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58 Self Improvement Tips 

One of the main reasons why people cannot change or become successful is often because, in this modern day era, everybody wants and demands a quick fix or an instant solution.

Quick fixes tend to be temporary and they tend to treat the symptoms, but they do not treat and fix the root cause of the problem, and when you don't correct the root source of a problem, then more often than not the problem will return.

Many problems, especially personal and emotional problems evolve over a period of time. They will usually start off as a small issue but, when they get left untreated, or you give them too much attention, then the momentum soon grows and the original issue can turn into a major issue.

Change can take effort, learning and time, a lot depends on how many negative neural associations you have created that need to be changed. 

Life can be hard at times, just try not to make it any harder than it has to be. We will all experience many ups and downs, and at times life can seem challenging and even unfair and cruel, so you have not got to feel happy all of the time.

totoinnfluencedThe secret is, do not stay down for long, and try not to become emotional  and affected by your external situations and circumstances, because we all have the inner resources and strength to quickly bounce back.

Many people are also searching for instant success and perfection, but success can take years of learning, trying, doing and dedication. 

If you want success, then you should be prepared for the journey, which should be made as enjoyable as possible.

People are often searching for perfection, but life is not perfect, and you're going to make mistakes and fail at times.

Sometimes you have to fail to grow and get better and sometimes you have to keep on trying and practicing repeatedly before you become good at what you're doing.

The thing to be aware of with change and success is, you will not always get it right the first time. If you want more success and enjoyment, then take a lesson from a small child.

Because when a child tries to do something new, they will get it wrong many times before they get it right.

But unlike an adult, the child does not give up after the first few failed attempts, they don't focus or dwell on the failed attempts either or see the challenge as insurmountable.  

Very often the difference between the child and the adult is. The adult will focus and be emotionally influenced by the failed attempts, disappointments and mistakes. 

Whilst the child will just focus on achieving their objective no matter how long it takes and they will quickly forget all the failed efforts.

The young, enthusiastic child will have one goal and that is to succeed, and they don't allow their failed attempts to hold them back and stop them from trying again, and when they do get it right, they celebrate with a proud sense of excitement and achievement.

The thing you have to consider is, you were once that determined and enthusiastic child full of fun, grit and determination, who would keep on trying and doing until they mastered their challenge. 

The moral to this story is, never give in, keep trying and doing, don't dwell on the negative, aim to get better, and instead of knocking yourself down, praise yourself up for every achievement, no matter how big or small.

For many, change can take time, a lot depends on the individual and how many negative neural connections they have created and amassed.

Most people were taught very little about success, feelings, their body, their mind and emotions, therefore they have been left struggling their way through life, trying to make sense of things and trying to sort out their problems and emotional issues along the way.

We all have our ups and downs, setbacks and knocks. Life can seem hard at times, but we all have the inner resources and resolve to battle through adversity.

The mistake most people make is they keep on bringing back all the pain and hurt of the past, or they look too far into the future from a negative perspective and then they trying to anticipate or work out how to avoid or deal with all the things that they don't want to happen. 

Very often people allow their external circumstances, their problems and emotions to get the better of them. 

The secret is to take life one step and one day at a time and live for the moment rather than projecting yourself into the future, then experiencing the negative emotion of something that has not even happened yet.

We all have challenging times, but you should not live your life in the emotion of your problems or lack of success.

The thought of something, is very often more hurtful than the situation itself, therefore if something is causing you struggle or hurt, then it is better for you to change the subject rather than you carry on suffering and tormenting yourself.

Because in life you can choose to focus on things that make you feel bad, or you can choose to let it go, change the subject and focus on something that does not cause you pain.

Life is a game and a continuing story, that unfolds with many twists and turns, some good, some not so good. Sometimes you have to go through the difficult times to appreciate and get to the good.

To a degree, we are all, the architect and creator of our own life story and we all have a choice on which character we choose to be and play.

Our life story is determined by our thoughts, the stories we tell ourselves, our feelings and actions. If you want to become a winner in the game of life then you need to learn how to master your own thoughts, feelings and actions.

You have to work on the spiritual side of you as well as the physical, so do what you enjoy, but also remember to enjoy what you're doing.

1) Three Rules To A Healthier Life 

The three golden rules that you need to follow and master to live a healthy and happy life are,

  1. Physiology and posture
  2. Emotional and mental
  3. The lifestyle you lead

Life is a lot simpler than we make it, but instead of enjoying being ourselves and enjoying our lives, we get to bogged down with and too emotionally involved with, 

  • Our past bad experiences 
  • Worrying about the future
  • Other people and our external situations and circumstances 
  • Trying to be perfect 
  • Trying to control or reacting badly to things we cannot change

It is good to set goals and have your wants and desires so long as they're not at the expense of your happiness.

But you will only find real inner peace and happiness when you detach yourself from all physical conditions and negative distractions, and you get out of your head and you just allow life to happen naturally.

The foundations for a happy life are, bringing your mind and body into balance and a state of calm, because that's what truly matters, everything else is a bonus that you should cherish and enjoy.

The mind and body are linked. This means when you tense your body you will have tense thoughts, when you slump you will have sad and insecure thoughts.

There is just too much tension in the world, and biggest enemy that anybody can have in life, is having tension in the mind and tension in the body.

But when your body is balanced and aligned and muscles are relaxed, where you and your body are in the flow state where it is ticking over in its most efficient state, then your thoughts will become better feeling thoughts and your life will change for the better. 

Most of peoples negative emotions are caused by either their focus of attention or their posture and their physiology, when your body is out of sync your mind will follow and when you think good feeling thoughts your body will follow.

Life is all about striking the right balance, the key is to look after your body and to try and create a state of calm, balance and well-being.

You should also exercise moderately, get plenty of rest and relaxation, try to stick to a healthy and balanced and varied healthy diet, don't take yourself or life too seriously and aim to have more fun and enjoyment.

The other three golden rules of life are,

  • What you imagine you create 
  • What you give your attention to expands 
  • What you feel you attract

2) Use Positive Language

Our still fairly primitive part of our brain mind has evolved and been created to protect us by recognizing dangers. Your mind constantly scans the environment in search of potential threats in order to keep you safe.  

Our minds have been designed to either try to avoid and prevent emotional and physical pain or seek out pleasure, but it still seems to work on the principal of safety first and pleasure second.

Your mind can get very good at imagining the worst case scenario first, then projecting this perceived bad situation that it thinks could happen in future events.

Our over protective brain does have a flaw which is quite ironic because even though it is meant to seek out pleasure it can end up causing us endless anxiety and emotional pain which is the very thing it's supposed to prevent. 

Start to become the master of your own feelings and emotions, learn how to deal with your anxious thoughts and practice letting all your bad thoughts and bad energy slip away. 

When your mind starts to project the worst case scenario don't go with it, instead intervene and flip the energy around by portraying and more positive and peaceful or happy outcome of things going well.

Seek out more pleasure and less pain. What you think about and how you think about yourself will determine what you become so keep your mind focused on what you want and keep your focus on your goals and what you want to accomplish.

