What Is Confidence-Learn How To Feel More Confident Bold And Self Assured
To be more self assured and successful you need to act, think and feel confident, life is what you make it and you will become what you you tell yourself. Just by acting more bold simply by using your body in a relaxed and confident poised posture can help, so a good place to start is to act as if your already a confident person.
Self confidence or lack of it is formed by how you handle and react to past experiences the mind tends to remember negative experience more than positive ones if you live in the past fear and doubt will sabotage your chances of success.
But just acting confident is not usually enough the real secret to natural long lasting self confidence lies in the subconscious mind and this is where you need to access and change your current blue print of your mind.
What Is Confidence
Confidence is something you need to build and develop, it is not something that suddenly happens and turns up out of nowhere, it happens when you work at it, we all possess the ability to be more confident and it is something that you can learn to increase with practice when you are working hard at improving certain area's of your life.
So what is confidence, it is a feeling or state, it is your ability do do something moderately well or even very well, it is a well practiced habit and we all have it to some degree in our life, it is our natural birth right, why we lack it how we have reacted to negative experiences.
Increasing your self confidence can totally change your life, it can allow you to achieve huge success when you set out your goals and intentions, you already have all of the resources you need to succeed, one of the first things you need to do is stop all the negative internal resistance within, in other words you need to calm and quieten the mind and relax the body, this is you natural state of poise and confidence.
It is the negative emotions that causes all the resistance and limitations which sets you up for failure and low self esteem. To be more successful you have to feel very confident, to achieve this it is important to create positive feelings and emotions, you need to think and say positive statements, you will need to exhibit more self control and composed in all situations you wish to perform and do things better.
Fear Will Rob You Of Your Confidence
The biggest enemy to self-confidence is fear and anxiety. Fear blocks your confidence, it severely limits your ability to do things the two don't bode well together, they are opposite states, you cannot feel confident if you are experiencing feelings of fear and anxiety.
Some of the fears are
People with a lack of self-confidence can even tend to think that there must be something wrong with them yet it is no different to learning any other new skill, the worlds top sports athletes spend hours practicing both mentally and physically to reach their maximum performance levels. Another reason for low confidence is constant criticism and ridicule.
Everybody can feel a little nervous or fearful when they take on a new challenge the only difference between the successful and those you are not is the successful don't let fear hold them back.
Use Your Imagination To Better Yourself
Sometimes when we take on a new challenge we need to run the situation through our subconscious mind with the aid of our imagination. When a racing driver has to do a new circuit they visualize it over and over again in their imagination until they know it automatically.
Self-doubt can also play a big role in reducing you're self-confidence so you need to work on overcoming your self-doubt which is when you have those feelings of uncertainty in your ability to attempt or accomplish a tasks or situation.
Start to eradicate all the I cant's, I am no good at and it's not me and replace them with more of the I cans, like I can do that, if you keep telling yourself you can't do this or your no good at that, guess what that's what the universe gives you more of what you tell yourself you can't do.
Confidence is a thing that can take a long while to build up, but you can lose it very quickly. When things go wrong people start to focus even more on things going wrong which can send them on a downward spiral. When things go wrong and they do for everybody, you have to take a step back, assess the situation, decide on what action you need to take and then bounce straight back.
Many people believe for some reason other peeople are better than them; a lot of us believe that we are not naturally a confident person and we have the misconception that people we deem to be more confident are born that way.
These beliefs are not only wrong but they can also hold us back and limit what we can achieve, self-confidence is just a skill which anybody can develop, the rate you improve can vary from each person but we all have the capability to improve.
Self-Confidence Is A Feeling of Certainty When You Are Facing Uncertainty
A lot of people have the wrong belief and the wrong perception about what is self-confidence, firstly it is not about being arrogant and loud, thinking your somehow that you are better than others, and it certainly isn't about putting others down.
Self-confidence is about being comfortable with yourself and believing in your own capabilities, you need to value yourself and see yourself as a worth while person. You need to know that you can easily handle the situations and challenges that may arise with a poise and a calm composure.
Be yourself and just act naturally is sometimes all you have to, while at the same time keep challenging yourself and grow in confidence slowly but progressively and continuously. do you believe in yourself,most people don't, your belief in your self can have a massive impact on your behaviours and how much success you achieve in the future.
The way you think about yourself in conjunction with the challenges you have to face or the goals you set yourself can have a big impact on your personal levels of success you achieve and the results you get.
