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23 Self Improvement Tips
1. Tame The Voices Inside Your Head
The difference between inner peace and inner torment is knowing how to deal with that inner negative self defeating voice and inner critic. We all have a inner voice that talks to us and guides us at times, but it is not meant to bully you, be harsh to you or tell you what to do.
The first thing you have to realize that your inner voice is there to subtly guide you in a positive way. However this is not always the case and often the inner critic or the negative self and ego will butt in when it is not needed and make your life hell.
What you have to be aware of is, the inner critic is the voice of lies, and because it is always a lie that it presents to you then this means you should not or do not have to believe these constant lies or take any notice of them what so ever. So in the future, don't allow that inner critic to convince you of something that is not true.
The same applies to that self defeating negative voice, begin to replace those I can't do that with, yes I can do that and I will do it and do this on a regular basis to any negative self talk, challenge it and overpower it.
Don't condemn your negative thoughts, once a negative thought has been activated you cannot deactivate, the more you try to stop negative thoughts the more negative thoughts you will activate.
There is no gain in further pursing them either so dismiss them and then try to think of a better feeling thought so you begin to shift your energy back to those positive emotions. You control the direction you want to go and the thoughts you want to think.
Be yourself and silence that dominant inner voice, you might want to listen to a bit of inner guidance if it can help you in some way. But the end choice is yours and its up to you to decide whether or not that inner criticism or point of view is any benefit to you or not and you certainly have not got to take it as being true.
2. Deal With Your Fearful Thoughts And Emotions
There is no need for you to have your life ruined by anxious thoughts and emotions, you can you know teach yourself to detach yourself from all your fearful thoughts and emotions.
The secret to overcoming your anxious thought patterns and emotions is not to fight them and suppress them because that approach, first makes them come back at you even stronger, and secondly it will force you into a internal conflict which will only result in more stress and anxiety.
The best way to control your emotions is to surrender too them, once you stop the resistance those troublesome thoughts and emotions will fade away quickly, get out and observe nature more, do things that will take your attention off yourself.
The less painful way is to just observe them with no judgement, become the calm observer of your mind and feelings without attempting to do anything, definitely do not get sucked into thinking you have to do anything or try to stop them.
Most people assume they have to find a way to stop their anxious thoughts, but the quickest and least painful way way to get rid of them is to do the exact opposite and give your mind permission to carry on thinking the fearful thoughts whilst you just watch and stay calm, then they have no where to go as you starve them of the fuel they need to continue.
Another useful tip is, make sure you do not dehydrate, because when you are evenly slightly dehydrated it can change your mood to a negative one and it can increase your anxiety levels, drink water and spread your consumption regularly throughout your day, do not drink to much all in one go.
3. Be More Independent And Self Indulgement
Whether you are single or in a relationship from time to time it will not do you any harm to be more independent and self indulgent, do not feel embarrassed or ashamed to do things on your own.
We grow stronger from doing things, so step out of your comfort zone and find out more about yourself and what you want, buy a ticket and hop on the bus or train by yourself as travelling is one of the best ways to learn and experience life more.
You might feel a little apprehensive at first but feel the emotions and still do it. You can learn so much more about yourself by going out alone and it can give your confidence a boost, make an effort to speak to strangers, especially if they are alone.
Think about yourself more and put your needs first every now and again, if that means being a bit selfish then so be it, if you have a point to make then say it, you don't have to be argumentative or aggressive but you also don't always have to hold back either.
The key to happy life is all about taking chances and learning from your mistakes, sometimes to find the things that make you happy you have to go out an experience life, in time you will learn from your experiences what makes you feel good and what does not. Then only focus on the things you want.
4. Creative Problem Solving
Life is all about having an experience, no body goes through life without facing challenges or having problems they need to overcome along the way. The secret is not to become emotionally engaged in the problem and how quickly you can bounce back.