Sometimes a small amount of negativity can be useful to help keep you guarded and aware, so you can avoid, plan for or prepare yourself against possible pitfalls or things that might go wrong.

But generally negative thoughts are destructive and a waste of time. Start to program more positive information and learn to dismiss, ignore, change and let go of any negative and limiting information. 

When you think or speak to yourself about yourself, always talk in positive terms. Eliminate all negative words and statements such as the likes of, can’t, cannot, don't, do not want, will not, never, not.

The three secrets to success depend on

  1. The thoughts you think  
  2. The words you speak
  3. The actions you take

You're in charge of your life so you need to consciously take control of and direct your thoughts, feelings and your life, so don't allow your mind to poison and sabotage you. When your mind is being negative, doubting or contradicting you, reply with something positive like all is well and good. 

Most people think, speak and live by their emotions, but you have to accept that you're in charge of your thoughts, actions and your beliefs, therefore it's not your circumstances and your emotions that should be controlling it should be you in charge of your feelings and circumstances.

3) Be More Independent And Self Indulgement 

Whether you are single or in a relationship from time to time it will not do you any harm to be more independent and self indulgent, do not feel embarrassed or ashamed to do things on your own.  

We grow stronger from doing things, so step out of your comfort zone and find out more about yourself and what you want, buy a ticket and hop on the bus or train by yourself as travelling is one of the best ways to learn and experience life more. 

You might feel a little apprehensive at first, but feel the emotions and still do it. You can learn so much more about yourself by going out alone and it can give your confidence a boost, make an effort to speak to strangers, especially if they are alone. 

Think about yourself more and put your needs first every now and again, if that means being a bit selfish then so be it, if you have a point to make then say it, you don't have to be argumentative or aggressive but you also don't always have to hold back either. 

Sometimes you have to experience the bad to find the good, in time you will learn from your experiences what makes you feel good and what does not, so you will no what to do and what to avoid. 


4) Creative Problem Solving 

We all go through bad times and we all have problems to deal with. The trick is to solve your problem before it has a chance to escalate into a much bigger problem. 

Because when you give all your attention to the problem and not the solution then you will become too emotionally and mentally involved with the problem, and you cannot solve a problem until you shift out of the negative energy of the problem. 

It's fine to analyze a problem to see where you have been going wrong, also ask yourself or others question, you can even use a little bit of negativity to avoid any possible pitfalls

Behind every problem lies a solution and all problems need a solution, but you will struggle to find the solution if you remain stuck in the negative energy that is responsible for most people's problems.

So instead of going round and round in circles and achieving nothing besides causing yourself a lot of emotional grief, stress and trauma, when things are not working out for you, chill out and take a break, and when you're feeling calmer, start asking yourself. 

Why you have this problem, what is the reason behind your problem and what can you do to overcome it or improve it your situation. 

Study and observe what you're doing and try to work out, where you're going wrong, or what you need to do to improve, make it easier or do it better.

Because when things are not going right for us or we are not getting the results you want, then you either have to let it go and move on or do things differently because as the old saying goes. 

"If you carry on doing things the same way, then you will keep on getting the same results".

Most people, when they have a problem or they want to do better, will just carry on doing things the same old ways, and living in the emotion of the problem, without giving the situation much thought or careful consideration.

What you will need to do is focus on the solution, the first step though is to calm your mind and relax your body so you can get out of the negative energy of your problem, then either research or ask your mind some questions. 

Techniques like meditation can take you out of the energy of the problem and it can transform you to the calm energy where the solution can be found. 

5) Set Your Goals And Never Give Up 

Without goals we achieve very little, we don't move forward and when we don't move forward we get bored and stagnate so it's important to set your goals and then see them through to completion. 

Goals are not all about the action, yes you have to be committed and inspired to do the work but sometimes people neglect the mental and emotional side of things.  

All goals start as a idea or vision in the mind and then you start to bring that vision into your reality and to be the best you have to feel at your best.

This means no more wasted time trying to be something your not, no more aiming for perfection, just be yourself, stop focusing on your worries and fears and put all your energy on achieving your goals and pursuing you passions.

And secondly never give up, if your struggling or things aren't working out don't quit or your never achieve your goal.

On your journey to achieving your goal, you will have some ups and downs and sometimes, the stress and frustration between what you want in life and where you are at the moment, can push you to breaking point and leave you feeling disappointed and feeling like a failure.

The easier option is to give in and stop dreaming, rather than put up with the constant reminder and pain that you're not achieving the results you expected and deserve.

But when you quit, you will ever know what might have been, and it is always better to do than to do nothing, 

In these trying times, you have to dig deep and get back up, and sometimes to get where you want, it is necessary to ignore what is and just keep focusing on what will be.

6) Smile Your Way Through Times Of Adversity 

No matter who you are or how well your doing there will be times in your life when everything around you will seem like it is falling apart. 

The key is how you deal with challenging situations and how quickly you can bounce back and get over disappointments.  

Accept what is and then deal with it and move forward in a positive direction. Do not allow other people or outside influences to grind you down and sap you of your energy, avoid negative minded people as much as possible, if you can't avoid them, reject their doom and gloom. 

There is always somebody who has gotten over much worse situations and setbacks. Disappointment is just a perception.


7) Learn How To Relax 

The biggest enemy to you is stress and tension in your mind and body and the anti-dote to stress is relaxation.

If you're feeling stressed then you need to catch it in the early stages and deal with stress, because it will lead to more stress. 

It's all about changing the way you respond, when you learn to relax and let go and stop rushing your state will change and as soon as your energy starts to change less things will bother you and more things will go right. Avoid letting people and external circumstances to control how you feel and react.

Relaxing deeply will reduce your stress and anxiety, you will think more clearly, you will be more creative you will feel more confident, vibrant and alive.  

Learn to be mindful of the thoughts that are causing you stress, negative moods and worry, meditation is a great way of quieten down your mind and thus reducing your stress and anxiety.

8) Learn More Skills

The more skills you can learn and the more knowledge that you can amass the higher your chances are at achieving more success in all area's of your life. Skills mean more success, more wealth and a better life experience.  

Learning more skills will present you with better career and business opportunities, but learning new skills it's not just all about creating more wealth and getting promoted at work. We can also benefit tremendously by improving our social skills and relationship skills.

9) Be Creative 

You have unlimited amounts of creativity and hidden genius locked inside of you, but to unlock your true inner genius and creativity you have to shift out of the negative states of fear, worry, stress and doubt and enter into the here and zone which is known as being in the zone in a flow like relaxed but alert state of mind and body. 

Every time you think negative thoughts you shift more over into your negative files and you enter into what is known as your protective mind. 

In this fear engrained mindset your awareness and focus will narrow into survival mode and your creativity will begin to shrink as your mind and senses search for none existent threats and more things to worry about.

When you begin to put all your energy into feeling good and you stop allowing your fears to influence you and your life combined with learning how to slow down and relax a bit then you will be able to tap more and more into your true inner genius and capabilities that you are probably unaware exist.

10) Make The Most Of Your Time

Your time is very valuable and precious to you, so make the most of it, the old saying " Your life is what you make it". We all could make more productive use of our time. 