Improve your self confidence in 15 minutes
I used to be frighteningly under confident in social situations. And although people who know me now would never believe I used to doubt myself so much I literally had to learn confidence until it became a natural part of me. I can tell you relaxed optimistic confidence is just, well so much more fun.
Here I'll tell you about the things that made the most difference to my confidence levels...
Some people have naturally high levels of confidence but everybody can learn to be more confident
Firstly, it's important to get a clear idea of what self confidence really means, otherwise you won't know when you've got it! So, self confidence means:
1) Being calm. For every situation in life you need to run on the appropriate level of emotion. Too much emotional 'leakage' into a experience can spoil the experience. You make great strides towards confidence when you begin to relax in a greater range of situations.
2) Being cool. The second part of self confidence is about being able to relax with uncertainty. To be 'cool' in a situation really means relaxing with not knowing how things will pan out. If you truly tolerate uncertainty, you can do pretty much anything.
3) Not being too concerned with what others think of you. You know when you imagine what some place is going to be like before you go there but when you get there it is totally different to your imagination? That's how reliable your imagination is! Stop trusting your imagination so much. I've long since stopped bothering to imagine what others think of me because so often I've turned out to be wrong.
4) Being specific - where do you want confidence? 'Confidence' is meaningless until you tie it to something specific. You are already confident that you can read these words or can switch a light on and off. So you don't need more confidence everywhere. To get what you want in life you have to establish exactly what you do want. Where do you want confidence in your life? Think about the specific situations now and write them down. You beginning to steer your brain towards confidence.
5) Understanding that what you expect is what you get. Your brain is an organ that needs clear goals to work towards. When a task has been set in your brain it will do everything it can do to bring about the completion of that task. If you've tried to recall someone's name but can't, hours later you'll often find their name pops into your head.
The 'trying to recall' experience set the task or blueprint for your brain's future subconscious behaviour which eventually produced the name for you - when you weren't thinking about it consciously. You can use this natural mechanism to start feeling more confident. But, to ensure you set the right task for your subconscious mind, the next point is vital.
6) Don't task your mind with negatives. Instead of: 'I don't want to screw up' (which sets the task of 'screwing up' for your brain), set the blueprint for what you do want! Your brain doesn't work towards what to do by being told what not to do. And nature has given you a wonderful natural tool to set the right task blueprints with.
7) Use nature's goal-setter: Now you understand how vital it is to set the right task for you brain, you need to know how to do this reliably. Good hypnosis will strongly 'program' the right blueprint in your mind through the use of your imagination. If you powerfully imagine feeling confident and relaxed while in a relaxed hypnotic state it will be hard for your unconscious mind to do anything else. The blueprint for relaxation has been set firmly into your subconscious mind.
3 simple strategies to get you feeling confident quickly:
1) Think specifically of the time/place/situation you want to feel confident in. Remember 'confidence' doesn't mean anything until you attach it to something specific.
2) Focus on words in your mind right now that describe how you do want to be in that time and place. Maybe words such as 'calm', 'relaxed' or 'focused'. Remember your brain works on clear positive instructions.
3) Close your eyes for as long as you like and think about how those words feel. Then, imagine the situation itself and rehearse it in your mind feeling confident and relaxed. This way you set the right blueprint or 'task' for your unconscious mind.
You can repeat this often to make it more effective and use it with as many areas of your life as you need to. If you listen to a hypnotic cd or download that can make the benefits even more powerful (see my profile below). So if you feel like you'd be blessed with less confidence than some other people you can start redressing the balance by using your mind in the right way right now.
It took me years to learn how to be more confident - now you can do it in a fraction of the time. Good luck!
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Some Tips On How To Gain Confidence
If you want to become more socially successful in all area's of your life you need to reduce your anxiety, increase your confidence, and develop more charisma.
The trouble is when we try and change any these issues which are stopping us feel comfortable in social situations, we run into the same voice in our heads that keeps piping up and says "No you can't." This is the major stumbling block with many people because this is the part of your brain that is blocking your path to success.
This is the part of the brain we call the subconscious mind and this is what we must conquer in order to grow and succeed. Hypnosis is a powerful tool these days which will allow you to accomplish those desired changes without letting your mind and it's "I cant's " from preventing you achieving the levels of personal success and social confidence you seek and deserve.