Ditch focusing on the problem and learn how to problem solve instead, this will take you out of the negative energy, analyse your problem and try and figure things out but don't live in the emotion of the problem. Remember most things are only a issues because you make it an issues.
Why people struggle to deal with their problems is because they focus on the problem so the are always in the energy of it, you have to shift from the energy of the problem or what's causing it.
This involves stop obsessing about what is or what might go wrong and put your energy onto finding a solution, if there is no solution forthcoming let it go and move on. To problem solve or to become successful you need to accept what is and then analyse and look at ways you can do to do things better, your intuition will always guide you if you allow it to help you.
To make the most of your intuition other wise know as your sixth sense, first learn how to relax deeply, meditation is one of the best ways for this, and then keep asking yourself the, how can I questions or what can I do to (then state what you want help with or what you want to improve or change).
5. Set Your Goals And Never Give Up
Set your goals, be committed and driven, stay focused and never quit, ideally to achieve your desires you need to keep positive and inspired, but there will be times of frustration and disappointments.
The thing with goals is you have to know that you can succeed, to achieve a big dream you have to be passionate to even boarder line obsessive, only listen to people who have already succeeded at what you want to do and ignore all the failure stories and negative advice, the only time you have no chance, is the moment you believe it.
Be positive and proactive and strive for excellence, love what your doing and be prepared to step out of your comfort zone and try new things, don't be afraid and just go for it.
Because your gut feelings and inner guidance can give you a big advantage in spotting new opportunities and making those all important decision. You still might make mistakes and get things wrong because sometime people can get confused between their intuition and their ego, but analyse where you went wrong and improve on things.
Do not listen to the doubters or people who don't believe in you including that inner critic and self doubter that pops up inside of your head, if you have a goal go for it and be prepared to push yourself.
Do not allow fear to hold you back, look at fear and face it head on, it can only stop you if you give in to it. You will hit difficult and challenging times, but keep going and be persistant, make an effort to focus on your goal every day, break your goals down to short term goals and success will follow.
Try to balance your life with achieving your goals, be prepared to make sacrifices and work harder and smarter but do not overdo things. At times when things are not going well, take a short break, vow too yourself no matter what your going to achieve you goals, even use your frustrations and anger to drive you forwards.
6. Smile Your Way Through Times Of Adversity
No matter who you are or how well your doing there will be times in your life when everything around you will seem like it is falling apart. The key is how you deal with challenging situations and how quickly you can bounce back and get over disappointments.
Accept what is and then deal with it and move forward in a positive direction. Do not allow other people or outside influences to grind you down and sap you of your energy, avoid negative minded people as much as possible, if you can't avoid them, reject their doom and gloom. There is always somebody who has gotten over much worst situations and setbacks. Disappointment is just a perception.
7. Learn How To Relax
The biggest enemy to the humans race is stress, it is responsible for more problems and health related issues than anything else known to mankind in this modern day era.
Everybody should learn how to relax deeply and reduce there stress, when your feeling less stressed and tensed you will feel less threatened in your surrounding environment.
Stop allowing those small and trivial things to annoy and upset you, when things are playing up and not going so well take a step back, stay calm and accept it, soon as your energy starts to change less things will bother you and more things will go right. Avoid letting people and external circumstances to control how you feel and react.
Relaxing deeply will reduce your stress, you will think more clearly, you will be more creative you will feel more confident, vibrant and alive. Learn to be mindful of the thoughts that are causing your stress, negative moods and worry, meditation is a great way of quieten your mind and thus reducing your stress and anxiety.
8. Be Yourself Because Your Special Already
Although you want to improve, always love and approve of yourself because you are already a unique and special person, self improvement is not the best of terms, because there is nothing wrong with you that needs improving, after all you are a by-product of creation itself and creation does not get things wrong.
Still wish to better your life, develop your personal skills and social confidence, learn to release and let go of your fears and worries but accept and be yourself for the wonderful being you already are.
