings and appreciation for your true inner self and source.
34) You Do Not Have To Fix Everything
We have been led to believe that we have to fix or deal with everything because we think that something is wrong with us that needs to be put right.
But you already have everything you need and you already have access to how you choose to feel.
Most people think that there is something wrong with them or they believe they're not worthy or good enough which is the underlying root cause of low self esteem.
This however is not true, and if someone has told you or made you feel that you're not good enough, or you find yourself telling yourself.
Then remember, this is just a bad statement and all statements can easily be turned around, so constantly let you know that you are worthy, deserving and good enough.
Because, it is not a case of there is something wrong with you and you need to improve, you just need to learn how to unleash the real you, your real true potential and strive to be the best version of yourself.
35) Start Applying Your New Knowledge
Knowledge can be powerful but it is only powerful if you apply it to your life to make your life better. These days there are a lot of helpful information and advice available at the push of a button.
You should always carry on learning until you take your final breaths, but information and knowledge won't change or improve your life unless you start applying that information to your daily life.
Because the application is what makes everything happens and gets thoughts into motion, because without application and the groundwork, change cannot happen and you will not get the life and the results that you're seeking.
Information and knowledge helps us to learn new facts and help us to start to understand things, it can inspire us and activate positive inspiration and motivation which can bring to us new idea's and possibilities.
But if you want positive changes and you want to become more successful then you need to apply your newly discovered knowledge into action because all the high achievers turn idea's, opportunities and information into action and activity.
You should always carry on learning until you take your final breaths, but information and knowledge won't change or improve your life unless you start applying that information to your daily life.
Because the application is what makes everything happens and gets thoughts into motion, because without application and the groundwork, change cannot happen and you will not get the life and
Information and knowledge helps us to learn new facts and help us to start to understand things, it can inspire us and activate positive inspiration and motivation which can bring to us new idea's and opportunities.
36) Aim To Get Better
Most people fall into the trap of allowing their past mistakes, embarrassments and failures to cause them to fear a similar thing happening to them again.
This pattern of thinking and
Instead of allowing your past to impact and negatively influence you, stop focusing on the negative or your shortcomings and failures, and only focus on ways on how you can improve or perform better.
Learn and study as well as striving to be the best version of yourself. Analyze your mistakes, and try to learn something that will make you better.
You have not got to spend all your time positive thinking, just ignore the negative and try to use constructive thinking.
Read more, learn more skills, work on your health and fitness and use the power of your mind to self educate and improve your talents and your creative capabilities, instead of training your mind to self sabotage and self doubt yourself
If you want more energy, if you want to keep focused, if you want to face and overcome any challenges so you get better results,
Because, if you want to perform at your best, if you want to become more productive, experience less stress and be more efficient then you may need to get a bit more sleep.
It is recommended by many scientific studies that on average to be our very best we need between seven to eight hours sleep per night and although it may not always be possible it is something you should try to aim for.
If you're surviving on not enough sleep, then your cognitive abilities, your functional abilities and your ability to deal with stressful challenges will reduce and take a dip.
38) Keep Asking Yourself Empowering Questions
The way to come up with a solution to a particular problem that you may have or if you're trying to work your way through a challenge is to ask yourself empowering questions.
Because every time you ask your mind a question and this applies to both negative and positive questions your mind has to search for and come up with an answer or solution.
So if you need to solve a problem, lets say you want to lose weight ask yourself, then how can I type of question, but avoid using negative questions, like why am I overweight and instead said to yourself something like.
How can I lose weight and become fit and healthy or lets say you want to have more money, again, don't focus on why you're
Although, asking the how questions can help solve a problem, for goal success ask yourself or to get the things in life that you want, ask the why questions as this can lead you to focus on all the positive reasons why you want something which will hold you in a positive creative energy.
We all have conversations with the chatterbox that lives in our heads and there seems to be a different inner voice and a different story to match the different emotional states we go in and out.
Your inner critical voice and mental chatterbox are always busy telling you all the things that are wrong with your life or all the things you should or should not do or all the fears and dangers you should be aware of.
That inner voice can really drag you down and frustrate you at times and at times it never seems to shut up, sometimes the thoughts that enter our mind are abhorrent and they do not comply with our true charcator, some people define them as their demons.
What you need to be aware of is, these horrible or critical thoughts in your mind, are not you and they are not true, therefore
- You do not have to take any notice of them
- You do not have to accept them
- You do not have to believe or trust them
- You do not have to follow them or run with them
If you allow that inner negative voice to continue to dominate and control you, then they will carry on causing you endless pain.
But if you see them just as a nuisance and junk thoughts, that everybody has and you refuse to get emotionally involved with, and you cease to listen or be bothered by them, then those demons will move on.