Although we need ample amounts of rest and relaxation, it is also important to keep your mind and yourself active and alive. 

It is also important to realize that what you give your attention to you will get more of it, because what we focus on expands, this includes your happiness, how good or bad you feel and how successful you become, so it's really important.

Learn to simplify your life, because you have only so much time in your day so you need to prioritize what is important and what is not and what can wait. This may mean cutting back on your commitments, even letting people down and having a bit more me time.

As there are only so many hours in a day, if you want to get more done you either have to learn how to be more efficient and work at your maximum peak performance rate.

Avoid trying to get to much dome to soon, if you have a big goal, focus on one step at a time instead of looking at the bigger picture to avoid overwhelming yourself.

The secret is to work smarter and not harder or trying to forcefully go faster. You can get more done and you will do it much better when you stop hurrying and you learn to stay calmer as well as trying to enjoy what your doing.

This way you will be surprised how much more you can get more done in the same amount of time.


11) Get The Positive Momentum Going

Life is all about momentum and direction and nearly everybody has momentum going on in their lives. 

There are only two types of momentum, you have positive momentum and negative momentum, positive momentum will make you feel good and it will move you in the right direction and towards where you want to be in life.

Whilst negative momentum will make you feel bad and stressed and it will take you further and further away from the place you want to be and feelings you want to experience.

There is only one exception to the rule and that is, your standing still but generally you will be either moving closer your goals and desires or you will be heading away from them, so choose to jump on board the positive bus and head down the road to success and happiness.

If your not getting what you want then you need to stop trying so hard all the time. Success, abundance, creativity, intelligence and a better life cannot respond to feelings of stress, anxiety and emotional overwhelm.

All The good things that you want and desire cannot be accessed in the negative energy frequencies what you want will only respond and show up when your consistently not thinking none resistant or opposing thoughts and your feeling good and in the flow.

12) Learn And Listen

To boost your chances of becoming more successful listen and learn from the people who have already succeeded. Just by spending more time listening and learning you can boost your chances of succeeding. 

So rather than just attempting a goal or project without really giving it much thought spend some time listening and studying the already successful in the field you want to learn about, if you have a problem listen and learn from somebody who has already overcome it.

Copy and study the successful and what is already proven to work and then try and improve on it. 

Although you should not always listen to everything everybody tells you sometimes, others can spot where you're going wrong, also learn to follow your intuition. 

You can save so much time, hardship and you can learn so much just by studying others and following these steps and principals.

  1. Listen 
  2. Learn 
  3. Apply what you've learned 
  4. Do and practice

13) Be Your True Authentic Self

It's all about you and finding and being yourself, so begin to believe in yourself and follow the path in life that you want to follow. 

Do not try to be like other people and do not let other people influence how you feel, what you do and what you become.  

Do not be afraid to be you and do not wish to be anybody else, find out who you are and build on your true qualities and abilities. 

Be your true authentic self and remember that everything that has happened in your life so far has brought you to who and what you are now. This is a time in which you need to recognize that there really is nothing at all wrong with you. 

Because all that you have been searching for including your inner happiness, power, better health, confidence, abundance, your true potential, your connection to your higher self and all the love you could ask for already exists inside of you, but you just haven't realized it yet and it's all available for you to tune in and tap into.

So never again allow outside circumstances or anybodies negativity or hurtful comments too affect you or penetrate into your mind and never allow your inner happiness to be a condition of any outside circumstances or physical possessions. 

Imagine you have a protective bubble around you which is protecting you so no matter what anybody says they can not penetrate your bubble so nobody can upset or hurt you ever again.


14) Be Kind And Considerate To Others 

Be kind and considerate to others and yourself, sometimes when we argue we only see things from our point of view and we give very little attention to the other side of a disagreement.

Our egos can wreck relationships and friendships. Do not pursue your own interests or satisfy your own ego at the expense of others. 

Although we perceive ourselves as individuals we are all as one, treat others with respect and you will have more chance of them returning it back,

It is every bodies duty to forget about their ego and pride every no and again and not deliberately go out of your way to treat others bad or case them any harm. 

We all have feelings and we all deserve to be treated well, also try not to judge or prejudge others and if you can avoid focusing on their bad points and the negative side of people unless it is truly justified otherwise they might just keep on showing that side of their personality to you.

15) Have A Healthy Balanced Varied Nutritional Diet 

Reducing your stress and eating a healthy nutritional diet and making sure you do not dehydrate will help to lower your anxiety and reduce your stress.

If you have been experiencing long periods of worry, stress and anxiety, then you may need a good quality nutritional supplement especially the B vitamins and magnesium as stress and anxiety can deplete your body of its vital vitamins and mineral resources

More and more people in the self development industry are realizing the importance of food and nutrition. 

Many problems such as, digestive issues, bloating, mood swings, low energy and much more are now believed to be a result of food intolerance and sensitivity. Long term stress and anxiety can deplete your body of it's vital vitamins and nutrients. 

Probiotics are known to help balance your gut by supplying healthy bacteria and they could help to reduce inflammation in the body.

Research has shown that Omega 3 may also lower inflammation as well as help to prevent some chronic diseases, it is also believed to help relieve certain skin conditions like psoriasis.

There are many more inflammation reducing foods like, green leafy vegetables, olive oil, nuts and garlic. If you're on prescription drugs, check with your doctor first. 

If you find your healthy foods look a bit bland and unappetizing, then you can try adding some colourful fruits or use a brighter and more colourful plate.

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16) Change A Negative Mood

We all endure challenging times, we all have low moods, if you're feeling in a negative mood, except how you feel and express and acknowledge your emotions but never put up with a negative mood for long.  

If you're feeling down use everything at your disposal to boost your mood, listen to some happy and uplifting music because my immersing yourself in music you can forget and let go of all your problems and just enjoy the moment. 

If you're having a real bad time, have a good cry and then tell yourself your going to put up with this mood for lets say two days and then you're going to feel better. Find a way of relaxing deeply, stay in the now choose to be happy, have a good laugh and force yourself to smile.


17) Let Go Of All Negative Resistance 

Life can become a constant battle with our own mind, but you will not move forward while your fighting yourself and your emotions.  

If you are living a life of struggle, stress and anxiety life can become a fight with yourself, we cause ourselves far more misery than anybody else could inflict on us, but you will never win by trying to force your negative thoughts and emotions to go away. 

Most people think they have to deal with their negative or anxious thoughts and feelings but that is a mistake because you do not need to do anything. 

Once a negative thought or feeling has been activated it cannot be deactivated so the best thing you can do is observe your negative thoughts and feelings calmly and then just let them peacefully slip away whilst you focus on external things or what you were doing.

18) Raise Your Energy Vibration 

The universe only deals and speaks in the language of vibration, there are many different cultures and languages, but no matter what your cultural background or what native language you speak, all feelings are universal and the same. 

You are the projection of your energy from within and you and your world around you will change with your feelings, the longer you stay in a negative mood and focus of attention the more stagnant and stuck you will become. 