Practice looking in the mirror each morning and tell yourself your love yourself and you love life, get those good feeling emotions going and once you get the momentum going keep moving forward. Sometimes in our quest to be better and have more we lose touch with who we really are, with all the advice about creating your own destiny if were not careful we can end up trying to hard.
9. Be Creative And Learn New Skills
We are the creators on this planet so make the most of your creative talents. To unlock your true inner genius and creativity you have to shift out of the negative states of fear, worry, stress and doubt and enter into the zone like relaxed but alert state of mind and body.
The basic ingredients of manifestation are, setting your intentions, energy and taking action. First you must clearly state and focus on what you want. Secondly you hand over the how to the universe, and the final stage is to take action on the idea's that will flow too you so long as you remain in a calm and positive state, then just keep on repeating this simple formula as you grow.
If you want to be more successful then it will benefit you to study and earn more skills and improve on the talents you already have, the more skills you develop the more opportunities you will have in life and remember you are never to old to learn and there are no limits to what you can become, do or achieve.
10. Make The Most Of Your Time
Your time is very valuable and precious to you, so make the most of it, the old saying " Your life is what you make it". We all could make more productive use of our time. Although we need ample amounts of rest and relaxation, it is also important to keep your mind and yourself active and alive.
It is also important to realize that what you give your attention to you will get more of it, because what we focus on expands, this includes your happiness, how good or bad you feel and how successful you become, so it's really important.
If you want to make the most of your time to fulfill a desire or dream you must put your attention on to the things you want, although this appears straight forward most people struggle to get what they want because they focus all their attention on the things they don't want.
It is easy to know whether you are focused on what you want because your feelings and emotions will indicate it for you, but the simple rule in life is, when you focus on what you want you will be in a flow like zone state and you will be heading towards the life you want.
The flip side is when you focus on what you don't want you will be swimming against the current and you will be heading away from who you really are and what really you want.
11. Learn More About Yourself
Keep learning more about yourself, life is a journey of experiences, if you develop any problems, forget about focusing on what's bothering you and concentrate on finding out what is behind the root source of your troubles and concerns, let go of all negative emotions, let go of resentment, love more and hate less and go deep inside yourself and find out what's actually causing your stress, fear, anger or low moods, then deal with them.
12. Study And Learn From The Best
You do not have to try and figure out everything yourself, these days no matter what your problem is or what you need to know there is plenty of information and solutions available. Study the already successful in the field you want to learn about, if you have a problem listen and learn from somebody who has already overcome it.
Copy and study the successful and what is already proven to work and then try and improve on it. If you do not learn you stay small and you stay stuck where you are. You can save so much time and you can learn so much studying others.
13. Do Not Allow Outside Influence To Determine Your Happiness
Why so many people struggle through life and never really experience and sustaining long term happiness levels is because they have come to believe that you need things on the outside in order to be happy. The real truth is you need very little to be happy and the only real thing you require is a change in your attitude and perceptions. Try not to allow external influences to determine how you feel.
When you you decide on something then you will achieve it, when you focus on what is, you stay in the energy of what is, when you keep focusing what has or what is going wrong you will stay in the negative energy that matches the problem or situation. There is always two ways of perceiving a situation.
14. Be Kind And Considerate To Others
Be kind and considerate to others and yourself, sometimes when we argue we only see things from our point of view and we give very little attention to the other side of a disagreement, our egos can wreck relationships and friendships. Do not pursue your own interests or satisfy your own ego at the expense of others.
Although we perceive ourselves as individuals we are all as one, treat others with respect and you will have more chance of them returning it back, it is every bodies duty to forget about their ego and pride every no and again and not deliberately go out of your way to treat others bad or case them any harm. We all have feelings and we all deserve to be treated well.
15. Overcome Your Fears And Anxiety
We experience too states in life, we are either positive or fearful, all our stress related issues are linked to fear. It's natural to feel a bit fearful now and again, the problem escalates when you become afraid of fear itself.