The best way to deal with your demons and tame that critical voice, is to stop taking them seriously, ignore them and just allow them to come and go as quickly as possible, realize that they are not you, and think about something else.
Although you should never try to stop your inner voice, you can start to override it because you are in charge of how you wish to think and how you choose to feel.
When you bring yourself back into the peace of the present moment, the demons cannot access that feel good energy state.
We all tell ourselves stories based on our circumstances and how we're feeling, some of these stories and perceptions are lies and untrue, so if you don't like the story in your mind change it to a better one.
You can say to your inner voice, that's simply not true, you have no evidence to back up that belief, there is no logical reason for me to be afraid so I am not going to believe what you're saying or creating.
These thoughts might come back but each time you ignore or challenge that inner voice and start to change those unhelpful beliefs and in time the less and less they will come back meaning no more stress, anxiety and feeling bad.
40) Pirotitise Your Tasks
We all have chores and goals we want or have to do, but the more our tasks pile on top of us and the more we think about how much we have got to get done it can all start to feel a bit stressful and a bit overwhelming.
The key is to write a things to do list, and jot down in order of importance, all the things you want or need to
Then only focus and only work on one thing at a time or one step of your goal at a time, otherwise if you look
41) Experience A Bit Of Solitude
Although we are social creatures sometimes we could all do with a bit of solitude to grow, rest and to better ourselves.
Having some me time and finding somewhere quiet and peaceful to retreat where there are no distractions and where you can either
Some individuals find it hard
But a bit of peaceful solitude will help to reduce anxiety and your stress will melt away, plus it will help tap into your creativity and help you grow both spiritually and mentally.
It's all about tuning out of your everyday stresses and tuning into who you really are at
You can take a walk in nature or spend time in the country or you can just find somewhere peaceful to relax for a while.
Because you have to grow and build from within and strength, happiness, peace of mind and confidence all come from within.
42) You Are Responsible For Your Own Life
You are responsible for your own life, your future, how you feel and to a large degree your own health, everything we do is a choice so choose wisely and healthily.
In each and every one of us has a happy you, an angry you, a sad you, an anxious you a stressful you are and a successful you, so with that in mind choose to be the you that you want to be.
43) Ask For Help
Do not feel
This can be asking someone for help and guidance, it could involve searching
But what you need to be aware of is, you're never alone and the universe is always there to help and guide you, yet most people are not even aware of the universal intelligent mind and network of information.
When you pose a question to yourself then your mind has to come back with an answer and your all powerful subconscious mind which is connected and has access to the unified intelligent mind.
So if you have a worry, a solution to find or problem to overcome.
Keep asking yourself searching questions starting with the why's, what or how's to your problems, goals and challenges.
Typical types of examples could be, why do I feel sad, anxious, angry
Try to stay out of your head, practice putting all your focus on external things instead of focusing on yourself.
44) Love Is All That You Need
We all crave for love, everybody is searching for someone to love and everybody wants to be loved back or to feel loved.
Love is the most powerful of all emotions and everybody desires it. But sometimes in our desperation to love and be loved we rely solely on our partners to love and to love us back.
The trouble is, when you're reliant on somebody else to love and love you back you're never going to have their full dived love and attention all the time.
Other people have their own interests and problems so they are not always guaranteed to give you the love you want.
It is important to know and remind yourself that your inner being always loves you and the real thing that matters the most is loving yourself.
How often do you look in the mirror and say. "I like myself or
Learn to love and appreciate you, all the good things that you have, all that is good about you and your life and anything else that you can think of.
45) It's Your Opinion Of Yourself That Really Matters
The criticism and negative suggestions from others about you and how well you have been treated can have a damaging impact on your self image, your self esteem and your self worth.
If you buy into the beliefs and comments made towards you by others, then this can cause you to have low opinions about yourself and it can cause negative self talk.
But remember it's your own opinion of yourself that really matters so as long as you start to like yourself and you develop a strong and positive opinion and high regard for yourself then no one else can hurt you or keep you small.
The single biggest thing in your life that will raise your self esteem and self worth is to master your self talk because your inner self talk is the route to greater confidence, a better and more successful life and a greater you.
When things aren't going to plan, that old self defeating inner voice can start to tell us stories of failure or we're not good enough.
But remember that negative inner voice is not you, it does not belong to you, so start to override it and define yourself as a success and a worthwhile person.
46) Decide What You Want And Do It
Sometimes we just hesitate to much or over think something and end up talking ourselves out of doing it or we give up too soon or we follow and listen to much to our negative emotions and thoughts.
Sometimes in life you have to just decide what you want and then just do it, a little bit of preparation can be a good thing so long as your giving yourself self encouragements and praise but sometimes the more you think about doing something the more you will either scare yourself or self doubt yourself.