You will be surprised how your energy affects your reality, and the best way to raise your energy, is to stop resisting things and let it go.

19) Learn To Slow Down

So much of our stress and tension is because we are trying to pack too much into our day and these days, unlike our ancestors, most people live their life at a hundred miles per hour.  

Trying to rush, setting unrealistic deadlines or thinking and planning too far ahead all contribute to more stress and tension. Sometimes we need to breathe deeply and deliberately slow ourselves down a touch.  

You have to learn to take it easy, if you have a goal or task to complete take one step at a time and try to enjoy it, if you think too far ahead and you focus on too many things in one go or you think about all the things you need to get done, it will begin to emotionally overwhelm you.

Avoid buying into the belief that you have to rush to meet work deadlines or personal jobs you need to do, you will get more done and you will do it better if you stay calm and you don't try to deliberately hurry, work smarter not faster.  

20) Become A Morning Person

Become a morning person, if you listen to many people they will often say that they are not a morning person or they always feel moody, first thing in the morning. 

The thing to be aware of is, if you keep repeating these kinds of statements, then you will continue to start the day off feeling negative.

However the morning is a fantastic chance and opportunity to wipe the slate clean from the previous day and a chance to release any negative energy and create some positive feelings.

You will need to start the day off with some new positive intentions, thoughts and habits that will empower you and set yourself up for the day ahead. 

The secret to having a good day and performing at your peak best, is to take control of the morning.

Start the day as you mean to go on and if you want to get out of bed feeling great then you will need to develop a thankful and grateful attitude as well as filling your mind with positive thoughts and words.

Your focus of attention will determine how you feel and how you feel will have an influence on how well your day goes and in the long term how well your life goes. 

So when you wake up, grab this window of opportunity to become a new you before those old troublesome memories and your emotional baggage has a chance to surface and become your dominant thoughts and feelings for the rest of the day.

Because the morning is the best time to say your affirmation, exercise, or to do your visualization and to start each day afresh by using positive and encouraging inner self talk.

You can go a step further, because your preparation for having a good day should begin the night before.

So put in a bit of effort to prepare for the new day the evening before as we tend to pick up on the mood we were in and thought patterns we had the previous day.

As you go to bed, create an unwinding down procedure, mediate or use hypnosis because this will relax you and you will also sleep better and wake up feeling more relaxed and energized. 

Even spending a few minutes of gratitude and appreciation as you fall asleep can carry with you through the night and into the next day. 


21) Stop Trying To Hard

Life can be hard at times, but sometimes we can want something so much that it can actually lessen our chances of getting what we want.

Life is full of choices, and there is always an opposite possibility and alternative to everything that you want or have in your life which is all the things you don't want or all the things you would like but you don't  have. 

Some examples are as follows

  • Feeling good/Feeling bad 
  • Anxious/Calm 
  • Having lots of money/Having very little money 
  • Good relationship/Bad relationship 
  • Successful/Unsuccessful 
  • Working/Unemployed 
  • Stressed/Relaxed

Life should flow as easy and effortless as possible, but sometimes when we want something to badly we just try too hard to get it. In life, sometimes you just need to get out of the way and allow life to happen. 

There is a greater force at work that will bring us the things we want, if we just trust and allow things to happen in their own time, when the time is right and you're emotionally aligned to receive all the good things that you want.

The harder you try for something, the more desperate you will become for that particular thing, and in life you generally get what you believe and not what you want. 

Desperation, leads to negative energy, frustration and disappointment and negative energy, frustration and disappointment, will block off all the good that you're seeking. 

To believe, you first have to have total faith and trust, that what you want will happen or it will come to you, all you need to do, is enjoy life, stay calm and take action when it is needed.

When we are not getting the results that we expect, it is common practice, to think we have to try even harder, or work even harder. 

When you obsess and worry about what you want, but you don't yet have, you will cultivate the energy and the beliefs of not having, and your reality is a reflection of your subconscious beliefs and the energy that you project.

Sometimes you just need to let go of the need to try and control and make things happen, and just chill out a bit, and allow nature and the universe to work their magic.

22) Use Your Imagination Wisely

Your imagination is a powerful tool when used correctly but it can be your worst enemy when it is used in a negative and self defeating ways making you feel bad and even do or say things that you may later regret. 

You have heard the saying "You are only limited by your imagination".

Things usually go something like this, you find out you have something you need to do, your still largely primitive mind immediately focuses on things going wrong which causes a fearful response.

You try not to think about the forthcoming even because it is making you feel anxious or nervous but you probably find out you cannot get what your worried about out of your mind and the more you think about what you have to do the more your programming yourself to feel anxious and nervous when you have to face the situation for real.

Your imagination can play all sorts of tricks on you but do not get emotionally involved with it, sucked in bye it or accept your imagination as being the truth or the only option.  

When this happens and you find yourself worrying about a forth coming situation or you find yourself envisaging things about other people that makes you feel insecure, frustrated or angry. 

Pause for a second and take some slow deep breaths and relax your body, ask yourself is this the truth.

Then Start to become the observer of your mind but not the follower and either let it go or flip your imagination around in your favour and start to imagine things going well and make this a habit.

23) Only Deal With Things When Your Feeling Relaxed

If you want to perform better, improve your creativity, solve a problem, find an answer or tap into your true potential then you need to learn how to relax first, because being calm is the key to all successes, discoveries and creativity.

Everything becomes easier when your calm, you performance levels will increase, you function better, your reaction times quicken your intelligence will increase, you will sleep better, you will be more confident and things will generally work out better for you.

When your stressed and anxious life becomes harder, you will struggle to perform well, your creativity will become blocked and it can have a detrimental affect on your health and well-being.

Most people try to make improvements, solve problems and make changes whilst they are coming from a negative state, that is virtually impossible, the secret is to learn how to relax first then focus on what you want to sort out or improve.

24) Take Time To Meditate

There is one thing that most entrepreneurs, most successful people and high powered figures do which includes many billionaires and heads of state which they believe is essential if you want to stay ahead of the pack, increase your creativity, sharpen your focus, give you an improved mental edge which they claim gives them a distinct advantage over their rivals and competition. 

And that one thing they do is, they spend around twenty minutes a day meditating usually first thing in the morning which sets them up for the day ahead. Some have even declared that they class, meditating as being more important than exercising.

Because by spending approximately twenty minutes per day each day learning how to Reach Deep Levels of Meditation, your will feel calm, great and more at ease, you will de-clutter your mind, 

  • You will deactivate negative thoughts and emotions that have been causing you stress and anxiety
  • You will improve your ability to focus and concentrate
  • You will perform better, work things out better
  • You maximize your true potential
  • You will deal with challenging situations better and you will find that you more easily hit your targets 
  • You creativity will shine through


25) Find Your Purpose In Life 

Everybody needs a purpose in life, as young adults our purpose can be to bring up a family and buy and design your home. 

But, after a while, especially as our children grow up we need more otherwise you can run the risk of going though the motions and your life can become stagnant.

This is when you may benefit greatly by finding your life's purpose, of course you don't have to wait until you're a bit older to follow your passion and discover your life's purpose, but whatever age you are have a purpose in life because it will give your life new meaning.