You must make sure it does not take over and consume your life, to stop being afraid of being afraid accept your feelings, to overcome fear you have to learn how to confront it head on, embrace it and let it pass. The more relaxed you are the less fearful you will feel and the easier it is to deal with. It may also be necessary to remove the negative bad memory and emotion associated with the bad experience that started your fear.
16. Never Accept Or Put Up With A Negative Mood
We all endure challenging times, we all have low moods, if your feeling in a negative mood, accept how you feel and express and acknowledge your emotions but never put up with a negative mood for long.
If your feeling down use everything at you disposal to boost your mood, listen to some happy and up lifting music because my immersing yourself in music you can forget and let go of all your problems and just enjoy the moment.
If your having a real bad time, have a good cry and then tell yourself your going to put up with this mood for lets say two days and then your going to feel better. Find a way of relaxing deeply, stay in the now choose to be happy, have a good laugh and force yourself to smile.
17. Let Go Of All Negative Resistance
Life can become a constant battle with our own mind, but you will not move forward while your fighting yourself. Your mind runs off the experiences we have had, if your always worried about things going wrong it will be met with stress and anxiety, to get out of a negative state you need to feel positive and joyful.
If you are living a life of stress and anxiety life can become a fight with yourself, we cause ourselves far more misery than anybody else could inflict on us, but you will never win by trying to force your negative thoughts and emotions to go away.
That approach will never work and it will put your mind and body into the survival mode meaning even more worry and anxiety, the best way to deal with fear and negative thoughts is to just observe them, ignore them and just laugh and smile at them, learn to accept what is, then move forward in a more positive direction.
Once you experience prolonged periods stuck in a negative state, it can prove difficult to move up the emotional barometer back to those positive feelings of joy, inner peace and happiness. Getting back to that feel good energy is a process, jumping from a negative to a joyful state all in one go is to big of a jump.
18. Raise Your Energy Vibration
The universe only deals and speaks in the language of vibration, there are many different cultures and languages, but no matter what your cultural background or what native language you speak, all feelings are universal and the same.
Why so many people experience negative emotions is because they are resisting what is, when you are complaining, moaning, frustrated, worrying, angry then this means you are resting what is and when you resist something you vibration changes to a low frequency and negative emotion.
The only way to stop negative resistance and raise your vibration is to surrender to your feelings and accept what is and accept your current situation, then turn your attention to better feeling thoughts.
Pay attention to your negative thoughts, you will know when your having negative thoughts because you will feel bad, anytime you feel bad ask yourself why your feeling bad.
There will be times when your outside circumstances make you feel bad, but it's not so much the outside situation that make you feel bad, you feel bad because of the thoughts your having around those situations. What has happened as happened, so shift those thoughts about how you are perceiving your situation or let it go and you will feel better.
People cannot get the things and life they want because they cannot remain in a higher level of vibration for long enough. What you think about will control your vibration and the universe will match up your vibration with what you attract.
You should aim to be in the frequency of love, gratitude, joy and calm. If you vibrate in the high feel good frequencies then with the right intentions more positive circumstances, idea's, information, opportunities, the right people and events will begin to show up in your experience.
You have total control over your vibration and thoughts, there are now plenty of tools that can help you end negative resistance and shift you over into a higher feel good frequency of none resistance such as meditation and binural beats.
We live in a vibrational universe, you cannot be abundant if you don't feel abundant, you cannot be confident unless you first feel confident, things will not go well if your in a negative vibration.
Our feelings can affect our reality, have you ever heard or said the saying, I have a good feeling about this and something good happened or I had a bad feeling about that and something bad occurred. It is not just our thoughts that affect our vibration, our physiology can make a huge difference to how we think, feel and what happens in the world around us.
19. Do Some Regular Exercise
We all know about the benefits of exercising, it is a great way of reducing stress, losing weight, keeping us fit and flexible and toning up our muscles, you do not have to spend hours doing rigorous exercise routines.