It's your life experiences that make you stronger or weaker depending on how you react to them, what you learn from them and the challenges you face or avoid.
Thoughts and words don't teach you a thing, but they can take away your true powers and capabilities by tricking you into believing your imagination is true and real.
Knowing everything will
47) Create Good Habits
Nearly all our
If you have any bad or unwanted habits, then you need to replace them with good ones because some habits can be bad for your health, block your success and waste your time.
We can form habits
48) You Have Choices
No matter where you are in life or how bad your situation is remember that you always have better choices and other options and possibilities and if you take control of your life and situations then your life can and does get better.
If you don't like your job you can choose to find another, if your hand around with negative or nasty friends you can make new friends and if your in a bad or abusive relationship you have the choice to break up.
The key is to chill out about the things that are not in your control and learn how to change your perceptions and how you respond to them.
No ones own you and you always have the choice to live your life on your terms and if something is not good for you or working out for you then change it.
49) Look For The Good
If you look hard enough, you will find that there are many good things to be found in this world and there are many good things about you, yet most people pick out one bad thing or experience and they give it all their attention.
Try to look for the positive in each situation, look for the good in you and learn to focus on your strengths instead of your weakness and develop a positive and optimistic attitude that everything will work out even when everything seems to be going wrong.
50) Give Your Mind Clear Instructions
Most people allow their brain to influence their thoughts, feelings, decisions,
Your mind is a very powerful tool when used correctly yet it can be your worst enemy when it is misused or left to think on auto pilot which can result in a life of misery, limitations and pain.
Get into the habit of thinking your way into alignment and flow and give your mind clear instructions of what you want because the secret to a more successful,
51) Read And Relax
Make the most of your time and make it a habit to read more because reading will stimulate and invigorate you plus it is also a great way to learn, grow both intellectually and spiritually and it is a great way to relax and unwind so it's a win, win situation.
If you combine your reading with listening to some soothing and relaxing classical music you will boost the relaxation benefits and you will absorb the information better.
If you do this at night for the last thirty minutes or so instead of stimulating yourself by watching action packed TV or using digital devices or video gaming then you will have a great way to unwind and calm down which will help you to fall into a
52) Enjoy Being You
Although socializing and having a network of a supporting family and a close circle of good friends around you is important, it is as equally as important to get to know yourself better and learn to like yourself and enjoy your own company.
When you are alone in being nice to yourself and get to know the real inner you who is your loyal and true friend who is always with you so make peace with yourself. Find things to occupy yourself because your alone time is a great opportunity to learn and to get thing's done.
Having a good and meaningful relationship with yourself is essential for your well-being, talk to yourself like you would with a close friend and start to enjoy and make the most of your own company which has its good points because there will be no one to distract you or annoy you.
53) Breathing Exercise To Calm Your Body And Flatten Your Stomach
Breathing correctly is essential to balance your mind and body and to bring you back into the calm and power of the now.
When were feeling stressed or anxious our breathing becomes shallow and rapid which can trigger off the other symptoms of stress.
By taking a few slow,
Taking some slow, deep breaths every few hours making sure the out breath is longer than the in one is a great way to restore balance to both your mind and body especially when you have to face challenging and stressful situations.
If you want to get some extra benefit from your breathing exercises then you can also strengthen and flatten your stomach at the same time.
You can start by taking a deep breath in through your mouth and then hold for a few seconds, then slowly exhale through your mouth, but as you exhale suck in your stomach so it comes back towards your spine, then hold for a few seconds and repeat ten or more times and do this a few times a day.
We all have goals, we all want things and we all want to perform well, but sometimes our desire to have or be something can become so strong that we lose the enjoyment and our focus turns to more of a negative focus.
Set your objectives and intentions, aim for personal excellence, but enjoy the journey. At times we heap way too much pressure on our self to do well that it ends up causing more stress, frustration and tension which has an adverse effect on us.
Wanting something or wanting more is perfectly natural, but when you want something too bad then it can cause you to either try too hard or become too desperate, which actually works against you by repelling and preventing you from having the success or things you want.
This is very common with sports stars who are very skillful and talented when they are practicing or when they are relaxed but as soon as they get to a pressured moment like when they are close to victory, the nerves and anxiety kick in and they all of a sudden fall apart.
To improve your chances of success, still want to win, do well or perform well, but take the pressure off yourself by taking away the importance, neediness, desperation and significance of the outcome with the attitude of your doing your best and your enjoying what you do.
Do your best, allow for setbacks and focus on the area's you want to improve without any pressure attached, because wanting something too much can lead to feelings of desperation and frustration which can work against you.
55) Positive expectancy
One of the most powerful creative forces in the known universe is the power of expectation, and this applies to both positive and negative expectations.