Having a purpose will motivate, inspire and energize you, it will stop you feeling bored and it can also reward you financially. It can pay you to find or do things you love, you enjoy or you good at, it certainly is not what others have told you what to do.  

Your life purpose could be anything, it should be something that makes you feel good, things you are passionate about, it should also be something that challenges you and keeps you growing. Numerology can help you to discover your true life's purpose.

Doing something that helps others or contributes good to the world is always rewarding, follow your intuition and do whatever makes you feel stimulated, inspired and alive, helping others or adding value to others or the world is always a winner.

26) Ditch The Negativity

You cannot stop all your negative thoughts and feelings nor should you try to. Your brain has evolved to search for dangers and to help you solve or avoid problems so if you try and push away all your negative thoughts then your actually opposing what your brain has been designed to do.

Your brains job is to help to protect you but obviously you don't want to spend all your day worrying or having anxious thoughts either. The more you try and push away your unwanted thoughts the more they will come back into your conscious awareness.

It's not the thoughts that bother you, it's the emotions and physical reactions that you don't like which accompany the negative thoughts. The thing to do is to just imagine these thoughts and feelings as a wave coming to you and instead of fighting with them ride them and let them pass on bye peacefully. 

There has been a lot said about the power of positive thinking and although it is very beneficial to spend some time thinking positive you have not got to spend all your day doing it because that is just to hard and to exhausting.

Just focus on not getting emotionally engaged with your negative and unwanted thoughts and emotions and give all your attention to other thoughts and things that you want and don't follow any bad feeling thoughts that trigger a stressful or negative response.

27) Constructive Criticism Is Not Always A Bad Thing  

No one likes to be criticized, most people don't even like be advised their own will, and although you should not have to put up with constant harsh criticism, sometime a bit of constructive criticism or friendly advice can be a good thing.

The universe is always trying to help us and give us subtle clues and hints on what we need to do, this universal guidance can come in the form of our thoughts and intuition, but make sure you can tell the difference between your intuition and your ego. 

But many times help will come through other people's comments, advice or suggestion or you may come across a website, blog or you may receive help through a email. 

Because sometime other people can see things and notice where we're going wrong when it is not always so obvious too ourselves, so as long as it is not unwelcome advice or harsh and uncalled for criticism, don't always dismiss it or be to offended. Take it on board and see if you can learn something from it.

28) Listen To Your Body

Learn to listen to your body because when you experience pain, discomfort both physical and emotional it is your subconscious mind trying to tell you that there is something that needs addressing so try and uncover the root source of your problems and then address them.

When you're thinking about what you don't want your emotions will let you know that you need to change your perceptions or your focus of attention, when you're reliving negative or sad memories your emotions will remind you of how bad you felt at the time so give your attention to something more pleasant.  

When you're tired or exhausted, it means you need to rest and many skin conditions can be a result of a reaction to certain food's whilst stress is responsible for a large amount of illnesses.

29) We Think Too Much 

Although positive, creative and constructive thinking can be helpful and essential for us at times to create, problem solve, become more successful and design, most adults tend to over think things too much.

If your thoughts are general or neutral, then that's fine, but if they are causing you emotional pain, worry or anxiety and keeping you stuck in a negative place in your mind, then it's time to let those thoughts go and pick a better feeling subject or train of thoughts.

Humans spend too much time hooked up into negative and self destructive thinking, when really they should get out of their head and observe and enjoy more, whilst they engage in their surroundings, or focusing on what they are doing.

If you observe animals or young children then you will notice that they don't worry, they just focus on enjoying and observing.

If your thoughts are making you feel bad, then ignore them and ditch them, or change the subject.


30) Enjoy Your Personal Growth Journey 

We are all work in progress, no matter what your attempting to be, do or become the secret to success is repetition, steady progressive continual improvements. 

When people have been on a self development journey for a while they forget how far they have come and how they used to be. Your journey should be made as enjoyable as possible.

Every successful person or high achiever had to start of at the bottom and work their way up to great success, you don't start off at the top, it's all about taking small steps. But you won't reach the top or achieve your dreams and ambitions if you don't take the first step.

31) Do The Things You Enjoy

You're here to enjoy yourself and not just please and conform to other people's idea's and ways of living their life. There is nothing more important to you than to feel good so you should make it your number one goal. 

Many self help experts suggest if you're not doing something to improve yourself, then it's not worth doing some even recommend avoiding doing activities like watching TV. 

Although it is good practice to keep on growing, learning and striving to be the very best version of yourself, you should also do the things that you enjoy and if you like watching TV then watch it. 

Be a bit selfish and put yourself first from time to time, if you like staying in, stay in if you like going out then go out more often.

Your goal should be doing the things you like and enjoy doing, things that give you joy and not do what others think is the right thing for you. 

So if doing things that is deemed boring to others but it makes you happy then that it is improving your life and well-being.

In fact, you need very little to be happy, most people want things to make them happy, but happiness is nothing more than a state of being and it is free and does not cost anything accept a conscious effort by you to forget your negative past, be optimistic about your future and be happy and live in the present moment. 

32) Avoid Procrastination 

We all have chores and tasks we need to do, if it is something that you feel passionate and excited about then it will be easy to motivate yourself to do the action part.  

But it is not so easy to get out of bed at the weekend to do the mundane choirs and tasks that sometimes need doing such as house and garden maintenance. 

To avoid procrastination write a to do list or make one in your head, to avoid overwhelm priorities in order of preference and importance. 

You do not have to do your tasks every weekend, just make a plan and timeline of when you intend to do each job, this will help to get you motivated when the time comes. 

When you have to get started on something try not to spend to much time thinking about, just do it otherwise you will talk yourself out of it.


33) Praise Yourself And Focus On All The Good You Do

What keeps most people stuck and negative is when they assume that there must be something wrong with them or somehow they are not good enough or smart enough but as you exist then this means your equal to everybody else, your good enough and you have limitless potential because creation makes everybody equal at source.

So it's time to forget about what has gone, what is going wrong or what could go wrong and focus all your attention on all the good about you and what can and will be. 

Get into the habit of spotting and focusing all the good things you do and all the great things you can achieve if you focus your mind with positive energy. 

Praise yourself up for everything you do well no matter how small, congratulate yourself and write down in a journal any progress or successes you have and you will be rewarded with positive feelings and appreciation from your true inner self and source.

34) You Do Not Have To Fix Everything

We have been led to believe that we have to fix or deal with everything because we think that something is wrong with us that needs to be put right. But you already have everything you need and you already have access to how you choose to feel.

If you're suffering with anxiety, then the answers is not to fix it and you do not have to deal with it either because that approach just gives it more power. 

The less you think about your anxiety the better so if you focus on dealing with then you're still thinking about it. 

The far better approach to ending your anxiety is not to be bothered by it, embrace it and focus on ways to relax or give your attention to all the things you want to do or you like doing. 

The same principal applies to dealing with negative beliefs or removing negative blocks and sometimes it's much easier to stop raking up the past and instead focus on the things you want and create new positive supporting beliefs.