I have bought a push bike to go to work on. It is recommended that shorter exercise routines are better, where you have a few minutes of high intensity workouts and then you slow down for a few minutes and then keep repeating the cycle.
20. Morning Rituals
Treat every morning as an opportunity to make a fresh start, the first few minutes on awakening in the morning is the best time of the day to forget about yesterday and all your troubles, during this brief window of opportunity before your negativity has time to set in, seize the moment to set yourself up and plan a good and successful day ahead.
This is the time to state your positive intentions, say your affirmations and choose to have a good day, tell yourself things like this is a great day only good things are coming my way.
Every morning let yourself know that this is going to be your best day ever, the first few minutes when you wake up is the best time to do your creative visualizing, this is when your at your most receptive state, because once you slip into a negative state saying affirmations and visualizing becomes worthless.
21. Life Should Flow Easily And Effortlessly
Ever wondered why things never seem to work out for you yet others sail through life and everything always seems to work out for them, the simple answer to this is you can try too hard, you can become to desperate and frustrated because your not getting what you want or things are not going too well for you.
Stop trying to hard, give up on the idea that everything is a struggle. To get what you want and feel good you have to just set your intentions and focus on what you want then just let it happen, let things flow naturally, easily and effortlessly and just get out of the way and allow what you want to find it's easiest path to you, the one of least resistance.
22. Trust In Your Higher Self
Whenever you have a challenge or problem you want to overcome or if you want to manifest your goals then you must learn to trust you higher self and the universe. What ever answers you seek or whatever you want to bring into your life you have to learn how to allow it to happen.
What ever you want already wants you and already exist, you just have to begin to perceive it's already here or on the way to you, what prevents you from getting what you want is your old negative beliefs and your conscious minds tendency to try and work out and over analyse things.
Do your ten to fifteen minutes of positive visualizing and believing, focus and concentrate on what you want as a must have, visualize it already done and completed, evoke positive energy with feelings, passion and desire and then after your short meditation session, let it go, forget about it and just trust in your higher self and the universe to bring all the components, synchronicity and information to you.
You don't have to work out the how, that's the job of the universe, just trust with confidence and certainty, you cannot force things to happen, stop trying to control things consciously or putting time limits on it.
23. Only Deal With Things When Your Feeling Relaxed
If you want to perform better, improve your creativity, solve a problem, find an answer or tap into your true potential then you need to learn how to relax first, because being calm is the key to all successes, discoveries and creativity.
Everything becomes easier when your calm, you performance levels will increase, you function better, your reaction times quicken your intelligence will increase, you will sleep better, you will be more confident and things will generally work out better for you.
When your stressed and anxious life becomes harder, you will struggle to perform well, your creativity will become blocked and it can have a detrimental affect on your health and well-being.
Most people try to make improvements, solve problems and make changes whilst they are coming from a negative state, that is virtually impossible, the secret is to learn how to relax first then focus on what you want to sort out or improve.
24. Take Time To Meditate
There is one thing that most entrepreneurs, most successful people and high powered figures do including many billionaires and heads of state which they believe is essential if you want to stay ahead of the pack, increase your creativity, sharpen your focus, give you an improved mental edge which they claim gives them a distinct advantage over their rivals and competition.
And that one thing they do is, they spend around twenty minutes a day meditating usually first thing in the morning which sets them up for the day ahead. Some have even declared that they class meditating as being more important than exercising.
Because by spending approximately twenty minutes per day each day learning how to Reach Deep Levels of Meditation, your will feel calm, great and more at ease, you will declutter your mind, you will deactivate negative thoughts and emotions that have been causing you stress and anxiety, you will improve your ability to focus and concentrate, you will perform better, work things out better, maximize your true potential, deal with challenging situations better and you will find that you more easily hit your targets.
25. Find Your Purpose In Life
Everybody needs a purpose in life, as young adults our purpose can be to bring up a family and buy and design your home. But after a while. especially as our children grow up we need more otherwise you can run the risk of going though the motions and your life can become stagnant.