To achieve your desires, you have to set the universal wheels and energies in motion, and to increase your chances of you achieving your desires, it is important to expect what you want to happen, before it does happen with an unwavering faith and positive certainty.
Expecting your desired outcome before it has happened is the hardest part for many people, because it is human nature to allow what they are currently observing or experiencing or thoughts of lack and not happening to determine how they think, feel and act.
If you can see it, you can have or become it, your thoughts and feelings have
So ditch the negative expectations, otherwise you will keep on getting more negative results and try to make it a habit to expect good things to happen, because winners expect to win and successful people expect to be successful.
So expect with confidence, and if you follow this policy, then bit by bit, more good things will start to come your way.
So let success in all you do, be your objective, focus on things going well instead of things going not well, focus on things getting better instead of things getting worse, and focus on feeling good instead of feeling bad and focus on doing well instead of not doing well.
56) Do Not Chase Happiness
Nearly everybody in the world as one primary goal and desire in their life which is to be happy and stay happy and many people will go to great lengths to try and find happiness or to obtain and do things that will make them happy.
But true lasting happiness does not work that way, and there is no need to chase happiness because you already have it and it is just a case of tapping into it and choosing to be happy.
One of the things that will deprive you of happiness is when you make external things and material possessions a condition of your happiness. It's OK to want the good things in life, but first be grateful for what you have already got.
Really happiness is, living in the now and being in that flow like state, where you refuse to allow your external circumstances and your past to influence your thought processes and your feelings.
If you want true long happiness, then learn to relax and ignore what is and the outside world and cultivate your happiness from within by focusing more on your spiritual self rather than just your physical world.
58) Stop Trying To Be Perfect
Many people feel the need to be perfect, but being a perfectionist is a bad way of living your life, and in fact, trying to be perfect, will take you further away from perfection.
Perfection, can be the root source of many negative emotions, which lead to obsessive thinking, obsessive
There is nothing wrong with wanting to achieve excellence, and setting yourself high standards, and there is a big difference between wanting to do your very best and trying to be perfect, because there is nothing wrong with wanting to be the best.
Perfection, however, is often linked to anxiety and fear, people who want perfection, often have self esteem issues,
People who try to be perfect often have an underlying fear of being judged or talked about by others, you will find that they care too much about what other people think of them and they will feel the need to always try and look good or attempt to impress others.
One of the most common of all human fears is, the fear of what other people think or say. We are all social beings, and we all like to come across well, and be what we think is normal.
Worrying about what others think about us, also leads to feelings of self consciousness, social anxiety and it prevents us from functioning socially at our peak performance best.
The truth is, other people do not spend all their day thinking about you because they to are far too busy trying to solve their own problems and better their own lives.
Life is not always perfect, and
- Give up the urge to try and control everything,
- Stop trying so hard, and enjoy what you're doing
- Stop resisting,
- Stop fighting with what you don't want,
- Learn to let it go
- Trust that life and what you want will work out and
Alloweverything to happen naturally
- Accept yourself,
- Make peace with yourself
- Be at one with yourself and everything about you
Whether you are single or in a relationship from time to time it will not do you any harm to be more independent and self indulgent, do not feel embarrassed or ashamed to do things on your own, because nobody owns you.
We grow stronger from doing things, so step out of your comfort zone and find out more about yourself and what you want, buy a ticket and hop on the bus or train by yourself as travelling is one of the best ways to learn and experience life more.
You might feel a little apprehensive at first, but feel the emotions and still do it. You can learn so much more about yourself by going out alone and it can give your confidence a boost, make an effort to speak to strangers, especially if they are alone.
Think about yourself more and put your needs first every now and again, if that means being a bit selfish,
If you have a point to make say it, you don't have to be argumentative or aggressive, but you also don't always have to hold back either.
Sometimes you have to experience the bad to find the good, in time you will learn from your experiences what makes you feel good and what does not, so you will k
"If you carry on doing things the same way, then you will keep on getting the same results".
What you will need to do is focus on the solution, instead of beating yourself up over your problem.
The first step though is to calm your mind and relax your body so you can get out of the negative energy of your problem, then either research or ask your mind some questions.
Make a list of, where you think you might be going wrong and why you think you have your problem.
Analyze and evaluate your problem, and write down or ask yourself, what can you do to make things better or what you can do to solve your problem.
You can also research others who have had the same problem and overcome it.
Wait until the solution comes to you or it is presented to you, and take any action that is required, if you have done everything that you can, release your problem and move on.
Once you have done everything that you can, or there is not forthcoming solution to your problem, then you will need to accept it and let it go.
Techniques like meditation can take you out of the energy of the problem and it can transform you to the calm energy where the solution can be found.
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