Because when you don't really believe in something or your faith is weak, then your mind will start looking for evidence to support your limiting and negative beliefs and you will find loads of evidence to keep you small and stuck.

If you allow it to, your past can have a negative impact and influence on your now and your future, so leave the past in the past, and only plan for a positive future.

35) Start Applying Your New Knowledge 

Knowledge can be powerful but it is only powerful if you apply it to your life to make your life better. These days there are a lot of helpful information and advice available at the push of a button.

You should always carry on learning until you take your final breaths, but information and knowledge won't change or improve your life unless you start applying that information to your daily life. 

Because the application is what makes everything happens and gets thoughts into motion, because without application and the groundwork, change cannot happen and you will not get the life and the results that you're seeking. 

Information and knowledge helps us to learn new facts and help us to start to understand things, it can inspire us and activate positive inspiration and motivation which can bring to us new idea's and possibilities.

But if you want positive changes and you want to become more successful then you need to apply your newly discovered knowledge into action because all the high achievers turn idea's, opportunities and information into action and activity.

You should always carry on learning until you take your final breaths, but information and knowledge won't change or improve your life unless you start applying that information to your daily life.

Because the application is what makes everything happens and gets thoughts into motion, because without application and the groundwork, change cannot happen and you will not get the life and results that you're seeking.

Information and knowledge helps us to learn new facts and help us to start to understand things, it can inspire us and activate positive inspiration and motivation which can bring to us new idea's and opportunities.


36) Aim To Get Better

Most people fall into the trap of allowing their past mistakes, embarrassments and failures to cause them to fear a similar thing happening to them again.

This pattern of thinking and behaviour, will affect you and your ability to perform at your peak best and it will block off your true potential and capabilities, by conditioning your brain to learn to fear or want to avoid a repeat performance.

Instead of allowing your past to impact and negatively influence you, stop focusing on the negative or your shortcomings and failures, and only focus on ways on how you can improve or perform better.

Learn and study as well as striving to be the best version of yourself. Analyze your mistakes, and try to learn something that will make you better.

You have not got to spend all your time positive thinking, just ignore the negative and try to use constructive thinking.

Read more, learn more skills, work on your health and fitness and use the power of your mind to self educate and improve your talents and your creative capabilities, instead of training your mind to self sabotage and self doubt yourself

37) Get More Sleep

If you want more energy, if you want to keep focused, if you want to face and overcome any challenges so you get better results, if you want to perform at your best, if you want to become more productivity, experience less stress and be more efficient then you may need to get a bit more sleep. 

It is recommended by many scientific studies that on average to be our very best we need between seven to eight hours sleep per night and although it may not always be possible it is something you should try to aim for. 

If your surviving on not enough sleep then your cognitive abilities, your functioning abilities and your ability to deal with stressful challenges will reduce and take a dip.

38) Keep Asking Yourself Empowering Questions 

The way to come up with a solution to a particular problem that you may have or if you're trying to work your way through a challenge is to ask yourself empowering questions because every time you ask your mind a question and this applies to both negative and positive questions your mind has to search for and come up with an answer or solution. 

So if you need to solve a problem, lets say you want to lose weight ask yourself, then how can I type of question, but avoid using negative questions, like why am I overweight and instead said to yourself something like. 

How can I lose weight and become fit and healthy or lets say you want to have more money, again, don't focus on why your skint or broke questions, ask yourself what's the best way for me to make more money.

39) Tame The Voices Inside Your Head

We all have conversations with the chatterbox that lives in our heads and there seems to be a different inner voice and a different story to match the different emotional states we go in and out. 

Your inner critical voice and mental chatterbox are always busy telling you all the things that are wrong with your life or all the things you should or should not do or all the fears and dangers you should be aware of.

That inner voice can really drag you down and frustrate you at times and at times it never seems to shut up, sometimes the thoughts that enter our mind are abhorrent and they do not comply with our true charcator, some people define them as their demons. 

What you need to be aware of is, these horrible or critical thoughts in your mind, are not you and they are not true, therefore

  • You do not have to take any notice of them 
  • You do not have to accept them  
  • You do not have to believe or trust them 
  • You do not have to follow them or run with them

If you allow that inner negative voice to continue to dominate and control you, then they will carry on causing you endless pain. 

But if you see them just as a nuisance and junk thoughts, that everybody has and you refuse to get emotionally involved with, and you cease to listen or be bothered by them, then those demons will move on.

The best way to deal with your demons and tame that critical voice, is to stop taking them seriously, ignore them and just allow them to come and go as quickly as possible, realize that they are not you, and think about something else. 

Although you should never try to stop your inner voice, you can start to override it because you are in charge of how you wish to think and how you choose to feel. 

When you bring yourself back into the peace of the present moment, the demons cannot access that feel good energy state.

We all tell ourselves stories based on our circumstances and how we're feeling, some of these stories and perceptions are lies and untrue, so if you don't like the story in your mind change it to a better one.

You can say to your inner voice, that's simply not true, you have no evidence to back up that belief, there is no logical reason for me to be afraid so I am not going to believe what you're saying or creating.

These thoughts might come back but each time you ignore or challenge that inner voice and start to change those unhelpful beliefs and in time the less and less they will come back meaning no more stress, anxiety and feeling bad.


40) Pirotitise Your Tasks

We all have chores and goals we want or have to do, but the more our tasks pile on top of us and the more we think about how much we have got to get done it can all start to feel a bit stressful and a bit overwhelming.

The key is to write a things to do list, and jot down in order of importance, all the things you want or need to get get done. List them in order of importance and priority.  

Then only focus and only work on one thing at a time or one step of your goal at a time, otherwise if you look to far ahead then it all gets a little bit daunting and overwhelming.

41) Experience A Bit Of Solitude

Although we are social creatures sometimes we could all do with a bit of solitude to grow, rest and to better ourselves. 

Having some me time and finding somewhere quiet and peaceful to retreat where there are no distractions and where you can either ground yourself with nature or connect deeply with yourself and your inner being can be an enlightening and relaxing experience which you can benefit greatly from.

Some individuals find it hard too switch off from their outer reality and everyday focus of attention so it might take a bit of practice, but a bit of peaceful solitude will help to reduce anxiety and your stress will melt away, plus it will help tap into your creativity and help you grow both spiritually and mentally. 

It's all about tuning out of your everyday stresses and tuning into who you really are at source, it's about having a bit of time to be yourself and recharging your batteries and becoming balanced and at peace. 

You can take a walk in nature or spend time in the country or you can just find somewhere peaceful to relax for a while, because you have to grow and build from within and strength, happiness, peace of mind and confidence all come from within.

42) You Are Responsible For Your Own Life 

You are responsible for your own life, your future, how you feel and to a large degree your own health, everything we do is a choice so choose wisely and healthily. 

In each and everyone of us is a happy you a angry you a sad you a anxious you a stressful you a and a successful you so with that in mind choose to be the you that you want to be.