Build Your Self-Confidence
In order to build your self-confidence you need to start to change the way you perceive yourself and your circumstances stop thinking about yourself so much unless it is a positive outlook of your life, don't label yourself with negative statements like I can't or It's not me or I am unlucky or I always have bad luck or nothing ever goes right for me otherwise you will create self-fulfilling prophecies and when you believe these statements they will reflect in your life and happiness.
Daily Affirmations For Increasing Self-Confidence
Some affirmations you can use to become more self-confident are,
Your Body Is As Equally Important As your Mind
There are two areas you can focus on to increase your confidence so you feel good about yourself, they are external factors and internal factors (spiritual). Most people associate confidence with the mind but it goes much deeper than that.
Your physiology plays a significant role to, to feel at your peak you need to feel energized and your body should be relaxed. Remember your body are intimately linked, if you use your body in a confident way you will become more confident and you will feel better and you will have more positive thoughts.
Your thoughts affects your posture and your posture affects the type of thoughts you will have, so what ever you think about will affect how you feel, in other words your thoughts and your posture both affect each other and how you feel.
Tiredness and burnout can both significantly affect your confidence levels, the state you should be aiming for is a positive feel good state. When your tired and your body is run down your energy levels become depleted and you will start to feel run down and low which will induce a state of low confidence emotions.
So get plenty of rest and relaxation, get some good quality sleep, eat healthy energizing foods not short term boosters like sugary snacks or caffeine. Keep well hydrated, but don't consume excessive amounts of water. Do not over work as this can cause burnout, although it is important to exercise be sensible about it, eat the right amount of proteins and carbohydrates to match your workout, if you feel rundown ease off a bit.
Take Care Of Your Physical Appearance
Take care of your physical appearance, have a new haircut, buy some new cloths, bright and bold colours can make you feel more confident, red is one particular colour that can make feel more confident. Go to the gym and improve your body, plus the exercise can give you a feel good boost..
To instantly increase your self-esteem and confidence, adopt a confident body stance. If you are sitting down and you feel under-confident lean back for a minute or two, interlock your hands behind your head while holding your head level.
Although your posture and body language has a big influence on your confidence levels, never sit or stand stiff and rigid your body should be upright and neutralized in a natural relaxed stance.
When your socializing speak up, don't be afraid to get your point heard, focus on what other people are saying rather than focusing on how your doing and feeling, stop yourself from becoming introvert and turning in on yourself.
Act confident and try and maintain eye contact with the people your talking to, smile when your entering a social situation and smile when your talking to others. Be more agreeable with people, by doing this your make them feel good and your get on better with others.
The other area to concentrate on is your spiritual side and your inner self-image, use positive self-talk about yourself, use encouraging language. Use your imagination to see things going right, stop allowing your imagination to scare you to death and prevent it over analyzing things. Don't tag yourself as not being confident or not being good at something.
Be grateful for who you are and what you have go. Learn to accept yourself, this includes any flaws and faults you believe you might have. Be polite and thank people for anything they do for you. Praise yourself and give praise to others, act as if your already a confident person, when you feel confident on the inside you will appear confident on the outside.
Stop Focusing On Things Going Wrong
What lowers people's confidence and prevents them from achieving their true potential is worrying about making a mistake or spending too much time focusing on how they are coming across in front of others and being hard and critical on themselves when they have made a mistake.
What causes negative resistance is focusing on things that might go wrong or thinking about situations that have gone wrong in the past, start conditioning yourself to think about things going right and in the future ignore any negative thoughts and only focus on good things.
Learn to let go and forgive yourself, strive for progressive improvements instead of perfection, you will achieve little if you try and be perfect it can stop you moving forward. When things go wrong accept what's happened and move on,
Sometime we need to take risks to grow and develop, we are talking about confident risk taking to better your life but not taking silly risks taking. It is better to have a go and get it wrong, than to not attempt or shy away from doing or saying something. Face your fears and do some of the things you are afraid of.
Even if things don't go so well still praise yourself up for trying and just visualize that situation several times going how you would like it to go, this is how you grow in strength and confidence.
Do more of the things you feel under confident or uncomfortable about.There are two ways you can do this; first you can just learn through practice and repetition and secondly you can use your imagination to repeatedly mentally rehearse within your mind things going exactly as you want them to go.
This is how many sports stars and successful people do it until it becomes so practiced it becomes a subconscious habit which happens automatically so you don't have to think about it or make a conscious effort.
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