This is when you may benefit greatly by finding your life's purpose, of course you don't have to wait until your a bit older to follow your passion and discover your life's purpose, but what ever age you are have a purpose in life because it will give your life new meaning.
Having a purpose will motivate, inspire and energize you, it will stop you feeling bored and it can also reward you financially. It can pay you to find or do things you love, you enjoy or you good at, it certainly is not what others have told you what to do.
Your life purpose could be anything, it should be something that makes you feel good, things you are passionate about, it should also be something that challenges you and keeps you growing. Numerology can help you to discover your true life's purpose.
Doing something that help others or contributes good too the world is always rewarding, follow your intuition and do whatever makes you feel stimulated, inspired and alive, helping others or adding value to others or the world is always a winner.
26. Ditch The Negativity
Cut out the negativity in your life because the only thing it will do is make you feel bad. We live in an imperfect world, things do go wrong from time to time, sometimes you have to accept what is and deal with it, then move on with a new found hope and optimism.
Dwelling on things that have gone wrong or things that might go wrong will only make matters worst, yes sometimes negativity can be feedback to help us change something that might need changing because intuition works both positively and negatively.
So the only time you should take notice of negativity is if your going to use it to help you solve a problem or make positive changes, otherwise ditch and dismiss all negativity. Humans are very good at looking for and creating problems, when you look for a problem you usually create or find one, it is wise to get into the habit of focusing on the positive and all that is good even when things are not going so well.
27. Constructive Criticism Is Not Always A Bad Thing
No one likes to be criticized, most people don't even like be advised their own will, and although you should not have to put up with constant harsh criticism, sometime a bit of constructive criticism or friendly advice can be a good thing.
Because sometime other people can see things and notice where we're going wrong when it is not always so obvious too ourselves, so as long as it is not unwelcome advice or harsh and uncalled for criticism, don't always dismiss it or be to offended. Take it on board and see if you can learn something from it.
28. Listen To Your Feelings
We all have feelings both physical and emotional, we have been give feelings for a reasons, your emotions act as our inner guidance system, they will tell you whether your where you want to be or whether your focused on what you should be focused on or where you want to be at.
When your thinking about what you don't want your emotions will let you know that you need to change your perceptions or your focus of attention, when your reliving negative or sad memories your emotions will remind you of how bad you felt at the time and you should think about the positive possibilities of the future.
When you worry about the future your emotions will clearly let you know you need to focus on something that will make you feel better. Physical pain is your bodies way of alerting you that something needs addressing or fixing, when your tired it means you need to rest.
When your are experiencing muscle tension it is your bodies way of telling you that you need to align and balance your posture. So it pays to learn too pay attention to your body, feelings and emotions.
29. We Think Too Much
It is important to focus on the things you want, we need to think to create, but we can over think things that do no really matter that much. When you think it should those thoughts should either generate good or neutral feelings, if your thoughts are making you feel bad then there is nothing to gain by carrying thinking them.
Start to engage your attention in the world around you and keep out of your head if it is making you feel bad. You can either feel good or bad, there are no in between, yes you can feel different levels of fear, stress, anger and low emotions, but that only happens because you have allowed the negative emotions to gather momentum.
Sports stars are very good at spoiling there chances of success because they allow negative related thoughts and self doubting ones to take over and destroy their performance levels when they are in the flow and performing well. If you keep monitoring how your doing then it will activate stressful and fearful responses.
30. Enjoy Your Personal Growth Journey
We are all work in progress, no matter what your attempting to be, do or become the secret to success is repetition, steady progressive continual improvements. When people have been on a self development journey for a while they forget how far they have come and how they used to be. Your journey should be made as enjoyable as possible.
Every successful person or high achiever had to start of at the bottom and work their way up to great success, you don't start off at the top, it's all about taking small steps. But you won't reach the top or achieve your dreams and ambitions if you don't take the first step.
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