43) Ask For Help

Do not feel to proud or embarrassed to ask for or seek out help when you need it because there is always help available. This can be asking someone for help and guidance, it could involve searching on line

But what you need to be aware of is, your never alone and the universe is always there to help and guide you, yet most people are not even aware of the universal intelligent mind and network of information.

When you pose a question to yourself then your mind has to come back with an answer and your all powerful subconscious mind which is connected and has access to the unified intelligent mind.

So keep asking yourself the how can I, what can I do type of questions and the answer will always come to you or you will be guided to the information that you need. Try to stay out of your head, practice putting all your focus on external things instead of focusing on yourself.

44) Love Is All That You Need

We all crave for love, everybody is searching for someone to love and everybody wants to be loved back or to feel loved. 

Love is the most powerful of all emotions and everybody desires it. But sometimes in our desperation to love and be loved we rely solely on our partners to love and to love us back.

The trouble is, when you're reliant on somebody else to love and love you back your never going to have their full dived love and attention all the time. 

Other people have their own interests and problems so they are not always guaranteed to give you the love you want. How often do you look in the mirror and say. "I like myself".

Sometimes relationships end, but because of our almost addiction to love when a relationship goes wrong or we lose the person we love, it can leave you feeling hurt and even more desperate to get that loving feeling back.

We all need to learn to put our love to other things, such as yourself, your life and the things you have or enjoy. But also, remember that source always loves you, some people call source God, Higher Self or Prophet.

But whatever you choose to call it, this expansion of pure consciousness and pure undivided love which you are a part of, loves you, has always loved you and will always love you and you can and should love it back.

45) It's Your Opinion Of Yourself That Really Matters

The criticism and negative suggestions from others about you and how well you have been treated can have a damaging impact on your self image, your self esteem and your self worth.

If you buy into the beliefs and comments made towards you by others, then this can cause you to have low opinions about yourself and it can cause negative self talk.

But remember it's your own opinion of yourself that really matters  so as long as you start to like yourself and you develop a strong and positive opinion and high regard for yourself then no one else can hurt you or keep you small. 

The single biggest thing in your life that will raise your self esteem and self worth is to master your self talk because your inner self talk is the route to greater confidence, a better and more successful life and a greater you.

When things aren't going to plan, that old self defeating inner voice can start to tell us stories of failure or we're not good enough.

But remember that negative inner voice is not you, it does not belong to you, so start to override it and define yourself as a success and a worthwhile person.

46) Decide What You Want And Do It 

Sometimes we just hesitate to much or over think something and end up talking ourselves out of doing it or we give up too soon or we follow and listen to much to our negative emotions and thoughts.  

Sometimes in life you have to just decide what you want and then just do it, a little bit of preparation can be a good thing so long as your giving yourself self encouragements and praise but sometimes the more you think about doing something the more you will either scare yourself or self doubt yourself.

It's your life experiences that make you stronger or weaker depending on how you react to them, what you learn from them and the challenges you face or avoid.

Thoughts and words don't teach you a thing, but they can take away your true powers and capabilities by tricking you into believing your imagination is true and real. 

Knowing everything will workout and everything will be OK despite what happens can change your feelings and end your anxiety. So decide what it is you want then just practice talking yourself into doing it or just do it despite how you feel.

47) Create Good Habits

Nearly all our behaviours, actions, addictions and what we do both good and bad are the result of habits that we have repeatedly practiced doing for so long that they become things we do automatically and instinctively. 

If you have any bad or unwanted habits then you need to replace them with good ones because some habits can be bad for your health, block your success and waste you time.

We can form habits for all kinds of things and reasons like, through fear or to help to keep us safe, a form of reward or pleasure even when the habit is bad for us.  

  1. If you have a bad habit or addictions focus on the positive and health benefits you will gain once you given up or you have changed your habit
  2. Every time you manage to succeed at changing your bad habits give yourself a small reward
  3. Replace bad habits with good habits
  4. Change the way you do or organised things and practice repeatedly dong things on a daily basis that will create you good habits instead of allowing bad habits to rule your life
  5. Make habits that will help you to take you towards the success you or life you want or ones that will move you towards achieving your goals


48) You Have Choices

No matter where you are in life or how bad your situation is remember that you always have better choices and other options and possibilities and if you take control of your life and situations then your life can and does get better. 

If you don't like your job you can choose to find another, if your hand around with negative or nasty friends you can make new friends and if your in a bad or abusive relationship you have the choice to break up. 

The key is to chill out about the things that are not in your control and learn how to change your perceptions and how you respond to them.

No ones own you and you always have the choice to live your life on your terms and if something is not good for you or working out for you then change it.

49) Look For The Good

If you look hard enough you will find that there are many good things to be found in this world and there are many good things about you yet most people pick out one bad thing or experience and they give it all their attention. 

Try to look for the positive in each situation, look for the good in you and learn to focus on your strengths instead of your weakness and develop a positive and optimistic attitude that everything will work out even when everything seems to be going wrong.

50) Give Your Mind Clear Instructions

Most people allow their brain to influence their thoughts, feelings, decisions, behaviours and actions when what you should be doing is you should take control and influence your mind and thought patterns.  

Your mind is a very powerful tool when used correctly yet it can be your worst enemy when it is misused or left to think on automatically which can result in a life of misery, limitations and pain.

Get into the habit of thinking your way into alignment and flow and give your mind clear instructions of what you want because the secret to a more successful, more happiness and a more fulfilling life is down to your focus of attention and telling your mind what it is you exactly want instead of focusing on what you don't want.

51) Read And Relax 

Make the most of your time and make it a habit to read more because reading will stimulate and invigorate you plus it is also a great way to learn, grow both intellectually and spiritually and it is a great way to relax and unwind so it's a win, win situation.

If you combine your reading with listening to some soothing and relaxing classical music you will boost the relaxation benefits and you will absorb the information better. 

If you do this at night for the last thirty minutes or so instead of stimulating yourself by watching action packed TV or using digital devices or video gaming then you will have a great way to unwind and calm down which will help you to fall into a deep and more importantly restful and peaceful sleep.

52) Enjoy Being You

Although socializing and having a network of a supporting family and a close circle of good friends around you is important, it is as equally as important to get to know yourself better and learn to like yourself and enjoy your own company. 

When you are alone in being nice to yourself and get to know the real inner you who is your loyal and true friend who is always with you so make peace with yourself. Find things to occupy yourself because your alone time is a great opportunity to learn and to get thing's done.

Having a good and meaningful relationship with yourself is essential for your well-being, talk to yourself like you would with a close friend and start to enjoy and make the most of your own company which has its good points because there will be no one to myther, distract you or annoy you. 

53) Breathing Exercise To Calm Your Body And Flatten Your Stomach  

Breathing correctly is essential to balance your mind and body and to bring you back into the calm and power of the now. When were feeling stressed or anxious our breathing becomes shallow and rapid which can trigger off the other symptoms of stress. 

By taking a few slow deep controlled breaths it will immediately start to reverse the stress response and when you breathe deeply the rest  of your body has to follow suit and fall back into it's natural resting and relaxed state. 

Taking some slow deep breaths every few hours making sure the out breath is longer than the in one is a great way to restore balance to both your mind and body especially when you have to face challenging and stressful situations.

If you want to get some extra benefit from your breathing exercises then you can also strengthen and flatten your stomach at the same time. 

You can start by taking a deep breath in through your mouth and then hold for a few seconds then slowly exhale through your mouth but as you exhale suck in your stomach so it comes back towards your spine then hold for a few seconds and repeat ten or more times and do this a few times a day.

54) Take Some Of The Pressure Off Yourself

We all have goals, we all want things and we all want to perform well but sometimes our desire to have or be something can become so strong that we lose the enjoyment, focus and we heap way too much pressure on our self to do well that it ends up causing more stress, frustration and tension which has an adverse effect on us. 

Wanting something or wanting more is perfectly naturally but when you want something too bad then it can cause you to either try too hard or become too desperate which actual works against you by repelling and preventing you from having the success or things you want.

This is very common with sports stars who are very skillful and talented when they are practicing or when they are relaxed but as soon as they get to a pressured moment like when they are close to victory the nerves and anxiety kick in and they all of a sudden fall apart.

To improve your chances of success, still want to win, do well or perform well but take the pressure off yourself by taking away the importance, neediness, desperation and significance of the outcome with the attitude of your doing your best and your enjoying what you do. 

Do your best, learn to enjoy what your doing and allow for setbacks and focus on the area's you want to improve without any pressure attached, because wanting something too much can lead to feelings of desperation and frustration which can work against you. 

Always remember with everything good in life that you have to feel good and let it happen first without offering any resistence before you can have it or become it.

55) Expect Good Things 

One of the most powerful creative forces in the known universe is the power of expectation, and this applies to both positive and negative expectations.

So ditch the negative expectations, otherwise you will keep on getting more negative results and try to make it a habit to expect good things to happen, because winners expect to win and successful people expect to be successful.

So expect with confidence, and if you follow this policy, then bit by bit, more good things will start to come your way.

As the quote by the physicist goes, " When consciousness searches with the expectation that something will be there, then it will create it".

56) Do Not Chase Happiness 

Nearly everybody in the world as one primary goal and desire in their life which is to be happy and stay happy and many people will go to great lengths to try and find happiness or to obtain and do things that will make them happy.

But true lasting happiness does not work that way,  and there is no need to chase happiness because you already have it and it is just a case of tapping into it and choosing to be happy.

One of the things that will deprive you of happiness is when you make external things and material possessions a condition of your happiness. It's OK to want the good things in life, but first be grateful for what you have already got.

Really happiness is, living in the now and being in that flow like state, where you refuse to allow your external circumstances and your past to influence your thought processes and your feelings.

If you want true long happiness, then learn to relax and ignore what is and the outside world and cultivate your happiness from within by focusing more on your spiritual self rather than just your physical world.

57) Stop Caring What Others Think 

One of the most common of all human fears is, the fear of what other people think. We are all social beings, and we all like to come across well, and be what we think is normal. 

But, this can lead us to spend a large part of our time, worrying and obsessing about other people think about us, to a point where we can hide the person who we truly are.

Worrying about what others think about us, also leads to feelings of self consciousness, social anxiety and it prevents us from functioning socially at our peak performance best.

The truth is, other people do not spend all their day thinking about you because they to are far too busy trying to solve their own problems and better their own lives, so stop caring so much what others think, or what you think they're thinking and just be you.

58) Stop Trying To Be Perfect 

Many people feel the need to be perfect, but being a perfectionist is a bad way of living your life, and in fact, trying to be perfect, will take you further away from perfection.

Perfection, can be the root source of many negative emotions, which lead to obsessive thinking, obsessive behaviours and compulsions which can lead to more anger, irritability, anxiety and frustration as you feel the need to be perfect.

Always try to do and be your best, but at the same time, you're allowed to make mistakes, you're allowed to show yourself up, you're allowed to get things wrong and it's OK to feel a bit angry, sad or anxious at times.

We all have off days, and we all make mistakes or experience bad or embarrassing moments, so don't beat yourself up all of the time, just learn to shrug it off, react calmly and let it go and move on, so stop taking yourself and life so seriously and give up the need to be perfect.

Because the funny thing is, when you give up trying to be perfect and you let go of the need to please or impress everybody else and your ego, and you just learn to chill and stay in the present, then you will do things better and life will treat you better.


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Finally, the ancient guru's, the medical establishment and the scientific body are all in agreement about the benefits of meditation

On average we spend almost one third of our lives sleeping and dreaming and did you know that most of our dreams have a meaning and valuable lesson

Gut feeling, sixth sense, instinct or just a inner sense of knowing, your intuition is a naturally inner guidance and protective system that is built within

 Virtually everyone in the world has heard about probably one of the most powerful tools for reducing stress and anxiety

There is a direct link between your thoughts and feelings and you can take advantage modern technology for emotional control

Harness your true potential and learn how to tap into your true powers and inner abilities to harness your skills and creative talents

Your dominant intention should be to feel good then to keep on feeling better because raising your vibration will change your life for the better

Generally when you feel good things workout better for you, your life will become easier and you will function as you change from the inside to the out

Meditation has many scientifically backed for health and well-being benefits, it allows you to quieten your racing mind and relax your body

All your really powers can be found and accessed in the present moment and all that is good happens in the flow state of the here and now 

Breathing is the most natural and arguably one of the most important bodily function that everybody performs 

Simplifying your life is a bit like de-cluttering your home where focus on getting rid of all the surplus junk and using your time wisely

There are always two ways to perceive every situation, success or failure, wealth or scarcity happy or sad

No matter what your current situation is there is always a more positive alternative and optimistic outlook and choice available to you

You will achieve your goals quicker with the right knowledge, skills and taking positive and inpiring daily action steps

There is far too much stress and tension in the world, it is now believed that stress is the root cause of many illnesses

All it takes is a few small choices and decisions and an upbeat mindset to set you on your journey to a better life

 Having supreme confidence, talents and gifts is not something that we are born with they and anybody can

The use of subliminal messaging in the self help industry has been around for quite so but now subliminal messaging is even better 

Although sometimes physical action is required weight loss begins in your head so use your mind to help think yourself thin

Beliefs are powerful they will either make you or break you or keep you stuck, the right belief gives you the motivation that you can do it

There is someone out there for everyone, but sometimes we just try to hard to find our true love and soul mate

You cannot always have the guarantee that you will win back you ex, however most relationships can be saved no matter how bad things are

 "Please,clouds don't rain!" Not going to work is it? And Neither will trying to reassure someone who is insecure

 There is nothing wrong with being shy, however it can deprive you of and cause you to miss out om all the good things

There are very few relationships that cannot be saved if both parties are willing to put in a bit more effort and be more understanding

Brainwave technology in the self improvement industry sector is constantly improving so technology does the hard work for you

Most of your fears and problems are caused by emotionally charged pictures and words that are being flashed in your mind

Start to plant in your mind the seeds for more happiness, success and enjoyment and apply the law of attraction to live life by design

We are all a little bit guilty of taking life to seriously at times and we could all begin to take a leaf out of your kids book



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